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pocohantas:
You are too dramatic, Maria. I do hope this is just a NL persona and doesn’t extend to the real world. No disrespect intended.

Stop na.

I am not dramatic.
Like I said already, I had my reasons.

People don’t have to understand, and that is ok.
Anyhow you choose to see me, that is also ok.

ojotobiloba1:
Did I just heard you right when you said you can't fight fellow lady because of a man.. Excuse me madam, he isn't ordinary toaster or fwend with benefit man..He is your rightful husband, fight for your marriage, fight for your home, fight for your children before one stupid unfortunate lady will take all what u labored for down the years. Peace

Fight for what? How do you fight for a grown ass man?Her children needs her even more now. When he is done fornicating, he can come back

Toks2008:
See funny advise.

How is it funny?
The marriage is over na..

The woman should file for divorce and move on.
The man has found a new love. He is entitled to it. The woman can find a new love too. Life move on. No big deal.
They both should share the bills of raising their kids.

She is a woman, men will rush her once she makes her self available.

Why is it that whenever a woman takes her husband's matter to social media everyone(99% of women) believes her story (without doubt or question) and start tear her husband apart not minding that she's probably telling us what she knows most women will believe, they tag along and sympathize with her and begin to"eat the husband" they never knew.
But if a man does that he's bullied by same fickle minded women that "he's not man enough", "every story has 2 sides", he's exposing his wife to public ridicule etc.
For all we know particularly married men, lots of wives regularly abuse and torment their husbands emotionally and psychologically especially very godly men who such wives believes he can't go out to see another women...
I beggi...!
Tell us about that "little argument", how frequent are these "little argument", "some misunderstandings", daily show of disrespect and calling "not man enough"...
I have experienced what some women have or doing to their husbands who go public but trying protect his "slow killer" wife...

cococandy:
Imagine someone disrespecting you and trying to act the victim too on top of it
Na you let am sha

What do you expect her to do ? Go and fight him, and end up in the hospital, with no one to look after the kids ? I will rather ignore him totally.

Saintmary:
This story is not written by a woman.

Why you think so?

Princedapace:
How is it funny?
The marriage is over na..

The woman should file for divorce and move on.
The man has found a new love. He is entitled to it. The woman can find a new love too. Life move on. No big deal.
They both should share the bills of raising their kids.

She is a woman, men will rush her once she makes her self available.

How old are you?

Have you ever been married?

Cos this advise is very typical of a naive person no pun imtended.

heniford2:
you used ur mouth push ur husband comot 4 hus naw ur telling us here abi to go find him 4 u again so u can start nagging 4ram wia u stop nii

depression most hit this dude badly that's his thinking if he marry a demon or a human woman no dey reason at all, e get easy and smart way to engage ur husband and her lover and ur home is secure, as u see the lady picture u 4 track her make her ur friend the piece the bitch in a process she will never notice ur coming b4 she understands the game u most have made her useless and home in other everything nobi gargar small sense no cost

What kind of talk is this? How many women will the wife continue to fight with just because of an irresponsible man? Is it until she gets infected with STDs or STI?

cococandy:
Because the men are mindless toys that get taken by whomever wants to? No conscious decision or effort on his part. He just sits there and get taken by whomever deems to

And that’s supposed to be the leader of the home too. Is he a mindless puppet or is he a purposeful leader? At some point y’all have to decide which it is. Because this mindset is insulting to men in general but you don’t care

He is a mindless puppet when it suits them to escape being accountable for their lack of self control and a leader when he wants to assert dominance and authority .

Amazingbaby:
No never,I am no fuul.
I told him that he must explain why a girl he deny talking with ever was sending him a message on when he is leaving the house at that time of the morning, if he likes he should stay away for a year.

No wonder he left.

nams77:
Who knows? He might even be under spiritual manipulation. Almost fell for this too. You won't even know you are straying.

Not supporting his actions though but pls add prayers too. Mariangeles what do you think?

Whatever she decides, it is up to her.

The hypocrisy in this life, women are really suffering in the hands of these men.

nams77:
Who knows? He might even be under spiritual manipulation. Almost fell for this too. You won't even know you are straying.

