premierlead:


I have no more trust in her since then. She knows well that I saw her and there is no more secret about it, only that no third party has heard it yet

Did you trust her before?

Trust nobody.

premierlead:


I think it would be better sending her away as I don't want to be faced with depression or hypertension at this stage of life, though she has been begging for another chance. Thinking of reporting her to mum and her people

Thinking? You better do that now, before the tables turn against you. She has no self respect and definitely no family respect. The thought of leaving her baby to get smooched by a man is totally irresponsible.

Guy if this your story is true, I do feel sorry for you. I think you should talk to her and hear what she has to say. You need to talk about it otherwise it’ll keep eating you inside.
If you really love her and want to save your marriage, your wife should live with you so you get to see each other everyday. Distance relationship is not good for married couple especially newly weds. If the space is small bring your wife and manage with her until you get a bigger space otherwise things like this will continue.

premierlead:



Thank you so much, I think I am getting the solace I needed from great mind like you on this forum now

For now I think you should stop eating her food.

TheNiceGuy:
Though it's bad but this is common among the locals and it always end there

I can bet it, she's not a cheat. The woman must be one kinda Social person, that's one of the problem of being over Social.

You are right especially those women that are carefree and like money...

I have a lady like that in my neighbourhood that sells provision and i sometimes dash money..... The kind of play she plays with me, If not that her husband is like a neighbourhood brother people would have tagged her a cheat

profsomebody:
If she'sa flirt, wherever she's moved to, there will be enough men waiting, and it's only a matter of time before she continues her distribution business.

Yes that COULD happen but as a radiant human being I believe you should give people second chance once you let them know of your stance after the first time of event so to satisfy your conscious mind and that of theirs

Why do you keep quiet, why not confront her and ask her what made her to do so
Let her know you are angry

You keep quiet, na so she go bring the man come your house one day and you will still keep quiet

kiddkash:

more like

This is a cock and rhinoceros picture bro

premierlead:


Problem share is half solved, I believe we can be our brother's keeper here. As I share it here I am of the belief that the burden is partially shed from my chest. My chest is heavy before now and I am not the type who raise hand on women

You better check for chest infection.

I agree, but if at all she should be given a second chance, the husband shouldn't waste money relocating her. You can't change someone who'snot willing to change by changing their location. She's an adult and has to decide herself. Relocating her won't help in any way.

Omotosho1090905:


Yes that COULD happen but as a radiant human being I believe you should give people second chance once you let them know of your stance after the first time of event so to satisfy your conscious mind and that of theirs

You will make a good writer

anonimi:


Why are you such a horrible liar?
To gain what

Thanks bro

I knew something was wrong with the dude story.

tee59:
I laugh in Swahili. What do you expect? A lady you sagged twice any day she came to cook for you. She was a hoe before now, but you were blinded by pussy and food. You can't reason well. What did you know about her life gan , before you married her. She was just pretending with those characters of hers , just to get closer to you. And her mission was completed. A hoe will always be a hoe. You can now see her real colour now. Carry your cross ogbeni.

him eye done clear now..as she dey share give you na so she dey share give others chop your share and clean mouth

The problem is as wrong as this act is, it seems normal in the eyes of some of these market people, they make lewd jokes, very very strange flirty behaviour sometimes.

Lots of them may not see anything wrong with this, though it's wrong.

Change her business environment.

Some men are still boy

jogsman01:
Whatever it is, talk to her first. What if you met them on top each other, will you kill them or commit suicide? No relationship is perfect, and everyone has his/her cross to carry. That's your cross man! Carry am or forget am.

You sure say you well so

premierlead:
She was mum's favourite girl in the neighbourhood, pretty and respectful. She will always kneel down while greeting her parents and elders outside even at 24 and already done with OND in one of the southwest polytechnic. Mum and her mother worked together in the same company while growing before they both married though her mum is a bit younger. After a long time which they have separated, they discovered that their hubbies built house in the same area, three streets to each other.

