bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

You are the man, soon to be head of family. You sounding like a dictatorship

You should be responsible for your family upkeep man. You are even demanding her to chose nepa bill or Dstv/govt Haba! You used your hand to chase that girl trust me

No woman working, earning something that won't contribute to her family. I mean no woman. Women contribute their quota in marriage guy

Would you share the house chores with her? She carry pregnancy for months, risk her life birthing a child and nurture the child with sleepless night

You are a man guy and it is expected of you to be responsible for your family. I wouldn't be surprised if you give her some part to pay for her marital rite to her parents/family

Women are help mate guy. You need to earn her trust by being responsible for your family wellbeing. She'd naturally come in trust me.

Go out man and see women hustling, hawking left, right and centre. All these are for the family trust me. You need to earn her trust not being a dictatorship

Men who had women contributing in the upkeep of the family didn't dictate for them. Those men earned their trust by showing how responsible they are as a man. Guy, action speak louder than voice.

I will advise you to work more on yourself, earn more income and forget marriage for now. Going about looking for ladies to dictate what and what not to do with her finances is totally wrong man

Better don't listen to all those small small nairaland boys who barely had 3 square meal daily. They know nothing, i mean absolutely nothing

Some of them were even saying they can never tell their wife how much they earn. They are all fake person who tell lies to get those cheap girls within their neighbourhood and they will take that same lies and deceit into marriage. Na those kind people you wan dey listen to?

I'm also a small boy no doubt, but full of sense and wisdom. I learnt to be a responsible man from my father. He never dictate to my mum to do this and that. And my mum does contribute her quota naturally without being compelled or put under duress. My dad earned her trust by showing how responsible he is

bigpicture001:


Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.

Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..

The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head

You dodged a bullet.. She wants marriage without financial responsibility.. Tell her to go look for Obi Cubana’s younger brother.

sharone21:
Bigpicture001, if u are wise u will listen to the words of women here as they have spoken the minds of women of ALL races( also the sensible men here) e go shock u say even oyibo u want to marry will do similarly...

U too know that in all the sharing, u won't share pregnancy of 9 months/9 months+&labor pain/ pushing out all the babies that will bear your surname.

Come ooo, what will be the difference between her single status and married state AND how will she boast to people that she actually married( married a MAN).

A woman can even do more than u are suggesting but don't put forward any dictatorial proposal to her.

As in law, say her family won't feel that their daughter married a man as u have also taken what she can take to send to her family when married.

See, when it comes to PLANNING, I don't think ANY man born of a woman can plan reach me, BUT I still leave room for God's own master plan, believe me, God can even scatter and rearrange that your family financial plan...your source is God, NOT your incomes.

E be like say Nigerian boys only see partnership in marriage as sharing financial responsibilities only neglecting other aspects

It takes wisdom, patience and maturity as a man to be a husband and rather, that is y Bible admonished men to marry their wives with understanding... U no even talk of how to PAMPER/SPOIL her as your woman, the pampering she will still contribute money to enjoy vacation....U still need to go meet men who have been married successfully for YEARS to counsel/mentor u about marriage...Hope u are even pampering her in courtship for her to be able to submit her money to u not that u are stingy....Because, any extra change in the hands of a man may not be too trusted as he can use it to service side babes.

E be like say you nor read where she will be the one to buy her own clothes,I am sure there are some clothes he will disapprove as per say his circle is not for 80k earners ,dem go dey share bills for outing too o. This kind person e go get some kind restaurant and orders e go dey place as per say na 300k earner.

He wants an 80k to fund his 300k lifestyle.Cos on a normal day no 80k earner go carry her money dey talk of vacation abroad .

Na devil's deal op give the lady ,I'm glad she wasn't desperate to stick around for premium tears.

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

U got nothing to lose....let her go,she's not for you

A White woman would have gladly accepted this partition of financial responsibilities in the family. Going by their comments online and the experience offline, it seems what Nigerian women understand as love is money. And thanks to the Simping men who are full of this country, women always get their wish.

Op, your girlfriend wants another Ned Nwoko and Regina Daniels marriage stuff

In fact, any woman who cannot spend more than me to sustain the marriage, she should forget about getting married to me. Sincerely speaking, I have never found a woman so entitled since all my years of dating Nigerian women. Maybe because I have never been married to these women (just my mere girlfriends) is the why they haven't shown their true colour.

