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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Ndidi2: 2:34pm On Apr 01, 2022
Cheerycherry:


This is not the first time! I'm very open! I'm not an SU, I'm not a wrapper tying wife, I've talked to him, done all sorts even when I'm dead tired I give in to sex in different forms! Is there anything else?
Tame him through ur knees..
It works.
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by frozen70(f): 2:35pm On Apr 01, 2022
Mom007:

Seen and duely noted. This simply means you have accepted deep in your heart that your husband is cheating and as long as he doesn't rub it in your face, you are OK with it. Not everyone is as strong as you madam. Anyways, good luck!

My dear, men will cheat because of their Africa mentality that I am a man

Women too do cheat but in a coded way

I use to leave my phone unlock until I saw my husband going through my phone, I actually kept the phone in a funny position, by the time I was back my phone position changed, meaning he was going through my phone

When I came back I didn't ask him anything

I just password my phone till today and he didn't ask me why

I decided not to touch his phone because I want to be happy with myself

Every one has a cross to carry

At a stage in your marriage, you will develop thick skin and concentrate on your children as a mother

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by DEMZEE(m): 2:35pm On Apr 01, 2022
Simran94:


If the reverse was the case, would you give this same advise to the husband? If the wife was the one sending her shirtless pictures to another man, would you tell the man that there’s something he’s not doing well and that he needs to talk his his wife to find out?
LOl

MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT AND PLAY BY DIFFERENT RULES WEN IT COMES TO SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS

A PROMISCUOUS WOMAN IS VERY DIFFERENT FROM A PROMISCUOUS MAN

FEMALES SHOW LOYALTY THROUGH SEXUAL FIDELITY
MALES SHOW LOYALTY THROUGH PROVISIONING, PROTECTION AND BEING READY TO DIE FOR THEIR WOMEN
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Born2Breed(f): 2:37pm On Apr 01, 2022
Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while.

I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then.

Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick.

When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking.

Earlier this year, I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well.

Asides this, he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff.

He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise.

This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking.

I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.

It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex.

I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!

He is already cheating. Let him know two can play the game.

Firstly, reduce your financial contribution to the home. Secondly, ignore his phone. Lastly, do something, anything that will make you happy.

Like I said two can play the game. Dull yourself and you become an emotional wreck.
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by olak4gold(m): 2:39pm On Apr 01, 2022
I love the way you don't hold it up. Talk to him and ask him how he'd feel if you were the one caught up with his cheating and lying antics. Your marriage is too young for see finish to set in so soon. Talk to your husband because men generally wish to Bleep other women they like but the respect and Godly attitude won't allow some and some men would go ahead to cheat. May GOD save your home from any calamity and uphold your family.
He loves you so much he just wanna test some waters but tell him to fear God and if reverse is the case how would he feel?
I am a counselor and therapist and would tell you the truth without fear or favour. GOD bless all families and would be couples.
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Ndidi2: 2:39pm On Apr 01, 2022
ChoCho54:
What the eyes does not see, the heart does not grief about.
is good to check phone sometimes.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Pimine: 2:40pm On Apr 01, 2022
dalass:


A cheat will always cheat..... Most men are thIs way.... They love to talk dirty... I'm sure you self will have one or two former classmates or ex s on your contact who would be doing so to you.... Go ahead and talk dirty with the two and make sure he sees it.,. ... He'll know what it feels like too grin
Aswearugaaad

I always pity women girls like you. You think you have it all figured out but you don't know shịt.

Men and women don't show love the same way. You end it with a man who loves you because he slept with a girl he doesnt give a shịt about, only to end up with another man who's gonna do the same. grin Try that your advice at home and find your ass on the streets where you belong in less than 2secs.
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by fluffybaby(f): 2:43pm On Apr 01, 2022
If this was a post created by a guy now, heavens would have been pulled down by males and cheap score hunting females lamenting how all women are not loyal.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by lilvicky68(m): 2:44pm On Apr 01, 2022
MeghaneMorgane:


Why should she stop checking her husband’s phone?

