Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

The write up below is exactly what a friend is going through from his wife. Please what sort of action can he take?

Despite, all he has done to please his wife, called Reverend fathers and pastors to counsel them both, his wife is still indifferent to him and is threatening to quit the marriage, citing accumulated pains of the past.

Currently, she says she wants to go back to her parents house else she will die or commit suicide. The man called her parents, and their advise was that since she is his wife, he should decide if to allow her leave his house to come and see them (parents) or stay in his house that the decision is his as the husband.

At this juncture my friend is confused and dont know what to do again.

Even the unmarried friend of his wife who came to stay with them is not helping matter at all as she seems to be enjoying the challenge between my friend and his wife.

Please advise needed. Thanks.

Cc:
Mynd44
Dominique
Ishilove
Lalasticlala
Please post to front page.

Thanks

Bros allow her to go and spend holiday at her father's house
Believe me she will return after sometime unless you are not meeting up as a man ie providing for your household and the other room

JovialJune:
You see that "accumulated pains of the past", I can relate or let's say I know of stories of such, that's why she is indifferent to him

What men don't seem to realise is that, how you treat/behave to your gf during courtship, determines how sweet your marriage will be, she may forgive whatever hurtful things you did, but she will never forget, after all she is human,there will always be a little disdain when she remembers and anytime she sees you, so men pls be good to your women, don't think that because you're dating her, you can behave anyhow, she is taking note of it all especially when the issue is unresolved, always treat your women right, it's for your own good.

I would beg to ask the basis of going into or being in a marriage if one simply keeps a record of bad events or cannot forgive. It is not the case that I endorse maltreatment of a spouse in any way, but it needs to be said that if one finds it difficult to forgive, such a one should simply stay out of marriage altogether.

Babsojimjim:



The third party was first contacted by the lady and not the man, and when the man was questioned he had to respond.

Other advises of yours are acknowledged, but what would now be the fate of their little daughter,mind you she is not even having in mind to go stay with her parents but rather to visit them spend a day or two and go back to her accommodation at school where she recently graduated from. Of which the man does not want their little daughter to be in a campus environment again.

And common sense did not tell you people she is already f.cking and only trying so hard to whip up an excuse to quit the marriage. It’s a lost cause, if he does not let her go, it will only get worse. She will keep raising mountains out of nothing. Best bet, let her go and explore, experience the other side of life and truly understand the grass is not always greener at the other side. She maybe lucky to return and still meet her marriage intact, though that depends on the kind of man she is married to!

ALAYE TELL YOUR PADDY MAN TO FREE HER . DONT FORCE WHAT IS NOT. IF SHE NO FREE THE B*TCH , THE NIGGA FIT DIE PREMATURELY BECAUSE THAT LADY WILL DO EVERYTHING WITHIN HER JURIDISTIC TO MAKE SURE SHE IS FREE . YOU DONT FORCE LOVE , LET LOVE COME NATURALLY

Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

The write up below is exactly what a friend is going through from his wife. Please what sort of action can he take?

Despite, all he has done to please his wife, called Reverend fathers and pastors to counsel them both, his wife is still indifferent to him and is threatening to quit the marriage, citing accumulated pains of the past.

Currently, she says she wants to go back to her parents house else she will die or commit suicide. The man called her parents, and their advise was that since she is his wife, he should decide if to allow her leave his house to come and see them (parents) or stay in his house that the decision is his as the husband.

At this juncture my friend is confused and dont know what to do again.

Even the unmarried friend of his wife who came to stay with them is not helping matter at all as she seems to be enjoying the challenge between my friend and his wife.

Please advise needed. Thanks.

Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

The write up below is exactly what a friend is going through from his wife. Please what sort of action can he take?

Despite, all he has done to please his wife, called Reverend fathers and pastors to counsel them both, his wife is still indifferent to him and is threatening to quit the marriage, citing accumulated pains of the past.

Currently, she says she wants to go back to her parents house else she will die or commit suicide. The man called her parents, and their advise was that since she is his wife, he should decide if to allow her leave his house to come and see them (parents) or stay in his house that the decision is his as the husband.

At this juncture my friend is confused and dont know what to do again.

Even the unmarried friend of his wife who came to stay with them is not helping matter at all as she seems to be enjoying the challenge between my friend and his wife.

Please advise needed. Thanks.

You better allow her go

If she want to go and stay sometimes with her family no problem please grant her wish.

But if she want to go because she don't want the marriage again, then let her know that if she step out no coming back, and you will move on.

Nothing, just advise him to grant her wish to avoid stories that touch.

Your friend has caused her a lot of pain which has accumulated and she can't endure anymore
You haven't told us what your friend does that she gives her this pains.
She needs a time off to cool off her head, the husband should grant her, so she can regain her emotional health

Babsojimjim:



Her character changed,no marital relationship, no care no concern, she prefers her friends instructions and advise to her husband, whenever she does wrong and is been corrected,she will turn it against her husband and start bringing up issues of the past that have already been resolved. This she has always been doing. But the man would still plead for peace. How can two couples live in the same house without intimacy for months, no sound communication etc, but when she needs money she does not hesitate to ask for it. The man has been the one canvassing for continuity but the woman seems to feel she is right and would still have her way out there.

For my friend to have peace and regain his sanity, hence the need for this post.

mad!

There is something your friend is doing wrong. He is not opening up to you. Ask the wife her own side of the story. Let her.go to her parents for a while and sort things out later.

