My dear, you're not alone in this, I was once a chronic stammerer like you or even worse. I believe I'm 600% better than I used to be, and that's more than enough for me.
First off, you need to develop superiority complex, over-humility will not help you.
Secondly, when you speak among many people, try to dim your eyes so that you can eliminate their intimidating presence.
Thirdly, cultivivate the habit of being a talkative, but you will need to always speak slowly.
You also need to read books aloud, taking up responsibilities that involve speaking would also help you.
You also need to avoid stuttering demon(anger), my anger made me a freak back in the days.
When you address crowd, always find someone you love and someone you bond with, avoid looking at other people, make sure your gaze is on this special fellow.
Lastly, pray to God to help you out. I'd love to know of the progress you're making after reading my comment.

HenryIgwe01:
My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.

Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.

I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.

I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.

Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.

I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.

My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.

My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.

I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.

God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.

Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.

I don't have anything else to tell you because you are bold enough to judge the perfection of God. I have a great advice and counsel with awesome alternative but I am speechless at your boldness to condem God. I will stop here.

HenryIgwe01:
My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.

Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.

I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.

I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.

Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.

I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.

My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.

My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.

I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.

God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.

Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.

Move out of naija..
You would see how drastic ur stammering will reduce gradually

brimdans:
There's nothing wrong with you bro, your mentally is actually the problem here. Change it

See this one

Pls lets create a whatsap group where we can give updates about stammering
Its a major problem inmy life for now

I can feel your pain man. I also stammers and I feel it had limited me from achieving something that I know am confident of pursuing.

The simple truth is, you don't have to course yourself everyday. Just pretend as if its not there and live your life. I talk and communicate with people. I try to control it. Sometimes it hooks me but I won't pinch myself again. That's who I am. If you don't like me, then go fry beans.

You just have to look over the condition and live your life.

Jennyclay:
You this small boy come and for me. You're just wasting your destiny away. It's well o.

Come and learn good English from me,,,but it's not free

I stammer as well but not as heavy as you, my younger sister also stammered but now she says hers was cured with drinking water from snail shell!! I have always heard that it works but never tried it myself!! My sister did and she doesn’t stammer anymore!! So why don’t you give it a try and see what happens? Use a big snail shell ,wash it well and drink water from it for a few months.. maybe it really works.. afterall my sister says it cured hers

had no idea stammerers plenty for nairaland like this, I for don come ask for help donkey years ago. do not look down on yourself one bit, you just have to keep telling yourself "yes, I can!"
these tips helped me in my own journey:

1. find your social safe haven, it could be your friends from school, your siblings, church, etc. - for me, it was my church.
a. make friends with children and be ready to laugh at yourself when you're with them. children have a pure heart and will laugh at/with you, it will help loosen your guard.
b. make friends with elderly, married people - they tend to talk slower and more relaxed, and it helps to mimic their pace. you are usually under no pressure to impress them - talk to them about their hobbies, jobs, friends, etc., and soon you'll be revered in that social circle for your smarts.

2. then progress to talk to youths - now because they've noticed you are friendly with kids and adults, they now want to see what's so special about you and they want to impress you, not the other way around.

3. for romance - porn is a no-no! it will only create another wall that needs breaking down - trust me!
use dating apps my brother. nobody go see your face when you dey agitated. be funny, risky, spontaneous, and yab gals once in a while. girls are just like any other person on this earth, they want to have fun gist and play around. be spontaneous and ask them out, your place or somewhere public you know you are comfortable in.
if they like you, na dem go even dey complete your sentences for you, or petting you to calm down. don't put anybody - male or female, on a pedestal in your mind. na there pressure to impress go come from, and hence the stutter. believe you are as hot a catch as any damn body!
when I was younger, my elder bros were players and I used to think in me, na because I dey stammer o... if not me sef go be player, and I hid in my shell. but now, dating apps and social gatherings don turn me to player, because there are girls everywhere, and I mean everywhere!

