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TheOldGods:
it was crazy how she exhausted hers, she didn't even ask me if I wanted something else to complete the money. Such a selfish fellow

Her type they only good for smash and dump whenever you are tired. Congrats you found a cum bag to ease your thirst whenever

oshaosha2014:
She will pay with copulation later. Wow. Like in that copulation she'll be suffering and the guy will be enjoying abi. So, na only man dey enjoy copulation because they don't pretend about liking it like the woman? What is she paying? This una mentality na why woman think she's all that when she's just a human being with flesh and bones like you. Copulation is not payment!

let me clarify. Once you have been in many relationship you pick your battles. Why will I quarrel over N450 for plantain when I know its going to affect her mood when I try to initiate for sex later on. It's a mood killer. If you try and force sex when she is not emotionally present or angry at you, It would be like you're having sex with wood. She would just lay there and when you're done -ask " are you done ''?
So to avoid this ... just pick your battles. I would have rather let her have plantain - I've eaten, she's eaten and we can talk about " the test" later on.
I have been with a g/f who just when you are about to have sex will start bringing up issues that happened in the morning - And I will be left scratching my head - Why didn't you bring this up prior so that we can deal with it. Why now when the candles are lit and the music is going that you decide to bring up a hot, contentious topic which just kills the mood. ..I pick my battles.

Animegirl:


Men with their Yeye way of testing a lady. I don't see any wrong in what your girl did na.

I mean if you have the money, why not spend it? Life isnt that deep abeg. Nigerian men should actually calm down.

See how you made her the wicked person here because she refused to eat your 1500 food.

Reason why most of you have failed relationship/marriage. Small issue both of you can resolve, know her reason and let her know yours, instead you turned it to Russia and Ukraine war.

Just say you want a new girl and move with your wahala.

If you have the money, why not save it or invest it. That is how people become wealthy not by spending every spare Kobo you have. You may think the money is small, but in wealth psychology no amount is too small to waste

funshint:
You weren't matured about this. Since you've already gotten your test result, why still go into control mode by disallowing her from using the rest to buy her dodo? Don't play money games with a woman again, even the one that pretends to be conservative during courtship may change when you marry. You can't know a woman fully until you marry her. Just pray to God to give you plenty money. Besides can't she cook?

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Some of you dig the well that swallows you.

The guy did the most reasonable thing any respectable man would do.

We need more men like TheOldGods.

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SmartyPants:
The bolded is really alarming.

Paying for sex with plantain is your own idea of maturity?

You pick your battles. Arguing over N450 will hinder initiating for sex down the road. See how bitter she got - she didn't even eat the food. Been mature means you are able to process things differently - developed mentally and emotionally. Again I ask. Why argue over N450 when there is a bigger picture. If you determine she cannot save. You buy the groceries and she cooks - You open a savings account and save. Usually when women stary working - they start saving because they know the value of money, she clearly doesn't.

rickleye:
In my eyes you both acted immaturely
1. You had a budget of N3000 ( You said not more than N3000) - So when the food was ordered it was less than N450 she wanted plantain. Let her have the damn plantain. !!!
2. Because she didn't get what she wanted she takes the food , doesn't eat it and in addition moves away from you ( Is she 16 ? ) I mean common.
3. You too vex and then apart from your food, you ate hers as well. So at the end you consumed 2600N all by yourself which is more than you had agreed upon.

There has to be more than binds you together than this episode if you really love her.
Talk to her that you find her behaviour childish that because the food was under the budget did not mean we should spend it all. We could have used the remaining money for something else. You will however find in relationships there are some battles you avoid to win the war. If you want to have whoopie, let her have the damn plantain because she will pay with copulation later on. Its give and take later on.

Copulation, a means of payment?

Animegirl:


Men with their Yeye way of testing a lady. I don't see any wrong in what your girl did na.

I mean if you have the money, why not spend it? Life isnt that deep abeg. Nigerian men should actually calm down.

See how you made her the wicked person here because she refused to eat your 1500 food.

Reason why most of you have failed relationship/marriage. Small issue both of you can resolve, know her reason and let her know yours, instead you turned it to Russia and Ukraine war.

Just say you want a new girl and move with your wahala.

It's either your foolishness is beyond measure or you are not eligible for marriage or both. SMH

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

This gender with their petty troubles! SMH. I hail you guys dating them!

Kingnelson9:
She f**ked up...

Women can act like petulant children atimes sha. Creating a storm out of a teacup where there should be no trouble SMH.

TheOldGods:
not just one act, she is always looking for ways to blackmail me

save yourself unnecessary heartache and problems. Let her go. There a re Tons of more decent ladies out there, but they may not look as fine..... concentrate on character

Women wahala

PossibleG:
your the one who needs to read up again he said he told her his budget is just 3k ,so does that mean if he doesn’t spend that 3k they won’t see the next day ? The truth is that most Nigerian girls forget they have parents and again most of them are hungry girls shuu u carry all ur family problem put for ur bf head typical Nigerian babe

His budget cannot be 3K when she paid 1,500K. Are you freaking kidding me? The crux of the matter is she paid for her food, he paid for his and then she asked to use his left over money 450 naira to buy plantain. Naim wey cause trouble. If you guys want to go around dragging 450 naira with someone you supposedly like and are dating, then be my guest.

NapoleonHill:
Are you still based on this discussion or something else?

You can ask that on the post that was quoted.

Am a woman but some girls are stupid, arrogant and ingrate

You did the right thing bros

You are one of the few Nigerian men with some spine left.
Kudos to you. It’s your money & you should determine how it is spent.
As usual, she only tested how much of a man you are ( so as to trample on you further) & you did not fail your ancestors.

