Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking.

I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she has done to my mother.

I am the only child of my mother. I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes, bp and high cholesterol. She is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar.

She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.

I have a house help who prepares all her meals with less salt and she also makes sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was fine, my mother is not a troublesome person, she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.

On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will be back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that her foods is less salty and medicines on time.

Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility. It is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.

She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I thought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.

So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.

I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama, she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.

I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother's bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.

Actually my mother was poisoned with salt and guess who did it? My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother, she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lovers, especially my wife, she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.

I confronted her, she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.

I am hurt that my wife doesnt love my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.

It pains me a lot when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital, she is her only daughter amongst three boys.

I used to visit them everyday after work, I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands, I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.

But see how she has repaid me by hurting my own mother.

She has apologised to me and to my mother, I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.

Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids, I am at my cousin brother's house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she needs more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.

I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.

What other advice would you give me on this situation? What are your thoughts? Thank you for reading all I love this community.

Previous thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6919425/wife-poisoned-mother-salt


Update on January 2

Theonlysonofher:
Unfortunately my sweet mother left us

May her soul rest in peace.

Just know that death comes when it comes.
It's not necessarily as a result of the salt intake that she died.

Once again, accept my condolences

My simple advise to men, any woman Dt does not like your mother but pampers her own mother is not worthy of You...

The Op wife wud have taken care of her own mother if she was in such situation but neglected and didn't care abt the Op's mother... Maybe she never even wanted a mother in law at first, she hates the idea of a mother in law and she probably got the opportunity to eliminate her....

Many of you will say it cud be unintentional but my question is, wud she have treated her own mom in such condition? Now, the Op's mother is dead.

Pls counter me with something reason

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Nabanga

https://www.nairaland.com/6881786/why-some-married-women-selfish

EkehPraise:
May her soul rest in peace.

Just know that death comes when it comes.
It's not necessarily as a result of the salt intake that she died.

Once again, accept my condolences

.. Sorry to say, so death came only when his wife was in charge of his mother food and the doctor complained abt the too much salt in the woman's food abi

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PLEASE READ THROUGH THIS THREAD AND SEE HOW MAMY MARRIED MEN ARE COMPLAINING OF FACING SAME ISSUE

https://www.nairaland.com/6881786/why-some-married-women-selfish

Timekeeper:
I think there is a evil that reside in a lady once she gets married... As in, some married women are so selfish and wicked... S

Let me give these instances;

1. Their own brothers and sisters come to her husband home and there is no issue.. He/she (wife siblings) has unrestricted access to everything in the house since it's her sister's husband house.. But when the husband siblings come, they have restricted access to some things in the house.. Any attempt to go futher, the wife start bringing up attitude towards them..

2. The wife mother comes and she is free to stay as long as she wants but if the husband mother comes, the selfish wife is already asking the husband when will mama leave for her place....

3. The husband sends money to her family, no problem, the husband sends to his family, then there is need for him to be accountable for the money sent to his own parents oooo..

4. Husband sponsors wife siblings to school and all is fine.. Husband sponsors his own siblings and the wife develops hatred automatically towards the sibling bcox she thinks they are draining her husband resources..


Some married women are wicked soul in disguise. Bad enough, you wunt see these attitudes in them until they are married.

I still wonder and ask; why are some married woman so selfish and demonic in nature?

Brother,
Let me tell you something


Eating two meal of salt, the regular amount you and your family eat is not enough to kill your mum

Yes, excess salt can lead to increase body fluid of which I believe your mum is on her medications one of which is usually a diuretic that removes the excess fluid.

She has Hypertension, Diabetes and high Cholesterol, these combine are lethal. for her to have seizures, she likely have Stroke maybe hemorrhagic type. severe hemorrhagic stroke could lead to coma and from there death.

If you had done a CT or MRI scan of the brain the managing physician would have seen the cause of her death instead of blaming it on meal of salt.

please let peace rain in your family, dont let ignorance and misinformation make you lose your mother and your family.

May her soul rest in peace.

My professional though though.

daintyprincess:
I'm not sure what your wife did was deliberate.

It's really not easy taking care of people with special diet, I have been there (no carb, salt and Maggi) and know how it is. Mine stuck with me cause the doctor repeats the warning, every morning and evening when he comes for vitals check.

By the time this same person I catered for was in someone else's care, I had to sing it to her and it was always strange to her to the extent that we do argue. Even with that, she's yet to come to terms with it and will add little salt to his food sometimes.

As for giving her the food more than twice like the doctor said, remember you said your wife is a salt lover. She probably served her just twice but cause of how sparingly she uses salt, the doctor feels it was way more than just twice.

Forgive her and for the remaining days, she'll cater for her, follow up and remind her of your mum's dietary needs.

You see women, always defending their wrong and evil act done by their fellow species...

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DenreleDave:


You see women, always defending their wrong and evil act done by their fellow species...

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na useless gender na...no b today!

May her soul Rest in peace... You better divorce before the death rich you!

