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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Premiumwriter: 10:46am On Jan 27, 2022
All I can say is work on yourself bro.

I'm an introvert too but I learned to be loud especially when in the midst of other guys.

Not loud as in talking too much.

But loud as in never letting any of them step on me while with my girl.

Instead of going outside while your girl is inside with the guy, while not tell your girl to come and sit outside with you.

Telling her what to do shows who is in command and will have to force/remind your guy that you are the man since he'll have to follow her outside if he wants to gist.

Next, laugh as little as possible. As an introvert, you tend to be a people please and laugh so you don't feel awkward.

F*ck that. Laugh as little as possible. Especially when your guy cracks a joke around your girl, no laugh self.

Just the look them laugh and you go start to the notice tension.

Next thing I'll advise you is to get intimate with your girl. Like I don't understand what gives your girl time to gist with your friend when she comes over.

Next time, start telling your guy to excuse you guys when your girl is coming over. Before she comes, tell am say something one sup, say if she come you go like make him give una space.

Another thing and most importantly, learn to tease your girl, make fun of her, I like insult my girl village eh, she go almost wan cry.

Find something that's not directly related to her body and use it to tease her. Maybe something she say or is ignorant of, or a grammatical mistake she made, bring it up at random and use it to make fun of her.

Even when your friend is around. If he asks no tell am. Just use it as a joke between you and your girl. This will make him feel left out just as you are feeling right now.

Mock your girl in his face but do it subtly in a way that he will want to join in, then instead of supporting him against your girl, turn around the moment he joins in and support your girl against him.

For instance, I was subtly Teasing my girl about how they don't have light in their village (they have light but I still insist they don't). If my friend joins in, I just turn around and start defending my girl's village against his.

This can easily go wrong tho if you're a newbie and not calculative or didn't plan things to say.

Your most powerful move will be showing who is in command. Touch your girl inappropriately around him and make him uncomfortable and then ask him casually to excuse you guys (guy abeg you fit just go outside small or excuse us small I wan tell this fine girl something).

Actually tell her something. It can be as dumb as (Chai madam you look Soo cute today, I fit just chop you raw or any other dumb compliment).

The problem with you is that you are not marking your territory right.

Please go back and snatch your girl.

And watch comedy videos especially stand-up comedy like those them basket mouth, bovi, I go die etc. Not those comedy skits o). With time and many laughter, you'll see yourself being able to crack jokes that will make your girl laugh like hell.

Like I said, I'm an introvert. A very chronic one but tell that to my girl and she'll look at you like you are crazy.

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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by sainttwist1(m): 10:46am On Jan 27, 2022
Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.
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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by uthlaw: 10:47am On Jan 27, 2022
oluwaahmed:
If you having girl problems I feel bad for you son I gat 99 problems and a bich ain't 1!
real nigga!
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by EBEk101(m): 10:47am On Jan 27, 2022
Kenneth4u205:
I'm also an introvert. But I realize that I'm very talkative when with fellow introvert lady or someone that shares the same Passion and interest just like me .

As for your girlfriend gisting and laughing with ur room mate inside without coming out to join you outside. Means she enjoys ur room mate company more than yours . It's just a matter of time before both of them start having sex .might be the day you are not around or shemight invite him to her place . Clock already ticking tic! Tok!! tic!!! Tok !!!!

����guy u bad
U don totally destroy the guy remaining trust for that babe
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by uthlaw: 10:48am On Jan 27, 2022
Govocrete:
Guy don't try anything that will affect your friendship. Is she your wife or do you intend to marry her?

A friend stayed with me for 3yrs, he told me, guy, if you like any of my babes and you fit enter them feel free.

But if I tell you I intend to marry XYZ, as a friend let me know if you have entered here. I will only be angry if I marry her and discovered later that you lied.

