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Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Saintmary(f): 9:36am On Nov 10, 2021 |
cococandy: You have really tried o. Educating the willfully ignorant! They just love to twist the world to fit into their small minds. Kudos to you. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by cococandy(f): 9:48am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Saintmary:This isn’t going to change anything though. They believe what they want 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 10:01am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: This statement needs to be shown on instablog9ja or TwitterNG. I would pay to read the reactions. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 10:03am On Nov 10, 2021 |
cococandy: 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by tensazangetsu20(m): 10:04am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Gerrard59:They will shout and cry but we know the truth. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Nobody: 10:05am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: I was having a discussion with one of my elder cousin, and when I said it's unlikely for me to get married cause I very much love freedom, she said it's a cause with such seriousness. Haaaaah. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Nobody: 10:07am On Nov 10, 2021 |
KevinDein: Like my grandma telling me that I won't be in par with society if I don't have a woman. Who the hell give a fvck! 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 10:08am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Tobichuks08: That's a reason to get married? 6 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Nobody: 10:09am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Ninejaywon: Not even considering that too much of everything is bad. With the experience I am having with married women self, better remain single than encage someone's daughter in the name of social norms. |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by pocohantas(f): 10:12am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Gerrard59: You were not informed? 5 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Nobody: 10:13am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: Not all men care about having kids though, some just want to live a happy carefree life. No clock! |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 10:17am On Nov 10, 2021 |
pocohantas: He's Igbo, I'm not surprised. With the way he mentioned heir, I'm very sure he wouldn't mind birthing five children in the elusive search for a male child in the name of he should be the heir to my properties. Check his name on Google and nothing good comes out from the search. Just like the man in Enugu who had three girls and in the search for a "heir", his wife gave birth to quadruplets. Afterwards, he came wailing for help and support. Stoopid people! 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Nobody: 10:18am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: Autism isn't down syndrome, that symptom in his child explains how intelligent otedola is. Intelligent people tend to think differently and that's what autism is, not being able to conform with the norms in society, just that once this is extreme, to the extent of affecting body coordination, it can be a problem. |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Nobody: 10:20am On Nov 10, 2021 |
laidenews: Another problem associated with women! Lack of comprehension. To spell it out for you. The class of men desperate for marriage is quite low, not to be compared with others. Pick your choice. |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Nobody: 10:32am On Nov 10, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: True, it's when your brain is idle that you'll begin to think of sex and relationship. I don't keep friends or company except they are contributing something meaningful to my life (transactional basis) women suck in this area as they are not only selfish but also mostly lazy brains, kinda valueless to me if you ask. What they can offer is too common that I don't find it interesting enough to pursue, if something is too common, I can never waste my time pursuing it, even if you do the pursuing, you will end up with heart pain cause I don't understand that common language, and even if I do, I will just ignore if you have next to nothing to offer. so it is hard for me to have any serious discussion or relationship of any kind with a woman, if I ever get serious with a woman, then she must be very much above average. I hate the Halos life. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Oyiboman69: 10:40am On Nov 10, 2021 |
Ninejaywon:I've also seen a man above 38 yrs who is unmarried and still poor.... |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Oyiboman69: 10:47am On Nov 10, 2021 |
[quote author=Kobojunkiee post=107473848] Does it matter what there population is in Nigeria or on nairaland? The point is even with exposure, many of them, [b]some living right here in the United States, still think and believe the exact same foolishness their fathers and mothers before them fed them. I believe you're the one taking care of them over there... in your learned opinion, at what age and height must someone attain in life before he can get married? |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Rubbiish(m): 12:55pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
cococandy:The bold is absolutely false! Do not mislead people here! 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Rubbiish(m): 1:01pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Vision101:This advice should be for everyone & not for only those that married early! |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by lordally(m): 1:05pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee: So what's your advice then?? |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by lordally(m): 1:07pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: you no well |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Kobojunkie: 1:21pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Oyiboman69:age and height? What is this, the army? Marriage is about maturity and none of those things you listed there. Marriage is for those who are financially capable, and stable enough as individuals to handle at least some of the curve balls life and marriage can throw. An an 18-year-old gainfully employed couple with a good head, plan, and realistic take on what their future holds can be considered ripe for marriage.. Whereas a 30-something-old couple who barely makes enough to fend for themselves, both believing God will somehow make it all work out are nothing but fools walking in. |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Kobojunkie: 1:23pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
lordally:Train your children in the way of the wise and not the foolish! If you don't raise them to observe the way of wisdom, when they are older, there isn't much that can be done for them. |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Oyiboman69: 1:38pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:age is the number of years of an individual,moreover, the attained height is how successful a person has grown in life.... It is either you just want to argue or you just lack comprehension skill... as for the rest of your writeup,you're just contradicting yourself cos you're now inline with what I mentioned you for.... 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Kobojunkie: 1:41pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Oyiboman69:Interesting! 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Oyiboman69: 1:53pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20:you no well at all at all....
