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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by yemi1504: 4:07pm On Jan 22, 2022
Kollins11:
The one wey dey vex me pass na when dem dey cry for camera. Who does that??

How you go set camera then you go dey cry claiming you're hurt.... Werey gender.

You get times for those vagina people?

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by yemi1504: 4:09pm On Jan 22, 2022
Bluewitch:



Let him do what he wants...
What makes you think she won't do it again? And then beg again.

Abi. Their gender never hears when it comes to warnings anyways!

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by yemi1504: 4:12pm On Jan 22, 2022
Danjikanbauchi:
Your brother is a man, I don't take shit mostly when I have worn you more than twice.

She should go and meet those women group.

Me too. But their gender never listens until you now take drastic actions and show them there are consequences for their actions, that is when they now calm down SMH. Talking from experience.

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by tyup(m): 4:20pm On Jan 22, 2022
Genesiszero:


I'm scared brother, these man can endure even the worst of all attitude you can ever imagine from a woman.. But I don't know what came over my brother to decide these all of a sudden

You use "This" when you're referring to one person while you use "These" when referring to 2 or more people. take note

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by otokx(m): 4:25pm On Jan 22, 2022
I hope this does not turn to the case of the hunter and the bush meat.
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by LyfeJennings(m): 4:33pm On Jan 22, 2022
God bless ur brother
some women needs to be taught
ur brother knows what exactly he is facing
that woman can ruin ur brother's life and that ur family
abeg no beg ur bro again

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by yemi1504: 4:35pm On Jan 22, 2022
DroppingLiquid:
They go to social media to seek validation. People like that have zero mental maturity and can't dissect and handle situations themselves with their God-given brains. They rely on hot takes from miserable people on Twitter with zero marital knowledge.


She got what she deserves. She lost a good man. But since she's a Twitter LovePeddler, she probably doesn't need a man to begin with. They woke as fvck over there.

You can say that again! This gender never learns until drastic actions are taken and they know there are consequences for their actions!

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Kmf0: 4:37pm On Jan 22, 2022
Toxic ladies getting married lately

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by TOMMYS: 4:37pm On Jan 22, 2022
odinson1:


Tell your brother what i just told you about

"the fear of divorce being almost as Terrifying as the divorce itself"

She will think twice before misbehaving again because she knows your brother is a no nonsense man. Tell him not to divorce her,what he has been doing since is enough punishment and warning for her.

But if she misbehaves again...


I think the lady in question is a serial offender.
After this issue is settled

I wish she won't repeat that same thing and call for a divorce papers first
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by grandstar(m): 4:40pm On Jan 22, 2022
Genesiszero

His wife behaved badly by throwing family affairs on social media. That means his life is exposed to all on social media like Facebook and whatsapp. She definitely wasn't discreet and sort of wanted him to know.

Frankly speaking, for some reasons, I think she was just subconsciously trying to test his limit.

Unfortunately for your brother, divorce is something God frowns at seriously. Marriage is a lifetime commitment that can't be shoved aside when we want to. The only grounds for divorce and remarriage is adultery under the scriptures. If he truly is righteous, he needs to be righteous based on the terms penciled by his Creator and not himself. (Read Eccl 12:13-14).

If he should divorce, he can't remarry as no adultery was involved. This would be hard for anyone as sex outside marriage is taboo.

Also, remarrying does not mean successful marriage. 2nd marriages are more likely to crash than the first and 3rd marriages are even worse. Why? There is a Yoruba proverb that says "the broom that sweft the first wife away is waiting to sweep the new wife away. It reasons that what made the first marriage fail is going to make the new marriage fail as well. If we don't work on character faults that ruined the first marriage, it will invariably ruin the new marriage too.

Your brother must salvage this marriage lest he rues the effect of his 'disciplined' rigidity later on in life. What's important now is that his wife must have learnt her lesson and he sticks with her for "God has hated a divorce."

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Nobody: 4:41pm On Jan 22, 2022
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Don't mind them ...

Any little thing they will run to social media and post it there

This is the reason I don't bother to view WhatsApp status

It is full of shit

I don't view whatsapp status too. Minding my business is one of the best personal gifts I have.

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by grandstar(m): 4:44pm On Jan 22, 2022
Genesiszero:


My mom was whom I first called especially the moment I heard him calling the lawyer for the divorce papers........ It's been a week plus now... He's hell bent in his decision...... I'm even heart touched by the cry of these Lady.... I've done my best... Will keep trying and for the Pastor, that one no too like church things to much

I doubt the court will grant him a divorce if the wife is remorseful and determined that the marriage work.

That may be the only saving grace.
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by OmoBryan(m): 4:48pm On Jan 22, 2022
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Don't mind them ...

Any little thing they will run to social media and post it there

This is the reason I don't bother to view WhatsApp status

It is full of shit
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by kushme: 4:50pm On Jan 22, 2022
Genesiszero:


My mom was whom I first called especially the moment I heard him calling the lawyer for the divorce papers........ It's been a week plus now... He's hell bent in his decision...... I'm even heart touched by the cry of these Lady.... I've done my best... Will keep trying and for the Pastor, that one no too like church things to much

Let's answer this your question... But if I may ask the ladies, why always the social media, going out there to claim the victims card.


