Ijaya123:


Where is Dangote’s wife?

Even Bill gates

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

This is a fool.

After the man handles all the bills in the house, you still expect act of service and loyalty as he's love language okwaya.

I laughter in monkey language.

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

Lol,
She earns 6 figures and I a business man. One day she said the reason thing are hard for me is cos I don't pay tithe, then I do every single thing .
I said Okey , henceforth, you will get the groceries, pay for cable TV, and toiletries Andi will do other things like car maintenance, NEPA bills, new home appliances etc
Twas then she see say kahki no be leather

NoToPile:
Loool so it has now been translated to if I foot the bills I have all the sole authority, oya foot first.

Some are even saying its what makes men die before their time.


All of them neatly dodged the nurturing role of the woman, she will share bills and also nurture everyone.

Check out a woman who makes money and also does all the house work alone , she might even die faster than the man who only provides money only.

You guys should choose a side and stick to it.

You want her to split bills oya split chores to naw, no their ego won't allow it (this same ego doesn't follow them abroad ooothey do all chores possible) its the female can can provide money abi.

male Primary role - Provide

Female Primary role - nurture

The boys want the females to share in their role but don't want to share the female role. Its not possible naaw. Their hypocrisy was exposed on that Toks2008 thread.

All the NL boys shouting how many of them can comfortably feed their family without the wife's input.

Just provision Oo, NL boys will be whining up and down when women have been providing and taking care of the home for a long time.

Thats how it should be.

Alohaa:


Why you dey apologize ?

Just to make him feel a little bit better

As a man, u don't have to be a cement or oil guru to enjoy comfortability...in this present economy, a man needs multiple streams of income to handle the general affairs of everything around him...
the only power I fit show to a woman naa to provide enough comfort. & If she try wan give me extra headache on top my outside the home induced headaches... thinking say I go swallow tablets? Knor! dz life wey I come so, I no need paracetamol, naa she go go in the stead of the headache. I no do again, bcuz I love my sanity more than anything. Lol

Iyaebe:
Don't mind them, bring that spiliting and sharing bills before me and watch me apply it everywhere such that you will hate yourself.A man should just be good,do his best,give love and care and you won't ever need to sound it to your wife to be supportive. But you see those redpillers immediately asking for bills to be shared ehn,me sef will activate my other side and even the air we breath will be shared,down to the bedroom as you'll only release sperm when I want kid,other times I'm going to stop you at your peak because we have to divide the energy as well.rubbish

Lmao. Very anyhow reasoning. Marry my type, you'd practically be begging for the sex

eazzzy1:
The days when paying bills was the sole responsibility of a man are far gone. In those days men didn’t want their wives working and the made that abundantly clear.

If a woman makes money she should contribute towards the bills. They either contribute a percentage of their income to a joint account with which they take care of all bills or they split bills equally.

Even children should pay bills when they start earning, if they continue to live at home. Any woman who doesn’t want to split bills should be fine if her husband tells her to stop working.

It’s this kind of pride that makes men die early. Keep paying bills while she saves up all her own money. You will be telling your siblings you don’t have 10k to give them, she will send her own siblings abroad for studies.

You're a very wise man

Mariangeles:


A woman should support her family with a sense of obligation, and not by “will”.

You mind stupidity and stupid simps. If a Woman is not ready for marriage and to be supportive let her go meet this old fool that posted this trash.

Pataricatering:
you people need to stop lying to yourselves - most homes are two-income homes nowadays .Stop lying .

Nobody is arguing this.
Nigerian women challenge their husbands these days a lot so they have to foot bills too.

kmcutez:


You think?

I know. They know too.
Seems you're alone in the dark.

Iyaebe:
Don't mind them, bring that spiliting and sharing bills before me and watch me apply it everywhere such that you will hate yourself.A man should just be good,do his best,give love and care and you won't ever need to sound it to your wife to be supportive. But you see those redpillers immediately asking for bills to be shared ehn,me sef will activate my other side and even the air we breath will be shared,down to the bedroom as you'll only release sperm when I want kid,other times I'm going to stop you at your peak because we have to divide the energy as well.rubbish

This is why people say women only offer sex

Its like you don't know the price of things in the market anymore. Even siblings who stay together contribute to run the home.
How much does a man need to earn before taking 100% responsibility at home? 1m a month?
Do you know how much is school fee? Feeding? Clothing? House rent? Outings and vacations?
You will die before your time

kmcutez:


I don’t even mind paying all the bills.

