franchasng:
His girlfriend must be a No nonsense chick, no time to deliberate or even argue, just japa

With someone like the op ,she must have tolerated enough and this was just the last straw so no need to argue.

wirinet:


They don't bring much to the table? Ok let's analyse this table.
Child bearing - You think bearing children that carries half your DNA and your family name is not bringing much to the table?
If you go for surrogacy and pay women to carry your baby for 9 month and birth them. How much do you think you will pay a surrogate to give you 3 children?

Sex - how much do you think paid sex with a commercial sex worker would cost you? If an all night casts N10k and you have sex an average of twice a week, how much will that cost you at the end of 10 years?

Child care. - if you were to pay a house girl or child care services to take care of your children, how much do you think it will cost you per month?

Cooking - how much will you pay a chef to cook food for you and your children on a monthly basis? I have not even added going to the market.

What about house keeping and washing of cloths?

Fine analysis I love this!

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...


1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?

Oga, you get mind o.. 80k with all these responsibilities? She go just die one day. It's too much.

Ladycewhy:
With someone like the op ,she must have tolerated enough and this was just the last straw so no need to argue.

as in lol.


She fit de Nairaland self de read de comment too

BigBashiru:


That's because she's in her early/mid 20s and still has bargaining power with men (youthful appearance)...

Hehe, some 30something ladies hot pass teen girls, i swear

franchasng:
as in lol.


She fit de Nairaland self de read de comment too

If she is then I am proud of her. This one na devil's deal,op go give better deal to e employees than this one e give e wife to be .

Idamond:

even if it was the other way round the man will still provide more

Don't be so sure.

When I got married, my salary was double my husband's own and we spent according to our capacity. Today he earns more and we are fine.

NL guys need to stop this prejudice towards women. It's becoming a cliché.

Sometimes we should let our minds go beyond the Nairaland community and look at examples from family and friends around us to see women that support their husbands.

But on Nairaland, women have nothing to offer. You guys should be tired of this. You should outgrow it already.

wirinet:


Imagine comparing the standard of living of an 80k earner with a 300k earner.

I am sure the OP's house will have an electric stove, an electric water heater, freezer and air con in every room, the electric bill alone might be over 30k a month. About water, I hope the OP wouod be ok drinking pure water instead of demanding water dispenser.

The thing nor shock you?

Op say make e 80k earning wife come dey fund lifestyle of 300k earner yet people still think the lady is at fault one even said she is a materialistic hoe . Hey God! Shey you are seeing what all this yeye boys are saying ,you are seeing now o !

Ladycewhy:
Lol guy nor be force na ,the lady say she nor want. Make op go type the proposal dey give every lady till e find who go jump at the deal.

See,I will not want a son in-law like the op, that's on God.if she is alone she will make her expenses based on her 80k nor be say you go say make she dey save for vacation abroad with her 80k ,yet there is no guarantee that one day you will not throw her out with nothing but her wrapper on her waist.


If na abroad where there is alimony and child support I will ask her to grab the deal ,but not in Nigeria.

She can use her 80k to take care of herself... I support dat. But if she wants kids and the nan wants too she should drop an amount per child even if na 5k or 10k per month.... it doesn't hv to be a large amount but she has to drop something as it shows "we are in this together" and is evidence of her love for her husband.

wirinet:


They don't bring much to the table? Ok let's analyse this table.
Child bearing - You think bearing children that carries half your DNA and your family name is not bringing much to the table?
If you go for surrogacy and pay women to carry your baby for 9 month and birth them. How much do you think you will pay a surrogate to give you 3 children?

Sex - how much do you think paid sex with a commercial sex worker would cost you? If an all night casts N10k and you have sex an average of twice a week, how much will that cost you at the end of 10 years?

Child care. - if you were to pay a house girl or child care services to take care of your children, how much do you think it will cost you per month?

Cooking - how much will you pay a chef to cook food for you and your children on a monthly basis? I have not even added going to the market.

What about house keeping and washing of cloths?

Lol, so you're indirectly saying that as long as a man has money, he can get all these done. Please, keep in mind that Wizkid, Davido, Timaya, etc are all single fathers that take care of their kids.

enonche85:


Same way 300k is nothing when you remove house rent and other bills.

He never imposed it on her, she had the option of challenging it but she choose to run away instead.

People respond in various ways besides this may be the straw that broke the camel's back since she claimed he had been stingy to her.

She saw it that he was trying to run away from his responsibility.

Kwinesther:
As a single lady, nobody made it compulsory for her to save 20k monthly for vacation and other expenses. And is going on vacation compulsory? Why can't he sit her down so that they can plan those things together? Why excluding her?

But he has done his best for her by offering to take charge of over 70% of the responsibilities. Instead of running, she should have patiently talked things with him and overtime they could reach a conclusion.

