₦airaland Forum

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why are guys losing interest in settling down?

qtguru:
Nope your statement has always been a man is to toil the soil for the family while the wife handles her money anyhow she likes, No African responsible man goes into marriage looking at his wive's purse but it's also a good feeling to know, you have a supportive partner. Let's face it, not alot of men earn enough to play that role traditionally. You have to bring something to the table, this is not playground, this is a family household. my principle is always 70 30, I cover 70 and you chide in 30. You think I want to wake up and slaving myself for someone just for the person to be more financially ahead of me and I do not benefit from that

Who does that ?

You personally are not always realistic in your answers which is why I called you "Naive" not as an insult, but the fact that that's not in touch with reality.

I cover all the bills naturally, but a women's gesture to doing things on her own for me will appeal to me more, than someone who doesn't hence why no man wants to date a liability.

Your Father's period has passed, this is a new economy and generation

dangoteinlaw:
Had one girl like that, within 2weeks dating her my account went down by 150k, what I bought or spent it on idk .. Imagine a young single guy in that kind of spending spree in this present economy. Nigeria girls are thieves!!

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why are guys losing interest in settling down?

MadamVanessa:



There's nothing in marriage. Lately, our women have been doing as if their survival is tied down to marriage or if you don't marry, you're a failure. Stupid mindset. Have your baby or babies with a man then live your life independently. It's foolishness to live under a detect of a man.

If you can't deal with sexual urge, there's no harm in having sex gadgets of all type and satisfy yourself if need arises or you look for one hot hansom guy that is matured and use as sex slave.

Bleep marriage

Iyaebe:
70:30? How are you going to discuss it with your patner,what bills will you be assigning to her?i don’t just get it.The thing is I will fall out of love with any man who starts discussing bills with me and the percentage that I’ll be shouldering,it shows there’s no love in the first place but business transactions and some selfish interests.Is love not supposed to be blind abi the blindness should solely be on the woman who will be expected to be perfect at all other things while the man can be escused just because he’s doing his provider role? What else do men bring to the table aside money? What makes you a man?Why do you demand respect from your spouse? If you want your woman to start sharing the financial responsibilities with you,do you still deserve total respect from her? There’s a reason why God created us differently but I don’t understand You modern men any longer

MadamVanessa:



There's nothing in marriage. Lately, our women have been doing as if their survival is tied down to marriage or if you don't marry, you're a failure. Stupid mindset. Have your baby or babies with a man then live your life independently. It's foolishness to live under a detect of a man.

If you can't deal with sexual urge, there's no harm in having sex gadgets of all type and satisfy yourself if need arises or you look for one hot hansom guy that is matured and use as sex slave.

Bleep marriage

Iyaebe:
70:30? How are you going to discuss it with your patner,what bills will you be assigning to her?i don’t just get it.The thing is I will fall out of love with any man who starts discussing bills with me and the percentage that I’ll be shouldering,it shows there’s no love in the first place but business transactions and some selfish interests.Is love not supposed to be blind abi the blindness should solely be on the woman who will be expected to be perfect at all other things while the man can be escused just because he’s doing his provider role? What else do men bring to the table aside money? What makes you a man?Why do you demand respect from your spouse? If you want your woman to start sharing the financial responsibilities with you,do you still deserve total respect from her? There’s a reason why God created us differently but I don’t understand You modern men any longer

zanshi:
A lot of men grew up not having female attention, so even as they grow older the knack to be succesful and make something for themselves financially is almost more rewarding than a relationship

Most relationship are too transactional (ie. What are you going to give me so as to get my attention)

It's too expensive, every girl out there wants something shoe, phone, impromptu favours and all these are financed by $$$, as a man you are put in a demasculating position if you don't grant these favours to these women are the snap of a finger, and when you decide to weigh the options, such financial resources channelled into such wasteful expeditions.

Most women are boring, if you pay attention to men or you are fortunate to be in men's spaces, we like to talk about different things that affect us an society, a Nigerian woman on the other hand would only engage you only if she likes you, and only if she likes the topic being discussed. if you observe with keen intrest at how much relationships takes shape, it starts with a simple "Hi and Hello" but most modern day women want to fall in love with you at once and don't want to invest in a relationship.

A lot of women lack the ability to be able to pair bond with a man becuase they have an abundance mindset that the men would chase them forever and even when they have a stable relationshp, they would still have one eye and one eye out as if there is always something better out there. Truth is that there is always someone who would be richer, better and prettier than our current partner, but commitment is key.

Men too have standards: A lot of women growing up told us we were broke and worthless as to why we can't talk to them. Few years later the men have built themsleves and now have standard on not wanting to be with poor women. Today's high value men dont want women who just only bring beauty to the table, men now want women who can work pay their own bill and be financially stable. On clubhouse i have heard a situation where a Nigerian bloke in the diaspora said he can't be with a woman in the diaspora who made $50k not because of the money but the mindset.


Pornography: More and more men are watching porn and masturbating more and men who do that don't have this urge to flirt with women like that....

LGBT has also take it's fair share from both sexes on men who should in a stable romantic relationship.


A lot us men grew up with faulty idelogies that just told us make the money and the girls would flock around you, while i very much fault this mentality, it make it looks as if you are buying someone for the sake of the money which kills the purpose of romance.

A lot of us don't know how to date, we were never just thought how to.

Mainstream media is not real life, the Meida would try to project this happily ever after always happy no fault type of relationship which means anything outside the confines of that is bad and toxic. People are almost not allowed to bicker over things in their relationship with the hope to iron it out, your female friends would glee and cheer you up to jilt and kill your realtionship But the truth is real relationship requires lots of forgivness.