I still reiterate, wud the lady have treated her own mother like that?

It's not like she “poisoned” your mother. You transferred her wife roles to your house help and your wife became a stranger to the kitchen.


Second, you think it is easy to carter for sb with a unique diet? Even my cousin who is diabetic forgets honey and sometimes uses sugar! Caring for another adult is no easy task! And I don't think the salt quantity intake your family consume can be the cause of the upheaval.

When they say don't take this, it doesn't mean when you do you die. It means it may increase the side effects sometimes. Just saying so you know.

What if your kids bought sth for mama? Would you hate them this much or is it because it's your wife...and the societal stigma on women aligns with your thoughts? What if it was sth else?


We should approve the habit of not selling blames when we lose our loved ones in death to avoid creating that scar in our heart. Sometimes, the person we are blaming really cared and did their best.


Sorry for your loss.

uthlaw:
na useless gender na...no b today!

Shebi na dat useless gender carry you for belle for 9 months con born useless pikin like you abi na man shit you out?

chatinent:
It's not like she “poisoned” your mother. You transferred her wife roles to your house help and your wife became a stranger to the kitchen.


Second, you think it is easy to carter for sb with a unique diet? Even my cousin who is diabetic forgets honey and sometimes uses sugar! Caring for another adult is no easy task! And I don't think the salt quantity intake your family consume can be the cause of the upheaval.

When they say don't take this, it doesn't mean when you do you die. It means it may increase the side effects sometimes. Just saying so you know.

What if your kids bought sth for mama? Would you hate them this much or is it because it's your wife...and the societal stigma on women aligns with your thoughts? What if it was sth else?


We should approve the habit of not selling blames when we lose our loved ones in death to avoid creating that scar in our heart. Sometimes, the person we are blaming really cared and did their best.


Sorry for your loss.

The only reasonable comment.

Sorry for your lost bro, i lost my mum at early age and I just lost my dad last year so I know how exactly u feel, am so sorry for your lost, just know that you will be alright las las

R.I.P mum

Your wife finally killed your mother


Divorce is bound! Waking up beside the woman that killed your mother

Just be patient and wait for her own mother, father, sisters or brothers to visit too. Look for a rare expensive poison and keep before then.

Sorry OP,

Mehn... truth be told, if you want something to be well done, do it yourself... just like someone above me has said its not even easy for a sick person themselves to keep to routine lifestyle , When my Mum was still alive and sick I did all in my power to stick to her routine because I want it to be done right, If I remember the late night wakes to keep to routine or even the diets very stressful to keep up to I weep that after all she still died and see me wey do everything possible come dey blame myself. such is life, your wife messed up but it was not entirely her fault nature called. If you want to blame someone maybe you can blamed who your worship that's if you get the mind , for me the pain that comes in losing such irreparable lives should have been averted by the one above who says he loves us more.

DenreleDave:
.. Sorry to say, so death came only when his wife was in charge of his mother food and the doctor complained abt the too much salt in the woman's food abi

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If the OP have chosen to end his marriage to the wife, it is his choice but Mr Denrele why carrying another man's family issue on your head like gala by creating a thread about it and coming up with the angle of attempted murder, can you defend that in a court of law with toxicology and neurological reports that the woman killed the mother-in-law?

Are you in possession of the autopsy report?

uthlaw:
na useless gender na...no b today!

But you have this gender plenty for your family o are they all useless?

Your wife apologized.
Don't let this bring trouble to your home.

Believe me everything is fate

greenie77:


If the OP have chosen to end his marriage to the wife, it is his choice but mr Denrele why carrying another man's family issue on your head like gala by creating a thread about and coming up with the angle of attempted murder, can you defend that in a court of law with toxicology and neurological reports that the woman killed the mother-in-law?

U seemed to av supported the wife on this....

I am carrying this matter on my head bcox the way you ladies wish death for ur mother in law is appalling....

Hate me all u want but I will tell u my mind.. ...

Seen so many ladies wishing death to their husband to be mother in law for real...

Yes I carry am ontop my head bcox I am a man and I am advising my fellow men... I know u r a lady and ur species love Defending urselves even though it was wrong... Una no dey accept any wrongdoing

jaeyking:
Your wife apologized.
Don't let this bring trouble to your home.

Believe me everything is fate

This is a lesson to all men...... Any woman Dt doesn't like your mother is not the woman u shud marry

She's a wicked woman, you don't threat an elderly person bad, not to talk of your mother in-law, she just succeeded in ruining her life and this single act can affect her children's future.May we be guided so that our actions won't bring us misfortune. I still wonder why most women have problems with their motherinlaws

HacheNoire:
Your wife finally killed your mother


Divorce is bound! Waking up beside the woman that killed your mother

Just be patient and wait for her own mother, father, sisters or brothers to visit too. Look for a rare expensive poison and keep before then.

.. Sorry, I didn't create the thread for revenge......

I am only concerned abt the evil wished ladies have for their husband or husband to be mothers.........

