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Estherqueen50:
I know at this stage you ain't looking for advice but letting out your hurt. It's fine. We all want to have something beautiful and worthwhile with the one we love but the truth is that as far as good things happen, bad things do too. Its just that sometimes we ain't just ready.
I thank God you came to know of her reality before you got married. That is the essence of our prayer, that God should break us out of wrong relationships, reveal to us things we never knew about our intended that would have made our lives miserable. So I think God loves you very much to have revealed this to you. But it isn't for you to see everyone as the same or see ya self as someone incapable of Making the right choice. But I will strongly advice that this serve as a lesson to us . We need to be faithful to God first, before we talk about being faithful to others or wanting same from them. He has said flee from fornication and we think it doesn't matter but the truth is if someone can comfortably cheat God with you. Who told you they can't cheat on you with another.
Just to remind you " You are loved, you are indispensable, you are perfect, blessed and highly favored. I wish you the best.

You are Blessed but No one Perfect anyway!

Nilon:
hoes supporting hoes

Why won't you write this rubbish. You think every woman is like the hoe who raised you.

KarinaLove:
Are you married?

Why are you having sex when you are not married?

Don't you know you are Fornicating and committing a very big and terrible SIN Mr Man!!!

Well, I think that's pay back for your sins.

Bye

Only if we Know !

hotwax:
i dont think she is into hookup. She just wanted to have a fling..one night stand...most ladies do..even the decent and faithful ones...

one guy will just come from nowhere and he will bang them...

I never saw any sign of infidelity in her...

I didnt disvirgin her, but she was well kept...I dont want to reveal everything

She into hookup!!!! If she was starved you were there not that you traveled.

hotwax:
simple logic u can't decipher... u go school?

to help would be victims?

to teach guys about the dangers of this world

Lol. I look forward to the entertainment that is your life

80% of distant relationship don't end well, not even in this era kinda of girls, where yahoo is booming, Instagram and other social media vices. It takes a lot of self discipline to behave and remain focused, referring to both genders. There are jus several things to get you distracted out there.
The watch word is simply SELF-DISCIPLINE �

Oyiboman69:
and also her long stay in the bathroom was where she finalized her negotiation with the said guy.... human are indeed inhuman....

It was just God that created that avenue for the OP to be able to catch her & to discover her whorish tendencies.
On a normal day, she would have actually succeeded in her game, considering the fact that he trusted her so much & was so gullible.
I'm sure she must have played so many dirty games & bleeped so many guys prior to this without being ever suspected by the OP.
I'm also sure she must have shown him so many signs of her sluttiness but he was too blind & gullible to notice.

Trusting a girl especially an exposed, poorly trained & materialistic Nigerian girl to be faithful is like expecting a King cobra not to bite u because u because u think u are a good man & have been nice to it...

A LovePeddler is a LovePeddler no matter how nice u think u have treated her or how much love & money u have spent on her.

Infact, the nicer u treat a woman, the more disrespectful & whorish she becomes

slimjohn2k5:
You would HV listened to her side of the story.

Then process it for sometime before letting her go

I saw most of us saying he should not, but it's prejudice to conclude. As much as we all deserve fair hearing, we should give to others.

Imagine police start arresting you because of your looks.

He should HV known his girl that this is the time for her menses unless it changes.
Did she discuss before hand she will stay long
When he suspected the guys move earlier, at what point did he loose guard and they exchanged number.
I see he was dropping the plate just to know where she went

And she didn't bother to call again

cocolacec:
White ladies are more sexually active than Nigerian women.They fornicate without remorse.
White women will sleep with two brothers or two friends without remorse.

They dont mind if they cause fight among your relatives or friends.Marriages with whites dont last,she might decide to leave you for another man after 10,20 or 30 years.You have to share house chores responsibililties.

Your solution is to look for a woman with good moral principles.Your sisters can recommend girls they know have good morality.Women understand themselves.
Men and women need to employ the service of their family member of the opposite gender to access their intending spouse/girlfriend.

Please stop advising all these small boys wey no understand anything.

Same white ladies that don't know about morals??

When the law over there favours them?

People will learn with experience.

They should go and see how the men over there are being screwed in divorce courts.

Ishilove:
Why won't you write this rubbish. You think every woman is like the hoe who raised you.

my mom is decent unlike you slut

Immorttal:
Shh, you're not observant. Only girls strictly and deeply into hook-up would do this. You trusted too much. I have some beautiful, decent looking girls into runs, whenever they're into new relationship, they'll drop their old lines (aka hookup line) and strictly face the new, prospective husband. During this time, hook-ups are minimal or even non-existent unless you disturb them wella on instagram. Your gurl is into hook-up. Period!!!

you sabi dem wella tuale baba. Naso one wey i call yesterday. Na one guy give me her number. She first talk say wrong number, when i come tell am say i got your number on inmessage, immediately she show her true color.

Immorttal:
some milliseconds funcked her up. She could have communicated wella with the guy, she wasted some pretty good seconds at the entry way when she could have told the guy to keep his door ajar once she called in.

baba the babe no smart at all. Why do hookup in the same hotel your boyfriend is lodging?

Why everyone here blaming the girl, what about the guy who knew she was with a guy and still wanted her You can't compare female OT to guys nah, they can easily be convince. The other nigga might have sweet mouth her...abi no be we guys. We fit use mouth fall heaven. There is always a price we can't reject. Everybody has his/her own price. You have ur price to kill, or do any other tins u never wished to. Abeg, na ur gf, no be wife. U sef dey do ur own, just have haven't be caught or she knw, just ignored.

slimjohn2k5:
You would HV listened to her side of the story.

