Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? - Family (3)

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by showafrica(m): 10:24am On Apr 15, 2022

Your instinct is right, tell your cousin that you will be traveling to Lagos or Abuja with your wife before leaving, so he has to go. Find him money to rent apartment somewhere. Your wife should be the one reminding you about leaving the cousin behind in the house unless you guys are like intimate brothers now. However, women are insensitive to this kind of trap

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by MondayOsunbor(m): 10:24am On Apr 15, 2022

if you are yoruba NO

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by drlateef: 10:24am On Apr 15, 2022

I will advise you never to do it. Satan is always lurking around the corner between your wife and him. Find another place for your cousin. You will regret it if you leave him in your house. Even if your wife reassures you don’t listen to her. You will thank me later.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by opera1(m): 10:24am On Apr 15, 2022

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Ken4Christ: 10:24am On Apr 15, 2022*

Please, don't. If you have the money, rent him a room to manage. Prevention is better than cure. You can't keep a goat and yam in the same place and expect the goat not to eat the yam.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DukeNija(m): 10:24am On Apr 15, 2022

Lol. So e pain you? I know it hurts, the damage she did playing away match with him but you should heal and stop projecting. His cousin reminds you of your situation abi? Not every woman is like your wife.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by toprealman: 10:24am On Apr 15, 2022

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by skales67(m): 10:25am On Apr 15, 2022

Another SIMP who doesn't know what the power of discreet communication between two members of the opposite sex who have mutual interest is capable of doing (even if the interest isn't there in the first place, can be ignited by one person for the other to respond).

You are not enlightened in the bolded so no need!

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by paragon40(m): 10:25am On Apr 15, 2022

Op heed this advice.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Biggcake: 10:25am On Apr 15, 2022

What if he eventually rapes the wife ?

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by KingOfAllIgbos: 10:25am On Apr 15, 2022

Don't try it

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by akinsmyk(m): 10:26am On Apr 15, 2022

This actually happened to me. In this case, I was the cousin. We’re family members. My brothers mum is the elder sis to my own mum so I was living with them right from secondary school days while we were both teenagers. He’s 3years older than I am.

So when my cousin elder bro graduated from uni and get a good job, he moved out from the family house to get an accommodation on the Island coz that’s where he works. When I finished school, I joined him too coz we have been living in the same room as the only males as a teenager.

Before my bro got married, his fiancé used to come to the house and we gist like friends, we all do hang out together to catch fun and go places together. At times I drive our wife to be to the market or shopping malls in my bro’s car if he doesn’t feel like going.

When they were going to be married, I made move to leave but they said that I can stay. It was a 2bedroom apartment tho and we later moved to 3bed.

2years later, my cousin was transferred to Europe to work living behind the wife and me while working her visa too.

I and the wife stayed 6months together in the apartment before her visa was ready without anyone giving thoughts about rubbish or whatever. My own gf do comes to the house too which they know.

So it’s all about knowing who you married and the kind of brother/cousin you have. If you can vouch for them, so why not. Not everyone is immoral and useless. Some things are just so wrong without being told.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by dododawa1: 10:26am On Apr 15, 2022

Who go cheat go cheat even in your PRESENCE,I prefer your wife family to stay to your cousin.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by akinsmyk(m): 10:27am On Apr 15, 2022

That’s a different case. There’s consequences for that

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by jaxxy(m): 10:27am On Apr 15, 2022*

If u are this concern about it it's better to avoid it completely and nobody can hold u for that. Ur peace of mind and emotional security is vital rather than leaving room for unnecessary suspicion.

There are 2 solutions or options.

1, have another relative a female or her own male family member come and stay with ur wife. This will remove any form of lonliness that will give room for unnecessary attachments.

2. Tell the young man to find his level as u cannot leave him with ur wife. It is impractical for u. It's that simple.

I cannot be working and thinking of the unthinkable going on in my home.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by smasher1(m): 10:27am On Apr 15, 2022

not wise. even though the man is much younger or older. he's still man. get him an accomodations if possible.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DukeNija(m): 10:28am On Apr 15, 2022

Your statement is hinged on a baseless assumption that his wife is not to be trusted or has intimate feelings for his cousin, which is clearly your projection. It is his responsibility to separate them to avoid unreasonable intimate feelings. People have trustworthy partners which is something you know nothing about. Heal from past hurt and remember not every woman is a hoe.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Humphrey2015: 10:28am On Apr 15, 2022

As a man thinked in his heart so he is.
Even though you live you brother is same room with your wife you will think same.
Set your mind free.. so you don't trust your wife and you called a good wife.
Your thought can cause the negative to happen.
So if you are a causin as your brother... You will do same to his wife... Pls be mature and set your self free

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by 77up(m): 10:29am On Apr 15, 2022

Your cousin and your wife in the same house shocked

You can't afford to do that bro, don't ever try it.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Jucci80(m): 10:29am On Apr 15, 2022

Hey buddy, the truth of the matter is renting an apartment for your cousin wont even solve it.
You just have to talk to your wife. What kind of woman is she? Where did you meet her? What's her background like? Does she have a bad past? Is she is clear,then have some mental romance with her.
Get her assurance and never fail to engage her every now and then, play with her, make her happy, don't create any gap at all. Do your civic duty well. She will be home for you. Let her also engage her self in church activities.
Then look for her sister or brother to also stay with them.
Thank you

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by tmoneyu: 10:29am On Apr 15, 2022

oga u better assist the guy by getting him an apartment or help him processing his visa, it's not wise because of the story that touches the heart.. U said u care about him, prove it by assisting him not giving him shelter but teaching him how to fish

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by 2special(m): 10:30am On Apr 15, 2022

wetin pains here, useless pig

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by MrDebonair: 10:30am On Apr 15, 2022

Op. Are you worried about her shagging your cousin or other men? Cos she could do the two.

Regardless of whatever decision you take, your wife could still cheat if she wants to.

Even if you get your cousin his own apartment, she could still go there and satisfy herself. It may not even be with your cousin.

Even if you relocate your wife and kid with you, she could still cheat if she wants to.

So you can see that your wife cheating is not dependant on your cousin being there or she relocating with you.

It is about you removing the notion in your mind that your wife could give in to another man. And assuming a state of my woman can't cheat until proven otherwise.

All women flirt most women cheat. Just like you could cheat, they could cheat too.

In summary, remove the thoughts in your head about the likelihood of her getting shagged. There is nothing you can do about it as long as you don't find out, so why worry your head.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by DukeNija(m): 10:30am On Apr 15, 2022

Mr man, he’s not his cousin. They’re not the same person.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by petrage(m): 10:30am On Apr 15, 2022

God bless you....you've said it all, rather than create an impression, a female relative of hers can join them.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by FutureIsFemale(f): 10:30am On Apr 15, 2022

Men can't control their urge.
Things that are likely to happen;
1. Will drug your wife then rape her.
2. Would rape your wife.

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by twosquare(m): 10:31am On Apr 15, 2022

The parable of the goat and the yam! grin

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by akinsmyk(m): 10:32am On Apr 15, 2022

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by LordKO(m): 10:33am On Apr 15, 2022

Yes, unless you are married to an unscrupulous woman and have a rouge as a cousin.

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Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by objobj: 10:33am On Apr 15, 2022

Are u a kid

Re: Help-is It OK To Leave Wife And Cousin Alone In One House? by Mubiola360: 10:34am On Apr 15, 2022

Do as much as you can tokeep your camel safe before you pray to God for it safety, even if something later happens, at least you've tried your best and thus, it's destined to happen.
If possible , get an accommodation for your cousin else where.

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