Not supporting his actions though but pls add prayers too. Mariangeles what do you think?

Spiritual manipulation? How exactly did he get there if he hasn’t had any sexual intercourse with the lady?
All these ladies that use Kayamata, don’t you know it’s usually during sex with a man that it’s been applied? All in the name of trying to keep a man?

Simran94:
What kind of a statement is this?
Is the man a kid or men who cheat on their wives are just stupid.
A grown man abandoned his wife and children just to go after an harlot and the next thing is to blame the harlot? If truly she used kayamata and all to make him start acting like this, is not if you enter into any sexual relationship with them that it would work?

You men need to start taking responsibilities for your irresponsible actions, always hurting women and your kids.

Now you want his wife to fight for someone who doesn’t want to be fought for? How?

The day you ladies wake up from your deluded slumber is the day you lot will be liberated.

MEN DON'T CHEAT and only married ladles commit Adultery and ofcourse the man they sleep with but if a married man decides to be with a single lady, there is no single crime in that as long as he wants her as another wife and not just fvking her.

I wrote a thread concerning this recurring issue. Perhaps you should take a look at it.

https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/opinion-present-day-woman-misplaced-priority#83457096

Cc: Lalasticlala

Let me advise you,
Ok
Listen
You see nothing in this life is worth dying for or nothing is worth taking your joy away. Your husband will only come back through prayers and maybe after he might have learnt in hard way.

My advise is that you don't struggle with him. Don't talk about it , just keep praying for him. Meanwhile try to establish your own business and collect money from him to establish same so that you won't loose on all sides.

The devil has erected a duplex in his life and about to let it out. Don't let things border you. You may treaten to report him to those you think he cannot afford to know about it. I mean those that respect him, not those he respects.

But Sha, establish your own business and use your brain. Bye

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

You amazed me ,what is your's will be your's and what's never be your's will never be your's, so keep on waiting OK, am coming for you. lol

Mariangeles:
Stop na.

I am not dramatic.
Like I said already, I had my reasons.

People don’t have to understand, and that is ok.
Anyhow you choose to see me is also ok.

You are Maria, trust me you are. Even my sugar daddy thinks you are. Some of us have been here long enough to understand you and ourselves. For some others, you know say by now everywhere for done red.

Toks2008:
The day you ladies wake up from your deluded slumber is the day you lot will be liberated.

MEN DON'T CHEAT and only married ladles commit Adultery and ofcourse the man they sleep with but if a married man decides to be with a single lady, there is no single crime in that as long as he wants her as another wife and not just fvking her.

I wrote a thread concerning this recurring issue. Perhaps you should take a look at it.

https://www.nairaland.com/5492915/opinion-present-day-woman-misplaced-priority#83457096

Cc: Lalasticlala

WTF is this? And you call yourself a Christian? Married men sleeping with harlots is no sin?
When God created Adam, how many EVES did he create as an help mate for him?

Disgusting

Simran94:
Spiritual manipulation? How exactly did he get there if he hasn’t had any sexual intercourse with the lady?
All these ladies that use Kayamata, don’t you know it’s usually during sex with a man that it’s been applied? All in the name of trying to keep a man?

U Neva see where dem use person picture or piece of clothes, hair etc do jazz?
Ok dey there

Toks2008:
How old are you?

Have you ever been married?

Cos this advise is very typical of a naive person no pun imtended.

I am 31 years old. I am married. 3 years of marriage. I am not naive.

WHat do u want her to do? Marriage is not by force. If the man has found love, she too can find love. Marriage has ended.

nams77:
U Neva see where dem use person picture or piece of clothes, hair etc do jazz?
Ok dey there

Oga, until you have a connection with them which is mostly through sexual intercourse or sometimes through eating their foods where they have inserted their portion, that’s when Kayamata works!!!

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Madam,
for the mental health of u and u family.
It's obvious he cheated, rebuke him and sternly warn him never to try cheating again.

But u insisting on him telling u where he went with that lady is unnecessary and immaterial, men hardly accept when they cheat on partner for fear of being used against him in future.

