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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Thoughty2(m): 3:48am On Jan 29, 2022
Toks2008:


You don't ask a lady for sex, you put her in the mood.

Another sensible comment like needle in a haystack
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by kkins25(m): 3:53am On Jan 29, 2022
shakespere:
When a woman has children things are different. Been married for 17 years and have experienced this . House chores and the kids, plus her own job is enough to kill her, sex is the least on the agenda, and easily see the husband as selfish. He does not go through same thing. She has lost her mojo, threatening her with side chick is not the answer, she does not care.
see as you listed reponsibilities of a woman you don't know. neither was any info provided that she was exhausted from work.
raising kids is stressfull? would she like to go and carry bags of cement? would she want to go and work, and let rhe man sit at home? Don't give us that BS.

African women are - i don't know- trained to be resistive to sex.

I once had a GF who complaimed to me that her weakness was sex. But it took me more than 30mins before i could reach the under wear, the first time we did it. smh!

if she can't cooe then she should shift and allow another to enter or support.

watch her get wet without provacation. lol

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Kobojunkie: 3:55am On Jan 29, 2022
kkins25:

see as you listed reponsibilities of a woman you don't know. neither was any info provided that she was exhausted from work.
raising kids is stressfull? would she like to go and carry bags of cement? would she want to go and work, and let rhe man sit at home? Don't give us that BS.

African women are - i don't know- trained to be resistive to sex.

I once had a GF who complaimed to me that her weakness was sex. But it took me more than 30mins before i could reach the under wear, the first time we did it. smh!

if she can't cooe then she should shift and allow another to enter or support.

watch her get wet without provacation. lol
Was any of that in bold listed? undecided

African women are not trained to be resistant to sex. Nigerian women are women and they all deal with stress even of the marital kind like women everywhere. Instead of making marriage about you and your dk, learn how to be better husbands/lovers.undecided

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by GreatUniben: 3:59am On Jan 29, 2022
Give her spanish fly gold, make sure you let her know that you are giving her the Spanish fly gold.

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Chiefochiefo(m): 4:21am On Jan 29, 2022
Botking:
He should discuss with her about taking a second wife, Then see how she will change quickly
You never see woman wey no get issue with that? They no send you weather you get babe outside or not. They'll be living their lives
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by lesson44: 4:25am On Jan 29, 2022
I can understand the reason she don’t want to engage in sex. Because from what you said, she doesn’t get wet naturally, for that reason, having sex with will cause her so much pain and make sex miserable.
They should get a lubricant to apply before engaging in sex. If they can’t find regular lubricant, they should get baby oil. Trust me, she will feel more responsive.
And he should not bother her every night. He should at least give her 2 to 3 days break.

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Munzy14(m): 4:29am On Jan 29, 2022
ImoleNaija:
How is their financial life?

Let's start from there.
Na only you don reason the real matter o..

Money money palaver.. grin

Abundance of resources is a natural libido.. cheesy

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by lyricaldaboss(m): 4:49am On Jan 29, 2022
Amb1045:
This was sent IN earlier this week by a married man living in lagos with his wife of about 5yrs and a family of 3 kids.

He complained that his wife has extremely low libido. Infact, he practically begs for sex every night and labours even harder during the act cos the wife never gets wet at all. He has grown so frustrated with this since the wife has advised him to masturbate if that would make him feel better cos she has no interest whatsoever in sex.

He is now thinking that about their miserable sex life as a couple and now thinks that perhaps the wife has a spiritual husband or cheating and really disillusioned with the marriage and turlt needs help.

What do you advise him?

Leave her
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by jimakeabi: 4:51am On Jan 29, 2022
It is very simple
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by onumadu: 4:52am On Jan 29, 2022
shakespere:
When a woman has children things are different. Been married for 17 years and have experienced this . House chores and the kids, plus her own job is enough to kill her, sex is the least on the agenda, and easily see the husband as selfish. He does not go through same thing. She has lost her mojo, threatening her with side chick is not the answer, she does not care.

Man should help her with the kids - home work, bathing, getting them to bed, cooking, washing etc. Create the atmosphere for her to want to, give her free time, rest time, me time, take her out, let her rest whilst you and the kids cook during weekend, massage her leg, tell her kids words, show appreciation- it is toasting her all over again.
This thing can be really frustrating for women, and make them intolerant, untop, if you dont have money and she is the one working her ass off to take care of the family!

Little by little, she will change. Call her before you come home, buy food istead make she cook, tell her there will be show tonight, rest o, no give me story, bring her gifts, sebi thats what we do for side chicks, who dont do all the laborious things, so they always ready.

