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12inchess:
I don't know why you brought my father into this. I know you're trying to be rude so I won't pay you any attention. I asked a specific question about you and not your father. This is where the discussion ends for me.

Is he not a Nigerian man? If you can bring in my husband, why can’t I ask about your father? If you ask about mine, I will answer you. He didn’t fck around, let alone with prostitutes.

pocohantas:
Hahhahahaha. Person wey marry Naija man wey never question her sanity, e no reach 27 for this whole country. By the time they are done with you, you go carry big bible and olive oil dey waka about.

typing....

pocohantas:
Is he not a Nigerian man? If you can bring in my husband, why can’t I ask about your father? If you ask about mine, I will answer you. He didn’t fck around, let alone with prostitutes.

"Didnt" or "does not". Let be very clear here

There is a powerful God who answers prayer.
Call on Him.

12inchess:
"Didnt" or "does not". Let be very clear here

I know him as far as I was living with them.

I thought you said you are going?

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.



We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Sis, I pray you see this. Your husband has a thing for weird sex. He is a sex adventurist. You mentioned Anal sex and the likes. The truth is, you can't keep him if you are not as sexually weird as him.

His sexual fantasies needs to be matched....

If you are willing and if you don't see it as unholy, ask him for an honest discussion. Ask him why he does have sex with other ladies. Ask for his sexual fantasies and be his prostitute. Dress seductively when you are both at home. If you've added weight, hit the gym.

I'm in no way supporting him but sexual fantasies, if not matched, would leave much to be desired

pocohantas:
I know him as far as I was living with them.

I thought you said you are going?

i dont care about your parents. In fact I would never talk about my own parents. If you don't have a husband or have never had one t then I have no discussion with you.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

stay strong.

https://gist.am/question/please-help-my-husband-seems-to-be-addicted-to-prostitutes

12inchess:
i dont care about your parents. In fact I would never talk about my own parents. If you don't have a husband or have never had one t then I have no discussion with you.

Why? Me sef wan know about your mama husband na. Pending when I have one, make we use the husbands on ground for this case study. Mtcheeew. Just open mouth waaa!

odinson1:
The truth is,you are no longer attractive to Him. You are probably Fat and Getting old,or you don't dress seductively Anymore.

I don't condone cheating except one is being denied sex by his partner,then he has all Justification to cheat. Now my question is,do you Deny him sex?




Are you trying to deny the Fact that Women generally "grow wings" when taken to Abroad?

This woman's issue is clearly not a case like that,so don't use it as an excuse to Justify those Ungrateful women

You don't know if the cases of those other women were similar so rest in Jesus name

Trendingbiz042:
So she should care more about what people would say than her peace of mind and happiness. Don’t ever live a life worrying about what people think about you. Live your life as it moves around you. I guess you’re still young and not well exposed to life to have made such comment.

Stop making false assumptions, I was just making a general statement

pocohantas:
Hahhahahaha. Person wey marry Naija man wey never question her sanity, e no reach 27 for this whole country. By the time they are done with you, you go carry big bible and olive oil dey waka about.

....Lol. This your mouth sha.

Only God save your marriage ... Cos this addiction is hard to quit.

Vyolet:
My marital status is non of your business, register your advice if you have any and move on.

K

JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol. This your mouth sha.

Imagine finding out that one’s husband is having anal sex with prostitutes. How do you want this woman to be sleeping well at night?

Thank God my husband is from Cambodia.

This is an addiction even if he promise you with all sincerity, He will still go back to it, I was once addicted to masturbation for years, I tried all my best to quit but wasn't possible with prayers until one day, I didn't know how I quitted the damn stuff and I'm happy I did, secondly, I had alot of flirt before I got married going to 5 years now, I haven't gone out or flirted, though the urge comes sometimes but I wouldn't say it discipline but God's grace keep seeing through it. I will advice you put him in prayers, while you also try to tell him how much you love him and ask to to disconnect him from those things

pocohantas:
Imagine finding out that one’s husband is having anal sex with prostitutes. How do you want this woman to be sleeping well at night?

