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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by SoapQueen(f): 9:24pm On Apr 10, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked




God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kickgrin he nearly died that day.shocked

That action of mine towards him till date I am not regretting at all. I have lost so much in the hand of my ex husband which time won't permit me to say it all. I wouldn't say I was a perfect wife, no, I wasn't, I have my flaws too, but despite my flaws I tried all I could to make my marriage work. I am not happy because I am a divorcee, it's not something I am proud of. But sometimes something doesn't worth the stress,the abused and the insults so one had to let it go.

I won't say much regarding this, but the bold step I took to quit the marriage save my life till this moment. The second wife he took will probably not give birth again in this life because he hit the poor lady and damaged everything in her tommy, it was a miracle that she survived it and she too kissed the marriage goodbye after she survived. That was wisdom on her own part.


My God! I'm wondering if it's too late for me to become a nun??
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Dakad: 9:35pm On Apr 10, 2022
Honestly, you nailed it. I believe most people are getting things wrong but your perspective to me is the reality. every marriage has it's challenges and couples do have their moment. But it shouldn't be toxic

I'm married for almost 10years now and the reality is that myself and my wife do argue and have our down moment. As a matter of fact 2years into our marriage we hit ourselves and that was the only time. But the honest truth is that marriage isn't for the boys and girls, it's for men an women. But ironically we have lots of boys and girls getting married these days.

No marriage is perfect, every marriage has it's challenges. However, I wouldn't recommend anyone be a man or a woman to stay in a constantly toxic relationship or where te abuse is a reoccurring decimal.

My submission is that we should all know that marriage isn't a bed of roses before someone we pack her load from her husband hiuse on small argument that happens one a while or before a man will also send his wife packing just bcs she yelled at him.

Conclusively, no one should endure an abusive marriage/relationship especially if there is a treat to life.


abbey621:
The problem we have nowadays is when you think of toxic relationships it is almost always seen from the angle of the man being at fault. The man is too controlling, he is violent, he is stingy, he is a drunkard, he sleeps around etc. Everything is lumped together whereby the traditional role of men being protective cannot be separated from men being beasts.

When you flip the script and talk about women being controlling, manipulative and at times violent, we hardly hear anyone bat an eye because it does not fit the narrative. Men are supposed to be the beast, women are supposed to be on the receiving end, it shouldn't be reversed.

Finally, I would like to make an important distinction, couples argue, couples fight(verbally/physically), these things happen whether we like it or not but the inability to differientate between a simple fight and constant abuse is why we have many women and at times men meeting their untimely death. When we say leave toxic relationships, let's be specific please, if everyone got up and left at the first sign of toxicity or their perception of toxicity such as when he shouts, when she nags, when he cheats, when she calls him a deadbeat and so on then what's the point of marriage?

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Dizzyyish: 9:41pm On Apr 10, 2022
executive12:


Why are most women drawn to bad men? Is it the money?
Cc Exceed15 Nigerialabalaba wowmenow kaymart

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by eazyduzit: 9:53pm On Apr 10, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked




God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kickgrin he nearly died that day.shocked

Thank God you're alive to testify going outta of abused marriage,some men can crazy.I use to have one neighbor here in Kaduna a very beautiful Muslim woman suffering in the hand of her husband and the man MOST beat up his wife every month between 3 to 5 times,I summon courage one day when he was beating her and grabbed him with anger,I gave him a strict warning never to raise his hand again and thankfully,from that day till I left the house the useless man never tried it.
Thou I heard that the man resumed the abusive a t immediately I left the house.

Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Lorrialla: 9:53pm On Apr 10, 2022
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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by kaymart: 10:18pm On Apr 10, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked




God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kickgrin he nearly died that day.shocked

That action of mine towards him till date I am not regretting at all. I have lost so much in the hand of my ex husband which time won't permit me to say it all. I wouldn't say I was a perfect wife, no, I wasn't, I have my flaws too, but despite my flaws I tried all I could to make my marriage work. I am not happy because I am a divorcee, it's not something I am proud of. But sometimes something doesn't worth the stress,the abused and the insults so one had to let it go.

I won't say much regarding this, but the bold step I took to quit the marriage save my life till this moment. The second wife he took will probably not give birth again in this life because he hit the poor lady and damaged everything in her tommy, it was a miracle that she survived it and she too kissed the marriage goodbye after she survived. That was wisdom on her own part.

