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Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by josite: 9:11am On Apr 17, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
I don't just understand why women always attach emotion to everything.
Nobody is talking about d girl that gave her number willingly to d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that exchanged nudes with d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that accepted gifts and money from d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that was enjoying chatting with d idiotic man
Why are we so irrational in judging cases?
did u hear that the girl in issue is 15.u can only marry such a girl or a girl under 18 with her parent's consent.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by dontrulee: 9:11am On Apr 17, 2022
Everyone bad, no cap but mhen some badness get levels ooo. Teenagers are one set of people that can be easily decieved because they're just exposed to another world. They are very secretive and very coded but if you're lovely and understanding, they will open up to you. I remembered one session after teaching them a physics and chemistry class, one of the well endowed girls borrowed my phone and requested to download a video by therapist titled "knack" that's how she started singing to the song. That's how I collected my phone from her and asked her if she knew the meaning of "knack" she said, master forget ooo, abi you no dey knack? Make I give you some levels? I was shaking my head inside my head that these girls don spoil finish.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Kooldame: 9:15am On Apr 17, 2022
omobaba101:
To start with, what is a smart phone doing in the hand of 15 years? Parental ignorance or negligence is causing great harm to the children of this generation.
We are in 21st century if a 15 year old can be given a laptop as a price for good academic performance,then a 15 year old can handle a smart phone.There's what we called Google Family link app or Parental Control app,which will help the parent to link their child's/children's activities to their own phone.They can't do anything without the consent of the parent,you can even lock the phone when it is time for him or to sleep.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Mariangeles(f):
[quote author=emmanuelbrown26 post=112017079][/quote]Now that some SONS and daughters of Eve have knocked some senses into you, akwa obi e hiela gi? O gbahuola gi n'anya!
A na a gwa gi, I naghi a cho I nu.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Naughtysex: 9:33am On Apr 17, 2022
mysticgal:
Why should we talk about a girl that is been coerced by a grown man to give her numbers, her nudes to him. Oh please cry your tears about irritational cases mr clear judgement.

A 15 year old lacks sexual consent. You can smell and see a minor regardless of the body stature. Don’t be stewpid in a public forum. She is 15 slowpoke
Don't be so stupid with your reasoning

A 15 year old girl who collects gift and money from someone who is not her family member should have informed her parents, at least her mother
I have a 12 years old girl and there's no way you can cajou her to collect such things
Myself and my wife has done our home work on her that she's free to tell us everything

When an adult was trying to deceive her, she told us and we took it up

From my point of view, the next person to be blame here (aside from the useless man) is the girl's parents for not being close enough to her to notice when something change in her.

I can tell you categorically that the said girl must have been isolating herself immediately she started welcoming the man's move, to enable her concentrate on him (which i believe should have been noticed by her parents)

That means she also has to be blame

We shouldn't allow our sense of reasoning to be envelope by our emotions
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Charx122: 9:34am On Apr 17, 2022
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.

He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

She saw messages like “Did you like what you saw?” “ Stop being shy around me.” “Why are you afraid? Nobody will see you.” He sent a picture of his nudity to her. A girl of fifteen!

It became terrifying when her daughter sent a chat saying she saw him with his wife the other night and he ignored her. She knew her daughter had fallen and it was a matter of time before the guy had his way.

She contacted me and asked me for advice. I have helped her in the past so she felt she could confide in me.

The truth is, when such a thing happens, you have to get someone who will treat the man’s Bleep-up very well. Who is the person who will be angry enough to do thathuh No other person than her father.

She was scared her husband will dump the blame on her. She was looking for another way to handle it without him.

I told her, “If you handle it quietly, the man will be wiser and will ensure he won’t be caught since he is obsessed with your daughter that he patiently groomed her. It is best he is disgraced and only her father will do that unless he is a useless man that’s when he will keep quiet.” I told her she is lucky the girl hadn’t agreed to be alone with the man anywhere. It was getting close to that.

Her husband didn’t disappoint me. Immediately he read the chats and saw the ‘manhood’ he took off to the man’s house that night. The wife ran after him. He banged continuously on the gate.

Well, the man got what was coming to him. He was disgraced. The evidence of their chats were there. His neighbours were shocked because he portrayed a picture of a saint but he was the devil and also a paedophile.

The husband wanted to take the matter to the Police but everyone begged. The landlord of their house and the man’s house also appealed to him not to escalate the matter. They begged him not to expose his chats on social media as his wife, my friend, had promised to do.