Stop fornicating, they will not hear. Fornicators are future adulterers and adulteress.

God please give me a virgin husband
I'm here.. prayers answered

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by mbjsuki(m): 2:45pm On Apr 01, 2022
Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while.

I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then.

Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick.

When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking.

Earlier this year, I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well.

Asides this, he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff.

He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise.

This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking.

I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.

It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex.

I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!


My dear sister,
Please get a seat and listen carefully to what I'm about to say. 80% of men cheat, it is their DNA. I'm a man, I have been married for about 15 years. I travel a lot before and after I got married, all work related.It was a perfect opportunity to get laid. My boss was not helping either. He offered me this opportunity to get laid even when I'm not interested, all expense paid for. My Ex-boss was a chronic womanizer and a chief priest when it comes to women's affairs. That rubbed off on me over the period I was working with him. Undue influence. Check his circle of friends. And change some if need be. Keep an open communication with him, tell him what you might resolve to if this act of his continue. Ask him how he will feel if he found you in similar act!
If you leave him right now, it will not change a damn thing! My wife saw and noticed all these too with me, she stood by me and changed me to a better person. Because the next guy could be brutal and worse than this current guy. Rather, sit up and be determined to make your marriage work, by all means necessary crook or by the truce. Don't you walk away because there are many consequences to that action. You can win him over with love.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by frozen70(f): 2:48pm On Apr 01, 2022
DEMZEE:


YOU ARE A SMART WOMAN WHO FULLY UNDERSTANDS AND ACCEPTS THE MALE NATURE WHEN IT COMES TO SEX

MEN CAN LOVE THEIR WIVES THE SAME AND STILL FVCK HOES

Yes thats why the matured ones do over look that side of them

When he is tired he will come back home but by then the love is gone to the kids

And he will remain lonely and probably irrelevant to the woman

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkie: 2:48pm On Apr 01, 2022
Mom007:

Seen and duely noted. This simply means you have accepted deep in your heart that your husband is cheating and as long as he doesn't rub it in your face, you are OK with it. Not everyone is as strong as you madam. Anyways, good luck!
I wouldn't go as far as to claim that a sign of strength on her part. More like she accepts the situation no matter how demeaning it may be for her person. undecided

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Mom007(f): 2:49pm On Apr 01, 2022
frozen70:


My dear, men will cheat because of their Africa mentality that I am a man

Women too do cheat but in a coded way

I use to leave my phone unlock until I saw my husband going through my phone, I actually kept the phone in a funny position, by the time I was back my phone position changed, meaning he was going through my phone

When I came back I didn't ask him anything

I just password my phone till today and he didn't ask me why

I decided not to touch his phone because I want to be happy with myself

Every one has a cross to carry

At a stage in uoir marriage, you will develop thick skin and concentrate on your children as a mother

Good luck to you ma. I'm 9yrs and counting and I'm glad that I and my husband have not gotten to this stage yet and by Gods grace, we never will. Both our phones are unpassworded and open for anyone to use, even our kids. I'm not saying you didn't raise genuine concerns but I am saying not everyone can take what you have accepted as your fate.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkie: 2:51pm On Apr 01, 2022
Mom007:

Good luck to you ma. I'm 9yrs and counting and I'm glad that I and my husband have not gotten to this stage yet and by Gods grace, we never will. Both our phones are unpassworded and open for anyone to use, even our kids. I'm not saying you didn't raise genuine concerns but I am saying not everyone can take what you have accepted as your fate.
That is what it is. This fate people accept all so they can continue as Mrs in marriage. undecided

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 2:51pm On Apr 01, 2022
Marriage is either you stay, have patience since your husband has no domestic violence abuse over you......or you leave because you feel you have a better man who won't cheat on you...

