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aboyaji:
This is no disrespect. And I'm in no way asserting my own standard.

Just so I'm clear, so, you'd rather turn a blind eye if you were in my position?

If our only daughter and last born was close by at the time, she'd have fingered him big time. She'd have talked more sense into him. We raise no dumbskull.

Well, I've left them since last year because it was then that it all happened.

This January visit was the last I think I will give them.

Raalsalghul:
Chances are you'll do the same when you get married to your husband too so why complain.

plenitude:
Same leg my younger brother’s girlfriend was bringing... well I talked sense into both of them... now she calm and respectful... truth is you don’t have to fold your hands and watch things go wrong in the disguise of minding your business...

Yinkakolawole:
That`s how you too gonna be if you get married & your husband siblings are coming to ya place to stay, or for a visit. Majority of you Women always like to act strange to ya husband family members after getting married to them..

Blessedassuranc:
Oga pls enough of this your emotional epistle. People are nt same and i bet you, you re about to start up something you ll regret of you continue this way
You ve advised him . Let him be now amd if you kust continue, make sure you go line your pocket with hood monies cos he wld soon be drained and uou ll be his next shell pipe and you ll most likely get drained if not worse off than he is..

aboyaji:
Wait let me tell you what you don't know. I may have made a mistake quoting you. You don't sound learned in this discourse.

He is my brother. I am closest to him. I am not the type of adult that sits around doing nothing when things are going out of hand. I am very much responsible in his life because he is my brother. Get it?

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

Kobojunkie:
Regardless of how you chose to see her thouhh, she is his choice and disrespecting his choice so you can instead assert your own standard is never the way to go.

franchasng:
Nigerian women's wickedness and selfishness becomes more glaring if they marry a financially successful man.



All Nigerian women are good at maltreating their domestic staffs, its a known fact, so dont fret, its not just your brother's wife only, its a general Nigerian married women thing. When you get married will also get used to it

Kobojunkie:
Look, regardless of how you are treated by her , the fact remains she is your brother's choice and you have to respect that.

That woman is his idea of a good woman and no matter how irritating it may be, you have to accept that you don’t share the same standards as individuals.

flington4550:
So disheartening...you guys go be Yoruba be that...have got an uncle going through almost the same thing but you let the woman know sey if craze dey her head na madness dey ya own head...I gave it to her hot hot and she composed herself...But for the sake of peace I stopped going to their house.
After all the wahala wey he dey give my uncle we lost him to suicide this time last year....

Rachel98:
I'm nice to her, sometimes I try to bring up things we could just talk about, but she replies me like I'm forcing her to talk.

She's too full of herself, probably because she's a PhD holder. Honestly I don't understand.

aboyaji:
Wait let me tell you what you don't know. I may have made a mistake quoting you. You don't sound learned in this discourse.

He is my brother. I am closest to him. I am not the type of adult that sits around doing nothing when things are going out of hand. I am very much responsible in his life because he is my brother. Get it?

aboyaji:
Thanks. You're wise. That's exactly what I'm doing now.

I only wish him well.


Guess what happened 2 days ago. Mom called and said "let your brother not repeat what he did some years ago".

What happened years ago? He had impregnated a certain young lady in 2014. Same person. Same occurrence. Who settled the matter? Family. And he's 3-4 years older than I am. Guess what? I wasn't close to him when it happened in 2014 and the girl in question came from an irresponsible money driven and alcoholic drunk family.

This new girl smokes weeeeeeeeeeeeeed. Story for another day.

And that punk assess of a kobo.junkie is talking thrash.

pocohantas:
If my brother keeps impregnating wild and rude girls, I would be bothered, very bothered, but I am not going to sit and act like my brother is such a victim. If there is physical violence, ehen. But say because your sibling’s spouse dey drop sarcastic comments, you come chook head. It will shock you when the person you are defending would ignore two of you or tell you not to insult his wife . Na you go come resemble bad person.

I have learnt a lot from my brother’s marriage. Let OP dare talk back at the wife and watch the same brother get angry and defensive. Be like una never sabi these married people sha.

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

pocohantas:
Including your wife and your mother or as usual they are different?

vickydevoka:
You lie. U can't no a womans real character until she is married

aboyaji:
You're a very little kid. A toddler. Why waste time with you? You exhibit backfire effect.

You sound very repulsive. Look at yourself. Are you an orphan?

Have you no family?

Do you live under the bridge? Are you homeless?

Just look at how disgusting you sound. Internet really is helping you be expressive. Your expressiveness is not so benign. You have a big problem.

So, if you had younger ones, this is going to be your resolve when your opinion is sought?

"Since there's no imminent danger"? Really?

Please, shove your contribution into your armpit. You have no point.

The world is corrupt and evil is because adults let it thrive without standing against it. Adult rather kept quiet.

aboyaji:
You can imagine the boldness. Y’all are cool in your family I guess. No man or woman can come between my siblings and I. We don’t tolerate that. We all respect each other and know our boundaries. But if you dare cross the line, you’ll get what you deserve. Marriage does not give anyone the right to tear a family apart.















You people don't just read and start typing. Most of you commenters have no such experience, nor very close family. I'll buttress this.

I have 4 brothers and a sister including myself which is 5 guys and a girl (totalling 6 people) in my family.

Our 3rd bro is married to a very lovely girl. She accommodates everyone. She was very young when she came into our family (20). She even calls me her husband and I call her my wife. I'm always confident and comfortable calling her by such name because she's worth it and more. We talk on video calls all the time unending.

She always asks us when next we'd visit. She should be 25 or 26 now. Her husband is financially stable. We all could visit at once and she'd accommodate us all. Mind you, we're all grownups. No issues whatsoever. Our eldest brother is too proud of her. He should be 40 soon.