Saintmary:
This story is not written by a woman.

This is so on point. I was waiting for someone to bring it up.

Traffic seeking threads!

Simran94:
WTF is this? And you call yourself a Christian? Married men sleeping with harlots is no sin?
When God created Adam, how many EVES did he create as an help mate for him?

Disgusting

Babe polygamy is permitted by GOD just the same way he permitted divorce even when it was not in his original plan.

So you ladies should wake up from the white man's doctrine of one man one woman. That is one of the biggest scam in the world.

Monogamy is a choice.

pocohantas:
You are Maria, trust me you are. Even my sugar daddy thinks you are. Some of us have been here long enough to understand you and ourselves. For some others, you know say by now everywhere for done red.

Ok. Maybe I am. A little.

One of my “flaws” is that I don’t know how to pretend.
It gets me worked up.
So, when I feel the strong need to do something, I have to do it for my peace.

braine:
No wonder he left.

So she should wait for years till he decides to come back?

Madam when he comes back from where ever he went to make sure that is when your own anger will start..do not call or message him even if he decides to stay there for years..begging him or wanting to make peace with him now simply means you are accepting him to employ this lady and she is going to be your husband's second wife soon because she will soon get pregnant for him..infact when he comes back make sure he tells you where he has been with that girl..what nonsense..some women are suffering in this Nigeria

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Spiritual manipulation is the lamest excuse in the book.

nams77:
Who knows? He might even be under spiritual manipulation. Almost fell for this too. You won't even know you are straying.

Not supporting his actions though but pls add prayers too. Mariangeles what do you think?

cococandy:
Imagine someone disrespecting you and trying to act the victim too on top of it
Na you let am sha

What would you have her do?

Amazingbaby:
It is kind of surreal

My husband took his bag and left the house after an argument and have been gone for over a week now, trouble started when he came back and told me he wanted to hire a particular girl to work with him,this girl was working with his friend before he closed up.he told me his friend beg him to hire the girl.
Earlier in the week my husband told me he was going for a convention,I checked his phone and saw when this particular girl was asking him when he will be leaving the house at 7:44 in the morning,I didn't talk or made a fuss about it,so when he told me he wanted to employ this girl my suspicion grew,I asked him how does he want to pay her he told me the lady said she would work for free.
I started laughing,which girl on this island would want to work for free if you don't have anything to do with her.i started bombarding him with questions;
If the girl is your friend's employee how did she know about your business?My husband said he has not talked to the lady since last year but he never knew I saw the messages.

I told him to give me his phone only to see that he has been exchanging Whatsapp calls and phone calls with her.i got angry and was asking him questions he took his bag and left that night.

That was when I confronted him about the messages I saw the week before only for him to say he doesn't owe me any explanation.

I am deeply hurt that he would want to employ a person he has a secret relationship with and has the mind to tell me about it.he deletes any conversation he has with this lady,he hides his phone and would never pick a call in my presents.

Pls how do you think I should handle this,I told him the only way I would ever listen to him is if he tell me where he went with that lady on that Saturday. Calling her sounds desperate and I don't like fighting my fellow lady because of a man.your opinion pls

Men ehhhn
U left ur family for frivolities, e go clear for ur eyes

cococandy:
Imagine someone disrespecting you and trying to act the victim too on top of it
Na you let am sha

You always make sense.

Toks2008:
Babe polygamy is permitted by GOD just the same way he permitted divorce even when it was not in his original plan.

So you ladies should wake up from the white man's doctrine of one man one woman. That is one of the biggest scam in the world.

Monogamy is a choice.

Give me a bible passage where God permitted polygamy.
Even in the new testaments where God was talking about marriage, he said “And a man will leave his father’s house to join his wife and they shall become ONE” not half.

It is only the Muslim religion that it was stated that a man can have more than one wife.

God doesn’t even supports divorce unless it’s becoming a threat to life. It was in the Old Testament that Men made the laws claiming a couple could divorce but Jesus in the New Testament said: “It is said that you can separate from your partner but I tell you it is not so, as God doesn’t support it”

You should go and read your bible if you are truly a christian that follows the commandments which I doubt.