4. for jobs - I suck at interviews, even if I come first in the aptitude tests, I still sucked at interviews. always try to go in with little expectations - it helps to subdue the pressure, instead try to stand out for your social skills, laugh and joke with other candidates you meet there, have a good story to tell the interviewer, and ask them engaging questions.

5. learn a high-level skill if you can, if work no come, you can always create room for yourself with your skills and competence.

6. I suppose write this one first, I forget - do breathing exercises and sing words whenever you can. it won't be easy but we always win at the end!

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Jennyclay:
Empty coconut head like you!!

Oh, so you could admit that yours was a typographical error and mine wasn't a typographical error right??

Scum!!

U aren't even brave enough to upload ur real picture on ur profile, shame!

Imbecilicsamuel:



Mynd44
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Rule number 1, 2, 3, 8,10 and 19 violated repeatedly

This is a cloned accounts created by one person. He created these new accounts after being banned countless times. He is a homosexual and identity theft criminal.

Below are his other banned accounts.

Ban him!!!

Mr Samuel. You don't need to report TheKingsmann Thekingofjoblessness.

I will handle him myself. He's a small boy.

Jennyclay:
I jennyclay is an Uncircumcised scum illiterate and an audio feminist with no brains, I'm absolutely a nobody!! Infact number 0 have more value than me. my mom is also a prostitute

Bush!!

Eyahhh

Jennyclay:
Mr Samuel. You don't need to report TheKingsmann Thekingofjoblessness.

I will handle him myself. He's a small boy.

But u can't even handle the way you write here, go and read for ur jamb exams, small girl with tiny brain

Imbecilicsamuel:



Mynd44
Seun
Justwise
OAM4J
Dominique
Lalasticlala
Rocktation
Farano
Dragnet

Rule number 1, 2, 3, 8,10 and 19 violated repeatedly

This is a cloned accounts created by one person. He created these new accounts after being banned countless times. He is a homosexual and identity theft criminal.

Below are his other banned accounts.

Ban him!!!

Do you know this is an offence? mistaking me for a troll I know nothing about, take this nonsense down now

TheKingsmann:
But My mother can't even handle the way she write here, Pls nairalanders how do I tell my mother to go and read for her jamb exams, she's a small woman with tiny brain

It is well oo. Please don't be harsh on her.

Tell her to go back to kindergarten... I mean, she could start all over again. Probably her brain will be as sharp as razor.

Jennyclay:
It is well oo. Please don't be harsh on her.

Tell her to go back to kindergarten... I mean, she could start all over again. Probably her brain will be as sharp as razor.

Kiddo u can do better, go and read for ur jamb exams and stop forming fake online feminist

[s]TheKingsmann The kings's B1tch:
Do you know this is an offence? mistaking me for a troll I know nothing about, take this nonsense down now[/s]

Have you cured your genital warts?

TheKingsmann:
Hello my dead brain mother u can do better, go and read for ur jamb exams and stop forming fake online feminist

Don't be too harsh on her please!!!!

Jennyclay:
My mom made me a prostitute so I won't be too harsh on my useless mother!!!!

Eyahh

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Jennyclay:
Don't be too harsh on her please!!!!

It's not too late to learn English from me though,,,,,the fee is just 40k per month,,,,u will pass ur jamb this year if you give me a try

Imbecilicsamuel:


You never cry finish.










Mynd44
Seun
Justwise
OAM4J
Dominique
Lalasticlala
Rocktation
Farano
Dragnet

Rule number 1, 2, 3, 8,10 and 19 violated repeatedly

This is a cloned account created by one person. He created these new accounts after being banned countless times. He is a homosexual and identity theft criminal.

Below are his other banned accounts.

Ban him!!!

It's now obvious dat u have mental issues,Can you post proofs dat I'm the troll up there? if u don't hv proof u have no right to accuse me of being him

TheKingsmann:
It's not too late for my mother to learn English from me though,,,,,the fee is just 40k per month,,,, My mother will pass her jamb this year if she give me a try

Then persuade her, afterall she gave birth to you, she would definitely listen to you. I still suggest you take her to kindergarten.

Well, I wish her all the best!!