BigBashiru:


She can use her 80k to take care of herself... I support dat. But if she wants kids and the nan wants too she should drop an amount per child even if na 5k or 10k per month.... it doesn't hv to be a large amount but she has to drop something as it shows "we are in this together" and is evidence of her love for her husband.

But that's not what is at play here.


See if for nothing make we dey talk truth, I know you boys hate women with all your hearts and that's ok, but you sef check the list na.

The list is tailored according the the ops 300k earning taste ,the wife to be has to struggle to meet up with his taste. And to top it all she wasn't even there ,op just hit her with the list gbam like some CEO giving a job offer to an employee.

Basically she has no benefit being married to a man that earns more than her. She will have to keep up with appearances in that marriage to meet up with the ops 300k circle of friends and lifestyle.

Biggie2000:

Lol, so you're indirectly saying that as long as a man has money, he can get all these done. Please, keep in mind that Wizkid, Davido, Timaya, etc are all single fathers that take care of their kids.

We are talking about what a wife brings to the table and you are talking about Wizkid, Davido, Timaya.

Ok ask Wizkid, Davido and Timaya how much they pay for child care, sex and food. You can then use the figure to extrapolate what a wife brings to the table.

Make I dey learn sha

wirinet:

We are talking about what a wife brings to the table and you are talking about Wizkid, Davido, Timaya.

Ok ask Wizkid, Davido and Timaya how much they pay for child care, sex and food. You can then use the figure to extrapolate what a wife brings to the table .

This conversation is one they won't want to have

This is a good plan... and It shows that she doesn't have anything to offer in the first place...
She just opened your eyes...

You want her to finish her 80k before you will rest i guess.

BigBashiru:


1. In the days of our fathers and forefathers, women go to primary, secondary school and college.... by the time she is in college she is already married....the contract was clear.... men provide and women sit at home and care.... the economy allowed it... men were largely hunter gatherers and farmers or white collar workers or tradesmen.

2. Today women go to university. People go to university to earn degrees which they use to support themselves. By going to university, the contract has been rewritten. Its expected that a graduate will be able to support herself (not contribute to the house - these are 2 different things....she should be able to take care of herself).

3. While in university and nysc she has multiple boyfriends and flings (on husband time) - many remove their wombs or complicate from abortions etc! thereby rewriting the contract again... because of this, what neutralises not being a virgin, having high body count with boyfriends is that she uses her own money to care for herself 100%. The man uses his own to care for himself....many husbands don't know where their child birth issues is coming from and its unfair.

4. Abroad because of the way the economy is structured no guy provides 100% there and women there contribute significantly.

5. Present day women wants the benefits without the responsibilities.... dont forget she got married at 29. What benefit does the man get for providing 100% for a woman?? What does she bring to the table? Folks are just bound and shackled by religious dogma. The bible that said a man should provide still has the conditions of the provision laid out based on the old marriage contract.
I can go on but these are the main points.

Naturally some Men want their wife to be full time house wife and that doesn't make you who want a career woman better off, vice versa.

You don't dictate to women what to do inorder to contribute to the upkeep of the family. You as the man should be responsible enough in footing the house upkeep and watch how things goes. Even in developed world, women aren't compelled or dictated to contribute in the house upkeep. I'm not a religious person but it is the responsibility of men to toiled around to provide for the family while women ensure the home is peaceful. Women sacrifice/risk their during pregnancy and childbirth for the child/ren that would end up bearing your surname and you are here asking what benefit do men derived in marrying their wives.

Those women you claimed they must have had multiple body count with series of abortion. Please who are responsible for all that? Do they slept with themselves or someone was responsible?

You asked what benefits would a man get marrying a woman or something? The last time i checked women don't begged men to come marry them. Even as corrupt as the world is today. Most men run after women for marriage. Having known that they got no benefit in marrying them. Why initiating that? Why running after them? Why not remain single? You could adopt as a young man provided you could get domestic staff to help in the chores

I'm a man like you, but probably differ in age and experience. The responsibility bestowed on women in raising a family isn't easy sir. Women does a whole lot from pregnancy, child birth, nurturing the child amidst sleepless night, cleaning, washing, doing the laundry and many more. How many men of this generation support their wives in house chores please be honest with yourself? Some men even sees it as a taboo or crime entering the kitchen to cook. Some Men don't even know how to boil water. Whereas, every average Nigerian lady are nurtured to be responsible in raising a family. Show me a lady who doesn't know how to cook nor do house chores let me show you millions of men who doesn't know how to lift their fingers. You men of this generation assume money is just everything. No sir! Some men are craving for women who would help them build their home

Some Men are craving for women who would give them peace. Some Men are craving for women who would be faithful, loyal and committed to them

Stop looking for women who would help you share your responsibility as a man. Would you help her carry her pregnancy? Do you mind sacrificing or risking your life for a child who would bear another person's surname? Would you share the house chores with her completely?

