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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by EvansGuru1973: 10:03pm On Jan 03, 2022
Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin? undecided
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?
Na mafia you be... mehn some men can reason die... Abeg that man needs to marry woman wey dey esrn pass am wella before he can have a peaceful hone


Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:04pm On Jan 03, 2022
franchasng:
shocked grin grin


Singe ladies of our time are in big trouble cheesy

Franchas, the husband material 100 yards, what do you have to say about this annoying and foolish topic?
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Squidbabe: 10:04pm On Jan 03, 2022
If I'm in same situation with the lady I'll do same. How can I marry a dictator. What happened to discussing it with her ,asking her for her own opinion then from there u also bring ur own idea. Instead Of drafting an A4 note .it simply shows what I'll deal with through out the marriage, a man that imposes his own on others. Its still early ,let her leave in peace. No need to quarell.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by poiZon: 10:05pm On Jan 03, 2022
dingbang:
50naira then could buy alot na..the naira was strong then. Haba you sef
It also means naira was strong, but no money and our public servants were economising the little they had.
Today we r spending more on nothing.
We spend more on education not because its premium but because we want our children to be connected with rich men kids.
We spend more on food cos we prefer patronising malls than markets.
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by PsychoPea(m): 10:05pm On Jan 03, 2022
She Has to Run, nothing bad with the division of expenses but personally i feel this can't save or secure the future. The Care fund for the children is okay

No Plans For Investments, you won't live on salary 300k your whole life
No Plans for Getting your own house or do you plan on paying rents

You

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by myfantasies(f): 10:05pm On Jan 03, 2022
Furcko:
so Na the man wey no no go recharge him phone, and send sth his parents Na abi
And how much did the op said he is earning again?

Since marriage they hungry him, let him wait and look for a woman that is earning same as he himself , then he can bring his plans to the table.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by LesbianBoy(m): 10:06pm On Jan 03, 2022
MuchAdo:
@OP

You asked too much of her to be honest.

Women are not after rich guys. They just want a man who will/can pay all the bills as much as possible.

She will take care of herself and chip in her own little assistance from time to time unsolicited.




Sent87:
I love that your girlfriend,thank God for her life she ran away. There's a reason why men are regarded as head of the family, that's because they are meant to provide for their family, not saying your wife shouldn't contribute to the upkeep of the family, but you don't make it her responsibility like she must do it. The sooner you men realize that women were created to be pampered, the better for you. There's also a reason why God created them last. Everything was already on ground before they came. Now you don't need to wonder again why most women are wired to go after ready made men.

Everytime I come on Nairaland, all I keep seeing these days are surprising comments! Omo! shocked shocked

From married men masturbating when they have a wife who nothing wrong with, to the ones that wash toilet before their wife give them sex, now to these two stupid ass comments I just quoted.

What is wrong with these generation of men. Na so una dey desperate for pvssy?

I just thank God say I get sense for were women dey. So na like thisdem for don show me shege! Haaaaaaaa shocked shocked shocked angry angry angry angry angry

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Furcko: 10:06pm On Jan 03, 2022
UyaiIncomparabl:


Which girls?

Newsflash, I don't joke with my cash around your gender. But, if I tell you the number of eligible suitors begging to come and do small thing on my head, you'll run. See, men here can say whatever they like just to feel among, outside here, they marry jobless and no-do-good girls. Na today!
beauty fades enjoy the attention while it lasts keep doing Yanga you hear, no wiseup that jss3 girl go soon grab your husband
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:06pm On Jan 03, 2022
Lightway:


grin grin grin The girl didn't negotiate but ran away.. which shows she didn't want to share. She wants him to spend 300k on everything..

If I were the man, I'll collect 50% of her salary rather than saying all these rubbish

Why should she negotiate? Are they transacting a business? The girl dodged a heavy missile.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by alfredfrddy(m): 10:06pm On Jan 03, 2022
dingbang:
you are definitely right. 300k looks like big money but when bills start piling up, it will finish even before a month.

And where problem will start is when you collect personal loan against salary.


Bros you need to look for a woman earning higher, that is your best bet. You dont need to be chasing the wrong things this year else you will enter into debt even with your 300k.


