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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by FERNANDEZISBACK: 2:08pm On Jan 10, 2022
Nicepoker:
my mum will surely run mad.. and so shall it be .... grin

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Mercury12(m): 2:09pm On Jan 10, 2022
Everyday New wahala...

GenderMix your daughter has developed something called Electra complex

But not to worry. It can be manage. .Simply do your research and follow directives to manage the situation till she turn adult.
Goodluck

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by daddytime(m): 2:19pm On Jan 10, 2022
lucro:


Me like your post very much.

A bit curious though at response 1. Age 3?

I have a 2 year old that is fast becoming my very own "follow-come charger". Likes to be everywhere with me. I thought it was already late introducing him to his own bedroom. Seeing your post suggests age 3 may just be the right time to do this. Is that correct, or I should start now?

I'd suggest you start now sir...the earlier the better.

You know wetin our people talk about fish wey dem bend smoke...to stretch am back straight na war...

Catch them young.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by lucro: 2:20pm On Jan 10, 2022
daddytime:


I'd suggest you start now sir...the earlier the better.

You know wetin our people talk about fish wey dem bend smoke...to stretch am back straight na war...

Catch them young.

Thanks.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by waistbead: 2:29pm On Jan 10, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:

Joking what?do you want to throw her away?
How una take dey reason sef..? undecided

Okay oo! When you/hubby are making out (that's if you're married undecided) let your children watch/observe make them hold flashlight join undecided.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Nobody: 4:10pm On Jan 10, 2022
Mariangeles:


Iyaebe! lipsrsealed
Mariangeles I don't have anything to do with that Monika, Kriss216 started that mess of associating me with that Monika.I've never operated more than one Monika at a time, I'd rather deactivate and come with a new one.Happy new year and ignore that rude comment please.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by uchenadu(m): 5:06pm On Jan 10, 2022
[quote author=proff010 post=109237655]You can go to her room whenever you want to have sex , she is already used to your bed let her be, when she's mature enough she will adapt to sleeping alone.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Kriss216: 5:19pm On Jan 10, 2022
Iyaebe:
Mariangeles I don't have anything to do with that Monika, Kriss216 started that mess of associating me with that Monika.I've never operated more than one Monika at a time, I'd rather deactivate and come with a new one.Happy new year and ignore that rude comment please.
Don't you ever mention me in your madness, you this gbola wannabe!

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Mariangeles(f): 5:35pm On Jan 10, 2022
Iyaebe:
Mariangeles I don't have anything to do with that Monika, Kriss216 started that mess of associating me with that Monika.I've never operated more than one Monika at a time, I'd rather deactivate and come with a new one.Happy new year and ignore that rude comment please.

Of course, she's not you dear. cheesy
Happy new year.

Kriss216, kpachara onwe gi anya nwata a!
Mgbe obula, nani gi. cheesy
Haa Iyaebe! Hapu ya!

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Kriss216: 5:39pm On Jan 10, 2022
Mariangeles:


Of course, she's not you dear. cheesy
Happy new year.

Kriss216, kpachara onwe gi anya nwata a!
Mgbe obula, nani gi. cheesy
Haa Iyaebe! Hapu ya!
Profile obula wu fernandez, mara na owu agadi nwaanyi ahu wu Iyaebe. Ekwela ka o-na e deceive gi. Inugo?

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by debbydams(f): 7:43pm On Jan 10, 2022
RedMac:
[s]She wants to learn... Don't be a stumbling block... grin grin[/s]

Anyway... Na better beating go correct any error... Our fathers and mother's no teach us any other way to correct pikin pass flogging

By the time u flog her better flog she go understand... Say she get her own room
heheheheh
Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by debbydams(f): 7:49pm On Jan 10, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:
Let her watch and observe..she is an innocent kid who has no idea whatsoever what you guys are doing..