I have done this and she came around, i get it more regular now. Side chikcs is not the answer, safe money for old age income o


There is a perfect term for what you just described above. It is called SLIPPERY SLOPE.

Maybe your case is different, but do you think that the women who demand gifts from their husband before sex started that way?

No. They started small, by citing all those things you listed in bold: she is tired, bored, stressed, breastfeeding, bathing kids, cooking, washing dishes, "lost her mojo", blah blah...

But have you ever asked yourself, or wondered why women in polygamous marriages never have these sexual problems? They fk like mad; ALL OF THEM! cheesy

Why is this problem mostly (I can guess above 90%) found in monogamous marriages?

OP does not know that this problem is very much widespread in monogamous marriages.

If you are lucky to marry your type, monogamy appears ideal. But if you are unlucky and end up in this type of marriage, na dat time you go know say monogamy na bit.ch.

Oga OP, others have already advised you what to do.

Google the word "Asexuality" and you would come to understand what you are dealing with here. It is not tea party by any stretch!

Wishing you good luck!

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by raphy(m): 5:04am On Jan 29, 2022
Mjanee:

Why didn't u test b4 marriage tongue

Him don ride her till the kitten say I no want your d!(k again
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Poleski: 5:09am On Jan 29, 2022
Amb1045:
This was sent IN earlier this week by a married man living in lagos with his wife of about 5yrs and a family of 3 kids.

He complained that his wife has extremely low libido. Infact, he practically begs for sex every night and labours even harder during the act cos the wife never gets wet at all. He has grown so frustrated with this since the wife has advised him to masturbate if that would make him feel better cos she has no interest whatsoever in sex.

He is now thinking that about their miserable sex life as a couple and now thinks that perhaps the wife has a spiritual husband or cheating and really disillusioned with the marriage and turlt needs help.

What do you advise him?

Being disturbed for sex every night can be tiring for a woman! And on the husband's side, having a stupid "spiritual husband" mentally isn't helpful.
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Ashinze: 5:11am On Jan 29, 2022
Romance her be4 sex , if she continues same attitude then she de Bleep another man be that ooo
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by kingthreat(m): 5:19am On Jan 29, 2022
I will simply wake up one morning and leave the house for her if it is a rented home. If it is my home, I will chase her off or sell the property. A wife who does not straff me doesn't love me and can kill me if paid to do it. Marriage is not do or die.

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by africanusvu(m): 5:22am On Jan 29, 2022
Amb1045:
This was sent IN earlier this week by a married man living in lagos with his wife of about 5yrs and a family of 3 kids.

He complained that his wife has extremely low libido. Infact, he practically begs for sex every night and labours even harder during the act cos the wife never gets wet at all. He has grown so frustrated with this since the wife has advised him to masturbate if that would make him feel better cos she has no interest whatsoever in sex.

He is now thinking that about their miserable sex life as a couple and now thinks that perhaps the wife has a spiritual husband or cheating and really disillusioned with the marriage and turlt needs help.

What do you advise him?
, Within 5yrs she already gave you 3kids and u are here complaining of her very low libido,do u rather want to kill her with ur very high libido,pls save her soul
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by OrdinaryNigeria(m): 5:35am On Jan 29, 2022
3 children in 5yrs.

That's already too much sex.

Guy u need to calm down

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by jeromeekugbere(m): 5:40am On Jan 29, 2022
What is Spanish fly gold??

GreatUniben:
Give her spanish fly gold, make sure you let her know that you are giving her the Spanish fly gold.
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by payosehtor(m): 5:43am On Jan 29, 2022
Ihatebuhariwith:
So if she no hate sex na every month u deh born pikin? 3children within 5yrs
I wonder oh!
I asked same question within me
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by FaithBrain1994(m): 5:45am On Jan 29, 2022
How can a husband cuddle whom he is in love with and she doesn't get wet? Something is wrong somewhere. I'm i the only one feeling this man is lazy in bed and needs to visit kamasutra?
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Ashinze: 5:57am On Jan 29, 2022
Suck leak her Private, she will be the one begging you for Bleep all the time. But if her Private is not clean, take her to the bathroom, clean her up with Dettol soap and liquid.
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by fitinwell: 5:58am On Jan 29, 2022
Amb1045:
This was sent IN earlier this week by a married man living in lagos with his wife of about 5yrs and a family of 3 kids.