Ehen, now you are talking, help out your guy, was angry with you before, no longer angry, try dey help out ehn, we will be aiit, stay blessed and God bless you sweet love

sharone21:


You are right but the part u said bills should be split equally CANNOT be forced...Or during pregnancy and child bearing, u will help her carry it or help her pay a surrogate?
I believe in partnership in marriage and a wife supporting her husband and if God blesses her more, even be the breadwinner while the man helps out...but understand that unlike men who are not bugged down by child birthing and care which takes a chunk of a woman's life and economic wellbeing, many women have lost opportunities of more progressive promotions at their places of work and subsequently are at the lower rung of life financially.
There must be balance and each home is uniquely different.

Beautiful!!!

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind 8)

@ Bolded, are you sick or something?

You need some pills

Who are you to tell or dictate to people what they should know?

Pataricatering:
loooooooooooooooooool - pls don't be silly - if you are the head of the home then you had better be putting up 100% of the bills in that home - you can't be a patriarch without paying patriarchy bills , my man.

I can pay 100% of thr bills under these conditions: no nagging, no quarrels, no arguments every day, ability to send her packing when I can no longer afford her.
... then the girl must hv a body count of less than 5 prior to marriage.

It's all about "is the arrangement a good deal"?....

Why should I pay 100% and every day quarrels etc plus she has even been used by prior niggas for free??

Iyaebe:
Don't mind them, bring that spiliting and sharing bills before me and watch me apply it everywhere such that you will hate yourself.A man should just be good,do his best,give love and care and you won't ever need to sound it to your wife to be supportive. But you see those redpillers immediately asking for bills to be shared ehn,me sef will activate my other side and even the air we breath will be shared,down to the bedroom as you'll only release sperm when I want kid,other times I'm going to stop you at your peak because we have to divide the energy as well.rubbish

Who wants to release sperm in you before when there are millions of better people with better pussies outside.
Men deserve to be praised for giving you people sex. It's not easy....

This topic wouldn't have come up if women understood that they are stronger than men.

An average feminist brainwashes her fellow woman to challenging a man's authority at home at because of that the man resorts to such attitude.

A woman who loves her husband will go to any length to take care of her family not minding what might happen !

when I see post like this or similar ones, I ask myself "are we really sincere with ourselves" but the answer is NO, we all are always sentimental in our judgement.

Back in the days, when Africa was Africa before the intervention of the whites, the yoruba culture doesn't teach the man to share the responsibility of the family with the wife, except for when the man is not financially buoyant, while this was done by the men, the women maintains high level of respect while the man also reciprocate by showing love and care.

Some years after the intervention of the whites, the wives started seeing themselves as the same level with the husband who solely handles the responsibility of the family and this has triggered all sorts of ideas into the husbands of nowadays, you can't claim equal right in a relationship where there is no equal responsibility.

Now this question goes to ladies, let's be sincere with eachother, if you were in the position of a man who takes full responsibility of the house and your wife keep acting as if you both share the responsibility, won't you wake up one day to tell her let's share the responsibility since we have equal rights. let's be sincere and not sentimental when it comes to relationship matter.


Note: I've never been in support of a woman sharing responsibility with the husband and I will never be except in some cases cuz a typical Yoruba man will never do that cuz it's not part of our culture.

Thanks.

Peace be unto everyone of us.

When there is love, all these will matter less abeg. Let love lead and apply for the Golden morn promo so that you all will have lots of love and gifts to get this Christmas season

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

Another entitled buffon in her deluded imaginations...
if you want a stable and long relationship with your husband, pls don't listen to this opinion it's misleading. You married to help one another no the give all your responsibility to your husband, na wife he marry no be responsibility

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

How did you know otedola and dangote doesn't, or you think their wives are just useless and irresponsible?

Justbehave:
Kids will always be kids.

a lot of people commenting here are not married and as such, I laugh at them. In a home there should be family income, family income is basically made up of the gross income of the husband and wife. This is what the family uses. I now understand why a lot of young men don't want to get married because lots of Nigerian women have an entitlement mentality.