The culprit’s wife left him. He eventually had to move out of the house immediately the rent was due. The disgrace was too much for them to handle. Everywhere he went in the neighborhood, mothers were wary of him around their daughters.

They have collected the phones from their children. If you are not in university, no more phones.

How did they handle the girl? I asked them not to beat her. But the father refused to listen. He said she had brought disgrace to the household. He wanted to send her to the village but I stopped him. She needed therapy not to be shamed. I told the mother to take her to see a psychologist at Yaba left. It worked!

Older men groom very young girls and turn them into sex slaves. It was what this man was doing. The kind of chats they had was irritating coming from a grown man. He was able to make her do some of the things he wanted by doing them first.

That phone your daughter holds very dear to her heart, please once in a while, check it. Make sure she is not being groomed for someone’s perversion. Check what she is doing and advise her. Anyone younger than sixteen shouldn’t be on social media. Anyone still in secondary school shouldn’t be there too, regardless of their age.

Girls have been lured to travel abroad to be sex slaves, all by grooming or greed. They make them hate their families and believe they are the only ones that love them . They give them attention and say sweet things to them often. It is easy to fall for such.

Teach your children these signs and also do not expose them unnecessarily to these men. Paedophiles are evolving. They are getting smarter. We have to keep our girls safe.

I love you all.
Rag!
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Ebymyk(m): 9:37am On Apr 17, 2022
Parents are to be blamed... The Bible says train up a child in..... if the parents did what's required of them biblically, things won't come to this... The girl was loosed and her parents loosed her... The man is just a predator who saw this and took advantage....
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Agbebakun22: 10:00am On Apr 17, 2022
Some parents are falling off their responsibilty to their teen. A facebook friend of mine i was shocked when she said tomorrow will be her 18 birthday, this is a girl that has been going with men to different hotels in owerri, she twerk on her ig handle and tiktok and she know almost all the hotels in owerri at that age. Smh for this generation
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Nobody:
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.


He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

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I love you all.
Whilst I see the whole point of this writeup, and I know you are trying to safeguard the girl child from making mistakes, I noticed you were very one-sided in your story.
So the girl has been accepting recharge cards, money gifts too (however little or not they were) but never spokeout those times. She collected and collected,just the way her predecessors and older female counterparts collect and collect from men, without conscience.
She should have reported on the first day nau. But no, she wanted to take advantage of the situation for her own interests. Airtime, money and whatever. And you think at her age she isn't already cunning ?

The second issue here, which I'm so tempted to call you stupid for, but I won't type it out, is the second emboldened texts. Yen, yen, yen, yen, yen...just vomiting, waaa.
So " which she initially refused to send, but , when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing..bla bla bla...just bra and underwear "
Hear yourself! Hear how you painted the above scenario. Very one-sided and trying to downplay the girls part in playing along and even sending nudes (we don't care if it was full or semi-nudes) Nude is nude. Period.
For your info, that girl ain't no saint and has been doing that act for sometime. But of course, they will know how to always manipulate the situation and spin it around to claim the victim, when they no longer need the man, or his gifts aren't coming in anylonger. Or, they just wanna leave him, and move on.

" He wanted to see her fully nude but she said she couldn't because she shared room with her siblings "Tells you that she was down to do it, if not for the lack of privacy. Mtchew... Spoilt girl, but you think she is naive, because that's what she wants you to think.

The man is stupid, no dispute about this. But, my point is that he girl is also part of the problem here. No one held a knife to her throat, literally. So...
They are both to blame. Both stupid. But bias won't allow most of you to see this, especially the Nairaland females on here.

God, pls remember I have always prayed that you never allow me to have female children in my lifetime. Amen. It's better I have no kids, than to have females. I reaffirm that stand today, Lord. Thank you my heavenly Father.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by ABANGWABOI(m): 10:13am On Apr 17, 2022
When we tell them to monitor s female child more,they say patriarchy is caging them..
This one get luck say em monitor em daughter.. if not na belle she for bring come house..
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Jaemes(m): 10:25am On Apr 17, 2022
LadyRosa:
This is same thing I noticed in my neighborhood.I keep asking myself who are the men sleeping with this teenagers.If a teenager is mating with her agemates,you will know.But a situation where they give this odour that is too "aged" you don't get to perceive that natural baby lotion smell but a weird odour that is soooooo matured for their age.

I mean,the one that offed me is a CBN staffers girl-child of 15 in the Estate.She leads children cathcism in the local parish.