Your cap should be a lady with salary of 150k least upwards.
I'm sure op's plan is subject to amendments? He does not necessarily need a woman but a woman who is ready to make sacrifices for the family irrespective of how much she earn. That she called him a stingy man is laughable. I think ladies have a different definition for stingy and will use it for any man who cannot provide what they cannot offer themselves.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by ImaIma1(f): 10:06pm On Jan 03, 2022
Furcko:
let her keep running, she can't outrun menopause


That's how you guys blackmail and shame women into wrong marriages. Leave her and her menopause. It's not your business.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by dmostcheerful(f): 10:06pm On Jan 03, 2022
princeeze1:


I am happy you pointed he has over 150k to save, if you are married, your husband should learn from him, if not, pray for such a man. That factored to save nearly half his income, it goes to show he realizes, he is a tenant and would one day want to own his piece. It shows he has plans for the unexpected turns tomorrow may bring. He has elected not to squander all he earns while his wife does whatever she likes with her earnings and tomorrow they either fail to grow or grow at snail speed to his mental and physical detriment.
Oga, what does the wife have to save too?
Abi is she not suppose to have future too cause she is married?
Abi don't she have family before she married?
Who takes care of them?
She is being paid this much cause she is educated I guess, what exactly does her family gets for raising her?
It is same you that will flair up if her father asked for 5million as bride price.
You are probably still young, one day you will get married, have beautiful daughters that you adore and will like to take care of to what 3ver level she wants, what joy will you derive if she doesn't at least send you 5k or 10k monthly as the father?
Ask yourself.
You all behave like you are doing a woman favour marrying her, she gives up her own family to raise kids that will answer your names.
Oga if he can save half the woman should at least 70% too.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 10:07pm On Jan 03, 2022
Furcko:
beauty fades enjoy the attention while it lasts keep doing Yanga you hear, no wiseup that jss3 girl go soon grab your husband

Tales by moonlight.
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by wilcox(m): 10:07pm On Jan 03, 2022
Bros please do well to tell us your location. I know 99% of Nigeria girls will Absecon on seeing this.
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Kooldame: 10:08pm On Jan 03, 2022
The lady is very lucky to have this kind of man as her fiance.What of we ladies that are responsible for 80% of the family responsibility all in d name of she is working in a better place

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Onelove508: 10:08pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?


Mhen!!!!!
I'll save this article.

A very wise girl will submit all 80k to the man and watch him run the home. All she need do is to make demand when there is a need. She'll even benefits more than the 80k she submitted
A tribe in Kogi runs their marriage this way.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by MuchAdo: 10:08pm On Jan 03, 2022
LesbianBoy:






Everytime I come on Nairaland, all I keep seeing these days are surprising comments! Omo! shocked shocked

From married men masturbating when they have a wife who nothing wrong with, to the ones that wash toilet before their wife give them sex, now to these two stupid ass comments I just quoted.

What is wrong with these generation of men. Na so una dey desperate for pvssy?

I just thank God say I get sense for were women dey. So na like thisdem for don show me shege! Haaaaaaaa shocked shocked shocked angry angry angry angry angry

Real men don't care about or consider what their wives earn to run their homes.

Go figure!

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:09pm On Jan 03, 2022
Lightway:


Your brain has issues
don't blame me for your poor taste

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Emaprince: 10:09pm On Jan 03, 2022
Biglittlelois:
Man provides, woman helps

Division of labour;
Husband---- financial security
Wife-----household chores
Equation balanced

On no ground is anyone obligated to assist the other, it is a choice

If you want equal contribution, contribute in household chores and the kids

If you say house maid, no problem, get a work/financial help for yourself.
This mentality is the reason most women are on this Nairaland posting "God when".

You keep asking God when....but you are exhibiting characters that will chase men away from you?

The lady in this story is probably too young and believes time is still on her side until its late.

This is how you guys will achieve equality, abi?
Pipe dream!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jan 03, 2022
pompeiimagnus:


The purpose of dating is to sort out compatibility with one’s intended spouse. As a single lady she will be doing all these by herself. Nothing wrong with sitting down with your partner and discussing family finances before even getting married. Our parents made it work because the mentality of our mothers is entirely different from that of women today. Ordinary proposal and she ran away. This guy dodged a train wreck abeg
so our parents started out with who will contribute what and what? Ladies naturally want the good things of life, and are neva ready to contribute a dime to the running of the home. Even when dey earn well. It's just their nature. But u don't have to shove it on their face that they must contribute using a particular quota system. Just do ur best as a man and watch how things unfold.