See provided you married someone who's working or ready to work or doing business. You need not dictating to her what to bring to the house. It doesn't sound well seriously. It makes you less of a man. Trust me she'd do that provided you are responsible enough. Would you also tell her to contribute in paying her bride price and other marital rite?

Imagine Op telling her to contribute for their vacation. Na by force be vacation? You aren't capable of taking your family out for vacation yet, why not get that?

It is well o

bigpicture001:


Thanks man.. heard from her friend that sh said am too stingy,.

Honestly I didn't make her spend up to 50k from her wage.. 300k is not big and can be exhausted soon..

The weight will be too much if I form the normal Nigerian guy who likes to carry load on their head

Bro I will tell you the truth, You have suggested she spends about 75% of her salary while yours is around 40% of your salary.
You have not done well in this regard frankly speaking. You need to approach this with diplomacy even if you want equity.. Equity makes is even when you apply a fixed percentage on both ur salaries. You could lose out on a very good girl based on this list, from what I read, u gave her a list to choose from. Ask her to draw a list of what she's comfortable with and if u see she wants to be too conservative about her funds( which every woman does anyway), you both talk it out

wirinet:

We are talking about what a wife brings to the table and you are talking about Wizkid, Davido, Timaya.

Ok ask Wizkid, Davido and Timaya how much they pay for child care, sex and food. You can then use the figure to extrapolate what a wife brings to the table.

Lmao. Is it not some millions of naira they pay? Is it not money you are still talking about?

Mariangeles:


Let's just agree that you're not yet ready to marry.

Let's just agree women only want money. That's why they marry. To collect money.

Ladycewhy:
This conversation is one they won't want to have

Who told you they don't want to have such conversation? Are they complaining about the money? How much is the money? Let's say they drop 2 million naira for child support every month, how much is 2M to them? Is it not the same people that use such money as giveaway to their fans?
Cc Lesbianboy, abeg come and see this lady o

Biggie2000:

Who told you they don't want to have such conversation? Are they complaining about the money? How much is the money? Let's say they drop 2 million naira for child support every month, how much is 2M to them? Is it not the same people that use such money as giveaway to their fans?
Cc Lesbianboy, abeg come and see this lady o

I meant the misogynistic nitwits asking what a wife brings to the table.

NigeriaIsGreat:
Naturally some Men want their wife to be full time house wife and that doesn't make you who want a career woman better off, vice versa.

You don't dictate to women what to do inorder to contribute to the upkeep of the family. You as the man should be responsible enough in footing the house upkeep and watch how things goes. Even in developed world, women aren't compelled or dictated to contribute in the house upkeep. I'm not a religious person but it is the responsibility of men to toiled around to provide for the family while women ensure the home is peaceful. Women sacrifice/risk their during pregnancy and childbirth for the child/ren that would end up bearing your surname and you are here asking what benefit do men derived in marrying their wives.

Those women you claimed they must have had multiple body count with series of abortion. Please who are responsible for all that? Do they slept with themselves or someone was responsible?

You asked what benefits would a man get marrying a woman or something? The last time i checked women don't begged men to come marry them. Even as corrupt as the world is today. Most men run after women for marriage. Having known that they got no benefit in marrying them. Why initiating that? Why running after them? Why not remain single? You could adopt as a young man provided you could get domestic staff to help in the chores

I'm a man like you, but probably differ in age and experience. The responsibility bestowed on women in raising a family isn't easy sir. Women does a whole lot from pregnancy, child birth, nurturing the child amidst sleepless night, cleaning, washing, doing the laundry and many more. How many men of this generation support their wives in house chores please be honest with yourself? Some men even sees it as a taboo or crime entering the kitchen to cook. Some Men don't even know how to boil water. Whereas, every average Nigerian lady are nurtured to be responsible in raising a family. Show me a lady who doesn't know how to cook nor do house chores let me show you millions of men who doesn't know how to lift their fingers. You men of this generation assume money is just everything. No sir! Some men are craving for women who would help them build their home

Some Men are craving for women who would give them peace. Some Men are craving for women who would be faithful, loyal and committed to them

Stop looking for women who would help you share your responsibility as a man. Would you help her carry her pregnancy? Do you mind sacrificing or risking your life for a child who would bear another person's surname? Would you share the house chores with her completely?

See provided you married someone who's working or ready to work or doing business. You need not dictating to her what to bring to the house. It doesn't sound well seriously. It makes you less of a man. Trust me she'd do that provided you are responsible enough. Would you also tell her to contribute in paying her bride price and other marital rite?