Where are the children?
Are they With him?
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Proudlycanadian: 10:22pm On Apr 10, 2022
MISSCONGENIALITY:
Those are women with psychological problems and need fixing. They have been made to think that people who love you will inflict pain on you to correct you. Either by their parents or by their partners.
they are probably from an abusive home themselves
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by kaymart: 10:28pm On Apr 10, 2022
Dizzyyish:


I remember someone said "if all men slightly raise their standards, most women would be single." Women are the opposite of men in many ways. Whereas a man wants peace of mind in a relationship; a woman wants (toxic) drama to keep her emotionally stimulated.

https://www.nairaland.com/6940959/women-essentially-children-waec
Do u listen to Darius?
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by kaymart: 10:30pm On Apr 10, 2022
Nigerialabalaba:

E get some qualities wey u go get wey go make ur marriage bcom toxic and abusive becos it takes 2 people to have an abusive marraige.
Something tell me say na u kill dat marraige with ur trash talk. Wen u get anoda marraige, abeg do well and calm down.
Fact
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by LeOTsGrand(m): 10:33pm On Apr 10, 2022
God bless you �
Abaman001:
The biggest challenge in today marriages and relationships in Nigeria are caused by feminism a.k.a man and woman are equal mentality, copying from the western lifestyle forgetting that cultures and environmental lifestyle differs from region to region across the globe
I'm not by any means trying to support any form of abuse in a relationship whether from male or from the female, the question we should be asking is why did our parents in past call it in the early days succeeded than the modem generation with all the so called education and marriage counselings, our parents in the past did not go into any form of marriage counselings yet they succeeded in all their marriages. Today if you visit marriage registration centers or data's you will be surprised to see that people coming to seek for divorce are more compared to those seeking to unite....it's really worrisome that people no longer want to be submissive and loyal to their partners, people are more interested in the material things than true love or commitment to their marriages, marriage is not all about bed of roses and fun fairs, it's about commitment, dedication, mutual understanding and love, cares and above all respect to one another, anybody who told you man and woman are equal is only trying to destroy you, even God almighty did not make it so, that is why he made the man the head of the family as Christ is the head of the church, sister don't let anyone deceived you......God never created man and woman at the same time, one came before the other.....
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Dizzyyish: 10:36pm On Apr 10, 2022
kaymart:

Do u listen to Darius?
Nah. But I've heard of his YouTube channel. Why?
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Arthurnna: 10:39pm On Apr 10, 2022
Bless you dear... In Don jazzy voice though "When you hear the kick*

MadamVanessa:
shocked




God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kickgrin he nearly died that day.shocked

That action of mine towards him till date I am not regretting at all. I have lost so much in the hand of my ex husband which time won't permit me to say it all. I wouldn't say I was a perfect wife, no, I wasn't, I have my flaws too, but despite my flaws I tried all I could to make my marriage work. I am not happy because I am a divorcee, it's not something I am proud of. But sometimes something doesn't worth the stress,the abused and the insults so one had to let it go.

I won't say much regarding this, but the bold step I took to quit the marriage save my life till this moment. The second wife he took will probably not give birth again in this life because he hit the poor lady and damaged everything in her tommy, it was a miracle that she survived it and she too kissed the marriage goodbye after she survived. That was wisdom on her own part.

Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Nobody: 10:42pm On Apr 10, 2022
When most of these abused women encountered decent, nice and all caring guys, these women probably tagged them weak, predictable and boring! They prefer them guys tough, macho, with bad'boyishness!

Now peradventure, the wheel of fate pushes to those women their preferred tough, macho men. At first, probably, it was fun to them. The roughness of their preferred men gave them orgasm. Bad boys were their sources of fantasies.

Now, the same tough men with bad'boy attitudes who they adore turned them to punching bags, subjected them to rough beatings over slight disagreements since they probably are of the impression that these women adores their roughness.

So why?!
not a fan of abuse to women in any way, buhh why are the same women now massively complaining when they are met with the realities of the complete package of these bad boys, tough, macho men they yearned for??!

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by kaymart: 10:42pm On Apr 10, 2022
wowmenow:


You just write everything in my mind when we here abusive relationship we only look at the men part of it.

The gospel singer that died more information is coming out on how the husband caught her cheating with another gospel artist frank Edward.
Lol...
Na wa ooo...
Gospel artistw still dey cheat....hmmm
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by kaymart: 10:44pm On Apr 10, 2022
Dizzyyish:

Nah. But I've heard of his YouTube channel. Why?
U seem so onpoint
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by kaymart: 10:45pm On Apr 10, 2022
Dizzyyish:

Cc Exceed15 Nigerialabalaba wowmenow kaymart

Mostly money, but women also need (toxic) drama because of its emotional stimulation.

