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| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Fiscus105(m): 10:51am On Nov 25, 2021 |
marsup:You think so, woman can be easily twisted, wen house wife love towards her husband died and found another love outside which is still intoxicates her, she does all forms of shit. * Hope u know married women do send nude to concubines Sha? * Concubine will instruct wife not allow her husband sex her * Concubine will tell house wife to poison husband and she will oblige . Yoruba says woman that carry concubine if she doesn't kill her husband she would kill herself, they know what they are saying oooo |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by HopeOfTide: 10:52am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:I can help you uncover more even with evidence of if she's cheating or not. It's all about spy chat. U can beep me |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by West2019(m): 10:52am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee:go and seat down if you don't have anything to comment . |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by EvangelistChuks(m): 10:52am On Nov 25, 2021 |
LYING TO YOUR PARTNER IS INFIDELITY. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Nobody: 10:53am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Once you suspect that a partner is cheating, it's about to happen or already happening. Humans are spirits and we feel things before we see them. If you want to confirm your suspicion, get a PI to watch her for a few days and if you can't afford one, be one. After confirming, the next line of action to take is entirely your decision. For me, I have sworn never to put leash on a street dog and if I mistakenly do it maybe out of drunkenness and see signs of street in her, I cut her loose immediately. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by 300wayne: 10:53am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee:did you miss that she lied to him about her whereabout? Lies are the bedrock for distrust plus I absolutely see nothing wrong neither will I take offence if my partner asks for my location/sitrep even if they're doing it from a place of distrust. This your notion is akin to people who say "so long as we're not yet married, then it's not cheating" |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by chudez0147(m): 10:53am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Are you kidding me?? I wonder what other sign you want to see |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by TheKingIsHere: 10:54am On Nov 25, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky:You are the first person that shows real logical reason. So many other replies especially on the front page are filled with dimwits |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by PennywysCares(m): 10:56am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:brother my advice for be say make u comot mind for woman mata, I know it may difficult for you to do as the said woman is ur wife but if you continue to monitor her movement ur life will be full of worries and emotional trauma, unhappy and unrest. Know this and know happiness in ur entire life which ur goal and every human desire. Note she may not be guilty and ur thought towards her can be may insinuations |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by FourElements: 10:56am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Fiscus105:So, from his post, what's he doing that made you conclude he's not in charge? |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Nobody: 11:01am On Nov 25, 2021 |
CuteMaro:That gave her out, if you are good at reading human psychology you will know something is fishy. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Kenturkey048(m): 11:01am On Nov 25, 2021 |
rita25:As in...Very petty.... |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by YeyeGbami: 11:02am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Iyaebe:
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| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Nobody: 11:03am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Jamesbiodun:VERY VERY IMPORTANT in this situation because already, I can see see some signs. She despises her husband and disrespects him so chances are that he is raising another man's child. No woman with sick children in a hospital will have time to market her modeling business in the same hospital. She lied that she was getting water, later she was in uber going home and she was even aggressive while at it. In fact, her husband was disturbing an important session she was having, that's it. Her movement was definitely suspicious and it's about one thing and one thing only, OUTSIDE DICK. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by iLegendd(m): 11:03am On Nov 25, 2021*. Modified: 11:34am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Don't marry a model — all of them are well-packaged good-looking próstitutes. Her CEO and Godfather must have sex with her whether you like it or not, but if you accuse her of it, she'll swear with her father's grave that she hasn't done it and never will. See, I'm an insider in the modeling industry and I'm speaking from experience. The crown of one model is in my room as I type. You act too gentle and trust me, these models like bad men more. Dem no born that woman wey go yell at me. Yelling alone will make the marriage crash. For a man to be respected, you must imbibe principles in a woman's head during courtship, but most of you get beclouded by beauty and end up giving a woman too many leeway to insult you along the line. As I said, don't marry a model — they are only good as baby mamas. All of them cheat because they can't help it. They are good-looking and there are too many extremely good-looking male models wooing them and it's hard to turn down all of them. As long as her husband or boyfriend won't find out and the guy is not a kiss and tell, she'll sleep with him even if she is too religious. Simple. One more thing, female models HATE condoms. They want it raw and they don't care if you're infected. As long as it's raw, they're good. They don't care about the consequences. Afterall, they are beautiful, so men will always be chasing them. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Chop212: 11:03am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee:This surely sound like a reply of a women,most people trying to give advice are not married. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Lewisdinho(m): 11:04am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Op with the rate infidelity is growing higher in marriages now i will suggest you look for a professional hacker to hack her whatsapp, that's if you want to be 100% sure if she is cheating or not cos assumption isn't the best thing. Don't just assume but be smart about it. She might not be cheating as you're assuming but never assume. If you want to be so sure then be smart. We are in a tech generation. hashbag1: |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by fieldbus: 11:05am On Nov 25, 2021 |
As a father and a husband my advice is please dont kill yourself over nothing.Understand and support your wife.if she is cheating you will soon know without all this antics.women are complex and they need a lot of understanding and not monitoring please and please try and free your mind as bp is rampant these days,when you guys are in a free mood without hospital whahala try and bring the topic up and let her know you appreciate she telling you the truth even if she knows you ill be angry.Donk kill your self over nothing i beg cheers |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Springsdy456958(m): 11:05am On Nov 25, 2021 |
