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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Emmynator(m): 11:00am On Dec 24, 2021
Sixtyfive65:
Guys, so I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and it was good until this year.



My finances hit rock bottom and she was supportive. She even sent me part of her school fees and wasn't all that demanding...
Things changed when her cousin got hooked to a yahoo boy and has probably influenced her.
I called her on video call sometime last week and she rudely told me her battery was low. I scolded her and ignored her calls. After calling for like 7 times, I finally picked and we got into an argument and she told me that I wasn't even worth it and ended the call....

I totally ignore her and she sent me series of text saying I don't even act like i love her and that I should fight for her, blah blah.

She hasn't called since Monday, except twice yesterday, and that was that...
Her sister uploaded her picture yesterday and called her by another man's name as his baby...
She called and I asked her who tf was Henry, and she said her sister uploaded that so it gets me pissed.
I blocked her on WhatsApp
What do you think i should do?

I have read all your replies and i understand where you're coming from, you are feeling that she hasn't done enough to deserve being cut off, but the question you really need to ask yourself is if really she has to do more before you see the writings on the wall.
Do you really believe that she'll say you're not worth it, if at least some part of her doesn't believe it? Nah bro, it's in moment like that that bottled up thoughts and intentions rear up their heads.
She's at a place most ladies are, locked between her heart is and where her influences (sisters, friends etc) what it to be, believe me, the influences almost always win in the end.
I have given you the information you need to make a decision, make one. If you want to carry on, goodluck delaying the inevitable.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Martinez39s(m): 11:01am On Dec 24, 2021
Sixtyfive65:
i meant she called up to 20 times apologising. I ignored every call
Okay. Sha end things with the girl. You should have done that a long time ago.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Sixtyfive65: 11:04am On Dec 24, 2021
Emmynator:

I have read all your replies and i understand where you're coming from, you are feeling that she hasn't done enough to deserve being cut off, but the question you really need to ask yourself is if really she has to do more before you see the writings on the wall.
Do you really believe that she'll say you're not worth it, if at least some part of her doesn't believe it? Nah bro, it's in moment like that that bottled up thoughts and intentions rear up their heads.
She's at a place most ladies are, locked between her heart is and where her influences (sisters, friends etc) what it to be, believe me, the influences almost always win in the end.
I have given you the information you need to make a decision, make one. If you want to carry on, goodluck delaying the inevitable.
I've made my decision... She texted me yesterday saying I'm pained that she hasn't bombarded my phone with call(she calls up to 8 times when we're having an argument and I pick the 9th call to scold her, then we settle)...
I've moved on, and I just won a thousand dollar contract this morning, so maybe its for the best?

Thanks chief

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Sixtyfive65: 11:08am On Dec 24, 2021
Martinez39s:
Okay. Sha end things with the girl. You should have done that a long time ago.
tbh, she's done a whole lot for me, but her recent attitude change means it's time to move on.
Ticking time bomb..
Thanks chief

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by CaveAdullam: 11:12am On Dec 24, 2021
MJBOLT:
https://www.nairaland.com/6908518/man-catches-girlfriend-another-man

When I say women are for fun and fvcks these guys always push me to the guillotine, they want my neck slice. Never take these women serious, don't waste your time and resources on them. Take them as they present themselves as they are not ready for whatever is meaningful.

May God help men not to do relationship in 2022 and beyond except a hurricane kind of change comes to stabilized the nonsense current intersexual dynamics.

Even during fun and fvcks, avoid the damaged ones, never look at them, don't go close to them, run for your dear life. Better to die in solitude than spend years with a toxic women.

Thanks.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Nobody: 11:56am On Dec 24, 2021
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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Tonnyray: 12:01pm On Dec 24, 2021
Emasculation of Modern Men 4


The ‘Toxic Masculinity’ Smear
By BEN SHAPIRO

Emasculation is not a solution to social ills.
On Monday, the New York Post ran a story about Warrior Week, a boot camp for men run by Garrett J. White, “a 40-year-old blond with tattooed biceps who looked like a video-game soldier.” For the low, low cost of just $25,000, White will run you through a regimen of physical torture and mental preparation that involves being punched in the face, hiking while holding logs, and reciting the poem “Invictus.” White explained:

We teach them how to be a man. . . . Women are leading across the board in business and at home . . . and living more powerfully than men today. And that’s causing complete chaos for men.
The first question on the application for White’s training program: “Have you ever been punched in the face by another man?”
Now, I have never been punched in the face. At least not as an adult, that is. When I was younger, I was routinely bullied — I was about 5 foot 2 throughout most of high school, since I was two years younger than the other students. That meant severe physical abuse and some relatively egregious torment at the hands of classmates.

Now I’m married, with two children of my own. I own several guns. I spend my days writing and speaking and thinking; I believe the fundamental proposition that Western civilization was built in order to prevent people from punching each other in the face.

But I’ll admit that for a split second, I felt the urge to check out White’s website. Why? Because men have an innate drive for aggression. They feel the need to test themselves against their limits. That drive can be channeled toward building themselves and protecting those around them. Or it can be unleashed in waves of destruction. Or, alternatively, it can be tamped down, killed. Men can be emasculated.

I thought about White when I read Bette Midler’s tweet regarding the London terror attack last Saturday evening. Here’s what the star of Beaches had to tell us: “More sorrow and grief at the hands of madmen in London. Men and religion are worthless.”


