Now my question is...

Whe you have millions of people attend your event, what benefit does it have over 10 key people attending your event?

It's still doesn't make any difference, if you are an introvert then you should plan your event accordingly.

Well, your nature as an introvert won't stop people coming to your party if you are a kind person

As a hardcore introvert, I will never have a reason to invite people to anything.


It’s just so impossible!

Canopy, chairs, party or drinks are not in my dictionary. I don’t go out and neither do I expect anybody to invite me to anything cos you will be disappointed.

I will never have a reason to invite people.

He would have learnt a lesson that has never been taught in school from that.

You have to strategically mingle with people you like and dislike

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GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

Op shey you see, the thing touch me I nor fit lie but I you gat to de relate for ya area, and work place mind you with the right people,
To avoid this type of situation in the future.

CXLVII:
As a hardcore introvert, I will never have a reason to invite people to anything.


It’s just so impossible!

Canopy, chairs, party or drinks are not in my dictionary. I don’t go out and neither do I expect anybody to invite me to anything cos you will be disappointed.

I will never have a reason to invite people.

Just wait till your moments of celebration comes. You will hate yourself

CUMIN:


Just wait till your moments of celebration comes. You will hate yourself

What am I celebrating?

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

The issue might not be mingling alone. Did you know some churches will not allow their members attend a late members burial simply because she has not fully registered and made regular class dues, women or men's association payments? Did you know some churches won't allow their members attend a late members burial if she is not a registered member? Now the issue is that even if you have been attending a church for 20 years, so long as you have not registered as a member and recognized by others as a registered member and you die, none of them will attend your burial

That I am trying to say is that even if the guy doesn't mingle with everybody but for the fact that his mom was a member of a particular church, his own canopy shouldnt have been that empty.

Nawa o

Acidosis:
The whole idea of separating canopies is senseless and invalidates whatever sort of love you all claim to share. All I see is fake love, insecurities, show-off, Etc. By the way, why do you need the crowd for grandma's burial? Are you going to bury some of them along with Grandma?

Rather than play along , make things go your way. There are 1001 ways to bury the dead.

Man wey sabi!! No be by redpill… you get sense

pocohantas:


Wetin be this na? Hahahahahahahaha

This embarrassment pass when person salp you for public

Nnatuu:
Now my question is...

Whe you have millions of people attend your event, what benefit does it have over 10 key people attending your event?

This is not about key people.

There's a reason parents join several social group. When you get there you will understand

OP what you wrote is so true. I'm in that delima now. Lost my mum, the burial has been fixed and I dont even have real closed friends to invite.
To be an introvert can be this bad

CUMIN:


This is not about key people.

There's a reason parents join several social group. When you get there you will understand

What do you mean by "when I get there"?

Do I seem like an unmarried child to you?

Mariangeles:
My parents don’t even joke with our town and village people’s meetings here in Lagos.
There’s one they meet once in every month, and another they meet once every quarterly.
They know themselves and always support each other in celebration of life and in mourning.
When you identify with and go close to your people wherever you are, they will always support and have your back.

Na this new generation dey think say na them sabi pass their parents.

Na the same thing with me I don't have friends even in my area I don't think anybody know my face , I just like privacy

CUMIN:


This is not about key people.

There's a reason parents join several social group. When you get there you will understand

When I get there?

Do I seem like an unmarried child to you?

I like staying alone oooooooooooo, at least it has saved me so many troubles.
My wife at times will be talking and I will be looking at her, well she knows me very wella.
We are 12years this year and we don't go out.

This year marked my 19yrs at my work place.
these are my stats:
Company Party: 2
Company Bar: 2
Weddings: 0
Burial: 1
Birthday party: 1
Others: 0

Even were I work, they know me that Igwe does not go out. but funny enough when they needed someone to represent them,
they will call me.
My own is Work/Church and nothing.
I don't even like staying in crowd talk more of inviting anyone, Nna men the lower or fewer the better for me.
Low headache, low troubles to attend to, infact low everything.
infact if I have my way, I will just go inside the forest and build and live there.

Same thing with me o.


Omo for us Introverts, how do we reconcile this? Because at the end of the day we need people one way or the other. We all need ourselves.

[b]it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

@bolded, you don't need to changw cuz of burial experience, just be yourself okay, the disadvantage of moving around with people is more than the Advantage
.the world is badder and crazier now so its best to keep your circle smaller

I'm just like you, i don't keep friends around but i have them away just to chat on phone

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

thats why i love myself. i dont like going out with people. i like my space. so if i am getting married and people do not turn out for the wedding, i dont give a damn. as long as i am married or the main aim has been achieved, no problem

Mariangeles:
My parents don’t even joke with our town and village people’s meetings here in Lagos.
There’s one they meet once in every month, and another they meet once every quarterly.
They know themselves and always support each other in celebration of life and in mourning.
When you identify with and go close to your people wherever you are, they will always support and have your back.

Na this new generation dey think say na them sabi pass their parents.

Because na this generation life change and things became bad, village meeting that they will sometimes be competing and having evil minds

The most important thing is to try and be successful, no matter how introverted you are, if you are successful people will want to be associated with you. Besides having crowd at your party isn't an indicator that you are loved by people.

I am also just like you,but you see whether you mingle or not people will still talk...
I found out that those you feel are friends,family may just likely be your nightmare!,probably try to make you look bad before others,not every gathering is graced with love for the celebrant.
people get poisoned on birthdays,weddings,and burials. Be your self he get why!

Onye kene Sunny, Sunny ekene ya.

Klass99:


Always the sensible guy. But, what are these 1001 ways to bury the dead? Abeg spill o.

1. Cremation
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1001. Body donation to research institutes.

This is bullshit..

Me, people think am proud and self-center. I handly mingle, even in church, i only relate with those in my department. I tell you the truth, many people are scared of talking to me
But this year my major plan is to make as much friends as possible.

As I am not a partying type, I would have tell you I'm hosting a small party, so that you won't expect political campaign group