Omo,there are lots of pedophiles in our neighborhood.The father is a well paid employee.
Someone confided in me she is being humped my a married man in the neighborhood.

Why will a matured married man leave all the ladies around just to sleep with minors.The most annoying thing is this men are well educated.Haba!
U stay in the Estate? I think I'm aware of this person you're talking of, the matter weak me�
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by buzorcharles(m): 10:28am On Apr 17, 2022
Once in a while check ur children fones even ur spouse's fone to know what they are hiding from u. Its ur right to know
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by emmanuelbrown26: 10:28am On Apr 17, 2022
CsRockefeller:
Empty skull.
Not your fault, bcs u don't hv elders in your household
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Jennyclay(f): 10:29am On Apr 17, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
I don't just understand why women always attach emotion to everything.
Nobody is talking about d girl that gave her number willingly to d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that exchanged nudes with d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that accepted gifts and money from d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that was enjoying chatting with d idiotic man
Why are we so irrational in judging cases?
Mr pedophile. Happy Easter to you.

Rubbish!!!!
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by emmanuelbrown26: 10:31am On Apr 17, 2022
Mariangeles:
Now that some SONS and daughters of Eve have knocked some senses into you, akwa obi e hiela gi? O gbahuola gi n'anya!
A na a gwa gi, I naghi a cho I nu.
They all hv their personal opinion, i still maintain my stand that d girl has questions to answer, u all are too emotional with this issue and that is why such a thing keep happening
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by sicily4u: 10:32am On Apr 17, 2022
Am sure the girl is no longer a Virgin, even 15yrs old girl don dey born self
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by emmanuelbrown26: 10:32am On Apr 17, 2022
josite:
did u hear that the girl in issue is 15.u can only marry such a girl or a girl under 18 with her parent's consent.
This is d reason why such keeps happening bcs we don't tackle d root cause rather u all want to tackle d stem of d root
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by emmanuelbrown26: 10:33am On Apr 17, 2022
Jennyclay:
Mr pedophile. Happy Easter to you.

Rubbish!!!!
Miss, same wishes to u, when u don't tackle d root and start tackling d stem, it keeps happening.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Jennyclay(f): 10:36am On Apr 17, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
Miss, same wishes to u, when u don't tackle d root and start tackling d stem, it keeps happening.
Pedophile!!! Pedophile!!!

I pray you get caught and arrested.. Nonsense!!
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by kayperry: 10:40am On Apr 17, 2022
cococandy:
Please shut up
Xtupid
I guess all that matter is reactions, condemnation, the dog must get the bad name at the negligience of every other meaningful steps ...
what he said made apt sense, the major challenge most times this teenage gurlz don't trust there parent/guidances enough to comfy in them or maybe the reception is not good enough.
chasing the goat away "everytime" naa stress not the solution, alot of parent shy away from sex education, my dad & i tried so much on my lil sister then such that boyz do tell her this as to be your big bro OT in play, its all about who get to the female child mind 1st.

coco rest ijn & eric says happy easter
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by emmanuelbrown26: 10:48am On Apr 17, 2022
Jennyclay:
Pedophile!!! Pedophile!!!

I pray you get caught and arrested.. Nonsense!!
Lloolssssss

Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Coolcash1: 10:53am On Apr 17, 2022
The parents should be blamed. It shows how distance they are from their daughter for the poor girl not to have confided in any of them. Tueh!
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by ladyn4real(f): 11:00am On Apr 17, 2022
QuinModah:
*DON’T LOSE GUARD WITH YOUR DAUGHTERS*

You can't be too sure...

I watched a skit a few minutes ago and I remembered an incident that happened last year. I have her permission to share without revealing names or locations. Also some details have been changed.thanks

A mother asked to use her fifteen year old daughter’s phone for some days while her own phone was being repaired.

WhatsApp messages dropped on the phone. Her daughter had passworded her WhatsApp so she couldn’t see the messages.

Out of curiosity, she tried some passwords and her daughter’s birthday was the password. She opened the WhatsApp and almost died, with the shock of what she saw.

A man in the next building had been chatting with her daughter. He had made several sexual advances towards her, which the daughter refused. He was adamant. He pursued her. He sent her recharge cards, came to her school to give her gifts and money.

He asked her if she had a boyfriend or have ever had intimacy, she said no. He pursued her some more.

He requested for her pictures, almost unclad, which she initially refused to send him but when he sent his, she sent hers. It was nothing too revealing as she was in her bra and underwear.