Put aside the inanity of lumping together all religion as “worthless” thanks to the acts of radical Islamists, who are devotees of a religion she refuses to mention, presumably out of sheer cowardice. Focus instead on her belief that “men . . . are worthless.” It’s indicative of a general belief among members of the Left that masculinity itself is toxic and must be quashed. Hillary Clinton spoke last month at a Planned Parenthood gala where drinks called “toxic masculinity” were served; she explained that men are “doing everything they can to roll back the rights and progress we’ve fought so hard for over the last century.” Men, you see, are the problem. Men make war; men commit crimes; men rape; men infuse their aggression into everything.

Midler and those of like mind are wrong to lump all men together, of course. It was male police officers who arrived to kill the terrorists. It is male soldiers attempting to liberate women from the depravity of ISIS terrorists. Males destroy, but males also build.

It was male police officers who arrived to kill the terrorists. It is male soldiers attempting to liberate women from the depravity of ISIS terrorists. Males destroy, but males also build.

But in their effort to eradicate the destructive male tendency, the Left has pushed emasculation as a solution. While they champion the notion that women can do anything they set their minds to (true!), they simultaneously castigate men as the barriers to progress and masculinity as a condition to be avoided. The goal of the Left, therefore, becomes to train boys not to become men. Instead, boys should be feminized; they should never be encouraged to “be a man.” That’s too pressure-filled, too nasty, too mean.

But boys want to become men; men want to be men. As Christina Hoff Sommers points out: “Most boys evince healthy masculinity. . . . telling a boy to ‘man up’ can be harsh and degrading. But teaching him to ‘be a gentleman’ is another matter.”

If men are not told to be “gentlemen,” some will be emasculated, but more will become destructive men. If men are not trained by good men, they will be trained by bad men; if they have no good males to follow, they follow bad ones. The Left routinely speaks about a world run by women and why such a world would create better men. But the most male-free environment in America exists in black communities, where well over half of black children grow up without fathers. This hasn’t made black boys less violent; it’s made them far more prone to criminality than their non-black peers. Many of these boys follow teenage role models, many of whom have lacked fathers themselves, and lack the training to be a gentleman. They live in a world of risk that requires masculine defense but have no one to teach them to distinguish between defense and aggression.

The Left’s dichotomous choice between emasculation and toxic masculinity leaves men out in the cold — and leaves them searching for meaning. If they are not the defenders of their families, what are they? If they are not providers, what are they? They become non-entities — or they become societal tumors or at least tacit supporters of “men who are men!”

It doesn’t take being punched in the face to be a man. I’m not signing up for White’s class. But that’s because my father taught me to be a gentleman: to protect my family and my community, to stand up for good things, to build rather than destroy. And to train my own son the same way.

But in a society that denies manhood altogether, that denies men’s special protective and creative role in society — or worse, categorizes masculinity as mere violence — it’s easy to fall into a simplistic self-identification with toxic manhood. The age of emasculation cannot last. It will eventually boil over into violence, sink away into irrelevance, or return to the truth: that the male aggressive instinct can be good but must be trained, not excised.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Dizzyyish: 12:02pm On Dec 24, 2021
Sixtyfive65:

I totally ignore her and she sent me series of text saying I don't even act like i love her and that I should fight for her, blah blah.

That's a shit test and a red flag right there. If you proceed with her then get ready for an endless stream of shit tests from an easily influenced person (herd mentality).

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by gentlegenius(m): 12:08pm On Dec 24, 2021
ubunja:
yep. Civilization is built on sexual repression. I can't remember which psychologist said this.

The more sexually expressive we are, the less development there'll be. If we lived for sex we would be living in the jungle. Sexually Satisfied but with nothing to show for it but babies.
Right on point...
A MAN WHO LIVES FOR FOOD AND SEX ALONE IS NOT IN ANY WAY DIFFERENT FROM ANINALS.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Tonnyray: 12:20pm On Dec 24, 2021
The Emasculation of Modern Men 5

The Emasculation of Men
PATRICIA BRAUN

Do you remember the Bible story about Moses in the bulrushes? Moses’ mother, to protect his life from Pharaoh’s deadly law, hides him in a basket on the river. Pharaoh’s daughter finds him, and, moved with pity, rescues him. Miriam saves the day by referring her own mother as a wonderful nurse for baby Moses, to which the princess readily agrees. Moses goes back home, his life now protected by royalty. What a lovely story! What is not so lovely is the reason why Moses was float­ing in the water, weeping in his little basket.

There was an attack on Moses’ manhood–on the man­hood of all Hebrew men, to be exact. Pharaoh was concerned that the He­brews were getting too strong. He feared that, as was prophesied to Abraham (Gen­esis 15:13-14), the Hebrews would soon make their exit out of Egypt, leaving the economy to suffer a great loss. Endeavor­ing to prevent such an exodus, Pharaoh commanded the midwives, when attending the Hebrew women, to kill their newborn boys (Exodus 1:16). Pharaoh understood that if he could stop the supply of strong men to the nation of Israel, he would then be able to keep the Hebrews under his hand forever.

Babylon understood this principle when it chose to focus on educating young, healthy, intelligent men during the captivity of the Jews in the days of Daniel the prophet. Herod waged war on man­hood as he killed all boys two years old and under, in an effort to kill the promised Messiah. The attack is still on. The war has not ceased, but rather increased. The tac­tics are still very much the same. Our baby boys are still being killed, although now before they are even born. Our young men are still being indoctrinated by pagan in­structors and stripped of any godly teach­ing they may have received as a child. And yet there is more.

In our time, we see a purposeful as­sault aimed at emasculating the men of the 21st century. Women’s Liberation has apparently “freed” the women, and has paralyzed the men and demot­ed them from their God-given place of authority in the home. The “American Dream” has forced our women to be “ca­reer women” in order to afford its require­ments. All sorts of evil has come from women no longer being at home. Home life is being destroyed. The babies that es­cape being aborted are hauled off to day­ care. Their future is laid in the hands of an ungodly system.

