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TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

You did very well. Thumbs up.

Birds of a feather

Expected nothing less

Olosho always support themselves

Animegirl:


Men with their Yeye way of testing a lady. I don't see any wrong in what your girl did na.

I mean if you have the money, why not spend it? Life isnt that deep abeg. Nigerian men should actually calm down.

See how you made her the wicked person here because she refused to eat your 1500 food.

Reason why most of you have failed relationship/marriage. Small issue both of you can resolve, know her reason and let her know yours, instead you turned it to Russia and Ukraine war.

Just say you want a new girl and move with your wahala.

Blunttruth:
You are the one who spoilt her. You can't make a decision with just one incidence. Keep up the act for like 6 months then you will know whether to take her serious or dump her

so in other words he should waste her time for another 6 months and then dump her abi, Weldon sir

Phut:
Please read in full before commenting. He told her they would not spend more than 3K. She agreed. They got there, he told her she would pay 1,500 and she would pay 1,500. She again agreed. They put their respective monies into the pot.
She ordered 1,500 and he ordered 1,050. She asked him to use the remaining 450 to buy plantain and he refused.
OP with this adversarial mindset you have, I don’t see any relationship you have going anywhere. BTW, I think this story is a figment of your imagination.

your the one who needs to read up again he said he told her his budget is just 3k ,so does that mean if he doesn’t spend that 3k they won’t see the next day ? The truth is that most Nigerian girls forget they have parents and again most of them are hungry girls shuu u carry all ur family problem put for ur bf head typical Nigerian babe

you are not a serious person

You can't judge her with this though, just talk to her about it I'm sure she will readjust...

She mustn't do everything the way you expect though, people are different

You did great my G, don't wife her na leeches, naso I ask one girl I no get money not good looking not smiling nice not speaking will she look my face what exactly attracted me to you? She said is bcus I'm a good guy lol I told her did you know me from Adam to determine I be good she come vex lol dy carry face me no send her Sam Sam

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

She's full of drama.
She would be doing a lot of things for no reason, just to be seeking unnecessary attention from you.
End that relationship..

chronique:
The kind of stories I'm reading on Nairaland today though. This one wants to break up with his gf because of 450 naira plantain. The other thread, the guy is busy grinding pepper and making stew for the house while the wife is looking for Bluetooth audio speaker to watch film;they are both acting papa ajasco and company... Omo, I done tire for una marital/relationship matters on Nairaland.

A lot of guys here are not wise at all. I can't blame them though, when money is available ,there is this false security that blinds their sense of reasoning ,prudence and management which some greedy manipulative ladies take advantage of .If she can display such stupid attitude in public with just 450 naira. There is no telling of her attitude if it's a million naira.A little fire � can cause an avoidable future disaster bro. Be wise!

U are mentally derailed for saying she will pay with copulation later. Like seriously? is she a LovePeddler or aren't they going to enjoy it together? while must he be a slave to the babe because of sex? some naija guys are just very stupid thats y we have many babes with the mentality of the OP babe. Shior!!!!!

rickleye:
In my eyes you both acted immaturely
1. You had a budget of N3000 ( You said not more than N3000) - So when the food was ordered it was less than N450 she wanted plantain. Let her have the damn plantain. !!!
2. Because she didn't get what she wanted she takes the food , doesn't eat it and in addition moves away from you ( Is she 16 ? ) I mean common.
3. You too vex and then apart from your food, you ate hers as well. So at the end you consumed 2600N all by yourself which is more than you had agreed upon.

There has to be more than binds you together than this episode if you really love her.
Talk to her that you find her behaviour childish that because the food was under the budget did not mean we should spend it all. We could have used the remaining money for something else. You will however find in relationships there are some battles you avoid to win the war. If you want to have whoopie, let her have the damn plantain because she will pay with copulation later on. Its give and take later on.

OP, you have a problem. That girl did not do anything wrong. It's your fault.

DenreleDave:
Will you marry me??

I am married sir

OP, taking a lady out is not a big deal. I do take a woman out sometimes and ask her to order whatever she wants.

Last time I took my girlfriend out together with her friends. They were three in number. Another guy man saw me and was like my brother, your girls are very pretty. You're enjoying. I smiled and then asked him to join us. At the end of the day, I paid for everything.

These modern girls are something else. Ingratitude nature and ungratefulness everywhere. No make mistake marry her oh! If she loves you she won't behave like that.....

I giv you double respect for wat you did... Guy you never see wife oooo

Thats y i love my wife...even if i buy her 1k something and 2k for myself she go just eat her own..

As a man i prefer she eats the most though...

