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ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

Sister I feel you should Calm down at ur age range you are still not that very Old to now Seem very desperate to get married I know their is d thing of Biological Clock ticking but Stop Sleeping with this Guy Please!! the more you sleep with a Guy not Committed to you,nor engaged to or even married to the Less weakened ur Chances of Picking other Choices of Men outside your relationship bcs at d Long run you Will feel Cheated if you 2 don't end Up together You Can still stay wit Him for Like 8/months and gauge His feelings and reactions He might Not even be Serious about not wanting to Settle down Soon might just want to Pull ur Legs to ascertain ur reactions.

More so when u start denying Him access to ur Body u may quickly know where u both are heading to as His true Colour will then Show.But for Someone being a Landlord of One of His Fathers house Selling Trucks and Trailers Yet Couldn't take you Home to Keep Him Company and Buy Air Conditioning devices to Keep His House Cool,even when Guys not even making up to that Could afford to. But gives an excuse of His house not being ventilated ain't that a Red Flag? Bcs the Guy Could be a Scam!!
That is if the Story isn't just made up though.

advanceDNA:
Madam’s desperation is on beast mode...
We tell them , be calming down when you meet someone... she has gone to spread leg after two minutes...now she’s feeling entitled to marriage in return...:

I just hate the way some women reason....
Once they fvck you....It’s a favour they expect you to return with whateva they want.... later she will call this man scum....

Imagine the level of desperation ofhuman being...u already want the man to decide for better worse in just 60 days....they don’t even know each other well enough

Who da fvck does that..??

No mind am that's why I told her since she claim she is not even rushing him to Marry her that she should just give the man more time, Imagine just two months and she wants everything , for her mind since she has spread legs for him it's now marriage, she even Said the guy is comfortable because he has two cars I don't know how some Ladies reason, they reason quite low, once you have a car that assume you are made, they don't know one can have two cars and still be broke, like this guy the lady feels maybe because he is handling the family business he is rich forgetting that he is not actually that fully independent as she thinks because family business is family business before decisions concerning money expenses are made family members must be carried along

ultraviolet27:
Sister I feel you should Calm down at ur age range you are still not that very Old to now Seem very desperate to get married I know their is d thing of Biological Clock ticking but Stop Sleeping with this Guy Please!! the more you sleep with a Guy not Committed to you,nor engaged to or even married to the Less weakened ur Chances of Picking other Choices of Men outside your relationship bcs at d Long run you Will feel Cheated if you 2 don't end Up together You Can still stay wit Him for Like 8/months and gauge His feelings and reactions He might Not even be Serious about not wanting to Settle down Soon might just want to Pull ur Legs to ascertain ur reactions.

More so when u start denying Him access to ur Body u may quickly know where u both are heading to as His true Colour will then Show.But for Someone being a Landlord of One of His Fathers house Selling Trucks and Trailers Yet Couldn't take you Home to Keep Him Company and Buy Air Conditioning devices to Keep His House Cool,even when Guys not even making up to that Could afford to. But gives an excuse of His house not being ventilated ain't that a Red Flag? Bcs the Guy Could be a Scam!!
That is if the Story isn't just made up though.

Okay. I will say this here: Me and this guy didn't even have sex everyone is saying. Of the 3 nights. He definitely didn't spend the first night with me. I made sure we went back home. Also, this guy works. He went to work during the day while I did mine at the hotel. He came at night and trust me, we didn't have sex. That's the first time we are seeing. And it didn't even like the sex was his goal too.

And I also wrote in the post that the 3rd night, we went to his house. We picked some bottle water and he picked the shirt he would wear the next day at work, but nobody is seeing that.


And I did not write it anywhere that I want him to propose to me now or discuss marriage plans.

But is he considering it. There are men out there in their 30's who aren't even considering it. If he is, then that's fine. It can happen 6 months, 1 year, 2 years. That's perfect. That's all I wrote.

ngoziwrites:
Yes. I don't sound desperate. I have never even mentioned any of these things. Anytime he says things like marriage is hardwork or probably any topic related to marriage, I don't say anything at all.

I just think I should ask now, so we are sure we are looking in the same direction.

Usually, people start relationships with asking a lot of questions. But we didn't start that way. I thought we would even ask basic questions when we see. But we didn't.

He hasn't asked my goals, my plans etc. I want to ask to but he is the one with more power in the relationship. It's his call. So, I can't ask him.