So sorry things doesn't measure up with her stories .. please do the following.... Test for infection between Yourself,Madan and house girl.... I have a feeling the disease is a deliberate infestation... Because two kid's won't fall sick same time with infection.... Kindly investigate. And give treatment to everyone accordingly. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Andremalan731: 11:06am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Bro Do not listen to all those saying you have trust issues Something is definitely wrong I’m talking from experience Shouting at you and refusing to do video call If she is not cheating already She will cheat soon Don’t let it slide I repeat don’t let it slide Collect her phone and check it If she refuse Send her back to her parents house Avoid stories that touch It can cause depression |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by igbowoman: 11:08am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:You are a very insecure man. She is already sick of your follow follow jelly back ,nagging self. You need help |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by lanocfoods: 11:09am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:You actually believe the mother of your children would go f**k a man while two of her kids are in the hospital? Men not everything is about you guys |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by ugotaya: 11:10am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:Okay. Mr Lover Lover , Here is my free advise for you as a marriage counselor. Your wife is not an alduterious woman. Firstly your clinginess and over thininking will jeopardise your realtionship with your wife if you don't stop being narrow minded.Women do multitask a lot and must times men don't understand this ''modus operandis'' Even if she's having an affair believe me she won't dare to see her lover on the same day that her kids were hospitalized. Clear this disruptive thoughts from your mind and just take it as one of those bad days where everyhing goes wrong. Be patience in your dealings and don't rush into conclusions where matters like this arise. Patience, tolerant, dedication,caring and understanding makes you a responsible man and not driving for 8 mins ![]() God bless your home |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Chop212: 11:12am On Nov 25, 2021 |
mediainc:As a married guy,I ask you some questions Does your wife password her phone? Does your wife make sudden movement when she texting or receiving calls at home? Do u have access to your wife phone at anytime you want ? A phone says a lot about us so everything she does is mostly there |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Nobody: 11:14am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:Marriage is hard work. You do not trust her and you know the reason. I know that you have seen other signals which you dont want write here. Well, the only advice I can give you is that you should stay silent but investigate it well. Sir, you cannot move forward if your wife is sleeping with other men. Your prayers will be destroyed (same applies to women too). Most women are caged and it affects their spiritual lives. But be ready for heartbreak and be ready to overcome it. Else, there is no need to investigate anytning if you know you will breakdown and not recover. Just be the "mumu" like that and keep accepting ill lucks coming you way. But if you know you are strong, and life goes on if you catch her, set traps. She will fall into one, just nab her and that's it. Find yourself another woman. It's not worth it killing oneself over a woman when there are so many out there. Relationship is not by force. Someone like me doesnt give a damn. My rule is this: you mess up once, make sure I don't catch you, but it's impossible. And after that once, forget it. I will never accept you back. Even when I reach 70, 80, forget it. You are going. So, I am trying so hard to keep my health intact so that I am not dependent on a anyone in the future. I have an aged parent who is in 80s and still very strong moving around. If not that, guy is an honest, he will still be driving himself. But it's hard to get a driving licence for anyone over 80 in Nigeria. So, stay healthy for the sake of yourself and your kids. Start planning on moves to take as soon as you have a solid proof. And if she is innocent, be ready to be sober and prepare a special gift for her. Honor her. That's all I can tell you sir. Remember, spouse cheating is dangerous. Men are still ok cos fornication is in their DNA. But if a woman who is not an olosho starts cheating, forget it. She can drop you 6 ft below anytime. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Chop212: 11:14am On Nov 25, 2021 |
tradepunter:Clearly your wife Is on a defensive mood which is a bad sign maybe she may be stress or something else? But take it easy just be watchful u surely find out soon |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Skmoda360(m): 11:14am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Ogbeni dey talk truth once in a while ......where did you left your guts...if he is your brother you will say otherwise, I go soon vex for you now ![]() |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by tsmith(f): 11:16am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee:I'm totally with you. It irks me, when other appropriate for other people not themselves. In the Ops mindset the wife has no other right to tender to her business but hecan tender to his. The kids are on admission in a hospital for a purpose to be looked after in rhe hospital by the hospital. The nigerian idea that someone must be on guard 24/7 in a hospital baffles me. Life goes on, bills have to be paid, self has ro be tendered to. And Ops wife juat like him and any other person has a life to live The Op comes across very controlling, inquisitive and already ladened with suspicion, the wife has obviously cunningly learnt to deal with him and tell him what he needs to hear, and there in begins the cat and mouse marriage games. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Skmoda360(m): 11:16am On Nov 25, 2021 |
ruggedtimi:He better use house help..... |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Oblitz(m): 11:18am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:Let me help you hack her phone. You'd know d truth immediately. You would have seen her on video without her knowing. For a curious person like me. I prefer knowing she's cheating than the suspense. Than the thought of not ever knowing what's happening behind your back |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by Gaddafih001(m): 11:20am On Nov 25, 2021 |
hashbag1:You already knows the truth. Sorry it has to end like this. She has no empathy or mothers intuition towards her kids. She is a throt and a slot. She needs to f*ck her man to feel okay. You are just there for the names. You are her pawn my brother. The earlier you back off,the better. Your mr Nice man ain’t really nice. She won’t pity you the day she decides you will kpai. Make I rest here. I am coming back. |
| Re: I Am Confused As A Father And As Husband by samuelson06(m): 11:20am On Nov 25, 2021 |
Iyaebe:Before you jump on the conclusion she's not cheating, tell us why she was lying to the man. |
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, Here is my free advise for you as a marriage counselor. Your wife is not an alduterious woman. Firstly your clinginess and over thininking will jeopardise your realtionship with your wife if you don't stop being narrow minded.