Guy, there is love in sharing sometimes.
wa gbayi....pussy is made to be Bleep!
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Kaysalas(m): 10:49am On Jan 27, 2022
Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.
You had better start learning how to be the gisting type. We are humans, we are social beings. We tend to drift towards those who make us happy. Happiness comes from chatting and laughing with someone. That girl might have found a soulmate in your friend. grin grin
Wait for it but nor let am shock you wink
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Elianawalker(f): 10:49am On Jan 27, 2022
Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.
Then don't date girls that love Gisting.



If you will date girls that love gisting then you better learn how to gist.
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Medianna(f): 10:50am On Jan 27, 2022
Johnames:
hmmmm, I can't tolerate that o
Things happen in reality
And relationships differs
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by tellwisdom: 10:50am On Jan 27, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:

He is an introvert and I don't think he can change himself..he is the kinda person who rarely talks..
He rather send you a text than call or have a conversation with you..
He is the quiet kinda guy who women tend to think isn't loving and caring due to his silent nature..
He is just being himself..

Where do you work??
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by PeterCA1: 10:51am On Jan 27, 2022
Bro, there is no big deal here, I'm as an introvert but being an introvert makes you a listener. So you don't need to leave when the are gisting you can stay vibe Chipping some words when necessary and you things will go normal. BUT IF YOU SUSPECT SOMETHING MORE FUNNY BRO TRY USING ONE OF HER FRIEND FOR LITTLE EXPERIMENT. ASK ABOUT HER MOST TIME AND YOU WILL SEE THAT YOUR BAE BRAIN GO RESET

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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by ngwababe(f): 10:51am On Jan 27, 2022
But must the girl gist with that guy? She no dey look him boyfriend eye for face? Common sense isn't common.

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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by uthlaw: 10:52am On Jan 27, 2022
Temptee101:


Swerve joor.

You know nothing.

Niggars dey bang two sisters, e come be mere friends.
sure 100%!
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by FERNANDEZISBACK: 10:52am On Jan 27, 2022
tellwisdom:


Where do you work??
And why do you ask?
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by praisehim(m): 10:55am On Jan 27, 2022
oluwaahmed:


Him and he's friend might have decided to pass you around themselves since you like both of them. I don't even think ur BF takes u serious anymore. Dem go use ur matter laff for joint or Bunk if you like no give urself brain.

@Medianna, the above is the best advice to you.
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Medianna(f): 10:55am On Jan 27, 2022
For the records, l only visit when necessary and again I said 'Sometimes' I know my boundary in everything.we see ourselves like family.
Thanks for your concern I appreciate it.

Rubbiish:

U need to stop doing the bold because one day something will happen! & if u can't think of stopping to visit your guy's friend after reading this quote, it means something is already up subconsciously. It is very important u stop the bold if u value your guy & your relationship. Not everything your man will tell u, he will expect u to use your head. Going to visit your guy's friend is a total no no! Go visit your female friend instead!
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Bouncin(m): 10:55am On Jan 27, 2022
A LETTER TO OP
Dear OP, I 've said it countless times. There's nothing like a ladies bestie. If your lady starts keeping a bestie or what looks like one, just know you ve lost her cos it doesn't take much time to bang a lady you are close to and discuss everything with. Remember also, most naija girls don't have sense! Most can't engage in any meaningful gist . The only conversation that get them thrilled is sex related gists. And the more you engage them on this kind of conversion the easier it is to Bleep her. Don't be surprise the gist making your girl laugh out loud that way is nothing but a meaningless sex conversation. Dear Op just Count you losses and move on. Never ever simp! And never ever confront your guy cos that will be the most stupid thing to do. Be a real niggar.

Modified!
Don't also forget to take some alcoh*l and some weeds so as to de alright.
Cheers! grin

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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by KayCee92(m): 10:55am On Jan 27, 2022
Kriss216:

I suggest you give your life a meaning and avoid Nigerian girls.


