Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions

As I see am na the person below me get the answer

Don't try to justify anything young man, she's your girlfriend and why do you have to frame up lies to the extent u had to tell your friend to do same, common things ain't done that way as there's nothing like coming out plain to tell her u don't have the money yet and explain to her what it was used for and i believe she would see reasons with u and give you time to pay up. Do you know what it means to be lied to especially when it's coming from someone you trust? Just put urself in her shoes.

Anyways the deed has been done. Keep apologizing and if you don't get any positive response from her then give her time to get over the it, trust me she'll surely come back if she truly loves you.

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Self inflicted-you are a bloody liar.

If you lie once, then you create other lies to cover the first lie.

In your short statement here, you lied to your fiancé more than 5x.

How many more lies have you told her?

Did you type this with a smartphone? Must be a laptop.

No space after full stops. No double-spaced paragraphs.

Guy you dey stress my eye.

Anyway, I forgive you because of your proper use of “enroute”. Some people (for reasons best known to their ancestors) omit the preposition “to” when using “enroute” in a sentence.

Now to your story.

You don fvck up. You spent her money without her permission. That’s so wrong.

I applaud your efforts at making things right. Do not relent. She would come around, hopefully.


Now you know women do not play with their money. I keep telling you guys, never be financially vulnerable to your woman. If you need financial help, seek it among your buddies or from your mother and maybe your sister, but never your girlfriends. Don’t touch their money.

Learn to stop lying in relationship, it's such a turn off,as in I hate it with passion. Even if you cheat,I may decide to let go if you boldly tell me yourself, to lie in a relationship means a lot of things,I'll rather walk away from a lying partner that turn secret detective. Stop trying to justify your act,you were wrong to have lied and your lies has put her in a state of confusion. Meanwhile hope you are not a Yahoo boy disguising as a crypto trader? byeeeeee

Quit the incessant lie. Give her some space like a week without ringing her,shell forgive u

Yahoo boy!

Okay

Well the truth was still going to come out eventually. But not from your friend, nigga that ain't a friend you gat . He's a full hairy ass snitch.
About you woman, na lie you lie you no kill person. Give her sometime , if she comes around fine . If she doesn't, then move on! Either ways your sorry ass would have been dumped she was just waiting for a catalyst. If you keep begging you tend to loose value( they're both inversely proportional).

Now you've learnt your lesson, try send her the remaining money.
That your friend,if na me he try am with.the way e go take pay me the money ehn People go thing say na international crime e commit.

For those saying you betrayed her trust this and that, you know how many times the girl don do something equivalent. Read the op's write up again, she sef don f'up at one point or the other. But una no go see that one because na man abi.
Without justifying the op's action, but I sure he understands his girlfriend better than anyone of us. Reason why he opted to lie in order to buy his friend enough time.
I've had a first hand experience so I can relate to the op's decision and action.

Like I said earlier, you don beg am already . Just try balance up, because e no dey hard for woman to call us irresponsible man.

You betrayed her trust and she has every right to have acted the way she did..Trust is the foundation and bane of every relationship and when lost, it's hard to win back..

You have created a lot of doubts in her minds and she will begin to wonder if the relationship itself had been built on lies and deceit..

You messed up big time and even worse when you had to involve a third party to cover up for your lies..You have successfully portrayed how dispensible your relationship was in the eyes of your friends and what value you attached to your relationship.

No point crying over spilt milk as you have proven that you can't be trusted with money much more her heart.

Not throwing the baby out with the bathe water, you have made a good move in restitution which is fine, but trust once broken especially for people that grew up in a sane clime is hard to win back....

Try to apologize to her... And pay up!

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Any gal wey dy spend on you hold her tight, the girl likes u alot, sex is over rated Money is my love language

It's wrong in all shades to take for granted a woman, or anyone, that genuinely and wittingly places her confidence on you. Quickly reimburse her money and also win her back with a resolution not to unjustly take her for granted again.

What a friend, you have... Are you sure those your friends are it out to ruin you?? The one who sent your money sideways and the one that told your gf your secret.

Well I won't blame the girl she has every right to be angry at you, you betrayed her trust, and she had to hear the truth from a stranger.

She trusted you with the money...

What's wrong with telling her the truth?

Give her some time to get over it...

If she does, try as much as possible to be open and truthful when discussing issues, pay up the balance and don't lie to her...

Hdft

That lady should MOVE ON

You have done well my brother. If i were the one, i will spend the money and still inform her. Girls are found of deceiving us too. Dump her before she dump you

Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions

wait for her turn

Ok

And you are not ashamed of yourself?

SkyFlyGang:
Shebi I tell you bros go buy one large pizza extra cheese and pepperoni and one large coke sit down enjoy ur life

You must be dominos pizza side chick �