He complained that his wife has extremely low libido. Infact, he practically begs for sex every night and labours even harder during the act cos the wife never gets wet at all. He has grown so frustrated with this since the wife has advised him to masturbate if that would make him feel better cos she has no interest whatsoever in sex.

He is now thinking that about their miserable sex life as a couple and now thinks that perhaps the wife has a spiritual husband or cheating and really disillusioned with the marriage and turlt needs help.

What do you advise him?

Op u are not a Man .. you sound like a weakling....

Get Sex Lub and hit her center of gravity without apology....

I really think you both Sex drive is very Low..

You don't nag over the affair you can take control off,..

Handle her Horse reins and ride inside her like you travelling on a horse from Lagos to Kebbi state..


You don't need a second wife..

Just take control of the situation..
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Ashinze: 5:59am On Jan 29, 2022
Point of correction , Nigeria women not africa women
kkins25:

see as you listed reponsibilities of a woman you don't know. neither was any info provided that she was exhausted from work.
raising kids is stressfull? would she like to go and carry bags of cement? would she want to go and work, and let rhe man sit at home? Don't give us that BS.

African women are - i don't know- trained to be resistive to sex.

I once had a GF who complaimed to me that her weakness was sex. But it took me more than 30mins before i could reach the under wear, the first time we did it. smh!

if she can't cooe then she should shift and allow another to enter or support.

watch her get wet without provacation. lol

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by trilobite: 6:32am On Jan 29, 2022
Madam has never enjoyed having sex with Oga. She only tolerated him to get married and have kids. Now that these have been achieved, she has locked up.

The solution is to not see her as an object and reboot the sexual passion in the marriage. Stop see her as your wife, and see her as your new side chick. Take her out on dates, surprise her with flowers at work, prepare dinner in bed etc. Get her to open up completely to you, she will tell you the problem and how you can solve it.

Cheers.
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by toujurs: 6:33am On Jan 29, 2022
the only benefit i will enjoy from my wife is what i will suffer over too, Chai too bad, Sexual compactbility is a must check before marriage, i can't even marry a lady, thst her puna doesn't cream durng sex, neverrr, i don't even need er financially support, or what can you bring to the table, i don't care about those shit, just have a creaming puna, and we both good. I will do the hustle and provide. Be submissive too.

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Jhayeahsam01(m): 6:35am On Jan 29, 2022
No be only him de the shoe
Me self Dr face same with wiffy
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by toujurs: 6:36am On Jan 29, 2022
Ashinze:
Suck leak her Private, she will be the one begging you for Bleep all the time. But if her Private is not clean, take her to the bathroom, clean her up with Dettol soap and liquid.
You well so, how can you put your mouth in her puna. You well so , there are some ladies that don't like sex, i have dated one like that. Its not about putting your mouth there, even if you use sex oil, she would still asking you, haven't you cum, by the time you are firing the puna to 2 hours plus
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Pero003: 6:39am On Jan 29, 2022
Know woman hate sex,spend some money on her she we open her legs for u believed me guy
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Midas01: 6:42am On Jan 29, 2022
This is what happens when you persuade someone to marry you or entice them. Most Nigerian men do that. Well, marriage doesn't automatically bring live when it was never there in the first place.

If your wife will be honest you'd discover that she most probably doesn't love you. Let me tell you, if you love someone you.

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by Nobody: 6:56am On Jan 29, 2022
Well

I fee ur pain..my ex had a low libido,she doesn't moan during sex,she's never wet etc... I got frustrated asked her,she said I didn't bang her well that she's not a radio without ba3,omo I go buy viagra 100g still hit harder than ever,still same results... omo I jejely and quietly leave,you go beg for sex tire,since we started dating for 2yrs plus na twice we had the sex,she will ask you to get a lady that you will be having sex with, with no attraction or feelings..let it be sex wise.... e weak me

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Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by peacettw: 7:03am On Jan 29, 2022
LagosNissan:



Leave that talk


You guys are encouraging these women to be doing shit.

They feel less interested when they know they can get away with it.

Do you feel like going to work and paying bills all day?

But you do it nevertheless.


Same way people brag that they have hot temper but they don't show the temper at embassy during visa interview or at the army barracks.

They don't show it to their boss too.


Women are selfish by nature. Once they feel comfortable and assured in marriage they will be stupid.

Since you understand them so well, why not use it to your advantage and make this wife want you so much so that she is literally begging for sex.

Women are complex.
Re: My Wife Hates Sex And Prefers I Masturbate by cardoctor(m): 7:07am On Jan 29, 2022
Bad market

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