Imagine Op telling her to contribute for their vacation. Na by force be vacation? You aren't capable of taking your family out for vacation yet, why not get that?

It is well o

Women beg rich men and real men for marriage

Ladycewhy:
I meant the misogynistic nitwits asking what a wife brings to the table.

So asking a lady what she brings to the table is misogynistic? Interesting!

I blame yahoo boys and all these money miss road guys who made their money illegally.

If a man suffered to make his money he won't want to waste it on one olosho

NigeriaIsGreat:
Naturally some Men want their wife to be full time house wife and that doesn't make you who want a career woman better off, vice versa.

You don't dictate to women what to do inorder to contribute to the upkeep of the family. You as the man should be responsible enough in footing the house upkeep and watch how things goes. Even in developed world, women aren't compelled or dictated to contribute in the house upkeep. I'm not a religious person but it is the responsibility of men to toiled around to provide for the family while women ensure the home is peaceful. Women sacrifice/risk their during pregnancy and childbirth for the child/ren that would end up bearing your surname and you are here asking what benefit do men derived in marrying their wives.

Those women you claimed they must have had multiple body count with series of abortion. Please who are responsible for all that? Do they slept with themselves or someone was responsible?

You asked what benefits would a man get marrying a woman or something? The last time i checked women don't begged men to come marry them. Even as corrupt as the world is today. Most men run after women for marriage. Having known that they got no benefit in marrying them. Why initiating that? Why running after them? Why not remain single? You could adopt as a young man provided you could get domestic staff to help in the chores

I'm a man like you, but probably differ in age and experience. The responsibility bestowed on women in raising a family isn't easy sir. Women does a whole lot from pregnancy, child birth, nurturing the child amidst sleepless night, cleaning, washing, doing the laundry and many more. How many men of this generation support their wives in house chores please be honest with yourself? Some men even sees it as a taboo or crime entering the kitchen to cook. Some Men don't even know how to boil water. Whereas, every average Nigerian lady are nurtured to be responsible in raising a family. Show me a lady who doesn't know how to cook nor do house chores let me show you millions of men who doesn't know how to lift their fingers. You men of this generation assume money is just everything. No sir! Some men are craving for women who would help them build their home

Some Men are craving for women who would give them peace. Some Men are craving for women who would be faithful, loyal and committed to them

Stop looking for women who would help you share your responsibility as a man. Would you help her carry her pregnancy? Do you mind sacrificing or risking your life for a child who would bear another person's surname? Would you share the house chores with her completely?

See provided you married someone who's working or ready to work or doing business. You need not dictating to her what to bring to the house. It doesn't sound well seriously. It makes you less of a man. Trust me she'd do that provided you are responsible enough. Would you also tell her to contribute in paying her bride price and other marital rite?

Imagine Op telling her to contribute for their vacation. Na by force be vacation? You aren't capable of taking your family out for vacation yet, why not get that?

It is well o

There's nothing like "responsibility as a man".... that's based on the old model of marriage...

Every man that marries a woman provides her with shelter and food....

Everything else she wants she should provide for herself....because she is a university graduate and can work....

Jeferious:
God forbid. I will rather go and sojourn in an evil forest than succumb to such "norm". But no cause for alarm because all the girls for this world no fit looseguard their humanity and senses at once. There will still be few " remnants".

baba, the best na 2 stay unmarried, get a baby mama atleast or marry whitie

Ladycewhy:
If she is then I am proud of her. This one na devil's deal,op go give better deal to e employees than this one e give e wife to be .

the guy na confirm pefectionist lol



This one go plan death join

LesbianBoy:


So asking a lady what she brings to the table is misogynistic? Interesting!

I blame yahoo boys and all these money miss road guys who made their money illegally.

If a man suffered to make his money he won't want to waste it on one olosho

But the comment I made was regarding how much the likes of Davido Timaya and co pay for child support ,sex and food as to draw an insight of what a wife brings to the table.


As it's stands now na aproko work you dey for here cos person mention you and you just dump dey misyarn.

Ladycewhy:
I meant the misogynistic nitwits asking what a wife brings to the table.

OK, although I don't support misogyny and misandry, but permit me to ask this question:
let's say I'm able to pay for a surrogate to birth my child, I pay for someone to cook, I pay for someone to clean the house; what then will I need a wife for? What extraordinary thing will she bring to the table?
NB: I'm not asking this question in a quarrelsome manner, but simply to have a logical conversation.

franchasng:
the guy na confirm pefectionist lol



This one go plan death join

lol.

E nor go reach am do. Op na silent pain e go dey give who follow am dey house. People like op na on egg shells you go constantly dey walk around dem cos them dey always reason one kind.