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My dear, be careful. A mother will almost always support her child. That same mother might end up being against you later in life when he might want to divorce you also.
However give him the benefit of doubt but be very skeptical about it. He might be genuine after all.

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

Run. He already asked you out. His wife wasn't so wrong after all. Please run. Except you just want fun, no emotions....

Rita005:
Thanks guys... He is hardly perturbed about me not agreeing to his wishes.

Na scam, you better wise up.

Sonnobax15:

A man who truly wants to divorce his wife legally,that one no suppose to be stress na .

Unless he wanna add you to the list of one of his alphabet bitches .

I believe if you get to hear the HD version of the whole story from his wife's own perspective, you may end up running faster than Usain bolt,for your dear life

Hmmmmmm. Let's just say you are attracted to his money. Just continue waiting for him to divorce.

Everyone seems perfect from afar, wait until you get a closer picture.
My advice to you: Girl just run.
And note: he can never divorce his wife for you, they never do.

You shouldn't even be friends with him in my opinion, what happened to single guys without such complications? How are you going to be sure he's the one for you if you're both occupied with him getting a divorce. My mother will always say, meat wey you no wan chop no use your teeth cut am. A word is enough for the wise sha

Rita005:
There's no gold digging anywhere as I'm doing well for myself. I earn over 200k monthly and I'm on track in my career path. I also have older siblings that send me as much as my salary every month. I am not in anyway a girl that falls for money.
As a lady, if you meet a man that's smart and ambitious, it is almost normal to like him. The question I raised on this thread was about my concern about his marital status but unfortunately, you guys took it to a different level. I understand you guys don't want me to become a prey but it seems an average Nigerian has a messed up mentality. I don't blame us because it's what we grew up into.
Anyways, he has initiated the divorce process and it's on. Since he noticed I'm skeptical about the whole thing, he suggests we should just be friends until he gets the divorce.
Thanks to you all that adviced on the divorce issue. To those who were concerned about him being a scam, thanks to you too lol.

adecz:



⭕️ How come you yourself no get
relationship until you met this guy❓

Her previous toasters no live in nice estate and no get car

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

Hi Rita

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

First you are about to steal someone's husband which the Bible disapproved secondly you perceived he wants s*x and that adultery because he is legally married. My sister please look for another beautiful soul elsewhere cos you are just list in his trick of cool headedness I know what we guys can do if we want to get into your p@nties...please God will show you your own husband just hold on....meanwhile I am single and ready..let's talk.

I even know the couple she is talking about. The guy isn't the owner of the car (If it's the person I suspect). Its his friend's car. I know the entire story. In fact, I was there at the wedding with the guy. I know what he does for a living. He doesn't have a car (Again, if it's the person I suspect). And I am shocked to my bones hearing how foolish he has become. Cool headed you say. Wait till you meet the real dude inside of him. Rita is his wife's name.

Candidlady:
Aunt rita/ritad


No sense for you ma... Same story he told bet he must have used it on so many mumu like you...


You have young men who are legit single but no you chose to fall in love with a married man ...cuz he rich has a ride.. Sure a regular hustling dude must have approached but you turned him down ...



Husband snatcher.... Keep Chasing Gold till you get swallowed in the mine.




Modified- so smellysperm get sense like this... This year must be nice

E don burst

daclemx:
I even know the couple she is talking about. The guy isn't the owner of the car (If it's the person I suspect). Its his friend's car. I know the entire story. In fact, I was there at the wedding with the guy. I know what he does for a living. He doesn't have a car (Again, if it's the person I suspect). And I am shocked to my bones hearing how foolish he has become. Cool headed you say. Wait till you meet the real dude inside of him. Rita is his wife's name.

Imagine. I am so ashamed of the dude. Now, madam Rita005, what makes you think he won't ask another girl out if he eventually divorce his current wife for you? You see why the wife didn't trust him? And she was right all along.

Agrovalue1:
Run. He already asked you out. His wife wasn't so wrong after all. Please run. Except you just want fun, no emotions....

franchasng:
You are not a good person.


She is in love. Instead of you to advice her to be his side chick while she looks for a guy she can settle down with, you are here giving Yama Yama advice that hardly work

Yeah it's all d same now dt u have said what i ought to have said earlier. But mind u she seek for an advice n i gave her base on my understanding. Enjoy ur day

Madam Rita005, I hope you have left another woman's husband alone? Leave him let him concentrate on his marriage. I am a married man, and I wouldn't do such to my wife. What will you gain if he divorces the woman because of you? As it stands now, I think your presence in his life is distracting him. Pray to God to give you your dream man. No go bush go catch another hunter meat come call am your own.

kwasoly:
Your wrong in that assertion that giving a lady money after sex cancels any spiritual connection, sex is spiritual, there is always a transfer in the spirit when the act is done. You give her you own and collect hers that's why u hardly forget any gal you have slept with. There is a soul tie

You know nothing

hmm

hmm

I will suggest you find a way to confirm all that he has told you, don't just take his words hook line and sinker.