Why are you putting blame on her unmarried friend? Even you too as a friend, what are you doing in the couple’s affairs?
So if you are blaming the friend for influencing her, you also have influenced or are influencing your friend.
You can’t just come here with half baked stories, looking for a soft target.

What did your “friend” do you his wife?

Let her be patient until after the Christmas celebration or after this chilly weather.....e get why

Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

The write up below is exactly what a friend is going through from his wife. Please what sort of action can he take?

Despite, all he has done to please his wife, called Reverend fathers and pastors to counsel them both, his wife is still indifferent to him and is threatening to quit the marriage, citing accumulated pains of the past.

Currently, she says she wants to go back to her parents house else she will die or commit suicide. The man called her parents, and their advise was that since she is his wife, he should decide if to allow her leave his house to come and see them (parents) or stay in his house that the decision is his as the husband.

At this juncture my friend is confused and dont know what to do again.

Even the unmarried friend of his wife who came to stay with them is not helping matter at all as she seems to be enjoying the challenge between my friend and his wife.

Please advise needed. Thanks.

She is good to leave... Let her go

Feminists have stylishly taken over nairaland

No one can be forced or should be forced to stay in a union

NA ALL THESE SMALL SMALL BOYS WHEY COLLECT EDD MONEY AND BENEFIT , RUSH GO MARRY ... DEM NO NO SHEY MARRIAGE IS NOT JUST A WALK IN THE PARK

emmanuelbrown26:

Op u are simply a simp, na your case bi that not your friend bcs I can never hv a stupid and idiotic friend like u. I just don't understand why we hv boys in men skin this day. How dare u sponsor a bitch in school? That's rubbish na.
u deserve everything your wife is doing to u likewise any other simp out their.
U fuckingly used money to enticed her, she knows your weakness and she is capitalising in that.

This is the best news to any man who loves his freedom.

If it were to be me, I will just jejely help her pack her bags, and then give her the transport fare.

Was she bundled into the marriage in the first place? Mtchew!

She prolly wants to go back and enjoy single life or live a carefree live like her friend. That is what you get these days as wifes.

pussymonger1:
NA ALL THESE SMALL SMALL BOYS WHEY COLLECT EDD MONEY AND BENEFIT , RUSH GO MARRY ... DEM NO NO SHEY MARRIAGE IS NOT JUST A WALK IN THE PARK

U must be a real niggar, I dough my coconut for u

You can't solve a problem by negleting the root cause. Her decision to walk away is triggered by a factor. Do you bother to find out? If yes, how was your approach? Effective communication and prayer is key to a sustainable marriage because the enermy is alway hell bent to ensure couples don't live together in happiness. I pray may God keep and sustain your union in love and undefilable cooperation.

If you friend value his precious life he won't keep trying to hold her back. Let her go. If the marriage won't work there is option for divorce.

Babsojimjim:
Dear All,

The write up below is exactly what a friend is going through from his wife. Please what sort of action can he take?

Despite, all he has done to please his wife, called Reverend fathers and pastors to counsel them both, his wife is still indifferent to him and is threatening to quit the marriage, citing accumulated pains of the past.

Currently, she says she wants to go back to her parents house else she will die or commit suicide. The man called her parents, and their advise was that since she is his wife, he should decide if to allow her leave his house to come and see them (parents) or stay in his house that the decision is his as the husband.

At this juncture my friend is confused and dont know what to do again.

Even the unmarried friend of his wife who came to stay with them is not helping matter at all as she seems to be enjoying the challenge between my friend and his wife.

Please advise needed. Thanks.

The guy should call a meeting of his own parents and her parents and right there she should be asked if she wants to leave, if she says she wants to leave , she should not be adviced against her wish, most especially from the guy and his parents

Babsojimjim:



Yes they did explored and discovered that both couple can still forge ahead, the man has his own fault likewise the woman, but the woman always makes it look like the man is the cause. Prayers has been made and both of them agreed to have forgiven each other but the woman is still bent on leaving the house with their only daughter who is 6 years old

He should allow her to leave na. you can't force marriage.
Or you want to wait until she dies? She can even poison him to death

Manipulative gender. Your friend is the one to die mysteriously if he continues keeping the venomous snake in his house. He should let the bitch go.

Babsojimjim:



She was never at any point forced to marry the man. God has used the man to support her school till graduation and her negative character during her convocation that provoked the man turned out to look like the man is at fault,as when she was scolded by him she started bringing past events that have been already handled.

my friend listen, her heart is somewhere else. If the man digs further he would discover there is someone else in the picture who has promised her heaven and earth. Another reason is bad advise. The man should stand as a man and face his future. He should allow her do what she wants. He would not die but come out stronger. He should buy that land he wants to buy, he should start investing in his future. He should remove his wife as the centre, she has not earned a place to be there. He should face his daughter. Buy things for her, make her happy. Most important he should get close to God. The wife will come begging.

Let her go. And let him marry the friend. SIMPle.

LilMissFavvy:
He has to be patient pending when the wife will want him back in her life, that's if it will ever happen, because only God knows how much he tortured her such that she wishes to go back to her parents or commit suicide. What do you mean by despite all that he has done to please his wife, so you are already taking sides? Okay ooooo.

You have also taken sides too by alleging that he has been torturing his wife as if you are a witness.

Let her go . Accumulated pains ain't something you want to joke with . Otherwise she might blow up one day.. shalom!

You friend should up his bedroom game.
Most marital problems is due to lack of romance and attention from the party

The sentence called reverend fathers and pastors already made this fake.

If you guys want to write content, be creative nd smart.