Karleb:
Do you have a kid?
Do you teach in a primary school?

If your answers are no, then you don't know what you are typing.

I think from my previous posts one could easily surmise that I am definitely not a teacher in this relationship.

Not that I have any problem with teachers who in average spend significantly more time with our kids than most parents can boast of doing in an average week..

Telling you to stop shouting at him, I don't think it's new thing with the kind of movies they see especially from the western world.
Notwithstanding I feel there are other ways you can correct a child without using anything on him
Children of that age learn most times from friends especially the ones they roll with at school.
I wouldn't advice you to stop reacting when he starts misbehaving, if you need to spank do that so well but please be mindful so you won't leave an everlasting mark.
Threaten him with his class teacher because I tend to see that children are always scared when you report them to their class teacher.
Always try to bond with him even when he's Moody, know what the problem is, and always try to give solution.
But don't always give him his way atimes deprive him of things that aren't necessary.
If he's doing well academically always gift him but if reverse is the case try to encourage him and promise him amazing things.
God will see you through.

Justkatty:
Telling you to stop shouting at him, I don't think it's new thing with the kind of movies they see especially from the western world.
Notwithstanding I feel there are other ways you can correct a child without using anything on him
Children of that age learn most times from friends especially the ones they roll with at school.
I wouldn't advice you to stop reacting when he starts misbehaving, if you need to spank do that so well but please be mindful so you won't leave an everlasting mark.
Threaten him with his class teacher because I tend to see that children are always scared when you report them to their class teacher.
Always try to bond with him even when he's Moody, know what the problem is, and always try to give solution.
But don't always give him his way atimes deprive him of things that aren't necessary.
If he's doing well academically always gift him but if reverse is the case try to encourage him and promise him amazing things.
God will see you through.

Thanks for the tips. Will take note.

InTheCloudySky:
Him telling you how he feels after you shout at him, is a good thing. This means he's intuned with his emotions, which is a great thing for a 7-year old. It's better than him keeping it in and acting out later. Believe it or not, the best way to be firm with him is to not shout.

Him bringing the lunch box home a second time was an intentional move on his part, which again shows he's a smart kiddo. You've written his name on it in bold for him to see that it's his, so there's no reason for him to have brought home the boy's own again. His excuse that the boy had taken his cannot be true (again, because you've written his name on his own), unless the boy cannot read - to have taken your son's. Him blaming the boy and him asking you to buy him another one while brushing his teeth gives it away - that he knew what he was doing and he's merely trying to make you buy him another lunch box again.

He's definitely a smart kid, but it seems he's impressionable (easily influenced by others /what others have/what others are doing). You've to teach him to be confident in himself, to be content with what he has, and to not take things that don't belong to him. You also ought to be watchful of manipulative tendencies (manipulating people into doing what he wants), as that's what he tried to do with the lunch box thing.

Authoritative parenting is the best parenting style. Read more about it here: https://www.cnbc.com/2021/10/05/child-psychologist-explains-why-authoritative-parenting-is-the-best-style-for-raising-smart-confident-kids.html

He's a good kid and will be just fine.

Yes, he loves getting validation from people around him. Thanks for the link!

Candidlady:



Woah

How do you mean trial and error? Na human being ooo not some lab specimen

I quite agree with the dude who talked about trial and error.

You see while growing up as a kid, I had this awkward knack for intentionally spoiling things at home. My parents would always give me the beating of myself (I sure deserved it). But you see, the flogging only reinforced or strengthened my behavior negativity. Because the more they flogged me, the more I spoilt something far worse than before.

How were they able to correct me? Very simple. Back then, my mum helped me save the monetary gifts I received from friends and relatives. So, they came up with this policy that if I ever spoilt anything, that money would be used in replacing it. The devil in me simply called them bluff as few minutes after the proclamation I spoilt something. My folks acted and seized all I had. It really hurt me, it hurt me so bad that I preferred I were flogged instead. I cried my eyes out for days, I begged, and begged, yet my plea fell on deaf ears.

From then onwards while growing up, I was very cautious so as not spoil anything mistakenly, not to talk of doing it deliberately.

Reduce the shouting.............it's definitely having a negative (and will continue to have a negative) effect on him.Use it very seldomly.
Do a lot of talking,not just when you are angry or he has done something wrong but whenever the opportunity comes.