You might be shock at what you will find.
Again, please endeavour to use reasoning above emotions. Don't let emotions get the better of you.
Ask for evidence of divorce processing, this is not you doubting him, but safe guarding yourself.

Men can fabricate stories and act all cool but you might just be a pun to take out. Some are very patient and super smooth, but in the end its premium tears.

Meanwhile, I know it's difficult finding true and sincere people these days, but this one is appearing complicated from onset.

You appear bright and know what you want, but don't let your emotions run faster than your reasoning (common sense).

Life is not hard, if we don't entangle ourselves unnecessarily.
You might feel differently if you do some good digging.

He might be right and he may be lying. Find out.

daclemx:
Madam Rita005, I hope you have left another woman's husband alone? Leave him let him concentrate on his marriage. I am a married man, and I wouldn't do such to my wife. What will you gain if he divorces the woman because of you? As it stands now, I think your presence in his life is distracting him. Pray to God to give you your dream man. No go bush go catch another hunter meat come call am your own.

I'm 99% sure that you don't know the couple that the OP is talking about. You can just advise her without these lies!!!

Thanks a lot. He has filed for divorce already and everything is going well.

Pimine:
Aswearugaaad
Rita005 forget what everyone is saying about the man. Think: did he have to tell you about his wife? He's obviously living in another state and could have just lied about his marital status and you wouldn't know. Don't let anyone deceive you. That man is telling you the truth and he really likes you.

Find out if he really wants to divorce her. If he does then stand with him, else JAPA. Issa simpu sturvz.

Please don't be crude and disrespectful. You're not sure of something and you're coming online to post rubbish? He borrowed a car? I take the car to my work place from time to time even when I have mine. Please learn to behave rightly in a public space.

daclemx:
Madam Rita005, I hope you have left another woman's husband alone? Leave him let him concentrate on his marriage. I am a married man, and I wouldn't do such to my wife. What will you gain if he divorces the woman because of you? As it stands now, I think your presence in his life is distracting him. Pray to God to give you your dream man. No go bush go catch another hunter meat come call am your own.

Please don't be crude and disrespectful. You're not sure of something and you're coming online to post rubbish? He borrowed a car? I take the car to my work place from time to time even when I have mine. Please learn to behave rightly in a public space.

daclemx:
I even know the couple she is talking about. The guy isn't the owner of the car (If it's the person I suspect). Its his friend's car. I know the entire story. In fact, I was there at the wedding with the guy. I know what he does for a living. He doesn't have a car (Again, if it's the person I suspect). And I am shocked to my bones hearing how foolish he has become. Cool headed you say. Wait till you meet the real dude inside of him. Rita is his wife's name.

Rita005:
Thanks a lot. He has filed for divorce already and everything is going well.

Beautiful! I'm glad you listened. I wish you a happy life.

Hmmm, wonders shall never end.

Not all that gilter is gold use your head

DivaBeau:
Rita005, is that the guy you are referring to? Odafe Justin Owena, an usher in Winners Chapel, Ibuza Road, Asaba. Every detail of your story certainly match his and he packed out about four weeks now from his matrimonial home. He never divorced his wife, he just left a marriage of one year six months on account of no issue yet. Being a daughter of Oyedepo, I am sure you know it is God that gives children. Moreover, the marriage is quite young and such shouldn't be an issue. If you are responsible for him leaving his wife then your generation is already cursed. Accountability is a strong requirement in marriage. People can be petty sometimes but definitely not all the time. Your entire post paints the wife as petty yet you never heard from the woman herself to know just how much pettiness she has endured in the hands of her husband, the sweet soul you met. He travelled with you to another state two days before his one year marriage anniversary, that's just how cruel he was. On the night of her father's burial in February this year, he returned to Asaba only to have you over at his house. You slept on his matrimonial bed without any atom of fear. Hmm, your desperation sure beats the imagination. Enjoy the man while it lasts. We will be here watching how it turns out for you in the near future. You and the man are nothing but opportunists but God is not mocked, the same way he made her mother to see the tears of his wife, so you will also see the tears of your offsprings. You are such a wicked soul. It is girls like you that attend church for the sole purpose of snatching other people's husband yet you even have the mind to say the woman has a reprobate mind. I am sure Pastor Chris Nwaka, the resident pastor will be too ashamed to accept you attend a church he pastors. Better undo your charms for your own sake madam and trust God to give you your own husband. This guy started from a bedsitter with his wife in a hostel behind Mac Mau hostel, Infant Jesus, Asaba. It was from there they moved to the room and parlour self contain they were when you met him. If he showed you some other apartment, then he played you. Yes, he was planning for a car but never got one, at least not to the knowledge of his wife. His parents will definitely welcome you because of your earning power and not because they love you genuinely. So like I said, enjoy this moment while it lasts husband snatcher.