I am in no way supporting the Op to do what u r saying.

My Point: wud the op mother treat her own mum in such condition like Dt?

DenreleDave:


Previous thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6919425/wife-poisoned-mother-salt


Update on January 2

It wasnt the few Salt diet that killed your mother.. any doctor that told you that is just ignorant...

greenie77:
So you want people to tell you to divorce her? If you think ending your marriage based on the advice that would soon flood here once it
hits front page, just know that those who advised such will not be sharing the aftermath with you nor will they be linking you to their own sisters who can do no wrong to marry.

You have not forgiven her as you claim, reason you created this thread. She has apologized to you and your mother, go back home and sort things out and more care applied in caring for your mum.

I don't expect you to say sumtin reason.. After all this is all what u cud say after he mother died.........

Why do u ladies love to avoid telling each other the truth?

U ladies even gather ur frnds and plan evil against ur mother in law... These mothers raised us B4 u cud even meet us or think of getting married to us

You care so much for ur mother but hate ur mother in law and want them dead...


Some ladies are evil and I wunt be surprised if u r part of them..


If any lady try any useless hatred against my mother, she will feel the heat...

Coldplay007:


It wasnt the few Salt diet that killed your mother.. any doctor that told you that is just ignorant...

.. Not my mom..

The doctor's report is nonsense right? And this issue happened only when the house maid travelled àbí...


U see ladies, they will take everything to defend their wrongs

DenreleDave:


U seemed to av supported the wife on this....

I am carrying this matter on my head bcox the way you ladies wish death for ur mother in law is appalling....

Hate me all u want but I will tell u my mind.. ...

Seen so many ladies wishing death to their husband to be mother in law for real...

Yes I carry am ontop my head bcox I am a man and I am advising my fellow men... I know u r a lady and ur species love Defending urselves even though it was wrong... Una no dey accept any wrongdoing

"Hating you' in no way increases my income because it a waste of emotion.

I asked you if you can legally defend your attempted murder angle and you go "U seemed to av supported the wife on this...."


You do not need to work in a health care setting to know that a detailed report from a licensed Pathologist is required to establish an irrefutable cause of death in a clinical setting.

greenie77:


You do not need to work in a health care setting to know that a detailed report from a licensed Pathologist is required to establish an irrefutable cause of death in a clinical setting.

The hatred and war against mother in law also need clinical settings right?

I wud nt be so concerned if I have not witness where ladies wish their mother in law death....


So annoying.. How cud a being wish of death to her husband or husband to be mother

DEXTROVERT:
Brother,
Let me tell you something


Eating two meal of salt, the regular amount you and your family eat is not enough to kill your mum

Yes, excess salt can lead to increase body fluid of which I believe your mum is on her medications one of which is usually a diuretic that removes the excess fluid.

She has Hypertension, Diabetes and high Cholesterol, these combine are lethal. for her to have seizures, she likely have Stroke maybe hemorrhagic type. severe hemorrhagic stroke could lead to coma and from there death.

If you had done a CT or MRI scan of the brain the managing physician would have seen the cause of her death instead of blaming it on meal of salt.

please let peace rain in your family, dont let ignorance and misinformation make you lose your mother and your family.

May her soul rest in peace.

My professional though though.

I understand you but are you saying the doctor's report was wrong

This is what a Redpiller is talking about..... Accept no bullshit from that gender and know peace

Too bad

DenreleDave:


I don't expect you to say sumtin reason.. After all this is all what u cud say after he mother died.........

Why do u ladies love to avoid telling each other the truth?

U ladies even gather ur frnds and plan evil against ur mother in law... These mothers raised us B4 u cud even meet us or think of getting married to us

You care so much for ur mother but hate ur mother in law and want them dead...


Some ladies are evil and I wunt be surprised if u r part of them..


If any lady try any useless hatred against my mother, she will feel the heat...

I still stand by what I posted there and was even the first person to noticed in the subsequent pages that he posted about his mother's demise.

Divorcing the wife, if he wants to should be based on irrefutable autopsy report that it was the salt that killed his mother, not just because the doctor said so. Why do think autopsy is been requested even when a doctor wrote he was treating a patient of so and so ailments before he/she died?

Do you know some doctors have lost their medical license because of mismanagement of patients revealed by autopsy reports?

He is free to end his marriage, it is not as if the wife is my sister and I have vested interest in what goes in their marriage.

Evil is non gender specific, it resides in the hearts of men and women who have given residence to it

Everyone was raised by their mothers (except those who never knew their mothers or lost theirs when they were kids) before their husband or wife met them. Marry a man/woman who accepts your family wholeheartedly and your family also accepts wholeheartedly, it benefits all.

DenreleDave:


I understand you but are you saying the doctor's report was wrong

A doctor's report can be wrong especially when covering up mismanagement of cases. If Nigerians follow up medical cases,you will realize some doctors are not fit to practice but preying on the ignorance of their patients and relatives.