Make him participate in his 'trials' and punishment.Withdraw his pleasures from him as a form or punishment sometimes.

Keep talking to him about contentment and be firm.Whatever you give him should be what he takes.Children always like new things.Your boy's desires are not out of the ordinary.

His dad has a big role to play.If he works out of town,tell him to become more involved when he is home and even when away(by way of calls).

Parenting is a big job these days and children are more outspoken than during our own time, he definitely won't tell his teacher not to shout at him, you need to correct that he is 7 years old not 3 or 4.

As a parent you instruct, correct, scold and you need to know the right time to do either of the three depending on their age.

It's very important you let him know he should never be influenced by what others have, what you have is what you have, this particular one should have been in his memory before now.

Teettyllayho:


Thanks for the tips. Will take note.

My pleasure.

Why exactly are you itching to slap a child who you know has learning challenges?


You changed his school without considering the impact and yet want to beat him and shout on him for what reason exactly?

Don't listen to people who have been damaged by excess violence, think SMART.
Talk to him about the lunch box and ask him to decide a punishment next time he does that, tell him it is his personal responsibility.

Teettyllayho:

Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

Stop shouting at him, if he's going through a lot in school, he won't be able to confide in you. It will also affect his self confidence.

2. Stop beating/slapping him with your hands, introduce cane flogging and it should be on his hands. Do that once in a while.

3. Introduce punishment that affect his area of interest e.g Since you decided to come home with another person's lunch box, no cartoon/game for you today

Beremx:
Imagine a child telling his mother not to shout at him, that means if you shout at him when he’s a teenager, he will slap you.

Madam, start now to correct him especially with cane. No too much shout shout or else his misdemeanor will get out of hand.

Speaking from experience

Are you minding some confused people here.

I'm all for loving and caring for kids but I'm also a firm believer of proper value and respect.

Even oyinbo kids from proper homes dare not say that to their parents, especially the father.
They know them go chop beating!

If I'm angry at my kids, do you expect me to whisper?

Dem scold 7 year pikin, he dey form mood. Con tell the mama say she dey shout for am. E fit follow the papa abi teacher for school yarn that nonsense?

Teettyllayho:

Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

Madam I am a teacher and also a parent. I also have a 7 year old son. Believee when I say that our upbringing and this 21st century upbringing are not the same. Children of nowadays are outspoken, easily influenced, need more attention and emphasis on behaviour. You need to do the following:
1. Be more friendly to your son to the extent that he can tell you anything. As it is, that boy can hide secrets because of the way you're handling him
2. Be responsible to check his school bag and lunch box before bringing him back from school except he is on a school bus. Children will always be children until he is up to 18 years before you consider him as an adult.
3. Always pray for your child and bless him. Do it in his presence. This is one of my secrets as a parent. A lot go on in schools and even in your child's life.
God bless you.

Teettyllayho:

Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

You are not spoiling him, it is only proper you pet him after scolding him at times, you then tell him what he did wrong in soft tones, all kids love new things, you did too when you were his age so its not out of place, just continue showing him love.

Those little Burgers are really good at manipulation, especially when they know what to do to make u feel a bit guilty...U going back to apologize immediately after discipline shows u feel guilty....The boy dey use puppet eye to whine u.


Anyways, from my experience of baby sitting loads of kids( I do dat alot in our estate ). Constant beating, shouting won't work... I just make sure I install d fear of me in thier heart through different punishments , They have no idea what to expect when they break my rules...apart from dat I allow them to do anything they want, since I love watching anime, we get along pretty well...very obedient kids

Truth is parenting is not for the faint hearted. I have a set of twins boys and they are 9 years old. I see of lot of this drama daily and honestly it's not easy. Get his Dad to be more involved in his life, keep talking to him and let him know kno you won't need to shout at him if he didn't preempt it. I have different sizes of cane at home and my boys know where they are kept. They kno what warrants flogging and what offence warrants talking calming and what office warrants shouting. Atimes when I say some things they might even respond that this is a new generation, that if its America they would have called in the police. I'll respond and say till u go to America na, for now you are in Nigeria so behave like Nigerians if you don't want more cane . Haaaa parenting is not easy o, many times I get tired and go in to report to their Dad to talk to them man to man, maybe they will understand. Don't give up Sis, don't be too hard on him and at the same time don't be too soft too. Instead of slaps get a cane and let him know the reason you have a cane. Reward good behaviours with goodies like small salary in their piggy banks, icecream and other largesse but let them kno that d reward for bad behaviour is cane so they have a choice to choose their behaviour
Parenting is not for the faint hearted I repeat.