This demonstrates how women are dependent creatures- If not on a man, then on a collective. With women, it is always a strategy about how to manipulate the other into taking care of women and women's interests. A woman hardly make personal decision for her self. So, social media is where they get the opinions/supports of other women.

The herd mentality. Most women don’t identify as “feminist”; but most of them have adopted feminist attitudes, so toxic feminist ideology affects virtually most women.

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by smarttm: 5:04pm On Jan 22, 2022
Genesiszero:
My brother has been a well disciplined man, he has married a woman whom he love dearly, sometimes I wish If I was a woman, I'll marry him! Gentle, calm, humble, educated, exposed with a very good source of livelihood. Doesn't smoke, drink or womanize And most importantly, God fearing. Maybe heritage from our dad.

But I never could have imagined it that what seems like a blissful marriage of my brother could end just like that. What is the problem? Social media! They had an issue, and she went and posted it there, from WhatsApp to Facebook and the worst of all twitter and some stupid women group which she seems to be a member of, may be there is some Judges there, come and see some people passing judgment even without hearing the other side of the story.

He warned her series of time not to ever post any family related issues to the media. I can remember while I was still with them, he always tells her if she ever has anything about him, she should call him and discus it with him or better still report to our parent. I don't know if it's a family thing for us or something, personally, I'm not too good with these social media of a thing.

To the best of my knowledge, my brother is the best and cool personality I had ever come in contact with, But these act of hers has been the height of it for him.

Brethren as I'm talking to you now, my brother has contacted a lawyer to prepare the divorce papers. Our parents and family members has called a meeting, we begged him for almost a week now but he stood his ground about the divorce, her family has come to apologize and beg for reconciliation for the both of them but to no avail, I spoke to him personally and begged like what you could ever imagine but our please fell on deaf ear. He personally told me that if his wife had gone to the court, he would've preferred it. If there is absolutely anything I know about my brother is him being a man of his words. She has done countless of things to him and She'll call us to apologize all the time and he'll forgive especially when my mom is involved. But for these I don't know what To say, she has cried and cried her eyes all out but for where It seems My brother has made up his mind, But if I may ask the ladies, why always the social media, going out there to claim the victims card.

Sorry I don't have much time neither am I good with telling stories, if not, I should have narrated what led to the whole problem but is a long epistle on it own....

Why is too hard to know what your spouse want and dislike. Note: he doesn't even want you posting his image in any media platform even on his birthdays, we're kinda some sort of reserved people in my family.

The marriage is three years old.
Not everybody likes these social media of a thing.

You are like your brother...you come here to post this lengthy thing but can't tell us what she did that is leading to divorce...maybe the woman has been subdue to an ordinary house wife....
If he fails to forgive her he should go and create Mrs perfect...I am married and can't allow anyone not even my siblings to come and settle anything between us...

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Buffalo2(m): 5:08pm On Jan 22, 2022
Itchy fingers. Always typing with 100mb bonus data. Now ur bonus data has landed you in trouble, my dear deal with it and learn ur lesson in a hard way. Sorry eh.

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Decryptor(m): 5:21pm On Jan 22, 2022
Why are you people begging him? The man has seen fire that is about to consume him and has decided to quench the fire and you people are begging him to jump into the fire?

Let his wife go and marry those her fellow women on Twitter.

Your brother is a real man! Unlike that Noah9 who is behaving like a sissy!

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by pansophist(m): 5:22pm On Jan 22, 2022
Lots of women in their usual infinite delusion, somehow believes they are the one marrying a man, not a man marrying them. When you warn them of things you don't like, they refuse to take heed and somehow believe they are irreplaceable. Your brother is my kind of guy. He should complete the divorce and get rid of her. But my question is, how did he ended up with such woman in the first place? He no look well?

Anyways, if he is happy, good for him. Sadly, lots of women need to see your dark side before they take you serious. They must be convinced that the hand that protects them can also be the hammer that destroys them. If you've watched the 90's cartoon "beauty and the beast", it explains this female dynamic well. She needs to know you're a monster before she deem you worthy of submission. But for her it's too late, but its well deserved. Tell him he has a fan on nairaland.

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by pansophist(m): 5:29pm On Jan 22, 2022
IMASTEX:

Exactly, I always say to be very careful with people that forgive very easily & ignore offenses. It doesn't mean they are weak hearted. They are simply giving their conscience a good reason for their future action. So when they draw the line, it will take only God to speak to them directly before such decision can't be reversed.

How can you describe me in one sentence ? Are you a babalawo? shocked

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Decryptor(m): 5:29pm On Jan 22, 2022
marygreg:
Dear poster,
you just committed the same crime your brother is divorcing his wife for and my fellow nairalanders are also judging from a one sided uncompleted story. Lets hear from your brother and his wife
Note: 1.This is social media too
2. You just brought your family issue
here
3.The story is not complete
4.This is your own version.
hope your brother wont disown you when he sees this�
have a nice weekend!.....