Our 2nd brother is the one in the mess now. He has a baby mama. Now, the girl wants to be converted to a wife by all means. But before that, here's the story....

I shared an apartment with this our 2nd brother. We did things together. We shared rents together. Cook and eat together until he got a girl pregnant. Because of this, I moved out and started living with a friend to give them space since he had to take care of the girl. One day, due to some irregularities in my friend's house, I couldn't bath their at the time. I took a bike to my brother's place (our shared apartment) to have a quick bath only and get to work early. I met this girl alone in the house. I told her my intentions and situations on ground for coming and I didn't visit frequently since I moved. Guess what she said; "you'll replace the water after taking your bath". I was shocked.

I took my bath and left. One other time, I had a particular cloth I wanted to wear to work. I remembered I had left it in that our shared apartment. I went their to get it. On reaching the apartment, I told her why I came. I went in, opened the wardrobe. Behold, this girl left what she was doing, came and stood behind me to see what I was taking. Me?

Then I opened the fridge to pick a satchet of water, she moved toward the fridge to still know what I was picking. I was mad internally. I didn't speak of it. I called my brother and told him all of those she did. My brother said it's not a serious something.

Now, I live in my own home alone. The girl had put to bed and I hadn't seen their child. This new year, the came back from the East with the new child. My brother called that they're back. I said I'd come see them officially. That is my duty.

Same day, same night, I took my woman to greet them from a distance I live. On reaching, I didn't meet my brother but the lady and child. She barely opened the door. I even asked her to open the door that I'd stay till my brother came back. She barely opened her mouth to greet us. After that, she didn't say anything again. No "welcome take seat". No "will you guys drink water"?

We stood until I motioned my woman to sit after pulling out a seat behind the door. I sat on the floor.

The lady didn't say anything. She was just watching some TV programs. A small girl of 22-23 ooo!!! Shortly, she saw the footwear I came in with and said "you came in with shoe into our house". I was like

I waited patiently. Shortly, she stood up, grabbed a broom and started sweeping the already neat floor at that time of the night. That was when I stood up and went outside. My woman followed suit.

We were outside in the night by 10pm till my brother came back. We went in. My brother had to go to the kitchen to make eba for everyone to eat. Her baby mama wife-to-be sat doing nothing. The baby was even sleeping. We ate, gisted and went home.

I know my brother won't see anything bad in whatsoever she does. He grants all her requests. He even calls us and ask us to please call her wife from time to time. Who does that? You don't force love.

None of my family members welcome her presence in the family at this moment.

Her problem is always telling my brother that she'd take flight to her family house. She'd take flight to some other location. My brother, who's a hustling guy for that matter. The last rent he paid was 130k and he didn't pay once.

phenzy:
Don’t mind him bro
Imagine staying out of your beloved blood brothers life cos he mistakenly impregnated an ill mannered girl. The way some people reasoned ehn.

franchasng:
My mother is somehow different to an extent, but my wife isn't good at relating with her domestic staffs.


Sometimes the way she shouts at them make me angry. But she dare not go physical with them because I warned her from day one and always remind her of my principle on that and she respects it and keeps her cool.

But to be honest, she doesn't talk to her domestic staff with the same respect she talks to her friends or relatives that visit. Its a black woman thing, you black ladies are weird and kind of innately wicked from birth lol

Una wickedness gets activated once you ladies get married lol. Only my mom escaped that cos the woman na small thing remain make she for be Mary the mother of Jesus

Rachel98:
I can't be rude to my in-laws when I get married, becus i'm not ill-mannered, ill-bred and rude... So I can't.

pocohantas:
Lmao. You guys are cracking me up. Which one is fear of God?

Rachel98:
Good morning everyone. Hope we're having a wonderful week.

My Elder brother is doing well, no doubt he's the breadwinner in our family But his wife is so rude, too authoritative, she's full of pride and she looks down on people. She see everyone as her employee, she does not care if her actions or words hurts you, she's quick to slap at any slightest provocation. She's an event planner, please are event planners this rude??

She's the main reason why we barely visit our brother, despite we all live in the same city, we feel like a total stranger in our brother's house. Probably she's using "jazz" on him, I don't know But everything she does seems cool to him.

I managed to spend the weekend with them, since on friday she act like my presence irritates her. The maid prepared semo and vegetable soup, i don't eat swallow that like, so she saw me cooking noodles, she rudely said why're you not eating semo? Why are you people so selective? Then she left the kitchen. I just maintained my cool.

Yesterday she slapped her maid just because the plantain she told her to fry wasn't brown enough (maybe she wanted burnt sacrifice plantain). My elder brother calmly said honey you shouldn't have slapped her just becus of plaintain. The next she told my brother was "Defender!! go and marry her nw"

This morning, I jejely packed my belongings on my way to work, I entered my brother's car so he can drop me at the bus-stop, I just told him I won't be coming to his place anymore, once I'm done with work today I'm going home straight. And the annoying part, he would be asking me why? As if he's blind, he can't see how rude and ill-mannered his wife is.

His wife has really separated my brother from us, his own family. We don't even know what to do.

pocohantas:
Lmao. You guys are cracking me up. Which one is fear of God?

pocohantas:
Yes a lot of women maltreat domestic staff, but there are some who do not. I have my shortcomings, but I have never had cause to maltreat a subordinate or domestic staff. There are times I have had to be assertive because they sometimes get too comfortable and start slacking in their duties, but that is about it.

A wicked woman is a wicked woman. I personally can tell a wicked person by reading them, I don’t even need to see them. I am that sensitive. You can’t disguise for me.