The economy: Having a two parent hosuehold in todays world cost a lot of $$$ and the women want to rescind to the old world order where they sat home looking pretty while the men went out and brought home the bacon.

EdwardRandy:
Lol.. Your own no good o

holicupp:
The best age for a man to marry is 50+, when you are done enjoying yourself

Animegirl:
Because they're lazy, don't want more responsibilities.

Blablamalala:
It is only a foolish and poor man that regrets after spending on women.

Animegirl:
Because they're lazy, don't want more responsibilities.

DryMouth:
Correct.
This is my number 1 reason.

I can't carry anybody's problem. Lemme tell you, pvssies are littered everywhere on the streets of lagos especially pvssies of smallies(under 20) and the most exciting thing is that it cost almost nothing to get.

Why will i now tie myself down with responsibilities of another person that offers only that same pvssy?
It's lame getting married these days.

Gerrard59:
I think it's your circle or environment. For instance, almost every girl/lady I know is getting married. The ones who aren't married are either in a committed relationship or have many admirers. BTW, these ladies aren't dating or marrying fellow females but men. Also, it depends on your age group. That's, if you are in your 30s or move with men who are in their 30s, you will certainly get wedding invitations here and there.

When I read people rant (at this point, it's all rants) about folks not marrying, I laugh as it's largely your environment or peer group. Nigerians are largely conservative people who will always desire to marry regardless of what woke culture or social media spew.

Animegirl:
Because they're lazy, don't want more responsibilities.

Blablamalala:
It is only a foolish and poor man that regrets after spending on women.

Uncle96:
To be honest , marriage is so overrated

DrFunmisticGlow:
I see your type die ALONE AND MISERABLE once or twice a month, who am I to discourage a low-key paedophile

Animegirl:
See your IQ- 0.0. Move away, I don't talk to unintelligent men. No wonder your sense is in your small tiny Dickson. Dont quote again

Animegirl:
Because they're lazy, don't want more responsibilities.

Slynation:
Lol...They are not thieves, na you no gree take the redpill & become enlightened

Animegirl:
Between me and you, I wonder who is the mad person here. Stop stalking me, small boy. You're not in my league. . Don't worry about me Dear, my life is much better than your generation combine.

Also I'm not after men, infact they crawl to get my attention

zanshi:
A lot of men grew up not having female attention, so even as they grow older the knack to be succesfull and make something for themsleves financially is almost more rewarding than a relationship

Most relationship are too transactonal (ie. What are you going to give me so as to get my attention)

It's too expensive, every girl out there wants something shoe, phone, impromtu favours and all these are financied by $$$, as a man you are put in a demasculating position if you don't grant these favours to these women are the snap of a finger, and when you decide to weigh the options, such financial resources channelled into such wasteful expeditions.

Most women are boring, if you pay attention to men or you are fortunate to be in men's spaces, we like to talk about different things that affect us an society, a Nigerian woman on the other hand would only engage you only if she likes you, and only if she likes the topic being discussed. if you observe with keen intrest at how much relationships takes shape, it starts with a simple "Hi and Hello" but most modern day women want to fall in love with you at once and don't want to invest in a relationship.

A lot of women lack the ability to be able to pair bond with a man becuase they have an abundance mindset that the men would chase them forever and even when they have a stable relationshp, they would still have one eye and one eye out as if there is always something better out there. Truth is that there is always someone who would be richer, better and prettier than our current partner, but commitment is key.

Men too have standards: A lot of women growing up told us we were broke and worthless as to why we can't talk to them. Few years later the men have built themsleves and now have standard on not wanting to be with poor women. Today's high value men dont want women who just only bring beauty to the table, men now want women who can work pay their own bill and be financially stable. On clubhouse i have heard a situation where a Nigerian bloke in the diaspora said he can't be with a woman in the diaspora who made $50k not because of the money but the mindset.


Pornography: More and more men are watching porn and masturbating more and men who do that don't have this urge to flirt with women like that....

LGBT has also take it's fair share from both sexes on men who should in a stable romantic relationship.


A lot us men grew up with faulty idelogies that just told us make the money and the girls would flock around you, while i very much fault this mentality, it make it looks as if you are buying someone for the sake of the money which kills the purpose of romance.

A lot of us don't know how to date, we were never just thought how to.

Mainstream media is not real life, the Meida would try to project this happily ever after always happy no fault type of relationship which means anything outside the confines of that is bad and toxic. People are almost not allowed to bicker over things in their relationship with the hope to iron it out, your female friends would glee and cheer you up to jilt and kill your realtionship But the truth is real relationship requires lots of forgivness.

The economy: Having a two parent hosuehold in todays world cost a lot of $$$ and the women want to rescind to the old world order where they sat home looking pretty while the men went out and brought home the bacon.

Iyaebe:
70:30? How are you going to discuss it with your patner,what bills will you be assigning to her?i don’t just get it.The thing is I will fall out of love with any man who starts discussing bills with me and the percentage that I’ll be shouldering,it shows there’s no love in the first place but business transactions and some selfish interests.Is love not supposed to be blind abi the blindness should solely be on the woman who will be expected to be perfect at all other things while the man can be escused just because he’s doing his provider role? What else do men bring to the table aside money? What makes you a man?Why do you demand respect from your spouse? If you want your woman to start sharing the financial responsibilities with you,do you still deserve total respect from her? There’s a reason why God created us differently but I don’t understand You modern men any longer

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why are guys losing interest in settling down?