Young men are taught to dress in the latest fashions of form-fitting shirts and pants in such pretty pastel shades as lavender. And, after the 1960s, men have donned jewelry and grown their hair as long as women’s hair.

Our boys are taught in school that maybe they aren’t a boy after all. If they choose to believe they are a boy, they are told that it`s okay to fall in love with another boy and marry him. The media has pushed images of “pregnant men” into their minds to fur­ther confuse the image of what a man really is. The leaders of our society still have the same cry as Pharaoh, “If it be a son, kill him.”

It is still understood today that if you want to take down a people, a race, a religion, you must disable their men. There is no better way to do this than to emasculate them.

If you are a man, dear reader, the rul­ers of the darkness of this world are out to take every bit of your manhood away from you. They mean for you to be a pawn in promoting their wicked warfare against God Almighty and His religion–true Christianity. That is why they try to get your wife to the workplace and tell you to stay home and clean the house. That is why they push feminine-styled clothing on you. That is why you are encouraged to live a homosexual or transgender lifestyle.

Men, rise up and be whom God has called you to be! Be like Daniel and his friends who refused to eat the king’s meat (Daniel 1:8-15). Don’t go along “with the flow.” Be like Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, who didn’t bow down to the music of the image (Daniel 3). Refuse to be cowed down by the agenda of the age. Be the leader in your home. Be a leader in spirituality. Be a leader in strength and courage. Be strong! Be a man!

Herod wanted to stop the prophecy of the Messiah from being fulfilled, by destroying baby boys. And now, with the Lord soon to return, and the prophecies of God’s glorious and final victory over wrong soon to be fulfilled, the rulers of the darkness of this world are fighting with all they have to keep them from being fulfilled. Just as Herod was un­able to kill the Messiah, so these present workers of spiritual wickedness in high places will also be unable to stop the ad­vancement and final victory of the saints of God in this battle for truth.

Men, revolt and declare your man­hood! The victory in this battle will be on God’s side. Be a man that God can use to accomplish His eternal purpose.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by MJBOLT: 1:08pm On Dec 24, 2021
Back then in School,girls used this format on their boyfriends.The boyfriend will call between 10-11 pm and they will talk at length,she will make sure the boyfriend knows she's in her hostel with her roommates.

After the call,she will leave her hostel and visit her 'fvck buddy' to pass the night,the next day around 5:00-5:30 am,she will sneak back to her hostel and act like nothing happened.

And the cycle continues.....

Carchoice:


Lemme burst your head. 2017 I was dating this lady that I also hacked her WhatsApp, I ran through all her chats and calls and there was nothing incriminating. She would call me to tell me she’s going to plug her phone at neighbors when there’s power outage, She called to tell me literally everything She was doing.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Godx: 1:09pm On Dec 24, 2021
[s]
Tonnyray:
The Emasculation of Modern Men 5

The Emasculation of Men
PATRICIA BRAUN

Do you remember the Bible story about Moses in the bulrushes? Moses’ mother, to protect his life from Pharaoh’s deadly law, hides him in a basket on the river. Pharaoh’s daughter finds him, and, moved with pity, rescues him. Miriam saves the day by referring her own mother as a wonderful nurse for baby Moses, to which the princess readily agrees. Moses goes back home, his life now protected by royalty. What a lovely story! What is not so lovely is the reason why Moses was float­ing in the water, weeping in his little basket.

There was an attack on Moses’ manhood–on the man­hood of all Hebrew men, to be exact. Pharaoh was concerned that the He­brews were getting too strong. He feared that, as was prophesied to Abraham (Gen­esis 15:13-14), the Hebrews would soon make their exit out of Egypt, leaving the economy to suffer a great loss. Endeavor­ing to prevent such an exodus, Pharaoh commanded the midwives, when attending the Hebrew women, to kill their newborn boys (Exodus 1:16). Pharaoh understood that if he could stop the supply of strong men to the nation of Israel, he would then be able to keep the Hebrews under his hand forever.

Babylon understood this principle when it chose to focus on educating young, healthy, intelligent men during the captivity of the Jews in the days of Daniel the prophet. Herod waged war on man­hood as he killed all boys two years old and under, in an effort to kill the promised Messiah. The attack is still on. The war has not ceased, but rather increased. The tac­tics are still very much the same. Our baby boys are still being killed, although now before they are even born. Our young men are still being indoctrinated by pagan in­structors and stripped of any godly teach­ing they may have received as a child. And yet there is more.

In our time, we see a purposeful as­sault aimed at emasculating the men of the 21st century. Women’s Liberation has apparently “freed” the women, and has paralyzed the men and demot­ed them from their God-given place of authority in the home. The “American Dream” has forced our women to be “ca­reer women” in order to afford its require­ments. All sorts of evil has come from women no longer being at home. Home life is being destroyed. The babies that es­cape being aborted are hauled off to day­ care. Their future is laid in the hands of an ungodly system.

Young men are taught to dress in the latest fashions of form-fitting shirts and pants in such pretty pastel shades as lavender. And, after the 1960s, men have donned jewelry and grown their hair as long as women’s hair.

Our boys are taught in school that maybe they aren’t a boy after all. If they choose to believe they are a boy, they are told that it`s okay to fall in love with another boy and marry him. The media has pushed images of “pregnant men” into their minds to fur­ther confuse the image of what a man really is. The leaders of our society still have the same cry as Pharaoh, “If it be a son, kill him.”

It is still understood today that if you want to take down a people, a race, a religion, you must disable their men. There is no better way to do this than to emasculate them.