Without this list, this guy can actually drop 100k monthly and be fine with this same lady. Not everything is done by following strict principles.
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by bigtt76(f): 10:11pm On Jan 03, 2022
Na every month she de buy clothes?



Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin? undecided
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by armyofone(m): 10:11pm On Jan 03, 2022
He scared the poor girl with his mgmt skill. 300k and still wanted the poor girl to cough out from her small salary for once in two years vacay grin grin
Prolly he doesn't love her and wanted her off. A guy who truly loves you will not put out such mgmt list for you.

cheesy

Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin? undecided
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by myfantasies(f): 10:11pm On Jan 03, 2022
1x2x3:


You have to up your game. I wonder why people are blaming the man, the gf is simply not earning enough which she ought to be worried about. I hope you find something that would double or triple your income.
How do you know she is not worried about it, and what made you think I have not been trying to up my game.

Do you think it's easy for any female that is trying to earn a living by doing the right thing?

I can't count how many interviews I have been to, or other financial assistance that people want to assist me with, when it's time to offer me the job ,or the assistance, there is always a price for me to pay. Most times I am tempted to do it, but to what end.

It's not just easy for anyone out there, that is why I said he should have try and see how he can assist her before they go into marriage.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by tonididdy(m): 10:12pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

Lol it's funny she ran away but your expectations of her are quite hooooooge considering she earn 80k monthly.

Dstv+10k+20k that's like 50k monthly from a salary of 80k grin lol she did well to japa

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by bigtt76(f): 10:12pm On Jan 03, 2022
Makes sense



bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Nobody: 10:13pm On Jan 03, 2022
Calebility:
Chairman why not ask her to suggest her own way of supporting the family first.
That will help you to tell the kind of person you're dealing with.

Your money is her money, her money is hers and hers alone.

This is the mentality of most Nigeria men. Very low lifers. Sense is far from you

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by sgtponzihater1(m): 10:13pm On Jan 03, 2022
theForth:


Sorry but your wife no dey try, what does she do with her salary?

Not sure boss. But likely invest and help her family
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by sorepco(m): 10:14pm On Jan 03, 2022
Men u r not realistic. On 80k salary u should ask her 2 chip in 15k monthlt


bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Iseoluwani: 10:14pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?


Don't mind her she is lazy, but it seems u are a perfectionist...

Anyways a man wants a good future should have a plan and stick to the plan
Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by tonididdy(m): 10:15pm On Jan 03, 2022
Ammishaddai:
Bros, God just saved you from the greatest mistake you would have made in this life. In fact, you should go to the altar and roll yourself like 7 times for letting her leave you in peace . And my advice for you is that you still stick to this plan with the next girlfriend you have . Anyone that does not want it should go and find the nearest Simpson or ATM machine that can dispense cash and carry all the burdens of their financial problems at once

Bro that's still too much on her meagre salary, that's like 50k monthly for someone who earns 80k.

Truth is they both are not earning enough for their proposed lifestyle.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by jesmond3945: 10:16pm On Jan 03, 2022
bigpicture001:


Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.

Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..

The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head
see brother your suggestion is too harsh on her. I know you want to save money for the future. The best you can do is to cut down on expenses from your side. Only use your disctetion to know when she has to spend her own money in the house. No woman will take your suggestion, even the high paying ones. A woman wants greater control on how she spends her money thats why your babe ran for her life. A woman spends money on 3 things, herself, her kids and hee family. Every other thing is based on discretion on her own terms. Dont let a woman know how much you make or have. She would always base her financial decisions on that. Also know that your 300k today can be 1m tommorow or 20k next day. Dont always look or define your worth by how much you make. Some people earn 20k and spend 500k in a month. How the money comes they dont know. Money is unpredictable. In summary take charge of your spending. Let her spend her own money. Only contribute what is needed and save the rest. Dont be pressured.

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Re: My Girlfriend Ran Away Because Of My Proposed Family Financial Plan by Cathy0505(f): 10:16pm On Jan 03, 2022
Ammishaddai:
Bros, God just saved you from the greatest mistake you would have made in this life. In fact, you should go to the altar and roll yourself like 7 times for letting her leave you in peace . And my advice for you is that you still stick to this plan with the next girlfriend you have . Anyone that does not want it should go and find the nearest Simpson or ATM machine that can dispense cash and carry all the burdens of their financial problems at once










And you will married him abi

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