Advancedman:


Capital FOOL.

why the insult? He said his mind why not say yours n move on or u keep quiet. Must u comment? I don't know why his opinion pained u so much. Oga he's not the architect of your frustrations, u can as well tell your wife to foot the whole bills while u look on it's not our business but showing how immature u are to the public is ridiculous.

Iyaebe:
Don't mind them, bring that spiliting and sharing bills before me and watch me apply it everywhere such that you will hate yourself.A man should just be good,do his best,give love and care and you won't ever need to sound it to your wife to be supportive. But you see those redpillers immediately asking for bills to be shared ehn,me sef will activate my other side and even the air we breath will be shared,down to the bedroom as you'll only release sperm when I want kid,other times I'm going to stop you at your peak because we have to divide the energy as well.rubbish

You b big mumu....stop misleading young ladies please.....

Pataricatering:
loooooooooooooooooool - pls don't be silly - if you are the head of the home then you had better be putting up 100% of the bills in that home - you can't be a patriarch without paying patriarchy bills , my man.

I said mine, you can run yours the way you want to.

My dear you caught my attention fa. It’s easier said than done.

In marriage, both parties needs to contribute in one way or the other. Eg the wife has the responsibility to cook, clean the house, childbearing, training and even training children, praying, making of clothes, industrious in a nutshell etc Proverbs 30:1-10 talked about a wife of noble character.

The husband, provide food, protection, shelter, security, may be more may be less. Do you know that there are faithful wives who receive s hell of a beating, emotional abuse and all sort of evil treatments from their husbands yet, they are still in that union?


Your wife is your help mate not a machine you coerced to bay your bills, allow her to do it with a free Spirit just as the Bible puts it, “give according to how your heart pleases not under duress. the major responsibility lies with the husband. Some wives work but it’s the husband does the spending, y? She can’t even help herself, nor the children, nor relatives, do you know how painful it can be?

Husbands help us do our work right. Don’t force us to do things as if we are children, we have brain in our head please. If you are a wife, please be wise.

DaSugarBoi:
Talk is Cheap

All that matters is understanding between the two.. Mind u love also means 'Sharing' . It's an action word.

wunmi590:
I'm writing based on the thread that grace the front page either this week or last, see below for the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/6833377/type-relationship-desire

In my own opinion, I feel it is the full responsibilities of every man, to foot every bills in your home, you claim to be the head and as the head you should always be responsible and not shy away from your responsibilities..

It is only broke men that fight their wives to share mans responsibilities, if you are not capable to take up your sole responsibility, please remain single..

You can't see Dangote or Femi Otedola splitting bills at home with their wife..

Your woman can only support you at her own will without being told to do so....

Know this and have peace of mind

dis op is nt realistic at all even using dangote Nd otedola pple who made their moni thru fronting for political elites.let be realistic here u are a married man with four kids who had a salary of 300k during Jona administration his in charge of responsibilities at home even open a biz for Ur wife she make 30k per month at DT time.now Buhari enta scatter economy it affected d company his working .the company decided to shut down their Nigeria branch or move to Ghana now u now unemployed living on Ur savings few months u got a wrk of 50k .he tried to search for a beta wrk but d pay is below 50k of his current wrk.now d wife biz income has rose to 100k per month den during lockdown a foreign opportunity came Nd her biz profit has risen to 300k.now hw can such man still live up to his responsibilities with 50k for Buhari time hw much be rice for market.THERE IS A SAYING DT WHEN TRIAL OR TRIBULATIONS COMES LIKE BEING LOW IN CASH THAT WEN U KNW WHETHER U HAVE A WIFE OR NOT.MY ADVICE IS TO PRAY TO GOD TO GIVE U UR OWN WIFE MATERIAL.ND DO DT IN A LIVING CHURCH .

Pataricatering:
Women need to split bills - infact bills should be split based in a percentage of ones salary - naturally the higher earning spouse pays more . Household work and childcare will also be split according to how busy or less busy each spouse is . This is the equality we fight for as women- splitting bills comes with the territory

I absolutely agree with this.

Besides that, I've been shocked by some of the comments I'm reading here.