From my experience, I think Nigerian men are responsible for the entitlement shown by the women towards them. Most Nigerian men (because of their insecurity) think they can impress women with their money. They always try to price them away from other suitors chasing the women, so they think money is the answer. Then, women too have imbibed this culture of always asking them of money because that is what they have shown them from the beginning.

danot1030:


When you are due for marriage with this kind of mentality let's see which lady will be ready to cope with you. Should a woman render support? YES but put burden on her

Men have been carrying this burden for decades but the reality today is that a lot of guys are beginning to weigh the benefits of this burden. Do I blame them? NO! Many guys have been badly hurt emotionally by the set of materialistic
and money conscious ladies out there. Not only that, feminists have also come out to protest the role of the man as the head (the only thing men could brag about for carrying an eternal burden). So what really do you want these men to do?

This really isn't about me but the reality out there today. For me, if I wasn't ready for the burden, I wouldn't be married today. The trend you see today will only get worse so expect to see this sort of threads in the coming years.

Sex is now cheaper than bottle water (it is no longer a reason men want marriage since people are getting more sex with money, good looks, and status). For men, kids are no longer a reason to be married either since they have grown to see how kids show more accolades to their mothers. They also understand biological clock and they have grown to see how women desire more kids.

While the respect men have for women over the years has increased dramatically, the reverse is the case for women. Our grandfathers did not take our grandmoms out for dinner dates. This is no longer the trend today as men have improved their game but what do some of these men get in return?? They're now told to share cooking and cleaning roles.

When a man "traditionally" labours for his family, it is love and care but when the woman is told to show respect the traditional way to her husband, it is slavery.

My dear, it will only get worse. If you have a sensible man around you, please keep him.

tunjilana:


If that is the case then people should live freely and exercise their natural rights without restraint like animals...why is society restricting a man's sexual mates to 1 why not allow him freely exercise his sexuality to the extent his resources can take him....their is nothing like naturL law again...we are constantly being shaped and made to adapt to new realities....women want men to change when it comes to gender roles that affect women but benefit men but these same women don't wanna change when it comes to roles affecting men but benefitting women...A man providing is part of the tenets of the same Patriarchy that women love to condemn...so why ain't they fighting that

Really? No More natural law? The last I checked the night has once again gone and dawn is almost upon us, that's an example of natural law in operation.
You are free to operate and conformed to whatever level of existence you choose to, no restraints whatsoever.
But the sooner you grasp the understanding of the inherent differences of these two gender, the better for you.
Like I said take a cue from nature.
No need to stress yourself. Just pray that you will be the head of your family in every true sense of the word, otherwise trouble awaits you.

socialmediaman:


He’s the man of the house. He decides what he wants and finds the suitable woman who can fit in. He’ll be blessed when he finds that woman

Ahhh, if that's the case then he won't find anybody. Why would you decide the amount of money I spend from my own money? Which man?

Mariangeles:
On top 80k salary, you want make she dey drop 10k every month for trust account, 20k for joint account, provide "food supplement", make she still choose between NEPA bill, DSTV, or GOTV subscription...on top wetin?
Oga, how much wan remain to take buy clothes, cosmetics and toiletries for herself na (cos e sure me dai say you no fit buy those things for her), not to talk of find her parents something? Unto say she marry you?

Abeg! Carry your wahala go front!

you be big mumu

pacespot:
A White woman would have gladly accepted this partition of financial responsibilities in the family. Going by their comments online and the experience offline, it seems what Nigerian women understand as love is money. And thanks to the Simping men who are full of this country, women always get their wish.

Hear yourself well, a "white woman", you want to compare developed countries where women get paid monthly allowance from the government asides from the money they get from their salaries at work, also apart from the money and properties they get from Alimony? You want to compare those countries to Nigeria?

This is a new year, you really need a new way of reasoning.

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

this is stinginess kowai....be it you gave her the laid down details or not,she will still contribute her quota but u sounding like a dictator is another thing. Yes you have plans clearly but all your plans dsnt in anyway include her and that hurts. It's just the kids n family n bla. She might agree to this now n wedding time might reach n u might tell her to get her gown herself. Even if na me,I go jappa

GboyegaD:


All he needs is someone who aligns with his vision on what a marriage should be.