My friend to be honest his not into you,but better still be bold enough to asked him when next you guys meet, asked him what are his plans in the next two years, what is his type of lady as a wife, is tribe a barrier to him that is if you guys are not from same tribe.listin carefully to his response, though he mite say something just to please yoh when he noticed your mood, but be rest assured to read carefully what his saying look directly into his face, if what his saying it lies he mite not look into your face.

toffyz:
The guy could be a scammer
He knew the lady has a good work, and earned well. He's into her because of that.
The guy seems a gold digger.
He's obviously after the lady's money.
The red flags are:
Sharing to pay the hotel lodge
Not allowing her to know his place
A relationship of just 2 months, and the guy has told her so much about his family wealth.(which I assume is fake)
Na confirm player

. Gbam d Guy Could be a Gigolo though Him Lodging Her For 3 Night Paying 25K a day may be a way of enticing and Luring Her to think He is well to do and Can take Care of Her Bla bla bla that is how they Starts and will Collect triple that amount Spent on Her later in d relationship Some Gigolos they Spend to Obtain their Maga too imagine a Guy that is a Landlord in Festac,Sells Trucks Yet Couldn't take the Op to His House? He fit no get all those things Self.

MartinsD12:
No mind am that's why I told her since she claim she is not even rushing him to Marry her that she should just give the man more time, Imagine just two months and she wants everything , for her mind since she has spread legs for him it's now marriage, she even Said the guy is comfortable because he has two cars I don't know how some Ladies reason, they reason quite low, once you have a car that assume you are made, they don't know one can have two cars and still be broke, like this guy the lady feels maybe because he is handling the family business he is rich forgetting that he is not actually that fully independent as she thinks because family business is family business before decisions concerning money expenses are made family members must be carried along

How does having two cars translate to being wealthy? I wrote there that I do not know his financial capacity but judging from the things I mentioned, he seems okay.

And where did I say I am not giving him more time? Nowhere did I write I want marriage with him right away since we have been together for six months.

Well, let's just agree that you are blind.

ultraviolet27:
. Gbam d Guy Could be a Gigolo though Him Lodging Her For 3 Night Paying 25K a day may be a way of enticing and Luring Her to think He is well to do and Can take Care of Her Bla bla bla that is how they Starts and will Collect triple that amount Spent on Her later in d relationship Some Gigolos they Spend to Obtain their Maga too imagine a Guy that is a Landlord in Festac,Sells Trucks Yet Couldn't take the Op to His House? He fit no get all those things Self.

Read my post well. We went to his house.

Obviously, you just picked the parts you want to.

Cast ur net wider, explore other available options bcus it's obvious ur latest catch is not ready to settle down just yet!

ngoziwrites:
How does having two cars translate to being wealthy? I wrote there that I do not know his financial capacity but judging from the things I mentioned, he seems okay.

And where did I say I am not giving him more time? Nowhere did I write I want marriage with him right away since we have been together for six months.

Well, let's just agree that you are blind.

Be careful with the abusive word blind , you seem to be emotionally drained because you are abusing almost everyone who has shared their opinion on this your pathetic issue , this clearly shows you are immature and lacks sense of decorum , besides this mention was a reply for someone why are you mentioning me. Your character does sucks.

NomzyJust:
And here I am looking for a wife.

. At Nomzy let us Chat now

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ngoziwrites:
They didn't share opinion. They called names. That's not opinion sharing. Someone created a thread doesn't mean that should be used as an opportunity to say silly things just because it's a faceless platform.

That I am the creator of the thread doesn't mean they get to say all sorts and I am to overlook.

So we may as well throw caution to the wind.

So because of that you feel it's good to call me blind ?

MartinsD12:
So because of that you feel it's good to call me blind ?

So was with the opening her legs without proof! That's slut shaming. And you don't call anyone that and walk away with it.

you met him online in 2 weeks. he took u to the hotel on you first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
And you are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And to think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap any man with their dripping pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you have just been exploited mam.

you actually wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol.

continue opening legs for fine face and financially ready players.
it will go round...

ngoziwrites:
Read my post well. We went to his house.

Obviously, you just picked the parts you want to.

. We no dey fight nah haba!!! Just giving you a piece of my mind sha o.And who told you taking u to His House at d 3rd day still doesn't mk Him a Scam? are you really Sure He owns the House Self?Just tread Carefully though.

ngoziwrites:
So was with the opening her legs without proof! That's slut shaming. And you don't call anyone that and walk away with it.