If you are a man, dear reader, the rul­ers of the darkness of this world are out to take every bit of your manhood away from you. They mean for you to be a pawn in promoting their wicked warfare against God Almighty and His religion–true Christianity. That is why they try to get your wife to the workplace and tell you to stay home and clean the house. That is why they push feminine-styled clothing on you. That is why you are encouraged to live a homosexual or transgender lifestyle.

Men, rise up and be whom God has called you to be! Be like Daniel and his friends who refused to eat the king’s meat (Daniel 1:8-15). Don’t go along “with the flow.” Be like Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, who didn’t bow down to the music of the image (Daniel 3). Refuse to be cowed down by the agenda of the age. Be the leader in your home. Be a leader in spirituality. Be a leader in strength and courage. Be strong! Be a man!

Herod wanted to stop the prophecy of the Messiah from being fulfilled, by destroying baby boys. And now, with the Lord soon to return, and the prophecies of God’s glorious and final victory over wrong soon to be fulfilled, the rulers of the darkness of this world are fighting with all they have to keep them from being fulfilled. Just as Herod was un­able to kill the Messiah, so these present workers of spiritual wickedness in high places will also be unable to stop the ad­vancement and final victory of the saints of God in this battle for truth.

Men, revolt and declare your man­hood! The victory in this battle will be on God’s side. Be a man that God can use to accomplish His eternal purpose. [/s]

We need to stop training men that they have to be some false bullshit B-movie hero in order to be “real men”. Boys should be allowed to be themselves, to seek whatever destiny they want, just like girls should be. This is a classic example of how patriarchal culture harms men as well as women.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by solidmyk(m): 1:41pm On Dec 24, 2021
Tonnyray:
The Emasculation of Modern Men 5

The Emasculation of Men
PATRICIA BRAUN

Do you remember the Bible story about Moses in the bulrushes? Moses’ mother, to protect his life from Pharaoh’s deadly law, hides him in a basket on the river. Pharaoh’s daughter finds him, and, moved with pity, rescues him. Miriam saves the day by referring her own mother as a wonderful nurse for baby Moses, to which the princess readily agrees. Moses goes back home, his life now protected by royalty. What a lovely story! What is not so lovely is the reason why Moses was float­ing in the water, weeping in his little basket.

There was an attack on Moses’ manhood–on the man­hood of all Hebrew men, to be exact. Pharaoh was concerned that the He­brews were getting too strong. He feared that, as was prophesied to Abraham (Gen­esis 15:13-14), the Hebrews would soon make their exit out of Egypt, leaving the economy to suffer a great loss. Endeavor­ing to prevent such an exodus, Pharaoh commanded the midwives, when attending the Hebrew women, to kill their newborn boys (Exodus 1:16). Pharaoh understood that if he could stop the supply of strong men to the nation of Israel, he would then be able to keep the Hebrews under his hand forever.

Babylon understood this principle when it chose to focus on educating young, healthy, intelligent men during the captivity of the Jews in the days of Daniel the prophet. Herod waged war on man­hood as he killed all boys two years old and under, in an effort to kill the promised Messiah. The attack is still on. The war has not ceased, but rather increased. The tac­tics are still very much the same. Our baby boys are still being killed, although now before they are even born. Our young men are still being indoctrinated by pagan in­structors and stripped of any godly teach­ing they may have received as a child. And yet there is more.

In our time, we see a purposeful as­sault aimed at emasculating the men of the 21st century. Women’s Liberation has apparently “freed” the women, and has paralyzed the men and demot­ed them from their God-given place of authority in the home. The “American Dream” has forced our women to be “ca­reer women” in order to afford its require­ments. All sorts of evil has come from women no longer being at home. Home life is being destroyed. The babies that es­cape being aborted are hauled off to day­ care. Their future is laid in the hands of an ungodly system.

Young men are taught to dress in the latest fashions of form-fitting shirts and pants in such pretty pastel shades as lavender. And, after the 1960s, men have donned jewelry and grown their hair as long as women’s hair.

Our boys are taught in school that maybe they aren’t a boy after all. If they choose to believe they are a boy, they are told that it`s okay to fall in love with another boy and marry him. The media has pushed images of “pregnant men” into their minds to fur­ther confuse the image of what a man really is. The leaders of our society still have the same cry as Pharaoh, “If it be a son, kill him.”

It is still understood today that if you want to take down a people, a race, a religion, you must disable their men. There is no better way to do this than to emasculate them.

If you are a man, dear reader, the rul­ers of the darkness of this world are out to take every bit of your manhood away from you. They mean for you to be a pawn in promoting their wicked warfare against God Almighty and His religion–true Christianity. That is why they try to get your wife to the workplace and tell you to stay home and clean the house. That is why they push feminine-styled clothing on you. That is why you are encouraged to live a homosexual or transgender lifestyle.

Men, rise up and be whom God has called you to be! Be like Daniel and his friends who refused to eat the king’s meat (Daniel 1:8-15). Don’t go along “with the flow.” Be like Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, who didn’t bow down to the music of the image (Daniel 3). Refuse to be cowed down by the agenda of the age. Be the leader in your home. Be a leader in spirituality. Be a leader in strength and courage. Be strong! Be a man!

Herod wanted to stop the prophecy of the Messiah from being fulfilled, by destroying baby boys. And now, with the Lord soon to return, and the prophecies of God’s glorious and final victory over wrong soon to be fulfilled, the rulers of the darkness of this world are fighting with all they have to keep them from being fulfilled. Just as Herod was un­able to kill the Messiah, so these present workers of spiritual wickedness in high places will also be unable to stop the ad­vancement and final victory of the saints of God in this battle for truth.