Simple, he should go and find his type

Mr strict and stingy man

[quote author=bigpicture001 post=109049158]

Bro it's not easy... The more a lady's wage the more difficult she becomes... [/quote


Guy I also see u as a stingy type and u r not ready for marriage together with the responsibilities that follow

NigeriaIsGreat:
You are the man, soon to be head of family. You sounding like a dictatorship

You should be responsible for your family upkeep man. You are even demanding her to chose nepa bill or Dstv/govt Haba! You used your hand to chase that girl trust me

No woman working, earning something that won't contribute to her family. I mean no woman. Women contribute their quota in marriage guy

Would you share the house chores with her? She carry pregnancy for months, risk her life birthing a child and nurture the child with sleepless night

You are a man guy and it is expected of you to be responsible for your family. I wouldn't be surprised if you give her some part to pay for her marital rite to her parents/family

Women are help mate guy. You need to earn her trust by being responsible for your family wellbeing. She'd naturally come in trust me.

Go out man and see women hustling, hawking left, right and centre. All these are for the family trust me. You need to earn her trust not being a dictatorship

Men who had women contributing in the upkeep of the family didn't dictate for them. Those men earned their trust by showing how responsible they are as a man. Guy, action speak louder than voice.

I will advise you to work more on yourself, earn more income and forget marriage for now. Going about looking for ladies to dictate what and what not to do with her finances is totally wrong man

Better don't listen to all those small small nairaland boys who barely had 3 square meal daily. They know nothing, i mean absolutely nothing

Some of them were even saying they can never tell their wife how much they earn. They are all fake person who tell lies to get those cheap girls within their neighbourhood and they will take that same lies and deceit into marriage. Na those kind people you wan dey listen to?

I'm also a small boy no doubt, but full of sense and wisdom. I learnt to be a responsible man from my father. He never dictate to my mum to do this and that. And my mum does contribute her quota naturally without being compelled or put under duress. My dad earned her trust by showing how responsible he is

Do you earn upto 300k a month?

Do you believe you can be earning 300k a month before you marry?

You're no doubt a small boy but I'll just leave few words of advice. A wise woman will not run away from a proposition like this because there is strength in unity.

Because the man has laid out capital expenditures like this, what a wise woman will do is to draft another list, present to the man and they go back to renegotiate but she no wise at all.

Now, u said women contribute to their family without being told you are a huge liar. Those women u see toiling everyday is because either they're single mothers, or their husband has abandoned the financial aspect of the home to them completely and they have no choice.

Try and let ur woman know u earn some manageable sum and u see her become completely lazy, abandon everything for you and rather use her money for ponzi, hairs, aso ebi, fashion etc etc.

In all you do, make sure you marry a wise woman. The op is right 101%

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

my fellow men make Una wake up make all this hoes matter no kill us

I'm totally gonna use this shit right here... Flipping legend..

weaseloo:
@Poster

To make this list fair, you should know what she depends on herself already, how much she has been able to save, and how much necessary compromises she is able to make to keep a home after marriage. It should be a mutual discussion between the both of you.

The vacation funds and the education funds should be your responsibility. You should be thinking of your immediate needs and vacation should be the last of it. You have given her enough by asking her to take care of the daily food supplements.

This your list does not contain what amount you will be giving her as your wife. Even if it is 5k -10k that small amount will melt her heart and she will end up putting even more in. Most men do now know that women turn into butter when you are good to them.

She should also be looking to get a higher paying job too to support when or before having kids.

Nonsense

Funkybabee:



Simple, he should go and find his type

Mr strict and stingy man

Really?

pawesome:
this is stinginess kowai....be it you gave her the laid down details or not,she will still contribute her quota but u sounding like a dictator is another thing. Yes you have plans clearly but all your plans dsnt in anyway include her and that hurts. It's just the kids n family n bla. She might agree to this now n wedding time might reach n u might tell her to get her gown herself. Even if na me,I go jappa

Wait oOo, wives no dey buy gown for themselves again?

Acidosis:


Men have been carrying this burden for decades but the reality today is that a lot of guys are beginning to weigh the benefits of this burden. Do I blame them? NO! Many guys have been badly hurt emotionally by the set of materialistic
and money conscious ladies out there. Not only that, feminists have also come out to protest the role of the man as the head (the only thing men could brag about for carrying an eternal burden). So what really do you want these men to do?

