Laurene:
Dress sexy, workout and mind what you eat.

Yes she should.

Halle Berry didn't dress sexy, she didn't workout and she fed on junk. That's why her ex-husband consistently cheated on her.

Eva Longoria too. Can you imagine she stopped dressing sexy and started feeding on burgers? That's why Tony Parker went on to sleep with other women.

Gabrielle Union nko? When that her basketballer husband made another girl pregnant while they were courting, I'm sure she had stopped working out. She must have pumped her body with starchy foods and let herself go.

Poor men! Innocent, blameless creatures who always want to stay faithful but it's the women who push them to cheat.

Vyolet:
You forgive him easily and cover up his dirty acts all in the name of religion, reason he sees you as a walk over. He may be religious but he doesn’t have the fear of God, reason i don’t care about anyone claiming spiricoco, i only care about what your heart looks like.

Personally, i may never have sex with such person again as my health is more important to me, i will lock him out or move out for my own sanity, then i will file for divorce after i have gathered all evidence, it is better everyone part way.
If you are not financially independent, allow your people know back home, let them rally round and bring you home, everything will seem rough in the beginning but you will be fine in the end with your child.

Do not think you can change the man or his ways, until he gets into trouble, thats how he will continue living his own life.
Take responsibility for your own life.

Take a fellow woman's advise at your own risk. If you know, you know

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Sweet heart I feel your pain

Some Men and cheating can NEVER be separated. I always tell people that a Fornicator will always be an Adulterer. It's in some men's nature. They can NEVER Stop. That's just the reality.

He begs you tomorrow and then goes back to cheating during his lunch breaks at work and off shifts. The circle continues. What next

We that are not yet married, may God save us.

I pray he doesn't end up giving both STI and STD in future.

You just have to choose.

You continue to live with his cheating nature which will leave you miserable for the rest of your life and and might leave you with a terminal disease for life. When u now get sick and die, he quickly marries one of his sweet side chicks.

OR

You Walk Away.

Option 2 takes COURAGE
For this option 2, The question is, do u have what it takes?

StPete:

Even prostitutes catch feelings with their clients.

You don't say.

This kind of addiction is strong. Your husband need a turning point

Mariangeles:


At this point, I think marriage should be banned!
Make everybody dey their dey!

Lmao..you no go like rest small..

He made a clear point...OP should up her game in the bedroom...simple as ABC to at least redirect the man a bit...

Every married woman should be wild with her hubby when it comes the other room likewise the man to his wife...Explore eachother...Mara otu your partner jiri choro ihe oma ya...Gi enye ya..

Ma, go on your kneel and pray to God for your husband, ur family is important to God and the future of the kids too. Ur husband needs prayer.
Addictions are not easy to break like that, those time you people not together cause it sha.

- It doesn't matter if you up your game in the bedroom
- He is not going to stop simply because you caught him
- He is probably a good man

You see, there are somethings that are just difficult to explain.. You cannot even help him, honest truth, and trying to monitor him will irritate him so much. and both of you will be suffering your little child

The best role you can play to make him reduce this is to be a better person, you are honestly not attractive to him at all anymore., it is not about sex, it is not that the people he is sleeping with are better.. But my dear, you have to up your game.

One major thing that will make a man not cheat on you is RESPECT, not love.. He doesn't respect you, the only thing you could probably give him is sex..

You need to make yourself useful, you need to show that your life doesn't revolve around him.. not asking you to give attitude oo. Focus on yourself, so much on yourself.

If you are a lazy person, trust me... nothing will change, he will up his game and you probably will never catch him again. Now remove you eyes from what he is doing and become a woman. I hope you understand..

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Look, leave all these stupid comments here.
Obviously your husband was alone in Canada and formed a dirty habit to relieve his sexual urges. At least appreciate he is not using a side chick. Prostitutes are not really a threat to you compared to a side chick. That's 1.

2. His habit is not a judgement on you or your beauty or how desirable it is. Men are built to be polygamous, do having different prostitutes will become kind of addictive.

3. You can shoot the roof or cry your eyes out, but this is an addictive habit, and your husband cannot stop so easily just cause he is sorry and regrets. Be realistic, its an addiction and requires long term work.

4. Yes, you are right. The guy has no Chemistry for you any more. Might not be your looks or anything. Might just be you sexual behaviour. Maybe he likes freaky. Maybe you have become boring in bed.


Your way forward.
Have an honest conversation about what turns him off sex with you. What he looks forward to in sex, and what you look forward to in sex. And where you too can meet in a middle ground.

Maybe those prostitutes can teach you a few things about his sexual behaviour and preferences that he would not open up about. You can take their contact and pay them to tell you more about him.

