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Re: My Husband Left Us by Great0ne1: 3:47pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
cococandy:Hmm, you are just giving him reason to beat you to stupor. Ignore him and act like you don't find him attractive anymore |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Babydaddymateri(m): 3:47pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Lol... Baba werey ! He just wan use that manipulate you to begging him to come back home. Leave ham.. street go soon chase ham come back house, I promise. Coming from a guy 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by omosefeeguaibor(f): 3:48pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:You'll not fight your fellow lady for a man if the said man ain't your husband, this is your husband we're talking about oo,not that I'm saying you should fight her, anyways, at this point...you need to be as calm as you can be, because strong head won't win this war, fight on your knees dear wifey. Your man wanna chill with the big girls. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Amazingbaby: 3:56pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Update Thankyou all for your contribution He is back to see the kids, he has been providing a d talking to his kids daily,I guess I am the only one he has a problem with I will take a lot of advice into consideration,we have alot of intelligent people here. I was just surprise that he would want to employ someone he have been having secret calls and meeting with and would be arrogant about it. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by NOwazobia: 3:57pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
I Don't believe stories on nairaland again. They now look like twitter illusions. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Born2Breed(f): 4:00pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Toks2008: Do you think women don't feel like being with another man? Some men are so full of themselves, if only they understand how many men beg married women to marry them. It's the love and respect women have for the institution called marriage hence they don't cheat as most men do. 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by kowalsky: 4:04pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
ibechris: Lol. I'm not in the mood for insults today so let's be civil. Why should this woman 'fight' for her husband. Or better still if the roles were reversed will you be asking the man to 'fight' for his wife? Is the husband a fool? Is he a kid? Why should it take a fight from his wife for him to see the grave damage he's dolling out to his family and children. A man ups and leaves his matrimonial home and kids without explanation and all you patriacharl charlatants can say is for the victim to put in more effort to pacify the abuser. Op, you're well within your rights to be suspicious of your husband and his new found apprentice, especially given the texts you've seen and his more than apparent gaslighting. All that said, he can only do this to you and your kids because you gave him leverage to do so. As someone before stated, its most likely you depend on this man for finance. He's not scared of what you will do because he knows you need him to survive. Really, most times this is the dynamic underlying most abusive relationships, overrelliance on one partner by the other, whether for emotional or financial support. Do you want to continue letting this happen? Cos it's gonna keep happening whether you like it or not (and to your knowledge or not). Don't be a slave to no man. Take charge of your life or this will be the beginning of unfanthomable disrespect that'll most likely usher you into the warm arms of depression. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Left Us by LordOfTheGame: 4:06pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
In as much as I will never support any kind of infidelity and extra marital affairs and I'm deeply sorry for about what you're going through now. OP I have a feeling that your story may not really be as truth as it is in reality. Many women knows what am about to say, you people like to manipulate men and the situations surrounding us to always make us look bad while you carry victim card around. If your husband should say his own side of the story, it could be that you're one hell of a horrible woman. Maybe you don't appreciate his efforts in everything he does, with kind words of THANKS and ENCOURAGEMENT. Maybe you nag him from morning till night. Maybe you don't clean up and dress smart. Maybe you're very rude, mannerless and uncultured. Maybe you're lazy and selfish in the bed, no style, no creativity and no adventures. And your husband have looked very well and prefer to find peace in the arms of your opposite kind of woman and here you are writing epistle. And also, maybe your husband is just as asshole who thinks with his d!ck. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by DrayZee: 4:11pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:Nice. He still needs to answer your questions. His actions don’t make sense. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by dominique(f): 4:12pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
ibechris: The same way you'll fight for your wife if she runs off with a man, odi egwu 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Left Us by VULCAN(m): 4:13pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Are you single, married or divorced? Kobojunkie: |
Re: My Husband Left Us by kowalsky: 4:13pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Toks2008: Lol. Nawa for una for this country oh. If roles were reversed would you still be saying this. I mean, how dense are you to rationalize cheating as normal behaviour cause its coming from a man. If it were a woman now, y'all will be out with gargantuan pitchforks ready to slaughter the entire feminine gender. Or you think women don't have the urge to cheat too? Your wife probably wants to fvck all her handsome bosses who have more money, are better looking and will probably fvck her better than you do. She chooses to remain committed to you but you can't do the same cos 'its a man's nature.' Lol, funny people. Women have higher urges and chances to practice infidelity compared to men. Through societal romanticization of chastity and responsibility, y'all managed to subjugate their urges, yet you don't want to be held to same standards. What's even worse is the fact that you lot feel you can continue with this perpetual scam even as women are unravelling from your masochistic grasps. No worry, e go shock una 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Amazingbaby: 4:13pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
