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Jay5mie:





Thank God for nairaland o, woman no fit use my head again.

Everyday new wahala

But guys, stop taking women seriously, they are not worth it.

Same applies to guys too…stop taking guys serious too

You're very correct! Even in the Bible God instructed men to love their women but God knows to say the same thing to women as well instead he said women should be submissive to their men so, if woman says she love you my brother be very careful

Daxyd4realzy:
Every guys out there should know this and have peace! Ladies don't have the capacity to love! Stop believing or reasoning that a lady loves you.... No, they don't! OP loved the lady but she did not and that was why it was very easy for her to switch bed in minutes! Shame and disgusting!

No peace to Simps

Hmmmm….I know what she did was wrong…but gbogbo wa lama je breakfast lol

Estherqueen50:
.. if someone can comfortably cheat God with you. Who told you they can't cheat on you with another.
..

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You balanced the whole equation with your statement.
I guess na olosho everyone go end up with

hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

... This one never learn finish

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

This is so disgusting and irritating to read. She could not even wait a day or 2 before hooking up with the new guy she wants to join him immediately mehn this is shocking and scary I swear. Man must have promised her something irresistible to her.

What a lady in question did, most women can do the same because women don't know what they want........ That's their nature. For a man; find a lady you can love no matter what, that's the reason the Bible says he who finds a wife has find a good thing and obtained favor from the lord.

franchasng:
No matter what you and me do, or how we scream or condemn things like this, the world can never be decent and organized like we want or wish. The world has always had good and bad people since the time of Jesus Christ. Didnt you read about the prostitute in the Bible? Yet she ended up as Jesus Christ friend.



Some of the ladies you judge as bad may end up in heaven at last while you end in hell lol.


Let them be.



We need good and bad people to balance the world sexually lol


The most important thing is whenever anybody is engaging in any escapades, please protect yourself for your own good so you can stay alive to enjoy more of this life.



There is nothing that will stop the world from having people with sexual promiscuity, most are like that naturally and.maybe struggling to stop so don't over judge them.


My point is, we Nigerian men should desist from demonizing Nigerian women over sexual escapades, because we Nigerian men are badder than them yet they forgive, overlook and accept us.



If your girlfriend cheat on you and you are lucky to catch her, no need making it a big deal, break up if you cant bear it and move on. Dont demonize her cos she cheated, cheating alone does not make a lady a demon even though its bad especially in marriage, but during dating and courtship, no guy have a legal possession of his girlfriend until he pays her dowry so dont blame her entirely, she maybe trying not to put all her eggs in one basket

She is trying not to put all her eggs in one basket by going into the hotel room with another man inside the same hotel that her boyfriend was too??are you even listening to yourself at all??lol....I do not want to believe any sane guy will say this...is either you are a lady hiding behind the "m" gender on your profile or you are just a simp that have lost his sense of reasoning...I repeat what the lady did,she deserves to be demonized...if it was a guy that did the same thing he should demonized too....

Why will you want to f*uck someone else inside the same hotel your boyfriend lodged and at the same day ..who does that??she is just a an experienced olosho..no need for long story...

hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

If u think so then u should forgive her and stay with her then cos probably your next girl been decent and faithful or not one guy will still bang her.

doyin01:
She us trying not to put all her eggs in one basket by go into the hotel room with another man inside the same hotel that her boyfriend was too??are you even listening to yourself at all??l

She could be broke and got a mouthwatering offer you know lol



That's why you guys should be giving your girlfriends enough money even when she didnt ask to avoid stories that touch. Money can make man or woman do and undo lol.



Sometimes those sneaky moments can be exciting too, and it could be her first, life happens bro, enjoy life its very short, lol

Nigerian ladies don't worth it, I'll always say it again.

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

Your now a man

Your ex is materistic..and she might be posibly be into coded hookup.fear naija girls!!

franchasng:
She could be broke and got a mouthwatering offer you know lol



That's why you guys should be giving your girlfriends enough money even when she didnt ask to avoid stories that touch. Money can make man or woman do and undo lol.