Phut:
His budget cannot be 3K when she paid 1,500K. Are you freaking kidding me? The crux of the matter is she paid for her food, he paid for his and then she asked to use his left over money 450 naira to buy plantain. Naim wey cause trouble. If you guys want to go around dragging 450 naira with someone you supposedly like and are dating, then be my guest.

how did she pay for her food, while the money is all mine. I am the one who brought the 3k to be spent, from my wallet. Read to understand

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

I'm very impressed with the efforts you registered here on the highlighted text.

TheOldGods:
how did she pay for her food, while the money is all mine. I am the one who brought the 3k to be spent, from my wallet. Read to understand

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each.


According to you: You told her to handle it, to which she said fine. What exactly was she supposed to handle?
You also agreed to “split the fees”?
Your English funny die. Your communication skills with your girlfriend and your communication skills on this thread are deficient.

Phut:
Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each.


According to you: You told her to handle it, to which she said fine. What exactly was she supposed to handle?
You also agreed to “split the fees”?
Your English funny die.

I brought out 3k from my wallet, and told her to split it. Is it too hard to understand

Hightser:
Mumu, how old are you again?

You can ask your mumu father, he knows.

Bro,, please send dat b!t*ch outta ya place .

She's not deserving of that title "wife"

Kingsasian:
Bro, you did well.

Very well

chronique:
The behavior of the girl is bad quite understandably but is that enough to end a relationship? Depends on individuals but if you ask me, I'd say no. These are the things people dating need to talk about and work on. Remember, we are all imperfect people trying to build a life together. Personally, I'd sit the girl down and talk to her when we get home and make her see my point. To be honest, I can't even get upset about something like this except it's a very expensive place. That being said, I don't think everyone should behave like me. There are too many things you'd encounter in a relationship that can cause serious problems. If we start breaking up for every little excuse, then we have no business dating. Dating should afford us the opportunity to see some of our flaws and correct them. If he had tried to correct her and she still kept on behaving same, it would have been a different thing. But then, everyone with his own cup of tea.

I like your approach to be honest but you are seeing it now as just petty. There are many bad behaviours I can put up with but this is a serious red flag because it involves money and finances. Marriage is not just about I love you dovey dovey.If it's all about it, we wouldn't be having divorces daily. One of the main reasons why divorces is so rampant is usually financial management disagreement between partners.
This flaw needs to be looked upon seriously .If I were to continue with the relationship after seeing repeated flaws,I would have made up my mind not to marry her anymore. Na friends with benefits tinz be that of which it perfectly suits her.There are some flaws that can't be overlooked. These flaws are something they need to realise and work on their own.

pixey:
I like your approach to be honest but you are seeing it now as just petty. There are many bad behaviours I can put up with but this is a serious red flag because it involves money and finances. Marriage is not just about I love you dovey dovey.If it's all about it, we wouldn't be having divorces daily. One of the main reasons why divorces is so rampant is usually financial management disagreement between partners.
This flaw needs to be looked upon seriously .If I were to continue with the relationship after seeing repeated flaws,I would have made up my mind not to marry her anymore. Na friends with benefits tinz be that of which it perfectly suits her.There are some flaws that can't be overlooked. These flaws are something they need to realise and work on their own.

Well, like I said, different strokes for different folks. We all have the things we can tolerate and the things we can't and that's fine. At the end of the day, I wish everyone good luck.

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?

Do not hastily generalize, be sure this is not an isolated instance. Observe her disposition to spending and saving if you have not. Just before you arrive at a conclusion about her

DenreleDave:
do u av a sister i can hook up withv

I don't have a sister for #450 plantain topic

chronique:
Well, like I said, different strokes for different folks. We all have the things we can tolerate and the things we can't and that's fine. At the end of the day, I wish everyone good luck.

Exactly same here !

10k budget for date nko

STENON:
I don't have a sister for #450 plantain topic

DenreleDave:
10k budget for date nko

Nah. It won't still be enough to buy drinks after she has finished eating the Plantain

u r not her.. link us

STENON:
Nah. It won't still be enough to buy drinks after the food

DenreleDave:
u r not her.. link us

She is online reading this

Come and marry my sister..... She is everything you would need in a woman

TheOldGods:
We have been dating for a while now. Been coming to my house and my parents knows her. Normally she visits and sleeps over and ofcourse because she is my guest ,I'll have to give her food etc.


So today I decided to be different. I told her I was hungry and if she was, ofcourse she hurried and said yes, dresses up and jumped in my lexus. I just smiled, and started the car and we drove to a restaurant.

Before we got down from the car, I told her that I don't want to spend more than 3k on the meal between the both of us, and I told her to handle it, which she said fine, and split the fees to 1500 each. She got her food and a huge chicken which everything was 1500 naira on her end, and I got swallow which was about 1050 naira on my end. And the total money was 2550 naira. Then suddenly my girlfriend told me she also wants plantain, that the money is not yet upto 3k. That it must reach 3k. I was shocked because, if we were married then she can't help me save money when I tell her let's cut down cost. I thought she would even be happy that she saved me money and now we didn't send upto that 3k. But wow.

The waiter wanted to take the food and add the plantation of 450, but I refused and told her to collect her payment as we were done ordering.

My so called girlfriend then got angry and decided to seat somewhere far away from me, and we didn't see each other till I was done eating, although she waited for me. To my surprise she didn't eat that food, she packaged it back in a takeaway bag, and kept it for me. I asked her why she didn't eat the food she ordered by herself which was already 1500, as we agreed, and she said she won't eat it, and I took the food back. I ate the food myself with the chicken.

Right now, I don't want to take this relationship serious. Did I do the wrong thing by not allowing her spend the remaining money and making it 3k? Which ofcourse was the remaining money from my own food.?