Your husband can overcome the addiction if you work with him. If you too can get comfortable enough for him to let you know when you are a turn off. A sex therapist might be good too, even though they cost First is for you guys to be on same page about the goal of overcoming the addiction and be open to each other.

Amanee:


You people are too angry in that country
I was just making a statement of fact, no swallow me abeg. I didn't drop any advice because I doubt op will divorce her husband with the way she's making excuses for him

Lol...no vex. We are really angry. Apc and pdp don frustrate us. We hope to join you over there soon wherever that is...

Dear Op,
Your husband will come to his senses,maybe just not yet.
Let him see everything there is to see out there.
Don't ask him pim.You have informed his relative so if anyone can intervene,let them try.
In the meantime,focus on a means of livelihood for the sake of your kid so that you're not at this man's mercy.
If you fail to fortify yourself financially with all the signs in the air,then it's on you.

I pray you have the strength to do what's best for you before he gives you an incurable disease.

If you have another baby by him,please don't come here to tell us about it.
All the best.

Ki olori o di ori e mu.

This is quite big! I dont comment online often and only reads other people's comment oftentimes though majority does not say reasonable things most times.
Honestly, it may be difficult for your hubby to change though not impossible.
Let me ask a few questions here.
Can u call him a responsible man?
Does he really show genuine concern about issues that affect u? If yes, then thiz is an issue both of u alone can solve.
Since u have caught him and theres no denial, you have to let him know how u feel and being affected. Infact, u can just be moody for a couple of days for him to notice and then tell him hes d one that made u moody.
I wont also rule out the possibility of improving your own bed games. Maybe he likes being erotic or there must be somethin dt turns him on in those ladies. Though u said u aint avoiding him on bed, yet, hes not piking interest cos u dont excite him.
Finally, i suggest u dont report him to anyone again. This is difficult but not impossible....

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

this is not a physical fight. Go spiritual.. Fighting him will cause more harm. Show him love and support then pray. Above all be careful not be infected

Munzy14:

Lmao..you no go like rest small..

He made a clear point...OP should up her game in the bedroom...simple as ABC to at least redirect the man a bit...

Every married woman should be wild with her hubby when it comes the other room likewise the man to his wife...Explore eachother...Mara otu your partner jiri choro ihe oma ya...Gi enye ya..

Owu nani ihe oma?
Some scary sh!t.

One should not marry if marriage will be a threat to their happiness.
I cannot bear to live life always wondering what another person is doing.
I cannot let my happiness be taken away from me.
Not even marriage is worth that.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about it. He's addicted

My dear is prayer that can change your husband, pray ,both fasting, 21 days you will see God will arrest that spirit, every thing have a spirit that control it,don't go for divorce reject that advice,

Lol. Like it is easy to up and be a prostitute . No question of her links and interests herwelf. She should become something she was never and she might never have had an interest all because of an irresponsible man's addiction.

The way you people dish out advice to women. If I wasn't one myself, I would think myself a programmable robot. Please one day, when you realise that your wife likes humiliatiing her partner's. Offer yourself, tell her you will dress like a dog if she wants.

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

pocohantas:


How much exactly do you lots have that they are marrying you for money? You in particular, how much you get? You fit give woman 100k make you no enter dry fast for 3 months. Men wey get money dey find babes to chop am. Na you ekukes wey dey off data for night no go gree person hear word. Shift jare!

See your mouth like 'men wey get money dey find woman wey go chop am". Of course you go chop am but make u dey loyal and make u no block road make other women follow you dey chop the money. Don't expect fidelity from a man who acquired you with his money! That's all

Mariangeles:


Owu nani ihe oma?
Some scary sh!t.

One should not marry if marriage will be a threat to their happiness.
I cannot bear to live life always wondering what another person is doing.
I cannot let my happiness be taken away from me.
Not even marriage is worth that.

Lol...unfortunately marriage is not for everyone...But those who wished to, will surely get to find the one for them....Inside life.

It is a place of sacrifice, if you can't don't go into it o..

I si scary shit..

Noro kwa nga hu...I luta di likiri oral, i ga enye ya hu o...Unless ya agawa outside...

Your cross!

It MIGHT not could

She is under no duty to unearth these fantasies that he didn't discuss with her or become his object of fantasy. I see it as a form of blackmail like it is either she acts as a prostitute and enjoy anal sex to keep her man, remain stick and miserable or leave. None of us know how wild his fantasises run, we don't even know if he likes having multiple prostitutes too. Are we going to ask her to change her name, her hair, her voice every blessed day to satisfy his urges.