All you need to do as a woman is to find other ideas your husband can divert his money into, like , building a house in the village or city, opening an investment business that will make him spend his money tightly and rightly ....
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by frozen70(f): 2:52pm On Apr 01, 2022
Mom007:

Good luck to you ma. I'm 9yrs and counting and I'm glad that I and my husband have not gotten to this stage yet and by Gods grace, we never will. Both our phones are unpassworded and open for anyone to use, even our kids. I'm not saying you didn't raise genuine concerns but I am saying not everyone can take what you have accepted as your fate.

Thanks dear, I accepted my faith because there are much things to chase with my strength than chasing to know who my spouse sleeps with

The children always look up to mum because they know that mum understands more than dad

And they expect the mum to keep a smiling face at all time

So I have to brace up

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by AfroKnight: 2:56pm On Apr 01, 2022
My sister, from your username Cheerycherry, I can almost guess your personality. Sometimes people think the fact that they have a good thing in hand means they can get something even better outside and move from enjoyment to enjoyment. But they are often disappointed. It is a sad thing to discover that one’s partner is cheating or at least flirting with other people.

Make sure you document all your expenses towards the building project properly. Prepare yourself but hope for the best.

He enjoys the thrill of flirting. He won’t stop just because you appeal to his sense of fairness. His problem is contentment. He lacks it.

If you want to divorce, hope you know it’s a long journey. Don’t start without legal advice (especially concerning all joint projects and accounts). Ask plenty of questions.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by MrBroke(m): 3:09pm On Apr 01, 2022
Y check his phone. A man is a man, you are his wife, as long as he puts you first, Bleep dem other bitches, let him eat dem. Love ain't sex. Okay.
Don't continue on his phone, it might just cause a shit problem for you both. Be a Good wife that's all grin
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by SweetDipBenny(m): 3:10pm On Apr 01, 2022
Cheerycherry:
Good evening family landers, I created this account because of this and I need advice from people that have been married for a while.

I've been married for almost 3 years now and we were in a relationship for more than 6 years before then.

Since I married my husband, I've noticed that he's an emotional cheat so to speak. One time I stumbled upon a chat with a girl saying things like if I catch you I will wound you with d ick.

When I bring it up he will tell me he was joking and even swear with his life that he will never cheat on me he's just joking.

Earlier this year, I stumbled upon his chat with a girl who I happened to know as well, a very young girl sending his shirtless pics and asking her if she knows how to ride d ick well if she can kiss and suck his whatever well.

Asides this, he sent her money up to 13,000 in the space of a week while he kept telling me he had no money and I was managing my personal money to run stuff.

He apologised and said its because I don't kiss him when we have s ex and he didn't even intend meeting the girl that it was him catching cruise.

This week again I stumbled upon his chat with another girl, he has known this girl for a while tho and I've met her too. He sent her a message saying Je ki n do e kara e bale in yoruba which means let me f uck you let your body calm down. I've been mad since I saw this one cos he apologised and afterwards said he was just joking.

I'm tired of the disrespect the whole nonsense brings to me and I'm considering leaving. I have a well paying job, I take care of my personal expenses and send money to my parents and siblings myself and we have a child together.

It's not s ex cos we have sex not less than 2-3 times a week; very satisfying s ex.

I need inputs from married people please.
We have an ongoing building project together which we are both sponsoring 50:50. I'm not an uptight person at all, I talk, I make jokes, I'm not boring!
There're two things involve here, its either u not doin ur job well as a wife or he's jus joking wit those girls
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by AdedoyinO(f): 3:11pm On Apr 01, 2022
ChoCho54:
Sharaaaap dia! You children of nowadays!

The man dey suffer you? E dey abuse you? E dey beat you? Somebody wey una join hands dey build house, simply because he's reacting to the things he sees on TikTok, you want to kee yasef! Foolish geh!

Abeg park out if you want to. Before 2 days, he'd be fuccking those girls on the bed you both shared!

He will so flex your absence ehn..
He will be walking around naked in the house and celebrating his freedom.

After six months, you will finally accept his begging and go back home only to be seeing artificial nails that fell off from God knows who everywhere.