Thank God my husband is from Cambodia.

....Kikikikiki. No be only Cambodia na Carlifornia

Abeg no make me laugh ooh.
Divorce is her only option

The marriage is already dead to you psychologically.
It's a matter of time his presence will start irritating you.
Take the evidence to court and they will rule in your favour.
You need to be happy and fulfilled in your marriage.

Better man will meet you when you free yourself.

That man need therapy. He is messed up in the brain.

KillIgbohoN0W:
When you were prostituting with him you didn't alert us. Now that he has dumped you for fresher prostitutes, you are complaining.

A man like that definitely married you because of all the porn styles you gave him which you no longer give in marriage.

This is why one must be true to him/herself. If you hoe around while single and attract a man that's about that life then better continue being his hoe in marriage. Any attempt to reset and become "normal" will result in this type of issue.


Be yourself at all times so that even in marriage there'll be no difference with who you attracted.

I hope you realise how dumb you sound with your comment?

I surely know u are not married

Or a sad soul mitcheeeew yeye advice

ShenTeh:
Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.

Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband.
Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.

He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.

Hypocrisy sucks.

pocohantas:
You are being encouraged to marry more wives and suddenly you can sense anger? Nice back stepping. Marry more wives na, if your mind reach. Werey wan fck around without responsibilities. Toor

Life is beautiful only if you know how live in it...more wives or one wife and girlfriend(s)/sidechick(s) does not change the fact.
However, a lady carrying it on her head, will only lead to frustration, which will only make her bitter.

That bitterness may result to unnecessary hatred that may see her insulting and insinuating things that may not even exist.

What many women wish or fight for do not exist.

Live happy and accept the world's reality ��

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

What sort of advice is this now? Haba

@ChiomaCa, I'm not very good with giving advice on relationships but the way you began with "...I got married to a man..." hints there isn't a deep connection to your husband.

pocohantas:
Imagine finding out that one’s husband is having anal sex with prostitutes. How do you want this woman to be sleeping well at night?

Thank God my husband is from Cambodia.

That lady self esteem has hit rock bottom.
Depression and hatred for herself will set in.

And then intense hatred for that man. Marriage is already dead. No preaching will bring that back.

It's manageable he is caught cheating with some other ladies but prostitutes, sighs.
Guy is mentally deranged.

She is abroad, an advantage.

franchasng:
lol


How some men fancy fvcking known escorts or prostitutes beat my imagination.


A side chick is even better, but a prostitute

I can't wrap my mind around that. This man just messed up his family mentally.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

He needs only 3days dry fast and that spirit will leave him.

The more you search your husband phone you will having issue with him

descarado:
That lady self esteem has hit rock bottom.
Depression and hatred for herself will set in.

And then intense hatred for that man. Marriage is already dead. No preaching will bring that back.

It's manageable he is caught cheating with some other ladies but prostitutes, sighs.
Guy is mentally deranged.

She is abroad, an advantage.

Exactly sis! They are here talking of POLYGAMY. This is not polygamy. This man isn’t just cheating, he is out there spending limited family resources on call girls and anal sex. Yet his brothers in arms are acting like it is the norm. Maybe it is among them.

Whoremongering is very addictive. You'll want to fulfill all the fantasies you see on porn.

JONNYSPUTE:
...Smh. I think you lack comprehension.

....SMDH you lack understanding

pocohantas:
Exactly sis! They are here talking of POLYGAMY. This is not polygamy. This man isn’t just cheating, he is out there spending limited family resources on call girls and anal sex. Yet his brothers in arms are acting like it is the norm. Maybe it is among them.

People that don't have a feel of what a real home and family means, what do you expect. They will never understand.

pocohantas:
Don’t be a knucklehead. Did your grandfather practice POLYGAMY by having anal sex with prostitutes? Humpty dumpty!

You still don't want to evolve with this your archaic mindset: always resorting to petty insults.

A surprise though that in year 2022, you still think polygamy is until a man marries three wives and keeps them in an apartment or a house with him.

U no dey give am the styles em like