Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,

I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.

After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.

Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.

Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up.

Get a lubricant from the pharmacy and thank me later.

timefarm:

May be you guys or ladies are just jealous because he was able ro get that you can't get or you are not.

This is a faceless forum. No one know who he or she is wven as he shared it. For anonymity, this might be the better place.

So OP, you didnot do anything wrong Take the good advice and leave them

Jealous?!?!
Bros or sis, listen, no one gives a fuuuck whether his wife is virgin or not o!
If you meet a girl you love and who loves you genuinely, you are of all men, most blessed.
Who virgin epp? Some of the most wicked women I know are church-going, virgin witches!

My post was not an attack, but anyhow.

Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting.

For those quoting me, I have no response for you..

I used to think I'm the only one who feels disgusted by this mere fact

Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting.

For those quoting me, I have no response for you..

but the op is anonymous. nobody knows him .

efilefun:
lol without sex for two weeks will be like the first time again

it wont, wetin don open don open. when next they are going they should use lubricant..... e go slide in like say them match banana peels.

Your lady probably had a yeast infection. She has sold it to you as being a virgin. I had a Nigerian girl that I met in college trying to sell herself as a virgin to me because she went through the same thing that your wife is going through now. She could not let me penetrate for the first 2 months of our relationship. She had known that she was really and truly in love with but I needed a sexual intercourse for attestation. I had to kicked her away and we later settled, then I started smashing her with a strong penetration.

After sometimes, she started discharging a white substance like a cottage cheese and she also had itchiness and painful sex. Because of pains, she would tighten the muscles of her Virgina on my dick just to ease the pains on her. It was a yeast infection. She told me she was a virgin and I would not believe her because she came to do her Master's program in USA and she had her undergraduate degree in Nigeria and I knew something would have gone done during her undergraduate studies.

When she eventually got that thing wide open for me, I went in and paused and never thrust for 2 minutes and I started strafing her with my hard-nosed pecker. Since I didn't see no blood, I concluded she was not a virgin and she later confessed that she was not a virgin, but with the pain that she had to endure, you would think she was a virgin.

It is either a yeast infection or Human Papilloma Virus that causes pains, irritations and itchiness during sex for women. I think your wife's situation is at chronic stage just like my ex-girlfriend. Because I was doing it raw the whole time, I had to do a test for a Yeast Infection and remarkably and surprisingly, I tested negative, indicating that it was not a contagious infection.

Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,

I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.

After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.

Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.

Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up.

Go and buy water based lubricant

It’s normal for her to still be experiencing pain as she just started having sex and her vagina is still tight.It will open up with continuous sex. Ensure that you make her very turned on before penetrating.Search for her errogenous zones and work with that.Sex will be more enjoyable for her.Please and please,don’t penetrate when she’s still dry.

Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,

I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.

After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.

Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.

Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up.

Just calm down.

The pains will go after a while. With time she will be in sync with you. I don’t think anything is wrong with her. She needs to be in a good mood for you both to enjoy it.
Pls don’t force her unless you want to get frustrated.

Lol, I can relate. She will get used to it very soon.


My girlfriend frustrated me because of similar issue, even after she gets very wet as soon as my dimkpa cap goes in she would be in sifia pain and I would be forced to stop..... It even got to a point she asked me to drug her first before I penetrate her fully but I refused. I took it easy with her going one step at a time. She is improving everyday, even the pain has reduced unlike the first time I started dimkpalizing her. The issue she is having now is no longer penetration but stamina. She gets tired easily but I see improvement everyday.

nwikpab:
After consuming what you wrote, I am in a state of reasoning handicap. This is true because I never see virgin before. Only a semi virgin.

Which one be semi virgin please?

Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting.

For those quoting me, I have no response for you..

Correct! What you would find is that all these disgusting stories are made up shits to get audiences, as you have quite rightly asserted why would any sane person feel comfortable with washing their private filthy laundries like this in public?

Go to a doctor!

udydecency:



Get a lubricant from the pharmacy and thank me later.

It is not about lubricant at this point. It seems like a chronic yeast infection and no amount of lubrication will make her be at ease. She must be treated! It causes serious itchiness and she will always be busy scratching that thing at every leisure time, at anywhere.

U should even be very lucky u managed to find a virgin. Virgin hard to get oooo. If u even manage a non virgin wey never born gan, u get luck be that. I would advise that use ur finger to widen her toll gate a little b4 u insert ur key starter.

Use lubricant like oil or cream every time you want to penetrate.

Ask Google

Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,

I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.

After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.

Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.

Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up.

Go to those big pharmacy and buy a very good lubricant. She is a virgin, so for a while probably a month or two, it will be painful but it will get less and less painful everytime. Use a lot of lubricant and take it easy with her. Don't start to dey use Jackie Chan styles yet. Ask pharmacist if there are ways to reduce the pain. But this is normal

Don't be naive op stimulate yourself well with lubricants, olive oil will do

nwikpab:
After consuming what you wrote, I am in a state of reasoning handicap. This is true because I never see virgin before. Only a semi virgin.

There are still virgins around.
Only a few couple come openly to share their experiences. They only talk among their trusted and respected friendship circles.

My wife and I went through same process.
It’s normal. Just a matter of time and patience.

.