Now you will start buying new bedsheets to replace the old ones because you know the royal rumble that took place on them grin

Hypocrite! Would you spew this trash if it was a woman cheating on her husband covertly or overtly? Wouldn't you have told the man to send the ashawo parking? Rubbish and ingredients.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by AdedoyinO(f): 3:14pm On Apr 01, 2022
frozen70:


Yes thats why the matured ones do over look that side of them

When he is tired he will come back home but by then the love is gone to the kids

And he will remain lonely and probably irrelevant to the woman

Hoping that he has not infected the woman with one deadly STD by the time he is done and tired with his cheating.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by okunwaye(m): 3:18pm On Apr 01, 2022
Why is it that if a man cheating, you will all advice the woman to cope with him and not read his chats and the rest.
But if it's a woman that's the cheat it outright divorce?.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Nobody: 3:23pm On Apr 01, 2022
DEMZEE:


MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT AND PLAY BY DIFFERENT RULES WEN IT COMES TO SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS

A PROMISCUOUS WOMAN IS VERY DIFFERENT FROM A PROMISCUOUS MAN

FEMALES SHOW LOYALTY THROUGH SEXUAL FIDELITY
MALES SHOW LOYALTY THROUGH PROVISIONING, PROTECTION AND BEING READY TO DIE FOR THEIR WOMEN
OK
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Banbanna(m): 3:25pm On Apr 01, 2022
Considering the situation, isn't it high time you start being uptight for once, since he keeps taking your jovial and amiable nature for granted.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by DeRealRalph: 3:26pm On Apr 01, 2022
We got married last November after 1child and 5years of dating, I borrowed close to 500k for our wedding, 2weeks after our wedding her colleague at work lodged her in a hotel and they had sex, after series of video calls asking her to show him her breast, her butt and all that, I wouldn't have known. If not for the fact that I bought her a phone on her birthday and decided to restore her WhatsApp... And all the messages started popping up, I don't what to start talking about what they said, It will break me.

It's hell dealing with a cheating partner, but just move on, you may end up picking another one if u decide to divorce.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by HRMK: 3:26pm On Apr 01, 2022
i dont know how old u are but ur simply not yet matured for marriage!u dated a man for 6yrs and already married to him for 3yrs!u still dont understand him!cant u think of why he allows u access to his phone?dont u think he wuld rather be secretive about it all?he isnt at all cheating on u but simply catching cruise on social media!a man u share joint project with and never defaults?what else do u want?UR ON UR OWN!
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by nedekid: 3:28pm On Apr 01, 2022
Hmm.
See, if you think your husband has not or will never cheat on you, then you are living in fantasy land. The same applies with your wife. The issue is that you pray it is not excessive. This is the fact, but people look at it as impossible.
Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkie: 3:29pm On Apr 01, 2022
DeRealRalph:
It's hell dealing with a cheating partner, but just move on, you may end up picking another one if u decide to divorce.
That very Hell is reason why some chose to exit such situations. Not everyone believes Hell is worth having or living with here on earth, neither worth dying in when you only have one life and chance to be happy. undecided

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kobojunkie: 3:31pm On Apr 01, 2022
nedekid:
Hmm.
See, if you think your husband has not or will never cheat on you, then you are living in fantasy land. The same applies with your wife. The issue is that you pray it is not excessive. This is the fact, but people look at it as impossible.
What do you mean by the statement in bold though? undecided

What is the difference between cheating and excessive cheating? Does the one hurt less than the other or what? undecided

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Ekzoba(m): 3:33pm On Apr 01, 2022
Your husband is an akwuna man.Sorry for your predicament.If you believe in prayers then take it to God in prayers.

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Re: How Do I Deal With An Emotionally Cheating Husband by Kingpele(m): 3:33pm On Apr 01, 2022
U didn't catch your husband cheating on you ,best it could be attempted cheat ,now I believe just maybe your husband want to drive you nuts with jealousy o that u will pay more attention to him ,because if he is really cheating on you ,he won't live any chat for u to read ,at best your husband is cunning and manipulative, try to make him feel truly loved he will outgrow this childish behaviour, am married for 11years now believe me

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