Let her be comfortable around you guys when intimate... nothing wrong with it...
haaa..that's not a good idea, I have a kid of 4years and he grabs everything I do in his presence

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by FERNANDEZISBACK: 7:51pm On Jan 10, 2022
debbydams:
haaa..that's not a good idea, I have a kid of 4years and he grabs everything I do in his presence
Really? well we are all different..I never saw it as an issue with mine.. cheesy
Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by debbydams(f): 7:56pm On Jan 10, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:

Really? well we are all different..I never saw it as an issue with mine.. cheesy
it general, these kids are very sensitive my kid does things I can't imagine..we are in computer age

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by FERNANDEZISBACK: 7:57pm On Jan 10, 2022
debbydams:
it general, these kids are very sensitive my kid does things I can't imagine..we are in computer age
grin this is actually true..
Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by omobacyprus(m): 8:00pm On Jan 10, 2022
Decorate her room with those Barbie decors, toys and things kids like with time she’ll feel more comfortable sleeping in her room than yours

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Hilariousfacto: 8:12pm On Jan 10, 2022
Dey there dey form official best dad....I made this kind of mistake with my 3yrs old son when he was just about one year, the rate at which he caught up with everything really amazed me....I had to enforce him sleeping in separate room immediately.... Same with my last baby girl, she's also now used to sleeping separately....all these didn't come easily, nah with thorough beating self...you will be glad you did later.... I ain't gat no time for shit...I can't turn my kids to nympho at an early age all in the name of best dad....I've seen kids at under age three trying to engage in sex....in fact a tenant had to move out of our house cos her girl child was already on the high at age three....bros.....use force bfr things go out of your control

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Pacesetter2021: 8:30pm On Jan 10, 2022
Most girls are very very protective of their father. I have seen your situation play out before.

Yes, you would have helped her get use to her room way before now.

If you are hoping she will grow up and start using that room, I am sorry it won't happen. Even when she is 7.

What I will advise is that during bed time, take her to her room, do what ever routine, story telling, or song singing or cartoon watching then lay with her and tell her to sleep. Act like you are sleeping with her. When she sleep, get up and leave. If she wake up and cry again, take her back to the room, lie with her till she sleeps again.

Continue till she forgets what it's like to sleep on your bed. This may take up to a year but better now than later cos the more you delay the harder it will be.

Please she should not mistakenly see you both doing that pls before she will climb her class mate in school. Abeg, for the sake of her innocent class mates. Thanks

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by ozonechrome: 1:18am On Jan 11, 2022
GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.


We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

My daughter started sleeping in her room at age 4.

No argument, or fight but I was firm.

Before that I made her love her room by getting her very beautiful bed, princess bedsheet, nice skylight, princess tent and very beautiful princess painting in her room.

At night I put on her sky light so the room is not too dark and then play some nice bedtime instrumental.

That's how I got her out of my room.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by frozen70(f): 4:51am On Jan 11, 2022
GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.


We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?

Thank you

Daughter's are actually close to dad's same with son's to mum

The jealousy is normal

I think you have to make the sacrifice of sleeping in her room with her till she gets to know that the room belongs to her and her future siblings

As for your good time with your wife, you need to program yourself and when you want to do so, lock the door with key until you are done, even when she wakes up and see that your room is locked she will knock its still better than catching you guys in the act

You can get a hug teddy bear for her to be sleeping with in her room

She is not just comfortable sleeping alone besides it was too late as at the time you want there to start sleeping in her room

Next time start early by sleeping with the child in her room

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Twoclans(f): 5:41am On Jan 11, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:
Let her watch and observe..she is an innocent kid who has no idea whatsoever what you guys are doing..

Let her be comfortable around you guys when intimate... nothing wrong with it...

Haaaaaaaaaa shocked

I hope you are just catching cruise.

@ OP please discount this opinion.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by FERNANDEZISBACK: 5:42am On Jan 11, 2022
Twoclans:


Haaaaaaaaaa shocked

I hope you are just catching cruise.

@ OP please discount this opinion.
Why should he? undecided
Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Nobody: 6:18am On Jan 11, 2022
Mariangeles:


Of course, she's not you dear. cheesy
Happy new year.

Kriss216, kpachara onwe gi anya nwata a!
Mgbe obula, nani gi. cheesy
Haa Iyaebe! Hapu ya!
There are so many wannabe Zzor now on this forum with different Monika's,they are the same people that created so many Zzor account to tarnish her image when she deactivated, watch out and don't be deceived.
Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by lucro: 8:42am On Jan 11, 2022
Hilariousfacto:
Dey there dey form official best dad....I made this kind of mistake with my 3yrs old son when he was just about one year, the rate at which he caught up with everything really amazed me....I had to enforce him sleeping in separate room immediately.... Same with my last baby girl, she's also now used to sleeping separately....all these didn't come easily, nah with thorough beating self...you will be glad you did later.... I ain't gat no time for shit...I can't turn my kids to nympho at an early age all in the name of best dad....I've seen kids at under age three trying to engage in sex....in fact a tenant had to move out of our house cos her girl child was already on the high at age three....bros.....use force bfr things go out of your control

You are very brave.

