Baby mama or Wife, as long as you relate with women, you must face these troubles...
Yes! They are that dramatic.

Ekejoestar:


With all these Epistles am reading here about what men are facing in marriages, is it not better that I go the baby Mama way and save myself the stress

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Oga get a serious side chic and thank me later. It makes you immune to all the negative vibes from your wife.

skj1377:
A married prostitute is a woman on vacation. Your wife is one of the lowest of the low. A bad woman can't give you a good marital experience. It's not about money

The woman is fuxkking on top the guy self, very sad situation.

Ladies of nowadays are raised to believe that they can eat their cakes and still have them...

BigDawsNet:
Whats going with our ladies dis days...

I wish all dis can stop

Because young single men one day will all decide not to consider marriage anymore...

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you. Love never fails.

Nigerian ladies?

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg

Its not about being emotional but correcting your stupid talk and mentality.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg

Same question I wanted to ask oh. Men are now the ones bringing there relationship on social media. If a woman brings her relationship on social media these set of men will condemn it.

We shouldn't be paranoid about this issue, only one side of the story was being told. Nonetheless, marriage is a school you will continue to learn every single day.

AGurlnoname:


Abegi, you men on Nairaland always come online to say whatever you like about women. I know things like this happens, the best he can do is to pray and with faith and hardwork he will surely overcome. My problem here is you men have more to say about "women" but forget the roles y'all play in some women life's too.

You are a lowly human being. That's obviously discernible from your first comment. It seems that you haven't been hit by an unforeseen circumstance that would put you in a very difficult situation or haven't been a victim of fate. Some things in life happen beyond our control. Don't come here and spew garbage if you know not what to say. Mumu blockhead.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg

Ambassador of women affairs... Continue

Ekejoestar:


With all these Epistles am reading here about what men are facing in marriages, is it not better that I go the baby Mama way and save myself the stress

I have similar experience like the op.

I will not advise my son to marry.

This generation ladies are worthless

lied:
Wicked Lazy man
You better hustle and stop starving the innocent woman and the little child.

Nonsense.

Entitled broke bítch, have you earned ₦200k in you life?

Be strong brother, a woman that abandoned her baby will do any nasty thing at any slight provocation, so it's not about being jobless or being poor. Just be strong and take good care of your baby.

WOMEN are INCAPABLE of Love.
They are intrinsically selfish.
Marry them at your peril

Rtk5:
The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image.

Sorry to say but you're saying trash here and you're not ready for peace of mind...

Rtk5:
sir, it baffles me how some people reason, honstly if i type all my experience with this woman you will think it is fiction. A woman that when i lost my job and there was no money for diapers her sister advised her to steal my phonr and go sell it. Thank God i found it under the bed. I saw the chat with her sister on that.

What role did she play to help stabilize the family income while you were between jobs?.

AGurlnoname:


Na you go taya, lol

Someone said you dont have sense and you agreed by telling him "na him go taya. Lol" ..you could have just proven to him that you have sense and say something sensible but No, you settled for his description about you...that's bad dear

Lashist:

Someone said you dont have sense and you agreed by telling him "na him go taya. Lol" ..you could have just proven to him that you have sense and say something sensible but No, you settled for his description about you...that's bad dear

Lol, he can say whatever he thinks of me. I know who I am, no need to prove myself to a nonentity, he doesn't worth it

AGurlnoname:


Lol, he can say whatever he thinks of me. I know who I am, no need to prove myself to a nonentity, he doesn't worth it

Though from your first comment, you showed you acted like a nonentity ...you need to prove to him that you arent a nonentity to people around you. You could have explained your first comment if you thought it made sense dear

Czario:


Yeah bro...
The reason is I believe I was too optimistic and maybe had some expectations that weren't realistic enough about marriage.. the person I married isn't necessarily a good or bad person

I'm disappointed, yes.
But mostly in myself... because I felt marriage would bring me into my El Dorado..but the reality isn't so.

Hmmm,i guess nollywood is different from real life

Baruwaaaaa:
We shouldn't be paranoid about this issue, only one side of the story was being told. Nonetheless, marriage is a school you will continue to learn every single day.

Some people die in the school, peace of mind is important

Lashist:

Though from your first comment, you showed you acted like a nonentity ...you need to prove to him that you arent a nonentity to people around you. You could have explained your first comment if you thought it made sense dear

Mr La-shit as long as few people understood what I said, no need to explain anything.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg

no sense in what u typed here madam

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you. Love never fails.

I laff in Chinese...

Ladies don't love anyone, I repeat, ladies don't love anyone.. their love is all about money

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg

He started saying the bad things about women, wen he started experiencing what he just narrated.... Many times, here thing are said according to people's experiences

AGurlnoname:


Mr La-shit as long as few people understood what I said, no need to explain anything.

Lmao...all you said was totally rubbish and you know that and that's why instead of defending your rubbish you said its bcus men talk too bad of women...nobody dey stop you of creating threads to say what a bad guy has done to you but when one drops his problem about a woman, instead of you to defend the lady's action, you opt to say rubbish bcus her action isnt really defendable or you just hate men on this platform/in your life

Rtk5:
My brother, you're right on point, the parent are even over struggling. Do you know anytime she packs and go to her parent's place if i don't go to beg them amd her to come back, she would forever remain there?

Imagine...stop the begging. Let her remain there

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.


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My dear, even a millionaire can get broke. Do forget about marrying only when you have money. Marry a person with contentment and knowledge that life can have ups and downs. Yes it's hard when you are broke with kids to care for but she should know that both of you make the marriage rich or poor. Not you alone .

Stop making her think her actions can be swept under the rug. If she pack, and you can afford to care for your baby without her, then let her go and don't let her return home again until she brings her people to beg you. That's if you still want her back.

Judybash93:

I'm sorry o, but do you know his religion, do you know if he even abides by the content of what you're prescribing? Moreover, why should anyone care about what any scripture says?

Like I said, he was the one that chose her, so what's the fu¢k

Let him carry his cross Biko, a child has involved

AGurlnoname:


Hey!!!! Be careful what you wish on me. Don't make your life more miserable, be careful.

You need to experience it so you don't get to label other people's written experiences as shit, as your new year gift, this will happen to you this coming new year.

Rtk5:
My brother, you're right on point, the parent are even over struggling. Do you know anytime she packs and go to her parent's place if i don't go to beg them amd her to come back, she would forever remain there?

most times the problem we men have along the road of marriage is how we started initially to treat and handle some issues,a man is ordained by God to be the head of the family but when you abdicate your powers to fetch bathing water for your fiancee (as I read in another post) then you are setting a precedent that will be difficult to control at the long run,what causes her to pack her bags and run to her parents house?is it a fight or just minor disagreements,if it is just verbal disagreements and she will run away then she will be prepared to stay with his parents because I will never beg her,but if you beat her up pls retrace your steps,stand firm and be the man of the house,be firm but fair, having money is not a guarantee that your wife will not insult and ridicule you if you don't act like a man,women will always be complex for men to fully understand,I remembered the only time my wife packed her bags to her parents house,I didn't even notice she was gone until one week she came back on her own but I have to sanction her with a fine of one cock,5 yams and one bottle of hot drink before she will be wife again.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.


Lmao.... Nairaland men are so emotional , see quotes abeg

Hope this is what you will tell your son if he was the one passing through this?

If no, then with all due respect, you're very very stupid.