That madamvaness - she's a single mom of two children and look at her thirst trap-esque profile picture (it used to be more provocative) and the comments she posts - so it wouldn't be farfetched to assume that she's toxic. Also, women have an uncanny ability to omit parts of the story that paints them in a bad light.
Like attracts like.
.u r 100 percent on point

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Arthurnna: 11:08pm On Apr 10, 2022
wowmenow:


[s]just write everything in my mind when we here abusive relationship we only look at the men part of it.

The gospel singer that died more information is coming out on how the husband caught her cheating with another gospel artist frank Edward.[/s]

Say no evil bro,who would advocate for the dead? Coz it's now the man's word against the wife. Ooh i forgot,she is dead!!
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 12:18am On Apr 11, 2022
Proudlycanadian:
they are probably from an abusive home themselves
Yeah. That's why it's good for couples to separate if their marriage is not working. When they force it and fight everyday infront of the kids, especially when the man beats his wife at any given opportunity infront of the kids, the psychological damage on the kids is usually worst than them being brought by a single peaceful parent.
The girl child grows up thinking being abused is okay for a woman and the male child will think beating a woman is the only way to get her to respect him.
Sometimes their father may explain to them that the reason why he beats their mother is because she's stubborn, stupid, or crazy just to justify his brutality.
That's why it's also important to know the relationship between your intending spouse's parents before accepting to settle down with them.
Out people will say" iju aju or iju else"
One really needs to know the family they are going into before accepting marriage with someone.

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Okdi(m): 1:57am On Apr 11, 2022
Some men go through hell in their various marriages but they won't talk just because they are called men. I can't say what I don't know, I will personally start with myself although today I'm no more in that marriage. I won't go further on this but my advice to men is that if you can't take it anymore quit, quit and don't think of what people will say. These folks are very very wicked just because they do get 90% sympathy. Ask yourself question; why is it that most men die prematurely? What's the reason for early deaths in men? Each time we tag it over workload on us but I must tell you the truth that it's a lie. A woman will poison the husband just to pave way for her to be fucking and live the kind of life she wants. A woman will plan and assassinate the husband just to take hold of his properties but men won't talk. Women have done alot to us but we won't speak up due to shame and what people will say. Look, I don't in anyway condole any act of domestic violence in marriages but this issue of shading women is becoming too much. If after series of investigation and Osinachi husband if found guilty let him face the wrath of the law and this time women will contribute money to make sure he gets a life jail. I pity for their children. May her soul find rest in God's kingdom. Amen

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Nobody: 2:05am On Apr 11, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked




God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kickgrin he nearly died that day.shocked

That action of mine towards him till date I am not regretting at all. I have lost so much in the hand of my ex husband which time won't permit me to say it all. I wouldn't say I was a perfect wife, no, I wasn't, I have my flaws too, but despite my flaws I tried all I could to make my marriage work. I am not happy because I am a divorcee, it's not something I am proud of. But sometimes something doesn't worth the stress,the abused and the insults so one had to let it go.

I won't say much regarding this, but the bold step I took to quit the marriage save my life till this moment. The second wife he took will probably not give birth again in this life because he hit the poor lady and damaged everything in her tommy, it was a miracle that she survived it and she too kissed the marriage goodbye after she survived. That was wisdom on her own part.


Òmó, after dropping 2 shidren, you still set like this? Dayummn! smiley
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by boxypane(m): 2:54am On Apr 11, 2022
MadamVanessa:
shocked




God gave me the wisdom to quit mine since. Though blessed with two lovely kids, but I have no regret that I made that decision of leaving such a worthless idiotic marriage. Poor him, he's walking around with just one ball in his scrotum. I destroyed one with my fury kickgrin he nearly died that day.shocked

That action of mine towards him till date I am not regretting at all. I have lost so much in the hand of my ex husband which time won't permit me to say it all. I wouldn't say I was a perfect wife, no, I wasn't, I have my flaws too, but despite my flaws I tried all I could to make my marriage work. I am not happy because I am a divorcee, it's not something I am proud of. But sometimes something doesn't worth the stress,the abused and the insults so one had to let it go.

I won't say much regarding this, but the bold step I took to quit the marriage save my life till this moment. The second wife he took will probably not give birth again in this life because he hit the poor lady and damaged everything in her tommy, it was a miracle that she survived it and she too kissed the marriage goodbye after she survived. That was wisdom on her own part.