Ultimately, he is the one with the power to decide whether he wants to keep his marriage. For that he need to seek help, stick to it and she can choose to support that if that is what she wants as well.

EmmyDJourno:
Madam your husband is going through a Sexual Psychological Disorder

He doesn't want to have sex with you coz you don't satisfy his fantasy

Discuss with him and findout what he prefers sexually, it could even unearth your own sexual desires you never knew existed

Walk this path with him patiently, his recovery would be slow but assured

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..

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You also have what those prostitutes have...

Bring ur anus for pratice.Idiotic things!Why didnt he marry the prostitute?

Jman06:
See your mouth like 'men wey get money dey find woman wey go chop am". Of course you go chop am but make u dey loyal and make u no block road make other women follow you dey chop the money. Don't expect fidelity from a man who acquired you with his money! That's all

Stop speaking on behalf of rich men. I don’t know why you struggling dudes like to convince yourselves rich men cheat because they were married for money. Maybe it is schadenfreude. You guys way of consoling yourselves that all the girls that left your broke ass would meet misfortune in marriage. Please be still…

Ulunne777:


Bring ur anus for pratice.Idiotic things!Why didnt he marry the prostitute?

Lol.

Mariangeles:


Awon oko asewo!

Kowa ihe

Ahu la m oko..local government nwoke..

Asewo..

Ya wu ashawo prik okwaya?

I can see that you said that you a religious, that means you don't dress to attract him, so if you want him not to look outside dress to attract him just change your wardrobe and make your self more than the PROSTITUTE he is going to meet, to be able to get his attention, give him that anal sex that he is looking for and do all the crazy stuff with him, and trust me e will cry like a baby and confess to you, and mind you you said that he is more religious than you, is a pretends he just want you to see what you want to see on the outside, he love doing crazy things so just bring out the real him out of him... That is it.. and good luck.. and mind you check on him if he has contacted any form of disease...

Munzy14:

Lol...unfortunately marriage is not for everyone...But those who wished to, will surely get to find the one for them....Inside life.

Not unfortunately, but fortunately.

It is a place of sacrifice, if you can't don't go into it o..

I agree.

I si scary shit..

Noro kwa nga hu...I luta di likiri oral, i ga enye ya hu o...Unless ya agawa outside...

Gbando gbuo m ooo!!!

Ya gawa ooo!!!

Ya e je a yoooo!!! M'owuru ndi owerre

ChiomaCa

He can pay 380 for prostitutes, He can afford a couple of therapies in a week. Give it a couple of months then do an accountability check. Seek help and priotise your mental health. Figure out the cost of the possibile scenarios including the cost or benefit to yourself as a person and your children'sand make a decision. It isn't your fault your man turned out this way.

Goldbw122:
I can see that you said that you a religious, that means you don't dress to attract him, so if you want him not to look outside dress to attract him just change your wardrobe and make your self more than the PROSTITUTE he is going to meet, to be able to get his attention, give him that anal sex that he is looking for and do all the crazy stuff with him, and trust me e will cry like a baby and confess to you, and mind you you said that he is more religious than you, is a pretends he just want you to see what you want to see on the outside, he love doing crazy things so just bring out the real him out of him... That is it.. and good luck.. and mind you check on him if he has contacted any form of disease...

Don't forget to tell her to change from a black woman to a white woman as well and possibly dye her hair blonde to satisfy her husbands sexual desires. She might need a nose job to look caucasian while she is at it, and possibly take anti-aging drugs to make her look 19 years old.

End of discussion lol

Munzy14:

Kowa ihe

Ahu la m oko..local government nwoke..

Asewo..

Ya wu ashawo prik okwaya?

Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha

Oko wu di, wukwanu local government nwoke.
It's the markings and pronunciation that differentiates them. (Although, I didn't add the markings)

Ihe m dere nga ahu wu awon oko asewo, ihe o putara wu ndi di ndi akwuna.

pocohantas:


Stop speaking on behalf of rich men. I don’t know why you struggling dudes like to convince yourselves rich men cheat because they were married for money. Maybe it is schadenfreude. You guys way of consoling yourselves that all the girls that left your broke ass would meet misfortune in marriage. Please be still…

Hahahaha...keep deceiving yourself! We the rich men know what we want. We want more fresh, young and hot babes! We don't want ugly evening newspapers like @pocohantas!

Your case is a pitiable one as far as this topic is concerned. You are ugly, broke and outdated! I wonder the kind of rich man that would look your way when there are younger, fresher, succulent and hotter girls joining the dating market everyday. We rich men look for girls between 18 and 24yo. Not oldies like you who have aged like milk!

#RichMan'sVibe#