Blunttruth:
You are the one who spoilt her. You can't make a decision with just one incidence. Keep up the act for like 6 months then you will know whether to take her serious or dump her

You are a very wise man

Nat404:
OP, taking a lady out is not a big deal. I do take a woman out sometimes and ask her to order whatever she wants.

Last time I took my girlfriend out together with her friends. They were three in number. Another guy man saw me and was like my brother, your girls are very pretty. You're enjoying. I smiled and then asked him to join us. At the end of the day, I paid for everything.

So in essence what are you trying to say � because you obviously didn’t make any point

Animegirl:


Men with their Yeye way of testing a lady. I don't see any wrong in what your girl did na.

I mean if you have the money, why not spend it? Life isnt that deep abeg. Nigerian men should actually calm down.

See how you made her the wicked person here because she refused to eat your 1500 food.

Reason why most of you have failed relationship/marriage. Small issue both of you can resolve, know her reason and let her know yours, instead you turned it to Russia and Ukraine war.

Just say you want a new girl and move with your wahala.

Yeah..OP seems very crazy.

Kodifashionhub3:
So in essence what are you trying to say � because you obviously didn’t make any point

Seems you lack commonsense.

Small pikin everywhere... Anyways, Na boyfriend/girlfriend palava... Nothing serious

enjoy ur blissful home.. i hope u r not choking ur husby with bills while u sit

STENON:
I am married sir

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

First, she isn't the next level babe..This one is for the high way.

Reasons;
1. If you have your apartment, what is stopping her from cooking?

2. A woman who sees future with you, must find ways to economize things so you can both enjoy quality at a reduced cost...meaning she will opt you take her to market to get some things after checking your kitchen to know what and what you have in there.

3. Anger issues..Most ladies are water that quench the fire in a man, if she is a fire too and you from your narration is a fire as well, you guys are time bomb waiting to explode.
Relationship works and walk into marriage that becomes a success when one is fire, one is ice water.

Normally, she will be the one that will tell you to spend less so you can save.

GUYS!!! A lady that sees future with you, no dey bill you...She hates seeing you spend extravagantly..It worries her as well.

Even, she makes serious contributions.

But, you see these ones, ones you start the car engine, she don dress up for activity, na dem..

Make you dey wise sha.. This is a small issue, but be on the look out.

pixey:
A lot of guys here are not wise at all. I can't blame them though, when money is available ,there is this false security that blinds their sense of reasoning ,prudence and management which some greedy manipulative ladies take advantage of .If she can display such stupid attitude in public with just 450 naira. There is no telling of her attitude if it's a million naira.A little fire � can cause an avoidable future disaster bro. Be wise!

The behavior of the girl is bad quite understandably but is that enough to end a relationship? Depends on individuals but if you ask me, I'd say no. These are the things people dating need to talk about and work on. Remember, we are all imperfect people trying to build a life together. Personally, I'd sit the girl down and talk to her when we get home and make her see my point. To be honest, I can't even get upset about something like this except it's a very expensive place. That being said, I don't think everyone should behave like me. There are too many things you'd encounter in a relationship that can cause serious problems. If we start breaking up for every little excuse, then we have no business dating. Dating should afford us the opportunity to see some of our flaws and correct them. If he had tried to correct her and she still kept on behaving same, it would have been a different thing. But then, everyone with his own cup of tea.

Kodifashionhub3:
So in essence what are you trying to say � because you obviously didn’t make any point

Small children mindset dey worry am..

Mugu is feeling like Cubana..

Your girl friend who is serious with you, won't even bring her sister along for an outing not to talk of coming with two of her friends.


He needs the experience and lessons as well..it will shape him later on.

DenreleDave:
enjoy ur blissful home.. i hope u r not choking ur husby with bills while u sit

Thank you . Yes o, we are both choking ourselves with bills

do u av a sister i can hook up withv

STENON:
Thank you . Yes o, we are both choking ourselves with bills

God no make 450 be issue for my life to make me come social media dey talk dirty talk. Amen

Mercychen:
Your mumu don do.

When you'll be dating small small girls that should be running errands for you and calling you brother, what do you expect?

Na you want smally. oya, relish the consequences of dating small girls.

That was childish of her. Even when I was her age, I wouldn't do that because my parents gave me good home training and taught me to be content and grateful in the littlest things.

She trying to make sure you used up all the money will not make a good wife. She still needs to grow up and understand life some more.

I know say you go still go back to her.

Lmao evening news paper

franksam2009:
so in other words he should waste her time for another 6 months and then dump her abi, Weldon sir

My point is ,put her to test. It might not be up to 6 months. Should he dump her over just this incident

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

So before you wanted to take the relationship seriously? Lmao