Sometimes those sneaky moments can be exciting too, and it could be her first, life happens bro, enjoy life its very short, lol

The boldest is not making sense...instead of you to encourage ladies to become independent and be able to spend money and enjoy money without waiting for a man...you are here indirectly encouraging prostitution....so when the guys keep giving her money all the time, who told you she will not cheat if another richer guy comes around??or you think there are no richer guys ??

Nothing like "enough money" what you call "enough money " is someone else "chicken change "....

Well wahala for those wey get time for boyfriend/girlfriend thing....I cannot count how many ladies I have slept with ,these are girlfriends of some co called guys oo..some will even be talking to their boyfriend on phone that they are not feeling too well and they want to rest meanwhile she is busy getting fu*cked by me ...and the mumu boyfriend go think say him don get girlfriend not knowing that the so called girlfriend is sleeping around because of greed...giving me sex styles that she might not even be giving her boyfriend because she is afraid he might look her with a strange eye..

..abeg if you get the telegram link share me so that I go confirm if my babe dey there...fear gals

Shellsploit:
No mind the Op, that lady dey into hookup. Someone fit done share her nnudes on nairaland ashawo telegram group

Zainabthegirl1:
Same applies to guys too…stop taking guys serious too

Na una go still loose.

Zo Zainab, you know you people can't afford many things without the help of men.

My happened August 11, 2021 I was about marrying her o she closed from work to go Bleep one of her sugar daddy in an hotel. Nah so I catch her o. Relationship is over for me but if you want to have peace of mind don't have anything serious with Akwa Ibom girls.

Justkatty:
I swear it is painful considering the fact they've been together for sometime...
But some girls dey get mind shaa including the human being that saw her with someone and still went ahead inviting her.

What women fail to realise in situations like this is that the real stab is the fellow the have just given the opportunity to look on their man with spite knowing that the woman he is protecting and respecting has just been used by them. The thrill isnt you, you mean nothing, your mans pride is what he is after, its the fact that your man values you, the other guy then proveeds to prove that you have no value. A man who reapects you respects your relationship no matter the circumstances.

ivolt:
You should have stated that you are looking for a rich white woman to marry regardless of
her promiscuity.


By evil heart and doings, I hope you are not referring to fidelity because that will be naive of you.


You will agree with me that it make no sense bringing up finance when cheating is being discussed.
Unless you believe that rich white women are entitled to a different standard of faithfulness.
There is no problem with such believe though. After all, there are Nigerian house husbands who welcome
their white partner's male friends boyfriends with smiles and foods. The only difference is that
they are sincere about their situation and choices and don't use illogical excuses for justification.

Abeg do your own thing… as for me. I wish, pray and hope not to end up with a Nigerian lady. With all what I have observed in real life and all what I read and see you still expect me to see death and dive into it ? I no do.

Basiljoe:
True story, there is no such thing as a long distance relationship. She was playing him so she could cash in on him, before she hits the wall.

Long distAnce relationship is two parties lying to each other and Bleep other pArties while waiting for each other

I can imagine what that bitch does when you are not around ,...this is rubbish ,GOD loves you ,thank GOD you didn't marry her

pseudonomer:
White women cheat more…

Okay sir

men this is hard ooh...even if she is an olosho she for hold body and meet the guy some other time not to feign period and attepmt banging a guy in same hotel just next door...na wa for some ladies sha....

doyin01:
The boldest is not making sense...instead of you to encourage ladies to become independent and be able to spend money and enjoy money without waiting for a man...you are here indirectly encouraging prostitution....so when the guys keep giving her money all the time, who told you she will not cheat if another richer guy comes around??or you think there are no richer guys ??

Nothing like "enough money" what you call "enough money " is someone else "chicken change "....

Well wahala for those wey get time for boyfriend/girlfriend thing....I cannot count how many ladies I have slept with ,these are girlfriends of some co called guys oo..some will even be talking to their boyfriend on phone that they are not feeling too well and they want to rest meanwhile she is busy getting fu*cked by me ...and the mumu boyfriend go think say him don get girlfriend not knowing that the so called girlfriend is sleeping around because of greed...giving me sex styles that she might not even be giving her boyfriend because she is afraid he might look her with a strange eye..