This really isn't about me but the reality out there today. For me, if I wasn't ready for the burden, I wouldn't be married today. The trend you see today will only get worse so expect to see this sort of threads in the coming years.

Sex is now cheaper than bottle water (it is no longer a reason men want marriage since people are getting more sex with money, good looks, and status). For men, kids are no longer a reason to be married either since they have grown to see how kids show more accolades to their mothers. They also understand biological clock and they have grown to see how women desire more kids.

While the respect men have for women over the years has increased dramatically, the reverse is the case for women. Our grandfathers did not take our grandmoms out for dinner dates. This is no longer the trend today as men have improved their game but what do some of these men get in return?? They're now told to share cooking and cleaning roles.

When a man "traditionally" labours for his family, it is love and care but when the woman is told to show respect the traditional way to her husband, it is slavery.

My dear, it will only get worse. If you have a sensible man around you, please keep him.

Chairman! Suffering no go reach your side O. Na better things go dey fall on you left and right... U get sense abeg

dingbang:
I have an issue with number 4.


Her salary cannot support her minusing 20kmonthly from 80k for vacation .. The vacation is not that important.


She has a valid reason for opting out. Find another woman who earns higher so you dont kill yourself.

I am also not OK with no. 4 but instead of opting out, she could have told him that she can't go with no.4

The girl doesn't want to contribute anything to their home, simply as that.

proclinician:


Do you earn upto 300k a month?

Do you believe you can be earning 300k a month before you marry?

You're no doubt a small boy but I'll just leave few words of advice. A wise woman will not run away from a proposition like this because there is strength in unity.

Because the man has laid out capital expenditures like this, what a wise woman will do is to draft another list, present to the man and they go back to renegotiate but she no wise at all.

Now, u said women contribute to their family without being told you are a huge liar. Those women u see toiling everyday is because either they're single mothers, or their husband has abandoned the financial aspect of the home to them completely and they have no choice.

Try and let ur woman know u earn some manageable sum and u see her become completely lazy, abandon everything for you and rather use her money for ponzi, hairs, aso ebi, fashion etc etc.

In all you do, make sure you marry a wise woman. The op is right 101%

My mum and dad are very much together and my mum hawk. I mean hawk to support the family. Throughout her lifetime before marriage she never hawked. She couldn't afford her new family go hungry without contributing her quota.

No woman, i repeat no woman will watch her hubby does absolutely everything without lifting a finger. Earn her trust and see how things goes smoothly

Our forefathers aren't dictatorship, Yet their wives contributed their quota immensely. Why? They earn their trust as responsible men.

I’m only surprised that there is no Investment plan in place to increase family income. Na so poverty take Dey start.

dmostcheerful:

Oga I read everything.
You all wants a woman to contribute financially running the family, do you contribute in chores, will you give birth for her?
Will you take care of the kids when they start coming.
Most of you don't even know how to wash plate, how do you expect a woman to wake by 4:30am make breakfast and lunch, leave for 2ork.
Come back by 4pm.
Wash the cloth, keep the house, do school runs and still be financially responsible too.
You need a woman to take care of the home money wise what do you do domestic too?
From that 80k she will make her hair monthly too.
A pack of attachment is 2500 she needs like 2 pack, then 5k to the hair dresser, she buys her tappon, buys her clothing's out of the said 80k.
You people are so selfish here.
Out of all expenses he listed he won't even be spending upto 150k.
He have over 150k to save, what exactly does the wife save too?
Also who should be responsible for clothings?
A man's major responsibility is providing financially for the family.
Making his family comfortable.
A woman's is keeping the family, cooking, cleaning, the kids and so on.
Look I am married too, any salary from my husband's pay goes directly to my account as soon as he gets it, I buy all that is needed for the month, give account and we save the rest.
You can't marry a woman and place financial responsibility on her, the early you understand a woman should do that voluntarily and a man should do chores voluntarily the earlier for you.
Except you 2ants to run back to nairaland with, "please help me how do I solve this problem in my family?"

Your husband’s salary goes into your account? Lmao

Saintinoo:

I am also not OK with no. 4 but instead of opting out, she could have told him that she can't go with no.4

The girl doesn't want to contribute anything to their home, simply as that.

yeah.