Deal with your wahala , after all you said you both meet in a hotel ,what do they do in a hotel if not sexxxx , that is enough proof . You are pained, Case closed.

walkingshadow911:
you meet online in 2 weeks.he took u to the hotel on first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
You are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And you think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap a man with their pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol
[b]you meet online in 2 weeks.he took u to the hotel on first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
You are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And you think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap a man with their pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol
[/b]you meet online in 2 weeks.he took u to the hotel on first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
You are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And you think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap a man with their pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you have just been exploited..
you actually wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol.

continue opening legs fine face and financially ready players.
it will go round...

. Calm down Mr Nobody Holy Pass o .their is a Yoruba adage that says a Kin mo on rin ki Ori ma ji meaning no matter how One is Careful He/She may still trip(fall) even many Married Women U See today they don experience their Palaver b4 they finally settle down too(Many water don pass under the Bridge)its just that they won't tell you .Moreso if Some People never experience Some things they may never learn So pls don't lambast Her.

ngoziwrites:
Well, sadly... That's not how I see it. It's just society is funny. I mentioned that I paid part of the hotel bills. I also mentioned my plans to surprise him with gifts and I didn't only mention that he is earning. I talked about myself too but unfortunately no one saw that.

The guys here just picked the part that suit them.

I can tell you have met and slept with guys in this same category, may be 3-5 guys.
I can also tell you over do things especially when you are in love. You over express your love anytime you find someone you love.
The question is why don't they settle with you?
I will tell you.
Men like to feel like men in important situations or in areas they feel they should have complete control over. Ladies like you splatters too much emotions around trying to steer things for the supposed good of your partner not knowing they have a complete idea. Henceforth, desist from fiddling with things important to him. Show him his decisions must be respected. He seems to be more economically minded, seek out knowledge on how to make great financial investments. Share your knowledge with him. Talk, talk and talk business with him. That's where his heart is. Convince him both your minds are in the same make. Limit the sex, and jettison that stupid idea of asking him when he plans to settle down.

You seem very spontaneous and having a reply and answer to almost all comments here.

You are the kind that wld not let someone talk to talk finish b4 u give it to them even ur husband.

Instead of you to calm down and listen to advises. If you knew it all why are u bothering NL.

All these shallowness made u go and Bleep a man at a hotel. . A strange man u met online and after just 2 meetings . . And u heard his fairytale financial status u are already all over him like bee.

Are u a marketer in a bank? I will not be surprised.

Come here speaking some shallow things! Is that how u just Bleep everybody?

You have a gold u want to dig abi. .and the guy get prick... Nonsense.

Psalmistproject:
I can tell you have met and slept with guys in this same category, may be 3-5 guys.
I can also tell you over do things especially when you are in love. You over express your love anytime you find someone you love.
The question is why don't they settle with you?
I will tell you.
Men like to feel like men in important situations or in areas they feel they should have complete control over. Ladies like you splatters too much emotions around trying to steer things for the supposed good of your partner not knowing they have a complete idea. Henceforth, desist from fiddling with things important to him. Show him his decisions must be respected. He seems to be more economically minded, seek out knowledge on how to make great financial investments. Share your knowledge with him. Talk, talk and talk business with him. That's where his heart is. Convince him both your minds are in the same make. Limit the sex, and jettison that stupid idea of asking him when he plans to settle down.

Thank you. Yeah, I go all out when I find someone I meet. I think that's a mistake. Perhaps, loving too much. I have had someone say you are too caring.... Well.... Perhaps, that was caring for the wrong person.

Also, we haven't been intimate. As for the financial talks, business plans etc... We are both career minded and ambitious, so we do that.

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ultraviolet27:
. Calm down Mr Nobody Holy Pass o .their is a Yoruba adage that says a Kin mo on rin ki Ori ma ji meaning no matter how One is Careful He/She may still trip(fall) even many Married Women U See today they don experience their Palaver b4 they finally settle down too(Many water don pass under the Bridge)its just that they won't tell you .Moreso if Some People never experience Some things they may never learn So pls don't lambast Her.

