cococandy:


Don’t learn from me.
Just learn to read.
Also ask yourself why sperm banks prefer younger men.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3253726/

You have really tried o.

Educating the willfully ignorant!

They just love to twist the world to fit into their small minds. Kudos to you.

Saintmary:


You have really tried o.

Educating the willfully ignorant!

They just love to twist the world to fit into their small minds. Kudos to you.

This isn’t going to change anything though. They believe what they want

tensazangetsu20:


True but generational poverty is worst than down syndrome. One of Femi otedola's kids has down syndrome and he has a much a brighter future than 95 percent of Nigerians

This statement needs to be shown on instablog9ja or TwitterNG. I would pay to read the reactions.

cococandy:
not a lot. But that means asking tens if not hundreds of millions of young people to not get married. Is that feasible though?

hmm. I don’t know about supernatural but getting married can increase wealth if they both pool resources together. The problem isn’t that they are getting married while poor, it’s that they are creating children and making big families when they can’t afford to. If people are being advised well, two young people can get married, defer child bearing for a few years and save up to invest before creating dependents. There’s financial power in a two income household. Our people are still mentally living in the past where one man can make money and care for everything in the house while the wife cares for the home. Only in their heads. But in reality, they need the woman’s money given where capitalism has led us to. So they get married and get frustrated because they immediately have kids they can’t afford to care for. The wives have to go out to work because the greater percentage of men can’t be sole providers. But these wives are also expected to be 100% the home keepers. So everyone is frustrated because they have refused to adjust their lives according to the times.

true

Gerrard59:


This statement needs to be shown on instablog9ja or TwitterNG. I would pay to read the reactions.

They will shout and cry but we know the truth.

Kobojunkiee:
They are raised believing these things, and many of them never stop to even ask why or what exactly for.

Marriage to them isn't a choice but a mandate and the ultimate path to deciding their destiny as outies!

I was having a discussion with one of my elder cousin, and when I said it's unlikely for me to get married cause I very much love freedom, she said it's a cause with such seriousness. Haaaaah.

KevinDein:
Subtle clues, knowingly or unknowingly, thrown at young men to believe they aren't "man" enough if they aren't married or in a relationship.

Like my grandma telling me that I won't be in par with society if I don't have a woman.

Who the hell give a fvck!

Tobichuks08:

they end up being just financially stable.
Not rich and not wealthy..

Op just because you are single and think your better off, bro your not.
The poor dude has a heir who will probably stand on his grave and you don't.
Life is complex let's all strive to enjoy our choices and respect others regardless of thier present condition

That's a reason to get married?

Ninejaywon:
They believe marriage will bring good luck to them and for the sex starved ones, marriage will open doors to an avalanche of sex.


You will see a young man in his prime below 38 yrs, rushing to marry. Like wtf.

Not even considering that too much of everything is bad.

With the experience I am having with married women self, better remain single than encage someone's daughter in the name of social norms.

Gerrard59:


That's a reason to get married?

You were not informed?

Magnoliaa:


Really? I never knew about the last part. Thank you for mentioning it and for asking that question, especially!

Na only women dey get biological clock oh. Nahhhh. Ya ignorant, dear. Men don't hit a wall, they don't expire and they don't have 'prime years.' They can even continue firing at age 160. Kikikikiki.

Not all men care about having kids though, some just want to live a happy carefree life.

No clock!

pocohantas:


You were not informed?

He's Igbo, I'm not surprised. With the way he mentioned heir, I'm very sure he wouldn't mind birthing five children in the elusive search for a male child in the name of he should be the heir to my properties. Check his name on Google and nothing good comes out from the search. Just like the man in Enugu who had three girls and in the search for a "heir", his wife gave birth to quadruplets. Afterwards, he came wailing for help and support.

Stoopid people!

tensazangetsu20:


True but generational poverty is worst than down syndrome. One of Femi otedola's kids has down syndrome and he has a much a brighter future than 95 percent of Nigerians.

Autism isn't down syndrome, that symptom in his child explains how intelligent otedola is.
Intelligent people tend to think differently and that's what autism is, not being able to conform with the norms in society, just that once this is extreme, to the extent of affecting body coordination, it can be a problem.

laidenews:
Men desperate for marriage?
I thought it's the opposite.
What I often read on here is men claiming women are the desperate lots and they won't allow Nigeria ladies tie them down with marriage.

Another problem associated with women!

Lack of comprehension.

To spell it out for you.

The class of men desperate for marriage is quite low, not to be compared with others.

