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SocialJustice:
Who no get money no suppose phuck? Na wa. Nigerian girls sha, the bulk of una just useless.

Iyaebe:
Don't put yourself under any pressure to get married. If you love her and she can wait till you are on your feet,fine and good but if otherwise then you let her go.

Candidlady:
Y E S

Truvelisback:
Allow her to marry someone else if she wants to. Work on urself and meet someone else. There are lots of ladies out there. The major reason we men get marry is for sex and reproduction. So, no woman is too special for u to keep or to lose except she isn't a liability and she is financially independent. Because las las, na u go still carry all the bills for ur head.

deekseen:
Romance doesn't work well without finance. Since you know you are struggling financially, let one of the other men that are currently capable settle down with her.

In due time, when you are finally financially stable, you will find your wife.

Don't hold on to her now, denying her the opportunity to marry now and abandon her later, because things refused to be stable.

Don't marry her now when there's no financial plan or backup. Just let her go jeje. You'll be doing yourself plenty of good.




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HardMirror:
dint make that poor girl suffer indeed. At least you know the girl is poor and does not have brain to make money for herself. Lol

ednut1:
hope it applies to ladies too as many of them will starve to death o.

ndukwechinasa:
Smiles.... You are right but the girl is so nice though nobody is perfect. I think what the mum said is true.

placeofallure:
Tell her exactly what you told us now. You may leave out the part where you said you initially wanted to just chop and clean mouth. If the mother isn't money crazed, she'd pray for you to make it in life quickly and encourage her daughter to be patient.

My mum did exactly that for me. She told me not to lose faith in my bf then (now hubby) that the fact that he didn't have then doesn't mean he'd be like that forever. Today, my husband worships my mum, you'd think she gave birth to him and there's nothing he can't do for her too. I envy them.

Get your acts together, work hard and work smart, you'll be fine. The girl seems like a good girl, don't lose her.

Candidlady:
Don't even think bout settling down... Till you are financially stable or on the average.!!

Don't allow that poor girl suffer cuz her mum is laying pressure on you.. If you ain't ready don't make the move!


And yeah since you are not financially stable do not have sex with her or anyone please

Thank you

ndukwechinasa:
I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to
What do I really do now?

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ndukwechinasa:
I met my girl friend around 2015 but I was not so serious about loving her. Just wanted to make love to her normally or even become a casual friend. But my intentions did not work out as planned we both stop communicating.

Not until December 2020 when I had accident and she eventually came visiting me and bought somethings for me. I was so impressed for the kind gestures. Her care and kindness made me started loving her.

However, this love extended to her family. I always call the sisters and the mum at will. I also visit their village during festivities and their base too. She is kind to me that I can not imagine. I have grown to love her immensely that I don't have affection for another woman.

But yesterday, my babe called that the mum wants to speak with me. I aborted the call and hurriedly call back. I greeted the mum and she responded very well. She asked me not to get upset that she wants to know my intention towards her daughter that time waits for no one and again there are suitors coming but the daughter said she loves me. Finally she will not be happy with me if I dump the daughter in due course.

I just told her that I love her daughter so much and I also have the intention to marry her but she should also pray for me that things work out right for me.

Honestly, I really love the girl so much but I am not financially stable now cos I lost my job two years ago and I have been trying to put things in order as to meet up financially.

What do I really do now?

MATURE MINDS���

Candidlady:
Don't even think bout settling down... Till you are financially stable or on the average.!!

Don't allow that poor girl suffer cuz her mum is laying pressure on you.. If you ain't ready don't make the move!


And yeah since you are not financially stable do not have sex with her or anyone please

Thank you

frozen70:
You did well by informing her mum about your intentions on her

The next step is to discuss with your girlfriend and find out if she will marry you as you are not yet stable

If she accepts that, then ask her about their marriage rights and how best you guy carry it out without much fan fare

It's now left for her family to cooperate with you

Some women sponsored their marriage because then man couldn't and they lived happily while the man still finds his bearing

The only problem with such marriage plan is when the man starts measuring his muscles with the wife by being authoritative at home and there by proving stubborn

That will definitely not go well with them.

You can't be poor and troublesome in a relationship

CharlotteFlair:
You'll be forming love when broke. Wait till you land a juicy job and then come back and ask us again. Mtcheww.

Oturatetuala:
Don't worry God will grant all your heart desire. Be hopeful and things will get stable for you to settle down with her.

delishpot:
There are lots of ladies out there? hahaha. Real men will tell you that this is just fabu. Unless you don't plan on being emotionally attached to the women and you don't care if they are to you too. That way just marry a leech and she will sit still and do your bidding.

kingsceemark:
So sorry for the accident, how's your body right now? I hope you have fully recovered? As for your girlfriend and marriage issue, God will provide for you and for all of us in Jesus name Amen, it's WELL

ndukwechinasa:
Amen. Thanks bro/sis.

placeofallure:
Tell her exactly what you told us now. You may leave out the part where you said you initially wanted to just chop and clean mouth. If the mother isn't money crazed, she'd pray for you to make it in life quickly and encourage her daughter to be patient.

My mum did exactly that for me. She told me not to lose faith in my bf then (now hubby) that the fact that he didn't have then doesn't mean he'd be like that forever. Today, my husband worships my mum, you'd think she gave birth to him and there's nothing he can't do for her too. I envy them.

Get your acts together, work hard and work smart, you'll be fine. The girl seems like a good girl, don't lose her.

ZUBY77:
If you like don't respect yourself and get stable financially first.
The same person you think loves you will be the first to tell you how useless you are.
You can not buy Rice, Diapers or pay house rent with love