Am sorry if i stroke a nerve Mrs Nobody....
I only stated the obvious truth here
i understand how it feels to be campaigning after election.
what she felt was not what she got. thereby are pussy game failed
we all got exploited at some point, it's no brainer
its breakfast that will go round....

walkingshadow911:
you met him online in 2 weeks. he took u to the hotel on you first meeting and bangs the hell outta u.
And you are not even ashame to spit dat damn trash

And to think he would take you serious.
Na wa o

how ladies still feels they can trap any man with their dripping pussy still baffles me sha.

you obviously fell for good look and financially ready lol.

you have just been exploited mam.

you actually wrote all this epistle because you cannot unfvck the fvck lol.

continue opening legs for fine face and financially ready players.
it will go round...

Unfuck the Bleep

So, that the next thing?

Think! Reason!! Use that thing standing on your emaciated neck.

Once u leave here, go and embarrass yourself in the DMs of girls as usual. You are the type that forms hard man online but in reality, you aren't even getting the sex u want to die for, so go get your soap or if it's palm oil that u use.

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ngoziwrites:
Unfuck the Bleep

So, that the next thing?

Think! Reason!! Use that thing standing on your emaciated neck.

Once u leave here, go and embarrass yourself in the DMs of girls as usual. You are the type that forms hard man online but in reality, you aren't even getting the sex u want to die for, so go get your soap or if it's palm oil that u use.

so many people are sex starved on this thread. Immediately you mentioned 3 nights in a hotel with the guy, I said edele pue pue, nairaland people nor go let this op rest for comments

brain54:
Nothing wrong in you guys talking about it...no need for parables or preambles.
You need to know completely what you are getting into and move on if you guys don't share same values. Or you feel you can't cope.
At 26 you should be in a well defined relationship.

Yeah. I agree . I just want to know if we are looking in the same direction. Marriage is cool within 2 years and with that Time we have something meaningful on All levels.

Thank you

ngoziwrites:
What's pussy game? You don't have sense at all. Put some class and dignity on the way u reason

Your thinking is shaped by the level of girls u meet. Sadly, u will never meet one who would take this mentality away from you. You are doomed. You misery will be forever.

If the greatest thing u think a woman can give you or a man is what's between her legs, how pathetic.

i can understand your frustrations here miss pussy marketer.
i only date for marriage and i dont take a lady i like to a hotel at first meeting except she is a hookup girl.

the bashing you ve received here is enough for you to commit suicide.
just carry your public toilet pussy away from me, i have better things to do with my time jare.
quote me again and i shall u ignore u like a piece of shit you are.

ngoziwrites:
That's how you sleep around with girls and u have probably slept with several. I did not even mention sex in the post and it has turned to a sexual conversation

If we remove sex from your head now, what will we see? Absolutely nothing.

I see you want to help the wounded idiots here. Perhaps it will make you go to sleep with a smile on your ugly face since u have been depressed for who know how long?

How did your day go? Miserable as usual right. I hope someday you check your bank account and u smile.

Seems u have done a lot of low marketing jobs, that's why u thought about that. The sun has most likely burnt your skin from your useless hustle.

If u don't talk about sex, what else can you discuss. Prick, prick, prick... That's all u know. There is a life outside of that.

Sit down and think.

Your mates are out there achieving a lot but u are here talking about the only thing you know how.

Your comment has been flying everywhere. What exactly is hurting you? The fact that he is okay and that's makes u feel insecure?

Or what exactly is turning your eyes red?

What attracted me was the way he presented himself and the smart conversations we have. Every other thing about him his family, etc was only revealed after we met. Long after I even left his place.

So your argument doesn't hold water.

You are liar madam. It is after u have received enough brain resetting remarks. . You now tried to reframe ur story.

We know your type. You are not wife material but a prostitute. Not even ashamed to come online and be spilling it.

How did u keep your so called job?

What are u doing in a hotel with an online stranger. . Do you think I are talking to 2 year old kids. . For 3 days. .

U never start. .

walkingshadow911:
i can understand your frustrations here miss pussy marketer.
i only date for marriage and i dont take a lady i like to a hotel at first meeting except she is a hookup girl.

the bashing you ve received here is enough for you to commit suicide.
just carry your public toilet pussy away from me, i have better things to do with my time.
quote me again and i shall u ignore u like a piece of shit

Don't mind the slut.

She even get mind dey type the rubbish for here. .

She was singing choir rehearsal with an online stranger in an hotel for 3 days na. .

I only God knows how many heads this one's don exchange. . Rubbish.

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