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My nairalanders people
Is it okay to maintain friendship after breaking up a relationship?
The lady I was dating broke up with me and still wants me to be close to her as always but it's eating me up and I don't know how to handle the situation.

She wants u to be on the substitute bench... You are clearly not fit or good enough to be starting the match...

I hope say u no be brother wey mumu... Brother wey no wise...

Eyah... Bro please listen to her... What ever role she wants u to play, pls play it well...

When ur eyes go clear say na substitute bench u dey, nobody go tell u to find another club



Nothing do u

My brother, what are you looking for with a woman who you have told bye-bye ? Or is it sex ? Be wise

Ok

Don't japa. She simply means FWB. I give you the go-ahead to be banging her on steady

Fwb bro. Incase she's hornny or needs a quik shag after her new boyfriend misbehaves.

As long as u don't have anything to lose

I'm still friend with my ex and no qualms

Na substitute player mode she wan put you

As long u stil smash no problem. But make sure u dont spend ur money on her. U next move is to look for another fish der are many of them

I had this girl I asked out, she Declined.
A week after I completely stopped talking to her. She would want us to talk but nah.
I know what I did to her isn't so right and matured but for my sanity I just gats abandon every affair with am.

She wants you as a stopgap, an understudy.

Toochildish666:
As long u stil smash no problem. But make sure u dont spend ur money on her. U next move is to look for another fish der are many of them

So u actually thinks the money he might spend is the most precious thing here... Well

The time
The energy
The pride
...

Are more precious than whatever money u are saying he should not spend...

You think it's only guys who use and dump girls...

She just want to be making series of requests from you nothing more

Na only Naija girls no dey get mourning period after a breakup. There's almost always a fall back guy. That's why there's basically no single girl in this country but get this, they automatically become single only when their fake boyfriend isn't there. I mean, a vast majority of girls will give you their number if you smell nice and drive a car in this yeye British contraption of a country. They'll even send you 'God go make you bigger' texts when they never chop your 1kobo They'll follow you to another state sef without hesitation if you invite them leaving their current fake boyfriend in an oblivious limbo Even an 8.6 inch fat gbola cannot guarantee loyalty even if they tell you you're the most caring guy in the world.

Naija gehhhh! Loyalty go Kee you

Naija girls mehnnnnnn

Bigredmachine:
So u actually thinks the money he might spend is the most precious thing here... Well

The time
The energy
The pride
...

Are more precious than whatever money u are saying he should not spend

wen its comes to nigerian girls yes

As long as u don't do something to loseI'm still collaborating with my voto and no misgivings

DannyG8:
My nairalanders people
Is it okay to maintain friendship after breaking up a relationship?
The lady I was dating broke up with me and still wants me to be close to her as always but it's eating me up and I don't know how to handle the situation.

How can you be just friends with someone you once loved and was perhaps intimate with? People often use the line 'lets just be friends' and make it sound so easy. Truth Is, it's almost impossible bro , especially when you both shared a bond in the past..except you guys never had anything serious.

By the way, she might want to still have you for monetary benefits, hence her reason for still wanting to have you as a 'friend'..trust that gender na, always thinking they can eat their cake and have it.

My advice to you is to move on bro, there are a thousand and one girls out there who will love ,respect and be loyal to you.

I come in peace.

No mind her. Bannies are confused beings. Accept but padlock your pocket and account well

Rickmann:
How can you be just friends with someone you once loved and was perhaps intimate with? People often use the line 'lets just be friends' and make it sound so easy. Truth Is, it's almost impossible bro , especially when you both have dated and shared a bond in the past..except you guys never had anything serious.

By the way, she might want to still have you for monetary benefits, hence her reason for still wanting to have you as a 'friend'..trust that gender na, always thinking they can eat their cake and have it.

My advice to you is to move on bro, there are a thousand and one girls out there who will love ,respect and be loyal to you.

I come in peace.

You have spoken my mind. Except you were just friends with benefits, you can't remain friends after you have shared so much together and probably hoped spending your lifetime together too. It's like playing with fire.

Rickmann:
How can you be just friends with someone you once loved and was perhaps intimate with? People often use the line 'lets just be friends' and make it sound so easy. Truth Is, it's almost impossible bro , especially when you both have dated and shared a bond in the past..except you guys never had anything serious.

By the way, she might want to still have you for monetary benefits, hence her reason for still wanting to have you as a 'friend'..trust that gender na, always thinking they can eat their cake and have it.

My advice to you is to move on bro, there are a thousand and one girls out there who will love ,respect and be loyal to you.

I come in peace.

And what If it is the other way round?

The guy breaks up, and still wants the girl to be his friend, still calling her every night communicating as like when they were dating before the break up.

Angy55:
And what If it is the other way round?

The guy breaks up, and still wants the girl to be his friend, still calling her every night communicating as like when they were dating before the break up.

It's same thing..
Their sort of relationship prior to the breakup will determine.

Opeyemiextra:
You have spoken my mind. Except you were just friends with benefits, you can remain friends after you have shared so much together and probably hoped spending your lifetime together too. It's like playing with fire.

Exactly.

This my former girl also want this, she nags too much and I have to free her, just recently, she told me that her new boyfriend is on my fb frnd list and I said iogd, just yesterday she beeps my line x2 nd I ignored but later called her back nd she said she's now in my town (she want to see me), and I don't want to see her because she will still do her nagging and blaming stuff.

Girls are very fragile.

DannyG8:
My nairalanders people
Is it okay to maintain friendship after breaking up a relationship?
The lady I was dating broke up with me and still wants me to be close to her as always but it's eating me up and I don't know how to handle the situation.

Don't be a SIMPle guy......

There's no harm in that as long as she ain't gonna turn you into her cash dispenser.

DannyG8:
My nairalanders people
Is it okay to maintain friendship after breaking up a relationship?
The lady I was dating broke up with me and still wants me to be close to her as always but it's eating me up and I don't know how to handle the situation.

Nope! Do not fall into that trap.

Abort! Abort that friendship mission.

I happy with so many guys comment here. It means men don dey finally see the light.

Carry On Son, Your Eyes Go See Waiting You dey find. Friends Ko, Friend Ni

i926:
Nope! Do not fall into that trap.

Abort! Abort that friendship mission.

I happy with so many guys comment here. It means men don dey finally see the light.

Walai