Dont you fell embarrassed?? It's your wife your talking about not a girlfriend. You went as far as telling us you looked at your wife's privacy to check for the "stones and Mail" causing you pain or probably a visual sign of viral infectious diseases . Like 4million Nigerians are viewing this front page thread. Better look for a way to delete this thread and take your wife to a hospital and book an appointment with a doctor normally refereed to as a " Gynaecologiest" thanks. Looks like these nairaland moderators look for the most disgusting topic on relationship and family section to repost on front page.

Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,

I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.

After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.

Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.

Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up.

Called this number 08132337735 he is a medical doctor he help my elder brother with the same problem

Mood11:
Honestly, I don't understand why people feel comfortable spreading their very private matters online these days...
Go to a doctor or speak to your mother or elderly person or aren't there hospitals around you?
Now people who ordinarily should have nothing to say about your private matters will spew trash on you and your wife
This is very disgusting.

For those quoting me, I have no response for you..

It's called a faceless forum. Do you people think at all?
Thats why quora is more reasonable because most of the folks there don't have kid brains like you.

Me23:
Hello my Nairalanders,

I will go straight to the point and won't waste your time. I just recently got married let say 3weeks now, my wife was a virgin when I met her and we didn't have sex not until our wedding night. On the wedding night, I couldn't penetrate in as it was difficult for both of us because she always feels serious pain anytime I tried to enter. Finally I was able to enter on the third day, even at that it was just the small part of penise that was able to enter but mehn she scream so loud but sha I could confirm the blood.

After that we've had series of love making and I always go slow as I know that's her first time, but anytime am about to go in, she always feel pain both during and after sex. Sometimes the pain will reduce and while atimes the pain will be so much that I will have to stop the love making as I couldn't take it while seeing her in pain, she would want me to continue because she wants to satisfy me and because I could wait all this while without having sex.

Before our wedding, we decided to do some check up for any kind of infection so as not to take any chances for anything that would ruin our sexual life, and we were treated accordingly. After this experience of pain, we had to surf the net to know what could cause the pain, and some of the results and things that could lead to can be pain during sex are: genitals wart, lesion, blisters around the genitals, scratching and having burning sensation around the genitals etc I checked her vagina to see if there's such I didn't find any and she also claims she doesn't scratch or experience any burning sensation.

Pls to all the doctors in the house and to those that have had such experience pls help this guy and his wife. I was on celibacy for two years o and now that I'm ready to enjoy sex now this one come dey show up.

Hey, congratulations on your union.

You are not alone in this. Many young couples too are facing this situation but are ashamed to speak out.
In fact a friend of my wife confided in her that her husband has not been able to penetrate her 3 months into their marriage.

please note, my wife and I were also pure before marriage and we never had such situation even though my wife had envisage the pain based on what people have been saying but I was careful to do my background work as the driver of the sexual life being the first time.

WHAT YOU MUST DO TO A VIRGIN

1. pre-intimacy: This is very very important. don't rush in. ensure both of you had pre-intimacy enough...caress, kiss, stuffs like that....this will loosen up her muscles, make her relax and widen her opening....

2. ENTER SLOWLY: You will still do more of it....don't bother rushing her the first time.....take it slowly, be patient when you are thrusting....when you discover the road is wide enough then enter FULLY AT ONCE.

3. Sometimes you don't have to mind her pain.....sex sometimes is a PAIN-PLEASURE experience.....just like bitter leave soup. Be the man and be in charge....she will thank you after the act.

May God bless your union once again

UPDATE:

I forgot to add this...this really helped us....it is called KY GEL. It was introduced to us by our marriage counsellors ....it is a lubricant. You can get it at a pharmacy shop

She is a Virgin....they will rush and post on Nairaland.

She is wide like Well....they will rush and post on Nairaland.

No wonder Nairaland is predominantly dominated by Men Children.

*Shaking my head*

TimeTraveller:
I agree with @Mood11. No be every clothe dem dey dry outside.
So you made love to your virgin wife, and you feel the whole world should know?
Some of you were brought up poorly, honestly.

Even Joseph for Bible wey no knack, pretend like e knack, to protect his wife's public image.

But una, every small thing, Nairaland, Twitter and Histagram. Kilode gan?

You go still see histogram and bar chart!

Omniman:
First of all congratulations on your 3weeks marriage with your tear rubber wife

Secondly, disvirgining is lot of work. It's like trying to drill a stone wall with your peepee. Most time you sweat so much and sometimes you just want to try another time.

Thirdly, I will tell you. It's natural to experience pain. Overtime the pain reduces. It might take months.
I am suspecting she isn't juicy enough before u start penetration.

What you can do to ease the pain. Give your wife a good oral before introducing your lil self

Eat her like a psychotic rat on steroids..

When she is juicy enough. You can slide in and out with lil friction

Nagode

Mehn I was almost about to get worried untill you said if she's guicy, then it wouldn't be painful

If you don't gerrit nah ya own wahala be that because nah wetin people no go quick understand ah wan dey talk now

Op,
Some virgin abunna na real wahalaà to conquer oo
Dealt with one Asian virgin some years ago. That night was war and I pitied her a lot!
It was like moving in through a wall. I never imagined it will be that hard and painful for her. Head later it was not the case with all ladies..

I guess you have to give her time and engage in more romantic foreplays before unleashing your dragon. Most times na "break and enter" strategy dey casue this..
Two of you look like newbies on this so taking it gentle may help....

Omo, I hate virgin die...