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Magnoliaa:
Oops. See watin you sef comment. I no see am before. Me sef no get that her comment, lmao.

pocohantas:
Smh. What is wrong in him being after her money? Women go after men’s money everyday in the name of financial stability.

Everybody wants the other for something. So make we no dey disguise.

That is how I saw one in an online group begging people to pray for her 38yrs old Canada based sister to see husband this year.

What stops her sister from marrying one hardworking homebased guy and taking him to Canada? At 38 what does she expect a man to want from her? Agbalumo breast or virginity?

If he loves you, is hardworking and sensible, what else? Smh!

pocohantas:
How exactly did he GOLD DIG?
Did she buy him a car? A house? Didn’t she say it herself that he paid her bride price in FULL? Care to point out how he golddiged? He even did more than most women who have no jobs and being married everyday.

pocohantas:
Smh. What is wrong in him being after her money? Women go after men’s money everyday in the name of financial stability.

Everybody wants the other for something. So make we no dey disguise.

That is how I saw one in an online group begging people to pray for her 38yrs old Canada based sister to see husband this year.

What stops her sister from marrying one hardworking homebased guy and taking him to Canada? At 38 what does she expect a man to want from her? Agbalumo breast or virginity?

If he loves you, is hardworking and sensible, what else? Smh!

Magnoliaa:
You asked what was wrong with him being after her money and then ask how he's gold-digging again? Why did you bring up the parallel of women being after men's money under the cover of financial stability?

Yes, she said that, and also called him scam, and mentioned him coming after her money, and the other girls he'd deceived in the name of marriage. SHE called him a gold-digger - or implied so. Why she choose not to mention the EXACT things is her cup of tea.

You don't know how much he paid as BP - a 'symbolic' thing which could be 5 naira - that is customary for the man to pay. It's standard, so of course, it'll seem like doing 'more' as compared to women who aren't expected to contribute *financially* in this part of the world. Because it seems like you're trying to draw another parallel again. For those jobless women, other things are expected of them.

Mercychen:
most guys out there are leeches. That is why I don't reply the so many PM's I receive on a daily basis. They have become so lazy, all they want to do is leech on unsuspecting ladies.

Anyways, they can only succeed with ladies who are desperate for marriage. If they try it with me, owu go sa Dem life because my shishi will not drop for them.

How can I go and hustle with all my blood and water only to come and be spending it on one coconut head all in the name of marriage?

No man again. All we have these days are leeches and scammers.

Moferere:
Illiterates everywhere.
She should spend time improving on her poor grammar

pocohantas:
I would never see anything wrong in wanting a partner for financial stability. Wanting a partner that has money is not gold digging to me. Except she can prove how he GOLD DIGGED her, I maintain my stand. She is a mature lady, she should bring money. Every mature person should bring money for younglings. EOD!!

elantraceey:
If I've not almost experienced this, I would have doubted it. Me wey broke pass anything o . Some men these days, when they start perceiving you're matured and independent and got things going for yourself, they come in and start talking about marriage this,marriage that so you'll see them as serious while they're just after your body and a chuck of your money. Before you know it they start asking for little favours to big favours and knowing you're kind hearted and into then, they'll use it to their full. Fear broke men o.

ashewoboy:
women have been doing this. what is wrong if men do their own too? are you wealthy? I go like make we just dey........ are you even mature? you reach that nairaland feminist age?

elantraceey:
Lol. No to all of your questions.

Magnoliaa:
Wanting a partner for financial stability or wanting financial stability in a partner?

You can maintain scepticism all you want. Whether she's even lying or not, she's shared what she's shared and labeled him. Publicly. So she called him a gold-digger and you asked what was wrong in being after her money, say women do it all the time... maybe it wasn't what you intended, but it came across as a justification of the guy's actions she talked about. Anyhow.

Godspeed in your quest for a proof oh, or what kind. Because she said nothing MORE, no one knows she has not brought money or is not bringing money or has never brought money. The mature/youngling thing? I don't know it relates to the separated couple sha.

toujurs:
Wait a minute, is it wrong for a guy to ask a lady for money or rather collect money from his woman, how is that even wrong? Its this mentality that has made alot of women still single at 35, like wtf, but a man sets up a lady, gives her money, as well. Why can't a lady do the same if she has, why is okay for a lady to collect and not to give. And for a guy to give and not to take. This is one of the reason most men see women as a property. You can't earn respect from always collecting, you will become a liability. Liabilities don't have value. I know alot of men, that set up their woman to be financially strong, all men can't be rich enough to do that, if as a woman you have more than the man support him with the finance you can give. It's called love.

favour32:
E dey okay for a broke ass girl to marry a rich dude but when a broke ass man marries a rich,it is then something else abi?
All rich unmarried ladies, use ya money to attract any man, even if na broke ass man, then uplift am to ya test.

Deicide:
I can see that you are evolving small small.

Moferere:
Illiterates everywhere.
She should spend time improving on her poor grammar

pocohantas:
Of course I am justifying it and I am not even being modest about it. Whether “for” or “in”, financial stability is the allure to a mature partner. That fine young man, just like so many young ladies, didn’t follow her for only love. If he is worshipping her, like she said herself, I can’t see any issue.

adecz:
Ammaka boyz & orishi, rishi illegal ways of making money by force❗️❗️☹️
But meanwhile, see another side
of the story below..

Magnoliaa:
Are you cruising or you're for real? Looking for a partner who is financially stable, whichever gender you are, is common sense. And that is NOT the same as having gold-digging tendencies -- which is the case in point here. A scam. A person (or man) who goes out of their way to hatch plans, deceive or whatever. Just for the sole purpose of having someone's money. And, ok, it's another thing for a lady to sniff such out - that's another ish.

A bad thing is a bad thing, and that women are doing it doesn't make it right. And they are SHAMED for it, HOUNDED, DRAGGED, INSULTED. Men cry about it and feel bad and write epistles on it.

If they can do all that, then the lady is well within her rights to show her displeasure and disapproval and post on SM too. For something she's definitely not okay with.

Really, trying to muddle this with the line 'in the name of financial stability' is just ... that's a legit conversation you're mixing in with what isn't.

Also, like, you say, 'what is wrong in XYZ', and then implied a 'cunningness' attitude when women do it?

pocohantas:
Smh. What is wrong in him being after her money? Women go after men’s money everyday in the name of financial stability.

Everybody wants the other for something. So make we no dey disguise.

That is how I saw one in an online group begging people to pray for her 38yrs old Canada based sister to see husband this year.

What stops her sister from marrying one hardworking homebased guy and taking him to Canada? At 38 what does she expect a man to want from her? Agbalumo breast or virginity?

If he loves you, is hardworking and sensible, what else? Smh!

pocohantas:
Smh. What is wrong in him being after her money? Women go after men’s money everyday in the name of financial stability.

Everybody wants the other for something. So make we no dey disguise.

That is how I saw one in an online group begging people to pray for her 38yrs old Canada based sister to see husband this year.

What stops her sister from marrying one hardworking homebased guy and taking him to Canada? At 38 what does she expect a man to want from her? Agbalumo breast or virginity?

If he loves you, is hardworking and sensible, what else? Smh!

Moferere:
Illiterates everywhere.
She should spend time improving on her poor grammar

DrAkpa:
After all these your boasts, I decided to look at your profile picture. I tell you, you are not worth any guy's stress