It all started when I was running a postgraduate program and was busy with research, thesis writing and a lot of practices for presentation and seminars indoor. Sometimes it took me three weeks to see the sky outside as I was always inside the house and our tenants didn't know someone is in when everyone left the house. I was just in my 30ls and my fiancee was no more serious as a result of what she always referred to as "academic stuborness" then.

Each time I was in the room busy with my papers, mum would call on this girl that she's going out and that she should helped in preparing the raw food she bought while coming from the office and after preparing the meal, she should serve me and herself, then she would go for long time before returning. Lo and behold each time this babe served me my food, something always entered something that it became a custom that two rounds must happen, first immediately mum left and second after the succulent meal.

Finally she was pregnant and mumsy took every responsibility to the extent that she bought new dresses for her and her average beauty turned to full pretty. We did a little traditional wedding, few people from her family and mine were in attendance. She gave birth to a bouncing baby boy under our roof in the heat of covid19 and the baby was like my half. Now I am done with the program and managing with a private polytechnic. I gathered money with the one mum gave her to start a provision business and she opened the business inside one big fish depot not too close to the house.

To cut the long story short, I travelled back home from where I was working unannounced last week and headed straight to her business place and what I saw really baffled me. I was in her shop for complete more than 10 minutes watching her displaying love with a guy who I later learnt was a bus driver that fish sellers always hire to carry their wares from the depot to their various selling points. She put her two hands around the guy and the guy placed one hand on top of her butts and the other at the back of her head. The old women were carousing and shouting, "ah, husband and wife, won't you give her feeding money" they were like that was not their first time and they have been doing like that since long ago, it was truly as if they are dating and banging each other. It took the noise of her son carried by one of the strangers (fish seller) for her to be released by this driver guy. She almost collapsed when she saw me inside her shop as she collected her baby from the stranger.

She did not come home straight that day as she first called mum if she was back. Though I haven't inform anybody since that day because I am still boiling inside of me till now and she has been reading it on me

I just need to share it to relieve me a bit

I’m sorry to say that your tribe is full of hypocrites, you lot are pathetic! Most times you pride yourself on good up bringing, respect and morality; but in truth you lack them all…..it was a set up by your mum, asking another’s daughter to go to market, cook and serve her son (who is already a man) food, all alone in an apartment, not ones but so many times, of course she knew you people were fucking but continued! I knew your tribe immediately you said ‘’she kneels down to greet her elders’’. I had a male friend from your tribe several years back, though a little bit younger in JSS 2 or 3, he looked bigger than his age because he was from an average family and elders ones were abroad, I was in SSS 2 or 3 at the time, never had a girl friend talk less of bring one home, but this my friend had several girlfriends and sometimes harbours some of them in his room for weeks with his mums consent. I realized that his mum encouraged him and takes side with him whenever there is an issue in his relationships against the girls, it still baffles me to date because my mom would never had allowed that! Now,See how the well behaved girl then turned out! Got pregnant out of wedlock, did just traditional wedding, sells pepper or tomatoes around the corner at fish market, and you expect agbero’s not to be knacking her? Common man, you and your mum are about to reap what you sowed!! And my friend? His case is worse than that of this girl because he was expelled from uni, never amounted to anything today, his mum died already!!!!!

Exactly what I'm saying.

Seems OP is not conversant with this before

Mooh247:


You are right especially those women that are carefree and like money...

I have a lady like that in my neighbourhood that sells provision and i sometimes dash money..... The kind of play she plays with me, If not that her husband is like a neighbourhood brother people would have tagged her a cheat

profsomebody:
I agree, but if at all she should be given a second chance, the husband shouldn't waste money relocating her. You can't change someone who'snot willing to change by changing their location. She's an adult and has to decide herself. Relocating her won't help in any way.

No bro relocation is a powerful tool in the course of changing your ways

premierlead:


I have no more trust in her since then. She knows well that I saw her and there is no more secret about it, only that no third party has heard it yet

Dont Discard her...Still investigate further if d Driver is doing her or She is...any Other. Confront her for her Response and do not Despise her either, Pls. Present d Matter before in her Presence and get it solved fully. God bless you All with Wisdom.