Men, revolt and declare your man­hood! The victory in this battle will be on God’s side. Be a man that God can use to accomplish His eternal purpose.
Good read.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Tonnyray: 1:47pm On Dec 24, 2021
The Emasculation of Modern Men 6

The Emasculation of Men
by Chad Howse

There’s an epidemic going on amongst men. It’s a sickness, a deterioration of our masculinity, a destruction of our drive. The Emasculation of Men is real. It’s causes are debated, as are it’s characteristics. To avoid going down this road in our own lives, we need to recognize it in ourselves, in those around us, and have the courage to put a stop to it.

As we look back at our end of days, we’re going to see forks in the road. Sometimes we take the right path, partially because it’s easily recognized, other times we may take the wrong one, possibly because it’s the easier, lazier route. Today we’ll look at the causes of this mass emasculation, in order to find its cure.

A while back I went through a physical transformation. For me, that transformation was simply the alignment of my spirit – who I was internally – to my physical appearance. I felt awesome, ambitious, and strong internally, but scrawny and weak aesthetically. Packing on 40 pounds of muscle to my scrawny frame helped bridge that gap.

After that transformation I started this site to help guys bring their own gaps. To be Legendary. To be awesome. To sift through the slough of bullshit advice, and get to what works. As I’ve been blessed to help more and more accomplish this physical transformation, I’ve seen it’s true benefit.. As we grow stronger physically, we walk a little taller, with our head’s held higher. We give in to our ambitions, find focus and drive, and find more courage to face our fears. This physical transformation isn’t the final step; rather, it’s the spark that ignites a greater evolution towards becoming a better man. It’s the first domino we knock down on our way to becoming a better man in every sense.

Just as my physical transformation helped me stand taller, to act on my ambition, and to face my fears, my first real relationship showed me that I needed to be more assertive – and so my evolution continued…

I learned that I needed to take charge, even in areas I didn’t care all that much about – like choosing where we ate, or what wine we drank; the little things. Where I once confused masculinity with mere chivalry, I saw it in a deeper sense, and from the perspective of a woman.

With that relationship in my rearview long ago, my evolution still continues. Through reading and study, through starting my own business and growing it daily, through facing fears and pushing myself in new ways, I’ve grown more assertive, and in to a much stronger man – and I don’t mean physically. But my evolution is still in its infancy. Now, as I look back, had I not created that physical transformation, or gone through that first, eye-opening relationship, or started my own business and taken that risk, I may be on the wrong end of this article.

I’m lucky enough to have parents who raised me right, to be strong, to face my fears, and to have grit. I’m fortunate enough to have people in my life that steered me in the right direction, and to have deciphered the right path from the wrong one on my own, then have the courage to take that right path even though it may have been the harder, less popular road to take (most of the time). I can see in my own life the influences that could have led to my emasculation, and the ones that launched me in the opposite direction.

The Emasculation of Men
In every conversation I’ve had with women about what they want in a man, they always mention assertiveness. They want a man to take charge. They rarely say it, but they also want a man they can be proud of, one they can brag about to their lady friends. They want a man they feel safe with, and a man they admire. The common complaint amongst women is that this man is fleeting, non-existant, and a relic of the past.

Figuring out what women want in a man isn’t necessarily identifying what it means to be a man, but it helps; for the opposite of the masculine is the feminine. Like the yin and the yang, both forces need the other to coexist. What women of today long for, is a true masculine essence, an essence that is disappearing and unclear. It’s lines are being blurred. It’s disappearance, leaving women to have to pick up some of the slack and to fill the gap in their relationships.ernest hemingway boxing, brog

When we think about the masculine, or the alpha male, we think about the lion, the leader of the pride. The essence of a man, a real man, however, goes much deeper than mere social alpha-ism. The masculine essence is ambition, assertiveness, action, strength, and fortitude. It’s logical. The emotional nature of the feminine craves this. We’re different, which is why we confuse one another so damn much, but we’re opposing forces in a magnetic sense – we attract one another as such – which is exactly why we can learn a lot about what it means to be a man from looking at it as the opposing force to the feminine essence.

This masculine essence is in decline. Men of today are much less assertive, and far less ambitious than they once were. We’re lazier. Weaker. We see this weakness in the mass exodus of men leaving their families, bucking their responsibilities, and opting for the easier, more selfish route. We see it in middle-aged men whose realities are so intertwined with their online personality, that they have no life outside of the internet. They are their persona in War Craft or Call of Duty. Their actions are in a make believe world, leaving their activity in the real world almost non-existent.

We see this lack of ambition in the growing movement of people, not just men, wanting wealth and success without merit, hard work, or sacrifice. We see it in the lazy greed of the occupy movement who, although may have began with good intentions, didn’t remain so altruistic.

How to Be a Man

With this emasculation of the masses also comes the desire of many to change it. The rise of TV shows, magazines, and web sites geared towards – at the very least – identifying what it means to be a man, is encouraging. As we look at the causes of the emasculation, in an effort to find the solution in this article, it’s important to identify that most young men don’t know what it means to be a man.

How then, can a boy become a man if he doesn’t know what a man truly is? With the exodus of fathers from their families, and the lack of real men who become dad’s, comes yet another generation with no real comprehension of what manhood really means.

Manliness is something we’ve covered a fair bit on this site form many different viewpoints and perspectives (How to Be a Warrior, How to Be an Alpha Male), but at the core of manliness and the masculine essence is that word assertiveness. Ambition is a very masculine trait. As is pride, stubbornness, and the desire to protect those around us. The desire to provide for and defend who and what we hold close to our hearts.

Let this paragraph, and the one previous, serve as the baseline for the manliness persona.