I'll suggest you see a pediatric therapist to rule out other issues.

You are very harsh. You have no reason to slap him for that.

The alternative is to take away his privileges. When he does something wrong, let him know the consequences and apply to asap, no second chances.

Candidlady:



Isee kobojunkie peeping... Sure she got something to say


Lemme learn although idont pray for boy child!!!

that's parenting, so deal with it. There's a way a child should go and must never allow emotions to compromise that

Guy it's not about rights here but the best way to train a child.

Kobojunkie:
Wrong!

If your shouts are causing him anxieties, he has a right to let you know. You both then need to work on an arrangement that limits the Shouting and gives you both piece of mind.

You have put him in a school that the kids are materialistic. Try to assess if that school is necessary. Also, are you struggling to pay the fees. This could be an indication that the child is in a school which is classier than your social status. This can make your child develop that inferiority complex from a young age if other kids are doing better materially. Please reassess these

Teettyllayho:


Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

Lmao, funny enough i would have done the same. Your son strikes me as a rational thinker. He feels he can take care of the issue thus involving the teacher would be making him look smaller/less responsible. You have a man in the making.

The lunch boxes look identical, If I don’t come home with the other boy’s lunch box where would I put my food for tomorrow naa. After lunch we can exchange it back

Regarding the issue of comparing what he has to that of others, you need to listen to him more carefully to understand what the issue is, so you can set him straight.

Her shouting hasn't made things better. She is an adult that can communicate without shouting. It is good upbringing to raise a child that can resolve issues without screaming like a banshee.

Beremx:
Imagine a child telling his mother not to shout at him, that means if you shout at him when he’s a teenager, he will slap you.

Madam, start now to correct him especially with cane. No too much shout shout or else his misdemeanor will get out of hand.

Speaking from experience

Teettyllayho:

Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

Simple na, tell him hence forth I will only shout if you do something bad twice. If only ones, I won't shout but if you repeat it i shout at you. The good thing is he is sensitive, I think he will adjust over time.

Madam, please drag your husband into this matter. I am feeling the absence of a father figure. There is that kind of excitement I notice from my kids once I am around because I get so much involved in their affairs. They will always wants to do things to perfection, especially my son.

I travel a lot out of my base and my wife would call to make one complaint or the other about my daughter, especially regarding her studies and assignments. But once I am around, they are always at their peak performance. I don't beat them but my dedication and commitment to their affairs is top notch. And I do talk to them maturely for them to know that they are in control of their destinies.

The Father must be involved. My people do say: "Nna bu ugwu", meaning, fathers are source of pride and dignity, especially to the children. Please, co-opt your husband so that you are not weighed down with emotions. He needs to take charge as well. Parenting is not an easy job.

All the best!

Teettyllayho:

Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

Try punishment. Something different to keep him thinking about what he did. You can't leave him alone to be wrong, if shouting at him brings anxiety.

Ahmed0336:
No vex, where's his dad?
I want to believe you're trying your best, I don't think you're spoiling him. Just give him time he will outgrow this phase.

which dad, she is the one to correct him.

Candidlady:


Isee kobojunkie peeping... Sure she got something to say

Lemme learn although idont pray for boy child!!!

thank God say man no b God.

Teettyllayho:

Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

Raising children is not an easy task and it shouldn’t be you doing it alone when you have your husband. Where is your husband and what is your husband doing on his part to train the child morally? He should have been observing this behavior in the child too, you both need to work together on the child.
Parenting is not for just the woman, it’s both for the husband and wife except for cases where the woman is a widow.

Parenting na your mate?

You are not ready to have kids.

Kids are not stupid that you can't have an arrangement with them. It gives them a sense of responsibility and accountability. She can talk softly and still get him to behave. She isn't first parent with kids.

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Karleb:


Stay there and be forming woke.

If the mother is angry, do you expect her to talk softly?

Work on an agreement with a 7yr old, wtf are you saying?

Can the kid say that to his teacher?