kowalsky: Madam you are the only one that kind of hit closer to the truth.yo be truthful he is the only breadwinner,I can't seem to get a job at my present location,it is quite pitiful. I have always suspected his arrogance stems from him being in charge of finance,I literally have to ask him for everything. I have no one to complain to about it because everybody kind of rely on him to get one thing or the other,God forbid they make him angry by advicing him....lol. Anyway regardless of finance I think I am still owed alot of explanations. I am making alot of moves to be financially liberated,been taking alot of courses on tech. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Toks2008(m): 4:14pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Born2Breed: Babe i have written many times. No body is stopping any lady from sleeping with another man outside her marriage. Whether you are a man or woman, there is a consequence for every action we take and we must be prepared to face it. Simple |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Toks2008(m): 4:15pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
kowalsky: I just addressed this point. Check my post above. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by kowalsky: 4:17pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Toks2008: Lol. What not intended pun are you alluding to. Or you're just trying to sound smart 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by kowalsky: 4:18pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Toks2008: And its a choice that goes both ways, gerrit? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Kobojunkie: 4:19pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Framed:Oh, I believe in Jesus Christ, the same one who said your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 - meaning there are no special rules that apply as far as your marriage relationships are concerned, so yes, it is spiritual hogwash to assert that one can use your typical churchian prayer and fasting templates to overcome problems in marriage. The same Jesus Christ also taught us that that those who love Him are those who obey His commandments and teachings, not those who are fastidious when it comes to prayer and fasting(diet). In fact, God's actual commandment regarding fasting looks nothing like the diet plans most go on pretending he is pleased by such acts - Isaiah 58. So yes, it is spiritual hogwash where God is concerned. As for those who head over to babalawos for answers to marriage issues, we both know how that always seems to end , don't we. The same way it does for the churchians who seek out similar spiritual answers from their pastors and mogs, all of them glorified babalawos. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by kowalsky: 4:20pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: I'm a guy. The sooner you address that financial liberation, the better for you 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Kobojunkie: 4:20pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
VULCAN:or abandoned? What does it matter? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Left Us by feek07: 4:26pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
socialmediaman: you just spoke my mind 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Kobojunkie: 4:28pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Amazingbaby:Please make certain to find yourself a Job or businesss of your own and start putting your brain to use for the sake of your family and marriage. No one knows the future that is why you plan today for what may come.. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by cococandy(f): 4:31pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
SoapQueen:. Thanks 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by cococandy(f): 4:32pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Simran94:you know the advice would be totally different. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by pocohantas(f): 4:35pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Mariangeles: I understand you. The forum can make someone paranoid, but just be calming down you hear? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Left Us by DuchessAmanda(f): 4:40pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
It is very unfortunate seeing how some NLs here have been condemning and judging the husband based on what OP said, when No one has even heard the husband side of the story. There are 3 sides here- The husband, the wife and the truth. Let us be wise here abeg. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:41pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
I will continue to be correcting this your wrong beliefs anywhere you type it. You keep giving morally wrong teachings, even when you applied the teachings in your life and it failed you woefully. Your relationship teachings can never keep a relationship, talkless of marriage, believe me, it scatters it. What you should teach is that men should not marry if they are not ready to be faithful. By the time they waste their years jumping from woman to woman, there would definitely come a time they would be ready to commit to a woman and be faithful. A good relationship counselor which you claim to be is supposed to teach what is correct/proper. You think anyone be it male or female does not have the trait to be polygamous in nature? Oga wake up from this delusion and clear your mind from the trash your illiterate African fore fathers fed you with. Your teachings provoke me. Toks2008: 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Left Us by marsup: 4:50pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Let him be for now.. When he comes back, remember to ask him to go for HIV and other std tests. Sometimes men always like to get shit outta their system. He will soon come back to his senses, I hope it won't be too late by then. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Aaae: 4:53pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Oh |
Re: My Husband Left Us by RealityGod: 5:00pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Amazingbaby: I’m disappointed with this your comment “if he likes he should stay away for a year”. So why bring the issue if you ain’t bothered? Abeg park your load and leave the marriage then since you are not ready to redeem your home. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by Toks2008(m): 5:02pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy: I dont blame you. I blame those pastors lying to you ladies cos they dont want to lose their female members or is it the clueless relationship experts dishing out unrealistic advice. Babe cry me a river if you like and mind you, i care less what you think about me. You either accept this truth or continue to live a lie. Marriage is not by force. Any lady who is not ready for the possibility of sharing her husband with another woman should remain single. It is just that simple. |
Re: My Husband Left Us by YellowMayor(m): 5:04pm On Feb 05, 2022 |
Saintmary: Honestly you're brilliant. And I like you because of that. Respect!!! |
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