Wished all in such relationships quit.
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Proudlycanadian: 5:47am On Apr 11, 2022
MISSCONGENIALITY:
Yeah. That's why it's good for couples to separate if their marriage is not working. When they force it and fight everyday infront of the kids, especially when the man beats his wife at any given opportunity infront of the kids, the psychological damage on the kids is usually worst than them being brought by a single peaceful parent.
The girl child grows up thinking being abused is okay for a woman and the male child will think beating a woman is the only way to get her to respect him.
Sometimes their father may explain to them that the reason why he beats their mother is because she's stubborn, stupid, or crazy just to justify his brutality.
That's why it's also important to know the relationship between your intending spouse's parents before accepting to settle down with them.
Out people will say" iju aju or iju else"
One really needs to know the family they are going into before accepting marriage with someone.
you have said it all Miss. Go forth, the Lord be with you.

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Cazzim(m): 6:07am On Apr 11, 2022
SilentQueen:
Ladies should take this advice seriously angry

Once you notice you are being abused both physically and verbally in your relationship, you don't need a prophet to tell you to leave!
Don't try to change the person and No second chance

Cos Men of nowadays are so childish and violent, especially all these wannabe redpillarsembarassed

what about woman that abusive men?

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Munzy14(m): 6:07am On Apr 11, 2022
Lalami3232:
If all men say make dem quit abusive relationships/marriages, how many women go dey husband house or get relationships? Do you know what men swallow from 9ja women? But we no just dey wan blow trumpet about am. The excessive demand of money wey una dey give us na domestic abuse oooo. Even the "expanded" toto wey we dey need drill for una is a form of abuse. Toto go big like local first aid box due to una reckless lifestyle. The potty food wey most men dey have to manage to eat everyday for house na a form of abuse. Anyways, make I dey go church so I go pray to meet a virgin wey sabi cook.


I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "aside your mama and papa, nobody want make you better pass am for this life"
grin grin grin
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by suffering: 6:42am On Apr 11, 2022
Unfortunately they are more fun. Until the worst happens the people involved find it difficult to quit.
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Prince22797(m): 7:35am On Apr 11, 2022
Can a penis size of 6inch satisfy a lady ?

Pls I need urgent answer
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Saintmary(f): 9:45am On Apr 11, 2022
Articul8:
Hey! With allof these things about marriage trending, should people not just marry and stay happy? Cos for me,I think it is impossible for 2different people to come together and not have issues at all. So should we just leave at the slightest issue?

I just need clarification. Where do we draw the line? I understand abuse isn't just physical,it can be emotional too. Shouldn't we try at all? Is it guaranteed our spouses wouldn't do anything closeto that at some point?

Marriage is possible of course, even with the madness some people are exhibiting.


It's just that, whenever there is a disagreement, everyone should learn how to express themselves respectfully and still get their needs met.



You see, some people still have this mindset that their grandparents' marriages are the best, even with the suffering they watched their grandmothers and mothers go through, they know that many women will no longer tolerate those shenanigans.



So, they pick carefully through women, they look for the most pliant, the weakest, the potential doormat then love bomb them, isolate them, and turn them to ghosts and shells of themselves.


But these women can't leave, because they already have a picture of the perfect man they have stored in their heads through the Love bombing phase, so they think the abuse is a mistake, that he will change, so they keep suffering until either someone gets them out or they bring their dead body out.



Google narcissism. You will see that those traits are so common but lots of people are unaware of them, they are even unaware of the danger they will face in the future if they end up with men like this.

Phew. We have screamed and shouted, but, alas, they call us feminists. Now we are alive and thriving but virtuous woman is in the poto poto.

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by HoneySwag(f): 12:17pm On Apr 11, 2022
byrron:
There is a reason for the word "courtship".

Before jumping into marriage, get to know your prospective life partner and decide if their limitations which you have observed while courting can be tolerated by you for the rest of your life.

Have an honest conversation about your observations and concerns to the other party and if those concerns are not addressed, then you already know what to expect when you end up as married couples.

Do not ignore all the red flags observed during courtship due to other primordial considerations such as short term benefits while sacrificing your future happiness.