According to your story my guy, you did not caught them on top of each other now. It might just be a market show of rubbish, which means that your wife isn't principled and don't have a taste of networks.

The good news is that she might not be fucking the dude yet, showing up un announced is good most time and I do that too !! Don't conclude she's a cheat yet and if you really loved her sit her and your mum, maybe her mum too, state what you have seen and what you think about the whole senecio that played out. Don't keep it to your self if you really love her !!

Don't follow dumb comments here, your family is important and no one here will be there when the whole thing turned to premium tears. I think your wife isn't principled or lacks orientation on what and what should be done. Oga you be the man, man up and tell whoever needs to hear from her family side and yours and tell them what you want from her henceforth.

That will put an end to whatever shenanigans she as with the fisher friend. However, keep showing up un announced both at home and it as is own effect too ..

Selah

This is outright violation of rule 2 mynd44 Lalasticlala seun

OFFICIAL336:
Marry a Yoruba girl at your peril.

They are very promiscuous and sometimes I wonder if promiscuity is part of Yoruba culture.

If they not giving birth out of wedlock, they are busy fvcking several men or borning for multiple men.

The truth is if you want to marry a Yoruba woman, get ready to share her with your neighbours.

Their head cannot withstand toasting.

As for op, I pity you. That lady you call your wife will abandon you one day for another man you are better than.

Yoruba women don't stay in marriage or born for one man.

Look around you and you'll see a large number of Yoruba women living with
a man who is not their first husband or living with a man after giving birth for another man.

emerazz:


Normally I don't respond to issues Like this but I went through your replies and saw that you are responsible and thus this story is genuine..

Now first of all, tbh with you baa these are common silly practices asper play mostly seen in market women of her kind, its obvious she has no core values nor principles.. But that doesn't mean that she's cheating with him, women don't go diz public with men they're cheating with..

What your woman need is proper orientation, she's just a local girl (sorry to say).. You said it all wen u said that academic stubbornness of a crap.. She's just dumb..

Change her business environment and intimate her about decorum.. You'll be fine..

Don't forget to make inquiries too to check if she actually cheated tho.. If she did, send her packing asap..

See ur advice. A village girl like u said who is aware her husband is not around will do such without even thinking. So a village girl doesn't know the meaning of a Man's hand on her buttocks? If u don't av a good advice pls sleep. Op there is a Hugh difference between a lady groomed wit manners for marriage and one who isnt. Seriously wat were u thinking marrying a girl u were banging freely just because she was asked to serve u? U didn't even use protection? Hmmm bro I have never used this word before but u are a SIMP and HUGH one at that. So u come on nairaland to seek ur reaction did u seek nairaland before banging her or traditionally married her?

U caught yet couldn't speak up for how long only God knows maybe u are still banging her self who knows. If I were in ur shoes she'd be long gone by now but since I learnt from experience you just got served urs. 95% of women out there are hoes sorry WHORES

Bros, don't keep it too long in heart. Confront her as quick as possible, cos you don't it will hunt you down in long run.
Her response will open your eyes to your next move.

Like someone said on this tread, she knows she's done something wrong, but she's observing you, to know if you're a weakling or not.
What kind of stupid play is that, for me it's downgrading to you for your wife to display such act in public or even private. And am sure people around knows you with your wife o.
Don't take it likely. Investigate the matter and do the needful, I don hear and see things, these married ladies no wan free again o

Another SIMPle dude spotted

na Pikin wey belong to bus driver you Want us to discuss about her mum here right ?

cletz991:
Sometimes i wonder if these stories are real or made up .
You caught you wife im that position imstead of you to involve both families you carry am come nairaland is sickening.



This clout chasing trend has to stop .Its getting annoying

Fr man... Imagine him asking what he should do when it's obvious that he is not in that marriage with anyone ... 9ja girls will make a man's life more miserable ...na why I dae advice all my friends not to marry

luminouz:

This is a cock and rhinoceros picture bro

perhaps

Burgerlomo:
Another SIMPle dude spotted

;Dyou no lie