With that said, what are those social, technological, even environmental forces that are ripping the real men from our society, and replacing them with impotent (literally and not) cowards and wimps?

Is the Rise of Women?
Much is made about the rise of women in the work place as the source of the emasculation of men in society. Bullshit. Where there is credence to this notion, is in men feeling emasculated because a women is doing a better job than they are in the work place, or making more money than them in their own home. Those insecurities, however, are the man’s problem, and he must find the solution.

Regardless of the pay grade between a couple, the man still needs to be the man. He still needs to take charge and to lead, if he doesn’t, he fails to give his lady the masculine form she desires. By not giving her the man she needs, she’ll resent him, push him, test him, fight him, and if he fails to stand strong, he’ll break.

If you’ve met a “broken man”, it’s just about the most emasculating thing you can see. It’s depressing. He’s lost his drive, his fortitude and his power. He sleeps in, gives in, and gives up. He’s lost his fight.

A strong man can’t be emasculated by a strong woman, they should complement each other, aid each other in life, and in their growth, development, and evolution. The problem, then, isn’t that with the rise of women comes the destruction of men. It’s that we’re not raising and creating strong enough men in the first place.

This goes back to education – both in our schools, sports, and socially – and the role models young men look up to which influence the men they would like to be.

Are Porn & Technology the Cause of Emasculation?
The internet is a wonderful technological advancement, but like all developments in technology, there is also a downside to this great bridging of the social gap. As Emerson said…

The civilized man has built a coach, but has lost the use of his feet. He is supported on crutches, but lacks so much support of muscle.

I’ve always been told that you can tell a lot about a man by how he treats the women around him. Does he love them and respect them? Is he faithful to his lady, or is he a LovePeddler who knows nothing about the meaning of commitment and what it means to be a loyal, faithful man?

One of the downsides of the internet is the ease of access to porn. A generation has grown up with porn readily available on the other side of a screen. They learn about sex and women from the brutal and disgusting world of online porn. The shit that goes on in porn is un-fucking believable. The utter lack of respect for women and the way they have sex, show young men that women are nothing but an object; a tool to get them off.

As a result, young men – not all of them mind you – don’t develop real relationships with women. They have “numbers”, not human beings they’ve been with. They look at new women they meet as someone they could bang, not as a person they could cultivate a relationship with. Sex is more like masturbation than it is the beautiful act between two people that it can and should be.

What’s more is that studies show that the more porn we watch, the less of the real thing we want.

So not only is porn emasculating young men by altering the way they look at and treat women, but it’s creating impotent men who’d rather jerk off in front of a computer screen than bed a sexy, beautiful woman. And then there’s technology…

Much of our advances in the realm of technology make life easier. We no longer have to push a lawn mower, we can now sit while cutting the grass. We no longer have to get up and change the channels on the TV, we can do it from our couch with a remote. Advances in technology are great, but when they contribute to our laziness, we have to be careful.

With the increasing ease of life, comes the quelling of drive and ambition.

Just like it’s harder for a rich kid, who’s given everything he needs in life, to appreciate the value of a dollar and to have a great work ethic, it’s tougher for us to fight our laziness when tools that promote laziness are everywhere in our lives. A lazy man isn’t a man. Anything that contributes to his laziness is pulling him further away from his masculine self.

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Are We Failing to Teach Boys to Become Men?
Competition is a good thing, as is failure. Both teach us about discipline. They shows us how to evolve, to learn from failure, and they helps us grow. As we protect our sons from failure, we rip from them the ability to see its beauty.

[b]We weaken our young men when we confine them to safety, when we teach them to set realistic goals, and laugh when they have to audacity to set massive ones. We don’t want our sons and students to fail, because it’s painful. So we reward participation. We reward mediocrity. We should be rewarding those who are courageous enough to extend themselves beyond what they currently have the ability to accomplish. [/b]That’s growth. We shouldn’t make failure out to be the end of something, but a new beginning, a birth.
If we taught our young boys to try to fail, to push themselves, to dream big, work hard, and try to win, we’d instill in them the characteristics that this generation lacks: ambition, assertiveness, action over thought, hard work over laziness. However, so long as we try to spare feelings and protect our young lads from failure, we’re going to have weak men that buck responsibilities. We’re going to have scared men who stand for nothing, and fight for even less.
Ease is the goal, but also the road to that goal that many of us aspire to create in today’s society. You can see the beginnings of a movement back towards the assertive, the hard working, and the ambitious, but we’re still a very passive, weak, an “everything is okay” society. If we infuse some grit back in to our youth, even by asking more and expecting more from them, we’d be better off than we are now.

The Rise of the Emotional, Effeminate Male
Ask a man and a woman who’ve just been in a nasty fight, what they were fighting about, and they’ve give you two different stories. The man will note the physical cause of the fight – him not taking out the garbage on time – and the woman will mention the emotional root of the problem – his lack of respect for her feelings.

Men and women are different. We think differently, we argue differently, we feel differently. To understand that feminine essence is important, it’s a must if we’re going to build strong, fulfilling relationships, but that’s different than the call for more men to “get in tough with their feminine side”.

MEN AREN’T WOMEN. Stop trying to turn us in to them. We can understand the feminine, but we don’t have to become it.

Understanding is good. Getting in touch with can be a bad thing. When we ask men to be more emotional, rather than to understand their emotions or those of their lady, we take him away from his masculinity. We create the emasculated male that we want to get rid of.

Are women the cause? Partially. But so are men. A lack of understanding the differences between men and women is the root of the problem. A lack of the appreciation of our differences is as well.