Then process it for sometime before letting her go

I saw most of us saying he should not, but it's prejudice to conclude. As much as we all deserve fair hearing, we should give to others.

Imagine police start arresting you because of your looks.

He should HV known his girl that this is the time for her menses unless it changes.
Did she discuss before hand she will stay long
When he suspected the guys move earlier, at what point did he loose guard and they exchanged number.
I see he was dropping the plate just to know where she went

My friend stop being a Simpson here.How could she lie that she was going home cos of ther menses only to turn around going back to d same hotel not even to her boyfriend but to another man's room. Y did d guy jam his door after sighting the girls boyfriend if he never had evil intentions please? Park well Mr man.

Have you married her?
Have you paid her bride price?
Stop complaining and move on with your life

Shellsploit:
Quote me on a dead thread

pls how do i qoute on a dead thread?

Why couldn't you listen to her explanation? She said it's not what you think and she can explain. You should have listened to her

I find this hard to believe though no Lady even if She be 1st grade Ashana Can mess Up like that an ahn Same hotel, and also the Same Day At Least if She was into Coded Hook Up,She would av fixed another Hotel and it won't be on that Day nah.


But if truly dat happened then that Yoruba adage of Person wey get Cap no get Head,while Person wey gt Head no get Cap, When Decent Ladies dey find Serious and well behaved Guys dem no See and You gt One u decided to mess it Up Se won di e ni.?? And I must also Say due to d Op Past experiences He became too Paranoid also and it Collapsed the Relationship Finally.

Shellsploit:
The group is Private.
Only admins can add members

you said i should qoute u on a dead thread

larryking540:
next door ,but only one round , because she felt bad

you're a correct nigga. That guy will never enjoy that night. Happened to me. Kaii

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

I know how hurtful things like this can be but OP God just saved you from the snare of the Fowler… move on, move what? Move on bro.

Na real wa. We live and learn.

I guess this happened at Metro Hotel, Oluyole.

If I am correct, then she actually entered my room. I mean, she didn't go home neither did she go back to the other guy.
I was watching everything from an angle, so I had to lure her into my room too by doing as if I'm empathizing her.

In a nutshell, your ex is a w*ore. She's very good in bed and she wasn't on her period that day.

Just thank your stars for not marrying her.

Zainabthegirl1:
Hmmmm….I know what she did was wrong…but gbogbo wa lama je breakfast lol

you sef na bad girl. I know say you go dey do your hookup runs codedly zainab to bad

Nigeria woman are curse good God i don't think i will ever marry from Africa Jesus

noisy45:
My happened August 11, 2021 I was about marrying her o she closed from work to go Bleep one of her sugar daddy in an hotel. Nah so I catch her o. Relationship is over for me but if you want to have peace of mind don't have anything serious with Akwa Ibom girls.

and akwaibom girls sabi nack

Nilon:
my mom is decent unlike you slut

No, your mother is a slut, that is why you think a stranger on the internet is a slut like her. You see your mother in every woman

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you never see anything OP,
You see that other gender ehh, fear them cause even God and Devil dey fear them...

Had one recently, she sees her ex secretly and another guy like that. Told me she wanted to go stay over at her friends place one Saturday and I got to know the next Tuesday that she actually stayed over at a guy's place and was bleeped so bad ��

Na so I take end am oh.. I no fit dey battle with Bandits and BH con still dey face woman wahala

She had since been trying to call me to apologize after I ignored her physically and afterwards blocked her, she's then using her mom's phone to call and text me which I've also blocked

franchasng:
My brother, I am advising you now like a brother, remove eye for woman money if you want to live long and enjoy this life as a man.



If you want to enjoy this life as a man and fulfill your destiny and have a dignifying life, work hard to make enough money that will take care of your needs, that of your parents, your wife, your kids, and every other dependents.



Whether your wife is working or not, pray to have more than enough to still be able to be her major provider. Pray that God should make you sufficient enough that you will never care about whatever money she makes. E get why oh.



Naturally, women weren't created to help men make money or build houses or cater for family financially, na condition make crayfish bend, but don't pray for that condition.



Whatsoever you desire with all your heart in life, you will get it honestly.


Growing up, I always hated the idea of depending on a woman's money or asking money from a girl. I always fantasized being rich and spoiling my wife. And God gave me my heart desire.



My wife works, earns well I guess but to be honest, I don't care about it and I pray I will never.



Why are we making all the money if not to spend it on people we love and those that make us happy? Spend on your girlfriend if you have dont listen to whatever anybody is saying. Money is made to be spent, but pls don't spend your last savings or your business capital on woman oh, my hand no de lol



If you take good care of your girlfriend and she still decides to cheat, nothing spoil, move on, there are plenty chicks out there, a financially buoyant guy is at more advantage, just bear in mind that life happens to anybody and.when it happens to.you dont take it.to.heart, just move on and get hotter chicks and enjoy your life. When its time to marry, marry the one that gives you peace of mind, if she decides to cheat, wetin man go do.na lol

How is your comment related to what I said??

Bitchiamjay:
lol wait a minute! How come you only show your aśś only during Xmas season?

It's the season
Just free nothing to do decided to check out the famous forum....
How u dey, dis place still dey pop or make I no waste time

Ishilove:
No, your mother is a slut, that is why you think a stranger on the internet is a slut like her. You see your mother in every woman

Gaddamnit

Just buried the guy... 'drops flowers over grave'

Lalas247:
Gaddamnit

Just buried the guy... 'drops flowers over grave'

He is a bastard son of a thousand fathers