Pick your choice.

tensazangetsu20:

Most of the guys desperate for marriage are very broke unemployed or underemployed guys.

True, it's when your brain is idle that you'll begin to think of sex and relationship.

I don't keep friends or company except they are contributing something meaningful to my life (transactional basis) women suck in this area as they are not only selfish but also mostly lazy brains, kinda valueless to me if you ask.
What they can offer is too common that I don't find it interesting enough to pursue, if something is too common, I can never waste my time pursuing it, even if you do the pursuing, you will end up with heart pain cause I don't understand that common language, and even if I do, I will just ignore if you have next to nothing to offer. so it is hard for me to have any serious discussion or relationship of any kind with a woman, if I ever get serious with a woman, then she must be very much above average.

I hate the Halos life.

Ninejaywon:
They believe marriage will bring good luck to them and for the sex starved ones, marriage will open doors to an avalanche of sex.


You will see a young man in his prime below 38 yrs, rushing to marry. Like wtf.

I've also seen a man above 38 yrs who is unmarried and still poor....

[quote author=Kobojunkiee post=107473848] Does it matter what there population is in Nigeria or on nairaland?

The point is even with exposure, many of them, [b]some living right here in the United States, still think and believe the exact same foolishness their fathers and mothers before them fed them. I believe you're the one taking care of them over there...

in your learned opinion, at what age and height must someone attain in life before he can get married?

cococandy:
so they should marry after their prime? Does that make sense to you?

Do you know the risk for Down syndrome in babies increases with the father’s age?

The bold is absolutely false!
Do not mislead people here!

Vision101:

The only advice is that if you marry early with low income don't have many children. One or two will be ok.

This advice should be for everyone & not for only those that married early!

Kobojunkiee:
There are many Nigerians living in cities in America who believe pretty much the same things things counterparts in Nigeria do as far as marriage is concerned.

So what's your advice then??

Magnoliaa:
Men. Very interesting beings, walai. Now they are all discussing about how they are the desperate ones for marriages and relationships. Kikiki. I thought y'all like to sow your seeds and be wild and hate being tied down ni? So now y'all are the ones conditioned for marriage? Lewl.

I guess Shiloh is gonna witness a turnaround on its turnouts this year then.

you no well

Oyiboman69:

in your learned opinion, at what age and height must someone attain in life before he can get married?

age and height? What is this, the army? Marriage is about maturity and none of those things you listed there.

Marriage is for those who are financially capable, and stable enough as individuals to handle at least some of the curve balls life and marriage can throw.

An an 18-year-old gainfully employed couple with a good head, plan, and realistic take on what their future holds can be considered ripe for marriage..
Whereas a 30-something-old couple who barely makes enough to fend for themselves, both believing God will somehow make it all work out are nothing but fools walking in.

lordally:
So what's your advice then??

Train your children in the way of the wise and not the foolish!
If you don't raise them to observe the way of wisdom, when they are older, there isn't much that can be done for them.

Kobojunkie:
age and height? What is this, the army? Marriage is about maturity and none of those things you listed there.

Marriage is for those who are financially capable, and stable enough as individuals to handle at least some of the curve balls life and marriage can throw.

An an 18-year-old gainfully employed couple with a good head, plan, and realistic take on what their future holds can be considered ripe for marriage..
Whereas a 30-something-old couple who barely makes enough to fend for themselves, both believing God will somehow make it all work out are nothing but fools walking in.

age is the number of years of an individual,moreover, the attained height is how successful a person has grown in life....

It is either you just want to argue or you just lack comprehension skill... as for the rest of your writeup,you're just contradicting yourself cos you're now inline with what I mentioned you for....

Oyiboman69:
age is the number of years of an individual,moreover, the attained height is how successful a person has grown in life....

It is either you just want to argue or you just lack comprehension skill... as for the rest of your writeup,you're just contradicting yourself cos you're now inline with what I mentioned you for....

Interesting!

tensazangetsu20:

Forget what goes on online. A lot of men offline are very desperate for marriage and dating. I think its lack of achievement in all spheres so in order not to be totally useless they be like let me get married at least that's an achievement but in reality thats suicide.

you no well at all at all....

tensazangetsu20:
I don't know if it's just me or the circle I am around but a lot of young Nigerian men are very desperate about being in a relationship or getting married. These are guys in the 24 to 29 age range. Most unemployed or earning very low salaries 30 to 50k.

They believe that marriage will chang their fate and make them really wealthy. It's quite understandable if women are crazy about marriage as they have a biological clock but a man can literally father kids at 90 if he wants to so what's the rush?

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a good wife finds a good thing and shall obtain favour from the lord.

"Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SwT) will make you rich through His favour; and Allah (SwT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing." (Surah 24, Verse 32)

90% of Nigerians are religious. This is one of their motivation.

Gerrard59:


That's a reason to get married?

reason?
Was that stated as a reason?
Reading without comprehension.
It's one of the advantages of marriage not a reason.

tensazangetsu20:

Forget what goes on online. A lot of men offline are very desperate for marriage and dating. I think its lack of achievement in all spheres so in order not to be totally useless they be like let me get married at least that's an achievement but in reality thats suicide.

Go to the dating section, 80% of those dropping their contact are men looking for relationship or looking for a lady to marry.

Check all the threads on nairaland asking why singles aren't married or staying single. Almost all the replies are from men citing lack of job or money.

I am not against marriage or whatever age you decide to marry. But having children without a reasonable source of income that would give them a decent life is wickedness and inhuman.

They are complaining yet adding children. Some with only 2 kids and can't even pay rent or school fees in time oo but still adding another kid.

You hear their reasons like,
✓my mates friends are all married
✓ I am getting old
✓ My parents are pressuring me etc

You hear people giving reasons for having children like:

✓Who would take care of you when old
✓Who would preserve my name
✓My mother said she wants grandchildren.
✓Who would be the heir to my possession.

tensazangetsu20:


Well in Nigeria it should be a concern to everyone when poor people get married. When they breed they end up giving birth to future bandits, terrorists, yahoo boys and criminals. As of 2008, you could drive from Lagos to Maiduguri. Today you can't. In the future, you won't be able to move easily from Ikeja to iyana ipaja as Nigeria is going to be worst off tomorrow than today.

Poor people marrying and having battalion kids should be everyones problem. You can't just let them be cause their decisions will affect you that refused to have any kids.

when the right reasons are channeled into the wrong topics..

The fulanis breed, the hausas breed at a very young age, the reason for this population lies not just on the young guys who is getting married but some untouched cultural and ethnicity in Nigeria, how many illegal migrants do we have? What about other cultures who sees fathering kids as a trophy?

You guys just keep acting like it's only a wealthy guy that deserves marriage the truth is some will never attain that height not because they are not working hard enough but because they are not destined to..

If your trying to deal with the issue of population menace then prioritize and channel your energy to the right reasons not young guys getting married while struggling..

MistaMann:


Go to the dating section, 80% of those dropping their contact are men looking for relationship or looking for a lady to marry.

Check all the threads on nairaland asking why singles aren't married or staying single. Almost all the replies are from men citing lack of job or money.

I am not against marriage or whatever age you decide to marry. But having children without a reasonable source of income that would give them a decent life is wickedness and inhuman.

They are complaining yet adding children. Some with only 2 kids and can't even pay rent or school fees in time oo but still adding another kid.

You hear their reasons like,
✓my mates friends are all married
✓ I am getting old
✓ My parents are pressuring me etc

You hear people giving reasons for having children like:

✓Who would take care of you when old
✓Who would preserve my name
✓My mother said she wants grandchildren.
✓Who would be the heir to my possession.

What is so funny is they have no possessions

Tobichuks08:

You should be very ashamed of yourself, has poverty eaten so deep in you that you have no value for yourself not to talk of others...

The guy was totally off with the part you bold

Marriage is desired by both genders because every human crave for companionship..
Some come early some come late.

Some marry early and some late and this is all about some personal choices and we all should respect it..

The thread is about marrying or having kids without a source of livelihood or income that can't provide/cater for basic needs not even luxury.

If critically analysed the guys that are poor with kids but enjoying thier marriage can be having a better life than the ones who are still single and trying to aquire all those riches.

What do you mean by poor here? How can you be poor with kids which are being subjected to hardship and still enjoy life please

Inability to send you children to a basic decent school?
Eating 2 meals a day or living on less than 1 dollar a day?
Begging landlord not to evict you?
Your children being sent home from school?
Begging, borrowing to supplement your salary?

which at the end of the day they end up being just financially stable.
Not rich and not wealthy..

Another word for being poor

This is how you push some people without sense to marry then at the end of the day they become an element of pity, begging to feed. Why risk having the kids with the hope that tomorrow things might get better? With the stat about poverty rate in Nigeria do you need a seer to tell you it doesn't work?

Op just because you are single and think your better off, bro your not.
The poor dude has a heir who will probably stand on his grave and you don't.
Life is complex let's all strive to enjoy our choices and respect others regardless of thier present condition

Heir to inherit poverty and soko loan dept left behind abi