Ladies, love your man’s assertiveness, his logical way of thinking, his ambition and desire to make a better life for you. Men, love your lady’s emotional nature. Understand that her emotional intelligence is far greater than your own. Don’t try and beat her at her own game, simply try and understand how this intelligence comes to fruition, how it influences her reactions to certain situations.

We see it in fashion, in the household, and in the dynamics of our relationships: women playing “doll” with their man. They dress him, try and change who he is, then cry at the mess they’ve created. But this isn’t simply the woman’s fault! My goodness men! If we’re so weak that our masculinity can be taken from us in the way we think, act, dress, and feel, then we weren’t very strong men to begin with!

The “metrosexual” male has become popular, even desirable. The man in touch with his feminine side is nice, at first, but what happens when he’s crying more than you? We need to be careful when we blur the lines between the masculine and the feminine. They are different. Appreciate and love this uniqueness of the sexes, don’t try to combine them, you end up with an emotional wreck akin to Dr. Frankenstein’s monster.


Within the Cause, is the Solution
There isn’t one cause for the emasculation of men in society, but many. We’re no longer taught values that stand as an anchor for when things in our lives go awry – as they always do – leading to men who quit, run, cry, and whine. Our education system failing to teach our young men to compete, to set big goals, and to appreciate the gift that failure can be. Technology and porn create soulless men who see women as objects, and lazy men who’d rather play video games than play with their kids.

The emasculation of men doesn’t happen suddenly, but over a lifetime. If a boy grows up without healthy role models in his own home, he misses out on the archetype of what a good person, and a real man is. He doesn’t have a reference point – whether it’s taught by his father or his mother, he needs to be taught.

As he enters the school system, if he’s taught that no matter what he does, he’ll do well, he’ll have no incentive to do anything great. He’ll have no reason to try anything new, to push himself to fail, and to extend himself in his life and in his work. If he’s rewarded regardless, why try?

As he enters the work force, he aspires to get a job where he has to give the least amount of effort for the maximal amount of pay. His ambition is non-existent. He looks to the wealthy and wants what they have, he resents them, but wouldn’t dare put the work in and take on the risk that would be involved with elevating his status.

When he gets married, his wife tries to change how he looks and how he feels. And she succeeds because he lets her. He’s so far lost from his masculine essence, that doesn’t know who he is, let alone teach his son how to be a man, or his daughter how to be a woman.

Thus, the cycle is set. The emasculation is perpetuated and passed down to the next generation, and we’re all bleeped as a result.

Men, we start with ourselves.

Take a step back and look at our own emasculation – no matter how small, it’s there. Identify how, in our own lives, we’ve drifted from our masculine Self. Understand how we can be more assertive in our relationships, and in our work place. Get in touch with what we really want in life. Identify the object of our ambition – that thing we’d do anything to accomplish, even work days and nights trying to bring this ideal to fruition. Then work. Work relentlessly, and with an unmatched passion and persistence.

As we become stronger, more ambitious, more assertive men, we will be those archetypes that the coming generations will learn from. We’ll give them values to stand upon when life inevitably hits a rough patch. We will show them that a real man stands firm and FIGHTS! He faces his demons. He is a warrior at his core and in his heart. He isn’t a coward, a worrier.

He becomes a warrior habitually, over time, as he fights his daily battles. Being a man isn’t a moment in time, it isn’t something we do once, but who we are everyday. Let us make that change first. And let others follow in our footsteps.

“Be brave, my heart. Plant your feet and square your shoulders to the enemy. Meet him among the man-killing spears. Hold your ground. In victory, do not brag; in defeat, do not weep.” ~ Archilochus

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Nobody: 1:55pm On Dec 24, 2021
Meedon:



Getat... who said that all girls are hoe?
Go through this thread, it's not hard to find

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Nobody: 2:15pm On Dec 24, 2021
If she's not a virgin, forget it, someone is ramming her pussy for nothing constantly, while you hope and pray and crush to have the leftover of another man semen deposit, always remember this anytime you start catching feelings, this way of thinking will make you wise,that repulsion should be your guide so you will not make mistake and accept damaged properties all because of konji,highest you will lust for her good body but you will never be stupid to waste your resources to commit to thrash, once you sense she's not interested in you, you move on to another easily without any emotional investment how much more material investment, prioritize sex above relationship, most women are not worth it

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by DieRich5: 2:58pm On Dec 24, 2021
CaveAdullam:
Better to be an introvert developing your life than being an extrovert wasting time over women that their values aren't worth more than your monthly subscription fee.

Stay grinding and kick out nonsense women from your domain.

Random sh!t.
random shit, dope shit cool

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by DieRich5: 3:24pm On Dec 24, 2021
TRP1:
Now the function of pill


I would have dated this girl back then if not that I’m more focused with my life and she’ll have drain me even though I’ll still be financially Ohkay but one thing is that I’ll be pained if I wanna move on because she never contributed any value to my life but the reason I’m not pained right now is because I did same help to everyone and not only her )
Another thing is that as I Dey upgrade my phone I’ll be upgrading hers also and that’s what a lot of guys do
Why upgrading her lifestyle when you’re not the cause of her misfortune

Another thing in this life is Be a person of VALUE
Update your life with infos so you can be valuable to people
The moment people s notice value (especially the uncommon one ) in you no matter your character they’ll start clinging to you it’s now left to you to just trash all of them or use them for any choice of yours
#fact
In business most people re broke cus Dem didn't update dere value so people will be seeing Dem as the person who doesn't really have dat business spirit or idea
In relationship know ur worth ND value ND people won't try shit to U

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by DieRich5: 3:33pm On Dec 24, 2021
CaveAdullam:


You can't shame the shameless(Skepticus, calibrator 2021).

