Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

Bro, you do not have a problem. Only problem you have is food.
15 year olds eat like crazy, because they are growing and their body needs as much as it can get.

You do not have enough food at home, that's why she is stealing food cause she is hungry. Stop spending your money on packaged grocery as they will not be enough. Discuss with your wife and take turns to shop at local markets for local foods. Buy food in bulk so you get good bargain at wholesale prices, and stretch your income to do more. Buy Garri, Rice, Bean not Burnvita, Custard and noodles.

As for the teenager, she is under your guidance, so help her manage her time by creating a schedule covering school, church, chores and study. She can go to church every other day.

Just tell her she has to go back for a while, that you and your family have to travel to Togo.

TotoGame:


No I'm not .... just that 13yrs old girls do collect prick this days

If devil exist in human form... Clearly you are a devil

If she were your daughter, how would you handle her?

Oga op, if the said girl happens to be your little sister what will you do in this situation? That thing your mind tells you now do it to that girl.

Richy4:
>>> She is 15, she is a teenager...and almost every teenager lies... even their Goodmorning is suspicious... If u doubt me, just google teenagers and lying...

>>>All I have to say is that u should try and regulate her movement before she brings in an unwanted pregnancy...

>>>Go to her school and find out when they usually close from school... Let the teachers know that u will appreciate it if they can send u an email/ SMS upfront informing u anytime there was an extra lessons...so u will know what was keeping her,.

>>>Highlight all the chores that she has to do... church program or not...and reward her for that with some pocket change.. with that, she will stay away from the baby food...

I must say though that It's kinda funny that u opened this thread on crime section... Was it because of the baby food she was ' misplacing'?

Yes naw lol
Stealing baby food is a crininal offence na
Thievery

RodgersAkpafu:

Yes naw lol
Stealing baby food is a crininal offence na
Thievery

seanwilliam:
this sounds stupid but it will work lol.





Honestly na you cause am, if a man can be easily influenced , it’s bad ..

Baami do 1k for my Aza

@op ur own good...

That was how my friend's 15yr old niece used her atm to withdraw 70k from her acct in space of 3 days vis pos...

D first 20k she cashed out, she took d aunt's phone n deleted d alert.. on d day she withdrew d 50k, she tried again to delete d alert, but d aunt was wit d phone, till d alert got in... Funny enough aunty nor suspect her niece, she felt it was yahoo boys that hacked in... Till i encouraged her to head to d bank... Cos i was in her house d day d niece made d 50k withdrawal...

Na me help her catch d niece say na she do am... Cos i suspected her movement that day...

As we speak, d niece still dey d house... Friend's husband was away when it happened n on hearing it, he say he no wan see d girl for him house when he return...

Just that my friend can't send d niece packing... Like d op wife, she too stayed with d girl's mom for some years...

Husband man don return from travel, he's still playing cool...

Please don't turn yourself to a woman. Let your wife continue to manage the situation since she is her sister.

Oga calm your blood and see her like your sister...

Na small issue be this na, haba...

You sef manage your expectations...

You are not the person that stayed with her mother for 15 years.
Send her back to the person who gave your wife responsibilities to handle and neglected to train her own kids.
Man up!

- Stop her from going to church everyday
- Assign her a responsibility and don't tolerate excuses
- Restrict her access by improving security
- Assert authority

If naa your daughter dey eat for house, will you complain? See her as your daughter and correct her as your would to your daughter. With your message she is not a spoilt child but likes food. We all know that times are hard. Let your wife do the correcting.

u r nt serious

love wat u told him

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

You're the head of the family. Send her packing immediately. Return her back to spoil in the village.

LifeOfTrigga:
Try dey walk around the house naked with your gbola jingling like a bell and your wife go know what’s next to do!

Lol. You are one crazy motherfucker

Ikem11:

If devil exist in human form... Clearly you are a devil

All these pretenders !!!!! Alaye there's nothing wrong in dicking a girl (with her consent)


It's a natural stuff ...ewúrẹ ẹlẹgbin!!!

I will say you should manage for five years. At the age of twenty she should have the ability to take care of herself. You can happily throw out her things at the age. The worst she can do is get pregnant for one idiot street boy. Always caution her to have safe sex if the situation ever arises. You're complaining now but trust me, you won't want to know how things'll go if a pregnancy is involved.

Carot:
you are always on every thread. What do you do for a living?

I'm still searching for job, do you have one for me?

Buhari were are you oo, see what you have caused!!

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

Small something...

If cunny man die, na cunny man go bury am.

You go use sense pursue am. You fit tell am say make she go spend Xmas with her people, from there you go warn your wife say make she no come back.

Take her back to her mum and be paying her school fees... Pay as much as your muscles can carry, then discontinue. By so doing, you have made good effort to appreciate her mum's benevolence to your wife... You have to handle this....

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

Report her to her mother

CaveAdullam:
1. Send that little child back to her parents. It's almost impossible to raise a child that's not of your genetic lineage without much regrets, pains and headache. It takes a serious luck to do so and those that eventually turn out to be reasonable and accountable adults are like a pin in a haystack.

2. With such kind of behavior you've spoken about her here, woe betide you at the end when she finally coalesce it with her confederates outside your house.
She will definitely taste from troubled waters outside. That you must be cocksure of. No amount of discipline can you be able to use to correct her because you will not deal with her like your own child and she will see such act of love as hate because you are not her father.

3. If this behavior of hers eventually cumulate into a negative consequence, it will backfire against her and you'll take much of the blame because society will say "you didn't treated her as your child and that's the reason she misbehaved and ended up in her current mess".

4. Send her back to her parents. You can however help/visit her in the little ways you can from time to time why she is in her parents house.

Take this infested wood back to the forest! But if you insist you can cook with it, goodluck!

Possibly the best comment on this thread. Really really hard to train another person's child, especially a girl child.
If I were you op, I will rather send her back and support her from distance, than leave with her

Richy4:
>>> She is 15, she is a teenager...and almost every teenager lies... even their Goodmorning is suspicious... If u doubt me, just google teenagers and lying...

>>>All I have to say is that u should try and regulate her movement before she brings in an unwanted pregnancy...

>>>Go to her school and find out when they usually close from school... Let the teachers know that u will appreciate it if they can send u an email/ SMS upfront informing u anytime there was an extra lessons...so u will know what was keeping her,.

>>>Highlight all the chores that she has to do... church program or not...and reward her for that with some pocket change.. with that, she will stay away from the baby food...

I must say though that It's kinda funny that u opened this thread on crime section... Was it because of the baby food she was ' misplacing'?

Take this advice

Godwinf10:
Ok

Poor scammer.

Na your wife suppose to set complain to You and not the other way round OP.....

Try and engage the young girl, if it is to give her chores that she must do before you return from work then she will do it cos failure to do it will tell on her except you are the type that will just shout and shout and at the end nothing go happen which she will be used to.

Your marriage is too young to accommodate her.

Now you have enough reasons. You have displaydf yo do not hate her and your in-laws.

Talk to you wife about it to earn her kid sister. If no change. Inform the kid's parents. Tell them if there is no change she will need to come back to them. Put a time to it.


It's better you do this now before your kids begin to pick her character. Before theycbwgun to claim their daughter wasnt like that until you trained her.

However, you need great deal of patience and wisdom. May God direct you. Amen

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

Very tight corner for you...