Easy nau lols

Hmm

Rita005:
Hi folks! I feel like sharing my predicament with you and hope to get a solution. Please bear with me cuz it's a long read. I'm a 26 years old banker (not contract staff) in one of the south south states.

Recently, I met a beautiful soul and I think I'm getting so fond of him now. We connected after the close of service in church and exchanged contacts. He was kind enough to drop me off my house. This guy is doing very well for himself (lives in a nice estate and owns a good ride).

A short while after our first meeting, we spoke on phone and I didn't know when I asked him why he isn't married. He told me it's a long story and would like to talk about it when we meet one-to-one. Fast forward, we met and he told me all there is about him. He's 34, got married about 2 years ago, but now separated from his wife. The reason he gave for the separation was lack of trust from his wife. According to him, his wife is so insecured to a fault. According to him, the first week he got married was when he started regretting his actions. After their marriage, his wife travelled down home to bring her remaining baggage. Before she returned, he made sure he cleaned the house thoroughly. However, when his wife came back, she headed straight to the fridge (she had made soup and stew before traveling) and the next thing was cry! According to him, he said he was confused at first. it was when he asked her what the problem was that she said he brought a woman to their matrimonial home. He said he cried so much and regretted marrying a woman with a possessed mind.

According to him, all the signs were there before marriage and he ended the relationship more than 5 times but she kept begging. What she was holding on to was that there's no assurance that the guy will marry him, hence, her fears. According to him, the woman has accused him of sleeping with his former neighbors and she insisted that they move out of that area. for peace to reign, he agreed and they got another accommodation.

Again, she started accusing him of having something with his new neighbors (even the married ones). To be honest, this guy is admirable and very reserved and I'm not sure if he's doing all the things his wife accused him of. He got angry when his wife decided to report him to the church authority. According to him, this woman has no single proof of him cheating but her reprobate mind is affecting her badly. She even went ahead to share demeaning messages about him (her husband) on her whatsapp status. This guy said he has pleaded with her to stop but it's getting worse. Now, they were married for about two years without a child. He said he could manage to live with the woman for more years without a child but can't do that when his peace is been threatened. He said his wife nags a lot and it was driving him crazy. According to him, his mum was never in support of the marriage but dad was interested in it. As it stands now, he has left his wife and moved to another state where we both met.

I have been friends with him for about 3 months now and I must say that this guy is a sweet human being. He asked me out but I told him we should just be friends, owning that he's still legally married. However, my feelings for him is growing everyday and this guy knows how to get one emotionally attached to him. Even though I can perceive that he wants sex with me, he never begs or act too anxious over it. He's so calm and mature and this is making me to admire him the more.

Note: He said he has talked about divorce with his wife but she's refusing it. This is where my concerns come in.
Now, I'm scared of going into a relationship with him knowing that he's not divorced yet.

To be honest, I can hardly concentrate these days because the thought of this guy has occupied my mind. Can I go ahead with him or the implications would be overwhelming? To be honest, I've not met a guy has coolheaded and admirable as this guy but I'm scared.
please I need advice on how to handle this situation.

Thanks

Do you want me to tell you the truth? If you see a man showing interest in you, loyal and honest to you by not hiding his married status and probably child(ren), please don't let him go. You will regret it later. Such men are very scarce these days because they don't care, they just want to be happy and they can do anything for you without you asking the. But guess what, such men cherish privacy a lot and they hate it when you put them under pressure. Just maintain a good relationship with them and you will surprised at what you will benefit from them. I've seen such men that even sponsor their lady's education, wedding, business, traveling etc. All they need is that you're loyal to them. Such men don't double date at all because they're very scarce. You better wake up girl.

sleekybaba:
Do you want me to tell you the truth? If you see a man showing interest in you, loyal and honest to you by not hiding his married status and probably child(ren), please don't let him go. You will regret it later. Such men are very scarce these days because they don't care, they just want to be happy and they can do anything for you without you asking the. But guess what, such men cherish privacy a lot and they hate it when you put them under pressure. Just maintain a good relationship with them and you will surprised at what you will benefit from them. I've seen such men that even sponsor their lady's education, wedding, business, traveling etc. All they need is that you're loyal to them. Such men don't double date at all because they're very scarce. You better wake up girl.

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