Please a question...

With the beating, aren't you scared your kids may become afraid of you and in the process get disconnected into adulthood?

I love my dad dearly but he was not one to spare the rod. Overtime we got closer to our mum (our defender of the Universe back then) while our relationship with our dad became strained.

For almost two years I did not inflict any form of 'corporal punishment' on my 2 year old, but I noticed that he now exhibits some traits that require correction. I, very recently, started 'spanking' the dude, but noticed that he gets 'uncomfortable' around me whenever I am 'not happy' with him. I am a bit uncomfortable with this.

Does that happen in your case, and how do you deal with it? I guess this makes it three questions.

Thanks.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by lereinter(m): 9:59am On Jan 11, 2022
Funny

Sakamaje
Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by ImaIma1(f): 1:54pm On Jan 11, 2022
That is the first rule of sleep with kids. Never allow them sleep on the same bed from when they are babies. Never!

I learnt this and my babies go from the hospital to their own beds. I would take the pain to stand up, pick them up and breastfeed. Because getting them to stop sleeping in your bed is one of the hardest things to do.

Just gradually get her to sleep in her bed. It's not easy to start sleeping alone when you have been sleeping with people from birth.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Naughtysex: 3:58pm On Jan 11, 2022
Barbiturate:
Na wa o! So this is a man's problem!!

People are jobless, homeless, hungry, some don't know where the next meal will come from. There are families of 5 or even 10, who live in just one room.....and your problem is how to make your 4+ years daughter stick to her room, so that you and wife can have sex in peace.

Well, Mr daddytime has answered your question.
That you cry should not turn every other person to a town crier

If you are jobless in the city, go back to your village and try your luck in farming

If you are homeless, locate any of your family members and start sleeping at their door, them go take you in one day

Don't make your problem everybody problem

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by Ranameer: 4:42pm On Jan 11, 2022
Make her room more attractive to her by buying beautiful kids things. Kids bedding with her favorite colors. Make beautiful interior designs for kids room & you will see her been happy to sleep in her room

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by DonroxyII: 2:31am On Jan 12, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:
Let her watch and observe..she is an innocent kid who has no idea whatsoever what you guys are doing..

Let her be comfortable around you guys when intimate... nothing wrong with it...
This seems like a Bad Idea. You don't want your kids to be in the creche and be reported to be sleeping on other people's kids because they practice what they see

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by DonroxyII: 2:37am On Jan 12, 2022
omobacyprus:
Decorate her room with those Barbie decors, toys and things kids like with time she’ll feel more comfortable sleeping in her room than yours
I don't even subscribe to a four years hold sleeping alone. What happens to doing some quickie when she sleep off. If they are two now, of course they can be playing with each other till sleep break them off.

4years old should be sleeping with the parent until a sibling arrive. Then You can decorate their room with Orishirishi and also sleep there as parent and later transfer to una room ..... Kids love to sleep in their play room until they need Parental warmth/coziness then the calling up.

If nature informed them you are fighting(sex), their first inclination is to break you apart grin

Just have a bigger bed or another bed entirely within the room and let business be done Absolute private but when the coast is clear and you have the house to una self, release all your valors on each others and you can all roar like lions as una wish, Na una Sabi but a four year old must be protected. If she has Hiccups in the Middle of the night requires urgent attention while both of You has slept off from banging each other silly.

What kinda parents are roaming the world today. Four years old having a room to sleep alone because the parent wanna knack ? grin

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by ozonechrome: 2:49am On Jan 12, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:
Let her watch and observe..she is an innocent kid who has no idea whatsoever what you guys are doing..

Let her be comfortable around you guys when intimate... nothing wrong with it...

Please don't ever do this.

Even at 1year old. They can remember stuffs.

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Re: My Daughter Of 4+ Years Would Not Allow Me And Wife Have Sex At Night by FERNANDEZISBACK: 7:12am On Jan 12, 2022
ozonechrome:


Please don't ever do this.

Even at 1year old. They can remember stuffs.
But I did tho.. undecided

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