Uppercut grin grin grin, subtle uppercut grin
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by msMonyei: 10:56am On Jan 27, 2022
Kriss216:

I suggest you give your life a meaning and avoid Nigerian girls.

Why did you do this savage thing bro? Mosdii must be facing a lifetime ban for preaching such. In his words: " Nigerian women are useless, all of them." Lol
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by MyExpression(m): 10:56am On Jan 27, 2022
FERNANDEZISBACK:

Nothing there aiit just mere discussions..you need to stop taking things too far..

Look if you ain't comfortable tell the guy personally in a polite manner..but if you ask me I see nothing wrong in me having discussion with a random guy..it's normal na..
The same way you guys talk to ladies..

So your boyfriend gisting inside house everyday with your neighbour whenever he comes to visit you...is normal ba?
One neighbour consistently is not random!
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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by reddingtonblack: 10:57am On Jan 27, 2022
Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.



A little bit of jealousy & emotions is allowed buh don't act insecure cos insecurity would only make you do things that will push her away further.
Maybe you are a boring person or should i say yur babe finds you boring, and i wouldnt wanna say you are jobless that why you have time to notice, no matter how busy e go get days you go dey house and since it bothers you so much, try find out topics that ticks her box then educate yourself & be relaxed, the moment she see the change she will revert to you as her gist buddy.

if only people know there is so much vision & strength in calmness
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by udemzyudex(m): 10:57am On Jan 27, 2022
If you're not the gisting type,are you the listening type?

I'm not the gisting type but I'll give you that listening ear and chip in one or two talk to keep the conversation going.

I'll suggest you do same.

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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by onetimesurvey: 10:57am On Jan 27, 2022
I'm confused

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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by victorazy(m): 10:57am On Jan 27, 2022
Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.

Your problem pass Nigeria own.
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by FERNANDEZISBACK: 10:57am On Jan 27, 2022
MyExpression:


So your boyfriend gisting inside house everyday with your neighbour whenever he comes to visit you...is normal ba?
One neighbour consistently is not random!
If you have a proper understanding on how things should be handled you will know that nothing wrong with that..
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by firstbornson(m): 10:57am On Jan 27, 2022
Kriss216:
Beta bucks
Alpha fvcks


Na so you go dey inside water soap go enter your eyes.

Another stupid boy.
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by msMonyei: 10:58am On Jan 27, 2022
Totilopussylick:
There's a popular saying, as you makes your bed, so shall you lay on it.

Be there forming introvert, while your guy we eat your glory tongue

Which stupid glory? How did a stinking hole fermenting bacteria turn to a place of glory? No vex me o.
Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Nobody: 10:58am On Jan 27, 2022
ugom123:


Dear OP, this guy has told u the simple truth. You see all those girls telling here that u shouldn't worry, they are liars.

When two opposite sex find each other fun to be with, forget it, they will soon start fvcking.

So,what u can do is sincerley, tell the babe and break up. See, if u tell her and don't break up, she will continue seeing the guy secretly. They will be hiding it and they will still fvck.
So, she doesn't enjoy ur company. She enjoys the company of another. So, just tell her why u are breaking up so that she can continue her company wit ur roommate.
As for the guy living with u.. If both u paid for the apartment, fine. But if not, then, find way to distance ur self from him. I know his type.


My brother God will bless you so much. This was my situation exactly! Those kind of friends are green sarpents! Did I invite my babe to my house as a family gist partner? Abi my friend self does not have sense to give her less attention, so me and my friend should now be contesting for my babe’s attention?. Breaking up with my babe and my friend was the real deal for me

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Re: What Will You Do In This Situation by Medianna(f): 10:59am On Jan 27, 2022
Both you and the adviser are not serious. Why una mind go just go there straight think of something better jare

praisehim:


@Mediana, the above is the best advice to you.

By the way lemme burst your bubbles those visits was like a year back and guess what!
Nothing nothing oo
I can still go see him any day I want but I prefer staying on my own

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