Judybash93:


Really?

Yes

Idamond:


All this things u listed her both the guy too will also face it.
he will buy herself clothes
Hair cut
Cream
Undies
Parents at least 5k each to father and mother
Transportation to her working place
Her siblings, like if she has Junior sis like we now e.t.c and many things

And so what, what's her benefits self

Food only or what

She provides that for herself before marriage

We now have bread shearers and not bread winners and you expect her to loyal and be respectful to you forgetting that you are both head of the family,no wonder Sarah called Abraham lord because he was indeed a caring husband indeed,

pacespot:
A White woman would have gladly accepted this partition of financial responsibilities in the family. Going by their comments online and the experience offline, it seems what Nigerian women understand as love is money. And thanks to the Simping men who are full of this country, women always get their wish.

Op, your girlfriend wants another Ned Nwoko and Regina Daniels marriage stuff

In fact, any woman who cannot spend more than me to sustain the marriage, she should forget about getting married to me. Sincerely speaking, I have never found a woman so entitled since all my years of dating Nigerian women. Maybe because I have never been married to these women (just my mere girlfriends) is the why they haven't shown their true colour.

From my experience, I think Nigerian men are responsible for the entitlement shown by the women towards them. Most Nigerian men (because of their insecurity) think they can impress women with their money. They always try to price them away from other suitors chasing the women, so they think money is the answer. Then, women too have imbibed this culture of always asking them of money because that is what they have shown them from the beginning.

A white woman will not be thrown out of her matrimonial home in the middle of the night with her kids for putting too much salt in the soup or any other petty thing a man decides to come up with.

A white woman is entitled to divorce settlement as per now say op dey receive 300k as against her 80k.

A white woman can kick you out of the house for slapping her because she forgot to pay for nepa bill and card ran out in the prepaid meter.

A white woman can sit and hold the baby while a man goes grocery shopping come back home and cook and tend to the older kids too.

And so on and so forth.


So next time una wan dey yarn opata ,dey add all this one's join am too.

Lawly:


Exactly the point. I have met 2 elderly men that warned me about trying to please my future wife and children and displease myself. They advices me to take care of myself and my future first before my family cus time will come when those children on the manipulation of the woman will love their mother and treat you the father who provided them everything with all your life as nothing. They adviced me to do this if I don't want to suffer at old age.

Its happening to me as the first child in the family....

safarigirl:
Honestly, this matter get as e be for multiple reasons.

On one hand, your plan is actually solid and reasonable

On the other hand, it's really 80k. If she comot 30k for trust and vacations, then starts removing 1,500-3,000 for small groceries like milk, bread, egg, sugar, flour, butter, how much will be left?

Bear in mind, she will also have to buy things like sanitary pads, soap, body cream and such for her personal hygiene, even though these items may not be regularly bought. If she is into skin care, all those cleansers and moisturisers are another expense, not to talk of making her hair monthly with her own money. If person wan braid with attachment now, at least 6k don comot from your pocket.

I see why she would be wary, but I do not see why she will run away. That's not a very adult thing to do, except she don dey find reason to run since, and this your action just gave her one.

Either way, maybe both of you are not for each other. So, find someone who makes more than 80k/month and then drop your financial plan, because it really is a solid plan.

Nothing like both of u are not meant for each other; this is a clear case of selfishness and entitlement.... what happened to discussion and negotiation??

The vast majority of Nigerian females are looking for a rich man but what does the rich man get in return for sharing his resources with her.....

UyaiIncomparabl:


Franchas, the husband material 100 yards, what do you have to say about this annoying and foolish topic?

lol fine morning Uyali



The guys mentality about marriage based on Nigerian system is flawed.


A man is supposed to take care of his wife and family, and also love her, and it is the responsibility of the wife to submit totally to him in obedience and joy, and I don't think a woman that knows her husband truly cares and takes care of her needs would withhold her own income intentionally unless she has ulterior motive or doesn't love the husband as much he does.



I never wished for my wife to share family expenses with me, my prayer while single was to be rich enough to cater for my wife, family and even extended family without stress.


Spending and giving to people gives me joy, all I pray for is consistent income and God has been faithful.



Happy New Year Asa beekee