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Holywizard:
so painful. Don't blame the new guy. This is a free world, it was left for his ex to decide and she made the wrong decision.

She made the right decision ooo.. Ashawo must pick client over anybody. Business first.

Op sounds like a gentle guy, she wants to keep him for marriage. That’s the reason for all the charade, show of love, care , been homely. It’s for his family to like her.

If I tell my own ehn...

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

You dodged a bullet bro. Thank God for that. The cheating in marriage could have been worse if you never found out SMH. Take your time and do your research this time on any lady, you want to have a relationship with in the future.

Didi2d:
Bros I no go loe, this event wey you narrate now touch me. I felt for you and I felt for the girl too.
Sweet relationship wey dey go well, girls sha you can't just satisfy them. Give her another chance, na so all of dem be

wat pains me the most is not the relationship way end after one year or 2 years or 3 years ,it's the expectations attached and the time and money wasted ,I tell guys better make a deal with her ,any thing involving cheating,it's a good by either cheating from your side or my side ,so if you want to cheat pray I don't get to know ,that's the perfect deal for today's relationship

True talk. Close your eyes to her past and make her the kind of wife you want of her!

slimjohn2k5:
You would HV listened to her side of the story.

Then process it for sometime before letting her go

ibechris:
U were actually dating a professional hard core prostitute.

God just saved u.

Lol the guy doesn't know but do you blame him? Most of them have mastered professional 'good girl' pretense.

apostle96:
If I tell my own ehn...

make we hear.

You just dodged a bullet. The shameless audacity. Hahahaha, just imagined how she froze when her prayer of op not looking back went unanswered.

Didi2d:
Bros I no go loe, this event wey you narrate now touch me. I felt for you and I felt for the girl too.
Sweet relationship wey dey go well, girls sha you can't just satisfy them. Give her another chance, na so all of dem be

Another what ?

Holywizard:
Should I tell u what happened?
The guy was direct with ur ex. He quoted an amount of money for sex and ur ex couldn't hold herself. She might probably be into coded hookup as well. I know few working class ladies doing such.
I once had quickie, with another person's girlfriend at a hotel where I lodged few years ago. She was lodged with her so called man at the same hotel. We met at the hotel bar and our body chemistry matched. I was in my room when she chatted me up that I should open my door that she was coming. Na so we take run quickie and her man didn't know.
The truth is that ladies are always having one nonsense imaginary crushes on new faces most especially if they think that he has money or also good looking

Wow, that is really bad to hear.

Eastcoastboy:
Respect? So she should have declined for that day or reschedule the job? Like fr! God just saved that guy from marrying a LovePeddler!

Every woman have a price! Including Aisha Buhari your President's wife!


Life is mysterious, women are learners when compared to men when it comes to being bad.


The only difference is that women endure and overlook our badness more than we ignore theirs. If ladies open up on what they have passed through in the hands of guys, people will weep blood.



Stop demonizing Nigerian women, she didn't kill anybody, sexual feeling is a natural phenomenon, anybody can fall victim.



White women do things like this more than African women yet their men don't demonize them cos of it.



If you are a guy and fall victim to something like this, just accept it as part of life lessons and move on and learn from it. Live and enjoy life cautiously, life is too short!

candygist:
Nairaland had really thought me a lot about Nigerian ladies. Thanks to Nairaland, I know how to treat Nigeria ladies. When I read this things on Nairaland and I compare it with real life situation on how this ladies behaved I can never be a victim….. I dey hustle to marry white woman and raise family with them. Nigeria women will kill you before your time. I even prefer to date girls from other African countries than to be with a Nigerian lady. God forbid evil

To marry self dey fear me. With all I'm seeing online? Omo e be things.

Kriss216:
That's embezzlement. OP should be prosecuted

The story be like fabble.

How can a lady who has gone that deep into him switch up in minutes of meeting a stranger.

The story no add up...

mich2012:
Lol the guy doesn't know but do you blame him? Most of them have mastered professional 'good girl' presence.

she no add smartness join the "good girl".

Habib101:
Naija women chai, sometimes this scares me to completely fall in love with Nigerian and even go ahead and marry don't know Sha, but please I have a question to you folks out of 100 how many percentage of loyal good girls do we have in Nigeria.

0%

Justkatty:
I swear it is painful considering the fact they've been together for sometime...
But some girls dey get mind shaa including the human being that saw her with someone and still went ahead inviting her.

It’s actually fun fvcking another guy’s girlfriend…it gives a special kind of feeling.

hotwax:
it obvious she was dramatizing..she was not menstruating.