My brother, I am advising you now like a brother, remove eye for woman money if you want to live long and enjoy this life as a man.



If you want to enjoy this life as a man and fulfill your destiny and have a dignifying life, work hard to make enough money that will take care of your needs, that of your parents, your wife, your kids, and every other dependents.



Whether your wife is working or not, pray to have more than enough to still be able to be her major provider. Pray that God should make you sufficient enough that you will never care about whatever money she makes. E get why oh.



Naturally, women weren't created to help men make money or build houses or cater for family financially, na condition make crayfish bend, but don't pray for that condition.



Whatsoever you desire with all your heart in life, you will get it honestly.


Growing up, I always hated the idea of depending on a woman's money or asking money from a girl. I always fantasized being rich and spoiling my wife. And God gave me my heart desire.



My wife works, earns well I guess but to be honest, I don't care about it and I pray I will never.



Why are we making all the money if not to spend it on people we love and those that make us happy? Spend on your girlfriend if you have dont listen to whatever anybody is saying. Money is made to be spent, but pls don't spend your last savings or your business capital on woman oh, my hand no de lol



If you take good care of your girlfriend and she still decides to cheat, nothing spoil, move on, there are plenty chicks out there, a financially buoyant guy is at more advantage, just bear in mind that life happens to anybody and.when it happens to.you dont take it.to.heart, just move on and get hotter chicks and enjoy your life. When its time to marry, marry the one that gives you peace of mind, if she decides to cheat, wetin man go do.na lol

hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

She was into the guy perhap the guy is handsome and also her type of man

franchasng:
She could be broke and got a mouthwatering offer you know lol



That's why you guys should be giving your girlfriends enough money even when she didnt ask to avoid stories that touch. Money can make man or woman do and undo lol.



Sometimes those sneaky moments can be exciting too, and it could be her first, life happens bro, enjoy life its very short, lol

come, are you a bastard? You have been busy supporting nonsense on this thread. Are you mad or something?

minexpo:
..abeg if you get the telegram link share me so that I go confirm if my babe dey there...fear gals

Its a private telegram group. Only admins can add members

Funny how everyone is tagging the lady but ignored the guy that made her reveal her true self. Yes, she's likely a hoe or whatever but the said nigga is as stupid and worthless as the lady. Asking a lady out in the presence of her man is a different kind of low. These randy, greedy dogs [both parties] should do better.

milann:
I was the one that sent it after banging her in my crib

Bro most of us here have been cheated on. One even got pregnant for a married man, and lied I was the owner. Fortunately, experience has made me develop a thick skin towards female love. I try not to be enthralled by a woman's doings. I see relationships as some sort of business, it could fail, it could succeed. If a business fails, you try again. All I'm trying to say is, find another person, if she fails herself, still find another one. Do not take relationships too personal.

A relationship could end at anytime, and it is mostly down to female hypergamy. So, knowing that a relationship could go south, I try to be careful with how I fall neck deep in love.

I would still want you to try with some other person. But this time, do not have high expectations, just go with the flow.

hotwax:
I have been thinking about this bad thought...its getting real

DanteSilva:
I just told myself that if my relationship ends, I am going for a white lady, a lot of Nigerian girls are morally debased... if you think I'm lying travel to Europe or other African countries and see the high quality and standards of their women

White ladies are more sexually active than Nigerian women.They fornicate without remorse.
White women will sleep with two brothers or two friends without remorse.

They dont mind if they cause fight among your relatives or friends.Marriages with whites dont last,she might decide to leave you for another man after 10,20 or 30 years.You have to share house chores responsibililties.

Your solution is to look for a woman with good moral principles.Your sisters can recommend girls they know have good morality.Women understand themselves.
Men and women need to employ the service of their family member of the opposite gender to access their intending spouse/girlfriend.

The worst thing you can do as a man is to drag a woman with a fellow man, quickly leave any girl who doesn't want to have a worthy relationship with you, bro move on life is more than that