My man, most of us here share same story with you, hence, we are able to resonate whenever we read such.

I would have mentioned you another thread, but like the quote above, ain't ashamed when it comes to upliftment. I got a couple of plans for fams here in year 2022 but only for those that are ready.

Please, I want you to reconsider your stance of not helping people, here, ain't asking for help as you've done so without being coerced but relate with us on your line of business and how we can start from the bottom with the little we've got.

Is it a skill? We'll learn it? Is it crypto? We'll start small? Is it freelancing? We'll start registering.
It's good we start redpilling our finances come 2022.

Mention me in another thread for further details so as not to derail this one if are willing, if not, thanks for your story and contributions to the thread.

God bless.
pls TRP1 I'll also love to know the business ND how I can go about it.

Learning valuable things is really great

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by MJBOLT: 3:46pm On Dec 24, 2021
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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Tonnyray: 3:52pm On Dec 24, 2021
MJBOLT:
grin grin grin
Grossly moronic comment by that dolt.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by PrinxArthur1(m): 3:54pm On Dec 24, 2021
MJBOLT:
grin grin grin
hahahaha

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by posty56: 3:55pm On Dec 24, 2021
Regex:


Have you noticed how boys/men take pictures nowadays? Pouting their mouth, moving their face, head and body in a childish yet irritating way but somehow they managed to convince themselves that it is cute. Does that irritate you too? I can not be the only one who finds it irritating, even when women do it.
the one small, the recent one I watch is one boy (yes he's handsome), go dress well grin, come they move in front of girls or women with their man, just to see which of the girls the eye am grin grin I swear I see sh*t or tik Tok everyday, all this for the clout and women attention, to what end ?

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by larryking540: 3:58pm On Dec 24, 2021
Men who hit the gym 5 times a week hardly have time to smile on TikTok or Instagram ,today men are week fellows moving around with money or cash in their pockets but lack the proper frame of mind......show me a military man or woman who smiles around on TikTok like their life's depends on it ...


that's why most men today find it hard to tell our ladies what's wrong or what's right ,they just smile sheeply,with the mind set of I don't want to offend her ,,,,bro make her angry open rebuke is better than a secret false love

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by larryking540: 4:01pm On Dec 24, 2021
a man that operate more that one social media accounts/app without any business purposes attach, seeks only validation from strangers,and he is doom to be stagnant in his frame ,and I wonder what knowledge he will pass to his unborn kids

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Tonnyray: 4:06pm On Dec 24, 2021
larryking540:
a man that operate more that one social media accounts/app without any business purposes attach, seeks only validation from strangers,and he is doom to be stagnant in his frame ,and I wonder what he knowledge he will pass to his unborn kids
GOD bless you. This is my take exactly.
Only WhatsApp remains on my phones and even that is potentially distracting enough.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by DieRich5: 4:06pm On Dec 24, 2021
heartofcity12:


So true. Movie just like its predecessors is a whole representation of how the world works. Neo and Trinity were also stuck in the bluepill world for a long time until they took the redpill and accepted the harsh reality for what it truly is.
the issue about dis movie is dat......Dem mk Trinity powerful than neo who's the one ND I almost cry when neo can't fly angry

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Fiscus105(m): 4:07pm On Dec 24, 2021
CaveAdullam:


When I say women are for fun and fvcks these guys always push me to the guillotine, they want my neck slice. Never take these women serious, don't waste your time and resources on them. Take them as they present themselves as they are not ready for whatever is meaningful.

May God help men not to do relationship in 2022 and beyond except a hurricane kind of change comes to stabilized the nonsense current intersexual dynamics.

Even during fun and fvcks, avoid the damaged ones, never look at them, don't go close to them, run for your dear life. Better to die in solitude than spend years with a toxic women.

Thanks.


What about men who don't even knw how many gfs and concubines they have? what about guys that will be toasting another lady even In the present of his girlfriend? Let hear ur view on that sir.

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by larryking540: 4:13pm On Dec 24, 2021
Tonnyray:
GOD bless you. This is my take exactly.
Only WhatsApp remains on my phones and even that is potentially distracting enough.

a lot of Africa guys have a lot to learn I swear bro ,,,,even our ladies are not yet awoken like the western ladies ,but it's best we tame it to the minimum ,in the west ,ladies are heading towards lesbianism right now because guys have become aware of their tactics and manipulative behavior.. expensive dates is a no no for guys these day... because is it worth it after dinning on your money for 3 days it ends up in no or I will think about it ,who no like you ,even if you give am the whole world ,u are just wasting your time ,

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by larryking540: 4:16pm On Dec 24, 2021
Fiscus105:



What about men who don't even knw how many gfs and concubines they have? what about guys that will be toasting another lady even In the present of his girlfriend? Let hear ur view on that sir.

for a man to be a red Piller ,I will still stand advocate if she passs all the test of the relationship ,she is good to go ,

REWARD GOOD BEHAVIOR ,that's my next year motor for my relationship ..,she flops give her back her dosage .,

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by DieRich5: 4:21pm On Dec 24, 2021
richkal:


I give kudos to those who have TiK ToK on phone. I don't see something worth my time on that app.
I downloaded it on my phone cus of the hype ND just 30mins in the app I lost 300mb in it.... delete d app

Tik Tok is the new way for young girls doing crazy things ND boys acting like a gay..........na just low budget blue film industry

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Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Winnerly: 4:28pm On Dec 24, 2021
larryking540:


for a man to be a red Piller ,I will still stand advocate if she passs all the test of the relationship ,she is good to go ,

REWARD GOOD BEHAVIOR ,that's my next year motor for my relationship ..,she flops give her back her dosage .,

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