That knowledge got me angry too

Be arguing.. Ur babe is into hook up.... Be forming know all u hear

Mehn e shock me. Some ladies na was. Hmmm

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

If you know she's so good why don't you forgive her for just wanting to "have a fling?" You still the madt! You never see nothing.

DanteSilva:
I just told myself that if my relationship ends, I am going for a white lady, a lot of Nigerian girls are morally debased... if you think I'm lying travel to Europe or other African countries and see the high quality and standards of their women

Not true. Talking down on women of your kind does not elevate your status. A white lady doing same would likely not feel remorse or come back to beg.
You can break up and date whatever lady you desire.

hotwax:
I base in Lagos...

Why do you guys say this? What kain of nonsense English is this?

hotwax:
it obvious she was dramatizing..she was not menstruating.

That knowledge got me angry too

she was not into any flow , it was a strategy to get away ,even prevented him from seeing her off,there is no girl that will want to walk alone t the outside of a hotel , because it's a rt lonely walkway

Munzy14:

The story be like fabble.

How can a lady who has gone that deep into him switch up in minutes of meeting a stranger.

The story no add up...

Bro, I believe the OP 100%.

The girlfriend is a Nigerian girl... I've seen them do worse. You suppose know as e dey go for Bongo city.

Some bitch ran me a similar format some years ago,
I Painstakingly had to cut all ties with her till date and NOTHING CAN REVERSE THAT DECISION!

.... Though, she's now married with kids, she WON'T stop bugging me for a SEXCAPADE, but unfortunately for her, I DON'T GO BACK TO MY VOMIT!

Ibadan girls, they can cook, clean, wash and wash motor join sef. Your friends, family, colleagues, neighbors would like them so much and want u to settle with them, that's the way they are. Trust me I'm talking from first hand experience. BUT they hardly date a guy, especially when you're not living in Ibadan. They have gimmicks to badt.

That your girl played a fast one on you. That's how they are, always thinking theyre very smart and could get away with anything, not knowing that Lagos guys and 'instinct' be like 5 n 6. You wouldn't even know what and why u had to go out, but what the spirit wants u to see would just be there waiting for u, still talking from experience.

I said "she played a fast one on u" cos her period did not come at all! She just used that as an alibi for u to let her bounce so she could do whatever she wanted to do, thinking she's smart but actually a very foolish thing to do.

Be thankful bro, u just dodged a bullet. Though very painful, but worth it.

Lastly, if u trust Ibadan girls you're on your own. Them and infidelity be like rice and stew. Them no dey stay one place and they are so good at putting up this "wife material" kinda act. I don talk too much sef make I Waka

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

. What do you want us to say now? God reveals that she is not your wife.Rejoice and be happy for the discovery..

I'll dash 5k to anyone who can rightly guess where the girl slept that night.

jedisco:
Not true. Talking down on women of your kind does not elevate your status. A white lady doing same would likely not feel remorse or come back to beg.
You can break up and date whatever lady you desire.

this guy never meet other ladies that's y they are crying for foreigners, their own worst o,my advocate for Nigeria men is say no to court marriage,do traditional marriage,if u cheat on my make ground swallow u if I cheat on you let same happen to me ,but saying other african ladies are different ,this guy is dreaming , those one fuvk for fun while Nigeria ladies fuvk for money,so the choice is yours to make

Bro I really felt your pain. Tear on my eyes . Women folks are fucking wicked. Thank God Sha you won

Holywizard:
oga she is into hookup, believe it or not!!!
If actually she wanted to have a one night stand just for the experience, she would have just exchanged contacts with the guy, book an appointment with him for next time. Believe me, the guy called a huge amount of money she couldn't let go of.
I know some big guys that would ask another person's girlfriends how much it would cost them to sleep with them if the ladies are proving stubborn

You can say that again bro! Na money dey make our women quickly lose sense like that not one one night stand rubbish!

Munzy14:

The story be like fabble.

How can a lady who has gone that deep into him switch up in minutes of meeting a stranger.

The story no add up...

That's because the new guy was upfront with her. He directly demanded sex for certain amount and because of desperation for some money, she was overwhelmed. I mean, I try such with women. The highest thing you can get is a yes or no. And good enough, 80 out of 100 girls would agree. 10 will blush at your boldness. 5 will ignore you, while only 5 will rebuke you with violence.

oglalasioux:
I'll dash 5k to anyone who can rightly guess where the girl slept that night.

next door ,but only one round , because she felt bad