Raalsalghul:


I don't know why it's easy for men to accept Hypergamy but hard for women to accept Polygamy.

Honestly, there is nothing to accommodate.

Both genders have to accept their natures and L's at the same time and move on.

It is what it is!

While a lady refuses to date a guy because he's not financially at her level, she should also accept the fact that the well to do one she's eyeing, probably dating and hoping for something serious has other prettier and curvy ladies vying for his attention.

The competition too excites her in a way: it is called pre selection.

Even some ladies know this hence the phrase "better to cry in a jeep than a face me I face you".

My only grouse with the husband is that he's not discreet enough about his rendezvous.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

dlox147:


I can sense some level of anger?
No need to get all emotional and personal...

Raalsalghul:


I don't know why it's easy for men to accept Hypergamy but hard for women to accept Polygamy.

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Greenerie:
[This woman has been the one always begging him for sex,doing all to please him,...always initiating sex,it has become so bad that she is now questioning her self worth?


quote author=Naughtysex post=109420166] My advice will base on personal experience
I will ask you some questions (just answer yourself and be sincere to yourself)

Is your sex life (during the marriage) the same like when you guys were dating?

Have you stopped him from doing somethings he use to do and enjoy when you guys were dating during love making?

Sexually, compare how you have been making move for sex during your courtship and now.

To be honest with you ma'am, everything i asked here is what has been happening in my own marriage
I was forced to taste another kpekus outside and i'm beginning to think on how to make that outside kpekus permanent

Please don't get me wrong, all I'm saying is to first evaluate yourself sexually and see if you are the cause of his madness

DrMrsFunmi:
best advice.
all those comments from ShenTeh mariangeles pocohantas are nothing but frustrated, bitter and desperate bitches whose lives had been completely messed up, reason why they masturbate on threads like this to ensure the OP falls under the same misery as them

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

ChiomaCa:


I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do.

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

ShenTeh:


Auntie, you are still asking if this is a red light. No, it is black light.

Now seriously, like most victims, there's a tendency to blame yourself instead of the 'criminal'. Please don't blame yourself. The one who needs help here is your husband.
Stop making him see you as an easy forgiver. He knows you are very weak and are entirely financially dependent on him. Trust me when push gets to shove, his people would believe whatever he says against what you do. Save yourself.

He is an irresponsible man who has no business in marriage. If indeed you are in Canada, file for divorce with the evidence you have.

Hypocrisy sucks.

pocohantas:


Is this about a cheating man or a man on wild sexual escapades? Did your father go about having anal sex with prostitutes? Did your mother leave him?

Something is wrong with your head.

12inchess:

You resorted to insults whereas you never answered the straight questions I asked you. I'm trying to understand where you're coming from but I surely hit a nerve for you to respond with so much anger.

Have a nice life. I'm out.

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

Ybaby:


STOP sleeping with him.... HIV is real

Begin to gather evidence and financial strength

Start billing him left right and center

Make sure to hire maids to clean the house (He pays)

Put your child in the best school money can buy (He pays)

Bill him the going rate for your time in his life ($220) you donot have to tell him you are billing him.

Invest his money in yourself..... when he has nothing to give prostitues he will sit at home.

He has extra that is why he is paying N120,000 for Ashy.

You are his wife : you deserve that money more than those ladies.

When your last child leaves university - divorce him! Such men should be dealt with coldly.

Finally close your legs and if you must open it for him .... he needs to be tested twice in 3 months at the begining and at the end

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

mayowascholar:

I seconded

pocohantas:


How did I insult you? I am also trying to understand the family you came from. Is it your upbringing that made you think all men cheat and Bleep prostitutes?

Please factor in your upbringing and comment accordingly.

StPete:
It's just sex and it's his own addiction. Either help him to fight it or just let him be. As long as he does his bit in his family. You see, to men like that, it's just sex. No feelings attached.

I know many people would reverse the case if it was the woman but women don't just have random sex, it comes with emotions. Even prostitutes catch feelings with their clients. So just let him be. Insist he use a condom with them and just free your mind about how he bleeps around. In his own time, he will stop

12inchess:


Not all men cheat (avoid generalizations) but trust me A LOT do at some point in Nigeria. Come on! Everyone knows this. If most families with cheating husbands broke up, which family will remain complete with husband and wife? I mean, live in denial all you want, but we mostly know the truth about this.

TuFab:
Fear religious people, they're are the biggest hypocrites ever.
Madam just manage the man like that ó because the next man you're going to meet would still cheat or do worse.
Just face your business and kids and ignore his existence.

pocohantas:


I HATE RELIGIOUS NIGERIAN MEN! I do not like them!! They make me want to puke with their hypocrisy. Lord knows I would rather marry an idol worshipper than 98% of Christian Nigerian men. Gosh! The thought of them has spoilt my mood sef.

pocohantas:


So did your father go about having anal sex with prostitutes? Did he spend hundreds of Naira fulfilling his sexual fantasies? Imagine if he brought all this money home, rather than spending it outside.

Or maybe your father is one of the different Nigerian men. As usual…

TuFab:

I think the Christians are still manageable, try a fanatic muslim man and you would either become modern slave or a mental health patient. They're the very worst, sotey they use the quran to justify their acts of wickedness.
Right now, once I see you're too religious, we can't even be friends let alone date.