Self appraisal remains the best advice ever and any contributions from any individual or religious figures are nothing but an opinion and they're not sacrosanct.
Most people ignore red flags in their relationships, because of age, desperation to get married, family pressure, etc. It's painful that life doesn't work out the way we planned.
I just came out from a one week relationship cos I figured out that all the guy wanted was sex and what I wanted was to see if we could have a good communication. Communication is very important in marriage, if we both can't have an intellectual conversation then it's gonna be a problem in marriage.
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Nobody: 12:53pm On Apr 11, 2022
HoneySwag:

Most people ignore red flags in their relationships, because of age, desperation to get married, family pressure, etc. It's painful that life doesn't work out the way we planned.
I just came out from a one week relationship cos I figured out that all the guy wanted was sex and what I wanted was to see if we could have a good communication. Communication is very important in marriage, if we both can't have an intellectual conversation then it's gonna be a problem in marriage.

I completely agree with you.
Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 12:58pm On Apr 11, 2022
Abaman001:
The biggest challenge in today marriages and relationships in Nigeria are caused by feminism a.k.a man and woman are equal mentality, copying from the western lifestyle forgetting that cultures and environmental lifestyle differs from region to region across the globe
I'm not by any means trying to support any form of abuse in a relationship whether from male or from the female, the question we should be asking is why did our parents in past call it in the early days succeeded than the modem generation with all the so called education and marriage counselings, our parents in the past did not go into any form of marriage counselings yet they succeeded in all their marriages. Today if you visit marriage registration centers or data's you will be surprised to see that people coming to seek for divorce are more compared to those seeking to unite....it's really worrisome that people no longer want to be submissive and loyal to their partners, people are more interested in the material things than true love or commitment to their marriages, marriage is not all about bed of roses and fun fairs, it's about commitment, dedication, mutual understanding and love, cares and above all respect to one another, anybody who told you man and woman are equal is only trying to destroy you, even God almighty did not make it so, that is why he made the man the head of the family as Christ is the head of the church, sister don't let anyone deceived you......God never created man and woman at the same time, one came before the other.....


Leave feminism alone. Not everything is about feminism.

We should learn to stop comparing today's marriages to our parents marriages. Our parents didn't know better. They don't have the information we have now.

Besides, there were still failed marriages at that time. At least I knew uncles and aunties who were no longer married. And I am sure you knew some too even though you want to conveniently ignore them to push you point home.

Also, the world has advanced. You cannot expect every thing else to advance while marriage remains redundant. You want to send a chat to someone and he or she receives it immediately, and not to write a letter to go and post it at the post office. But you want marriage to be the same way it was 40years ago.

There is enlightenment, information at people's finger tips to work with now. Now, women know that they also have a life and that they should be treated with respect. That no man has the right to maltreat them.

But men cannot deal with this change along with other changes in the world. Many of you feel the need to oppress your wives to show authority and mask your insecurity.

You men need to deal with the fact that marriages cannot be like our parents'. And this has nothing to do with feminism

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 1:34pm On Apr 11, 2022
Romanoff:
Until we stop shaming single mothers or divorcees, there are people that would rather stay in abusive relationships and be praying and watching war room than to leave with their lives intact just to avoid the backlash of the society.

"She no fit stay husband house", "na waka waka dey hungry her".

Etc.


The good thing is that those shaming is just by some insecure and ignorant people. People remarry these days.

In the midst of these DV this week, my friend shared her experience on her WhatsApp status.

She left an abusive marriage with one child. She said she was told different things like her mother would be removed as Christian mother and won't be allowed to take communion if she leaves. That if she finds someone to marry her, it will be as second wife. Different stories.

She got married to a single guy just about 3yrs older than her. The guy gives her peace of mind.

Those guys that say those rubbish are most bitter people. Especially on this forum, never take them seriously.

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Re: Quit Toxic And Abusive Relationships Or Marriage by Articul8(m): 2:04pm On Apr 11, 2022
Saintmary:


Marriage is possible of course, even with the madness some people are exhibiting.


It's just that, whenever there is a disagreement, everyone should learn how to express themselves respectfully and still get their needs met.



You see, some people still have this mindset that their grandparents' marriages are the best, even with the suffering they watched their grandmothers and mothers go through, they know that many women will no longer tolerate those shenanigans.



So, they pick carefully through women, they look for the most pliant, the weakest, the potential doormat then love bomb them, isolate them, and turn them to ghosts and shells of themselves.


But these women can't leave, because they already have a picture of the perfect man they have stored in their heads through the Love bombing phase, so they think the abuse is a mistake, that he will change, so they keep suffering until either someone gets them out or they bring their dead body out.



Google narcissism. You will see that those traits are so common but lots of people are unaware of them, they are even unaware of the danger they will face in the future if they end up with men like this.

Phew. We have screamed and shouted, but, alas, they call us feminists. Now we are alive and thriving but virtuous woman is in the poto poto.

Thank you very much

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