Nairaland is a faceless forum where people hardly use their real names and upload their personal pictures unlike Twitter where the woman definitely has her pictures which can make people who know them identify her and the poster's brother as her husband.

There is a clear cut difference!!

The woman deserves what she is about to get!

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by uthlaw: 5:35pm On Jan 22, 2022
Kenturkey048:


What is the meaning of two heads are better than one??

Maybe sex and children are the only benefits to the people that brought you into this world...But to mine, it's way more than that.

It's a union I've admired. That is the main reason why I am very cautious about the decision of whomever I'm spending the rest of my life with...
single $100 is better than all the heads on Nigeria currency.... If you admire the union,that one no b my concern!

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Mac2016(m): 6:12pm On Jan 22, 2022
Genesiszero:


My mom was whom I first called especially the moment I heard him calling the lawyer for the divorce papers........ It's been a week plus now... He's hell bent in his decision...... I'm even heart touched by the cry of these Lady.... I've done my best... Will keep trying and for the Pastor, that one no too like church things to much
Hmm. The wife erred no doubt but your brother shd be careful. People called the man of their words shd be careful o. God even hears plea. God forgives sins no matter how grave. Who is he? Once the woman has begged, he shd accept. I doubt, if she's reasonable, she would repeat such.
Your brother just intentionally want to spoil his own good future plans.. Kids nko? The kind of woman outside nko? Sebi this one na only social media.. Next may be a witch, a nag, wicked but subtle plus CNN and social media. He should manage what God has blessed him with if it's not more than social media. Some men are seeing more fire and still managing without complaining.
Which kind stronghead be that when the woman don beg... All in the name of the useless "am a man of my word", big level stupidity.
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by dontai(m): 6:23pm On Jan 22, 2022
Designandlearni:
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And also teach you, How to use it very cheap
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how much bro?
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Hassanmaye(m): 6:39pm On Jan 22, 2022
Equal2DeTask:



Year 2022, the year for RedPillers angry
grin
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Hassanmaye(m): 6:40pm On Jan 22, 2022
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Don't mind them ...

Any little thing they will run to social media and post it there

This is the reason I don't bother to view WhatsApp status

It is full of shit
Haha damn niggar this your statement Made me laugh o grin
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Hassanmaye(m): 6:41pm On Jan 22, 2022
bahdpersona:
I like your brother's reaction, people like your brother can repeat warning for innumerable times but when it's time to penalize their offenders , nothing can stop them.
Haha that's me o

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by decrownprince(m): 6:43pm On Jan 22, 2022
Tokskob2008:

Her offence is not too bad

Her husband constantly warns her of doing a particular thing but she keeps doing it anyway so what is not too bad in that?

If you can't understand, learn and do what your partner likes and want in marriage then you don't have any business being married in the first place.
And is not like the thing that her partner want is a bad thing oh. Everybody should know that social media is not always the answer when you can easily talk to your partner and if that don't work, there is always the family.

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Nobody: 6:56pm On Jan 22, 2022
Jennyclay:
The summary here is that, Your brother is an introvert while his wife is an extrovert.

But was your brother not aware she's among awon Tonto dike crew before he married her??



The wife is so immature. Most women behave so stupid on social media.

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Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Tribalism123(m): 8:30pm On Jan 22, 2022
I am a pastor.

Tell ur brother to contact me. I want to nullify the marriage. She cant eat her cake and have Champaign party.
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by jaxxy(m): 8:52pm On Jan 22, 2022
Cyphar:
I love your brother.... n.b no homo grin

because he is divorcing his wife got a flimsy reason?? undecided

The woman is wrong bt this isn’t an issue or grounds for divorce.

Get angry bt sin not.


Genesiszero:

She developed it suddenly, her counsel of friends are the internet type......
And some people can be extroverted in real life and quite in the internet

Op I hope ur bro will understand the place of forgiveness in marriage. Marriage is not a skol boys relationship where u jump in and out whenever ure offended or upset.
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by Kenturkey048(m): 10:28pm On Jan 22, 2022
uthlaw:
single $100 is better than all the heads on Nigeria currency.... If you admire the union,that one no b my concern!

Is 100$ worth more than your head?
Re: Help, My Brother's Marriage Is About To Collapse by AgreatMan: 10:54pm On Jan 22, 2022
safarigirl:


What could she have posted that will ruin his business?

OP did not even say his brother was innocent of the accusations, he just said "they did not hear his side of the story"

I am more interested in what exactly she posted about him that has him so mad, it is not by coming here to tell us his brother is cool and nice and blah blah blah, anybody can come here and paint their family to be faultless in a situation.


What did the brother do to her? Let him tell us first, and if it is so bad that it can affect his business, then, he is not as good as this OP claims he is, and then threatening her with divorce because she posted on social media? He must be a very manipulative person.

Let him try and divorce her, Nigerian courts will clear his doubt.

It doesn't matter if he was 100 percent on the wrong. Which kind of deranged human being go to post her family affairs on social media? Which year did they even started these social media sites wey everyone carry am for head? Don't people settle their ish before social media?

People who know me reading shit about my private affairs on the world wide web. E go mad o

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