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Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by MistaMann: 2:01pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a good wife finds a good thing and shall obtain favour from the lord. "Marry the single people from among you and the righteous slaves and slave-girls. If you are poor, Allah (SwT) will make you rich through His favour; and Allah (SwT) is Bountiful, All-Knowing." (Surah 24, Verse 32) 90% of Nigerians are religious. This is one of their motivation. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Tobichuks08: 2:32pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Gerrard59:reason? Was that stated as a reason? Reading without comprehension. It's one of the advantages of marriage not a reason. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by MistaMann: 2:34pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: Go to the dating section, 80% of those dropping their contact are men looking for relationship or looking for a lady to marry. Check all the threads on nairaland asking why singles aren't married or staying single. Almost all the replies are from men citing lack of job or money. I am not against marriage or whatever age you decide to marry. But having children without a reasonable source of income that would give them a decent life is wickedness and inhuman. They are complaining yet adding children. Some with only 2 kids and can't even pay rent or school fees in time oo but still adding another kid. You hear their reasons like, ✓my mates friends are all married ✓ I am getting old ✓ My parents are pressuring me etc You hear people giving reasons for having children like: ✓Who would take care of you when old ✓Who would preserve my name ✓My mother said she wants grandchildren. ✓Who would be the heir to my possession. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by Tobichuks08: 2:37pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20:when the right reasons are channeled into the wrong topics.. The fulanis breed, the hausas breed at a very young age, the reason for this population lies not just on the young guys who is getting married but some untouched cultural and ethnicity in Nigeria, how many illegal migrants do we have? What about other cultures who sees fathering kids as a trophy? You guys just keep acting like it's only a wealthy guy that deserves marriage the truth is some will never attain that height not because they are not working hard enough but because they are not destined to.. If your trying to deal with the issue of population menace then prioritize and channel your energy to the right reasons not young guys getting married while struggling.. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by tensazangetsu20(m): 2:40pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
MistaMann: What is so funny is they have no possessions |
Re: Why Are Young Men In Nigeria So Desperate About Marriage by MistaMann: 3:34pm On Nov 10, 2021 |
Tobichuks08: The guy was totally off with the part you bold
The thread is about marrying or having kids without a source of livelihood or income that can't provide/cater for basic needs not even luxury.
What do you mean by poor here? How can you be poor with kids which are being subjected to hardship and still enjoy life please Inability to send you children to a basic decent school? Eating 2 meals a day or living on less than 1 dollar a day? Begging landlord not to evict you? Your children being sent home from school? Begging, borrowing to supplement your salary? Another word for being poor This is how you push some people without sense to marry then at the end of the day they become an element of pity, begging to feed. Why risk having the kids with the hope that tomorrow things might get better? With the stat about poverty rate in Nigeria do you need a seer to tell you it doesn't work?
Heir to inherit poverty and soko loan dept left behind abi 2 Likes |
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