He taught her how to password her WhatsApp.

Then he pushed for more. He wanted to see her completely nude. She couldn’t take such a picture because she shared a room with her siblings.

He asked her to lock herself in the bathroom for them to have a video call.

She saw messages like “Did you like what you saw?” “ Stop being shy around me.” “Why are you afraid? Nobody will see you.” He sent a picture of his nudity to her. A girl of fifteen!

It became terrifying when her daughter sent a chat saying she saw him with his wife the other night and he ignored her. She knew her daughter had fallen and it was a matter of time before the guy had his way.

She contacted me and asked me for advice. I have helped her in the past so she felt she could confide in me.

The truth is, when such a thing happens, you have to get someone who will treat the man’s Bleep-up very well. Who is the person who will be angry enough to do thathuh No other person than her father.

She was scared her husband will dump the blame on her. She was looking for another way to handle it without him.

I told her, “If you handle it quietly, the man will be wiser and will ensure he won’t be caught since he is obsessed with your daughter that he patiently groomed her. It is best he is disgraced and only her father will do that unless he is a useless man that’s when he will keep quiet.” I told her she is lucky the girl hadn’t agreed to be alone with the man anywhere. It was getting close to that.

Her husband didn’t disappoint me. Immediately he read the chats and saw the ‘manhood’ he took off to the man’s house that night. The wife ran after him. He banged continuously on the gate.

Well, the man got what was coming to him. He was disgraced. The evidence of their chats were there. His neighbours were shocked because he portrayed a picture of a saint but he was the devil and also a paedophile.

The husband wanted to take the matter to the Police but everyone begged. The landlord of their house and the man’s house also appealed to him not to escalate the matter. They begged him not to expose his chats on social media as his wife, my friend, had promised to do.

The culprit’s wife left him. He eventually had to move out of the house immediately the rent was due. The disgrace was too much for them to handle. Everywhere he went in the neighborhood, mothers were wary of him around their daughters.

They have collected the phones from their children. If you are not in university, no more phones.

How did they handle the girl? I asked them not to beat her. But the father refused to listen. He said she had brought disgrace to the household. He wanted to send her to the village but I stopped him. She needed therapy not to be shamed. I told the mother to take her to see a psychologist at Yaba left. It worked!

Older men groom very young girls and turn them into sex slaves. It was what this man was doing. The kind of chats they had was irritating coming from a grown man. He was able to make her do some of the things he wanted by doing them first.

That phone your daughter holds very dear to her heart, please once in a while, check it. Make sure she is not being groomed for someone’s perversion. Check what she is doing and advise her. Anyone younger than sixteen shouldn’t be on social media. Anyone still in secondary school shouldn’t be there too, regardless of their age.

Girls have been lured to travel abroad to be sex slaves, all by grooming or greed. They make them hate their families and believe they are the only ones that love them . They give them attention and say sweet things to them often. It is easy to fall for such.

Teach your children these signs and also do not expose them unnecessarily to these men. Paedophiles are evolving. They are getting smarter. We have to keep our girls safe.

I love you all.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Pussyassnigger: 11:03am On Apr 17, 2022
That girl nah wannabe future hoo grin
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by naikeboy(m): 11:06am On Apr 17, 2022
If to say the girl get chance to Bleep and suck the man rod she for done day collect since, some 15 years old girls collect pass some 30 years old women self, for the girl not to report to her parents it means them done day finger her for school or church self, she is not innocent abeg.... She no the mata....
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by NorthSerious: 11:06am On Apr 17, 2022
QuinModah:
They are not normal in that part of the Nigeria.
Teenage girls in southern Nigeria are already on hook up sites selling themselves to the highest bidders. Before 20, they already have body count in the hundreds. You guys are far more abnormal, you just don't see it or you try to feel better by lying to yourself.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by rant19ade: 11:16am On Apr 17, 2022
emmanuelbrown26:
I don't just understand why women always attach emotion to everything.
Nobody is talking about d girl that gave her number willingly to d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that exchanged nudes with d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that accepted gifts and money from d idiotic man
Nobody is talking about d girl that was enjoying chatting with d idiotic man
Why are we so irrational in judging cases?
Nawa o
Bro, you are saying rubbish. 15 yrs old!!
The girl is underage, the other fool is a fully grown-up man with wife.
If y'all don't know, there's something called unlawful sexual relationship with a minor, so whatever the child does she's not fully responsible unlike the he-goat.

And in a court of law that werey is going to jail,so you better know that man.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by marvel2011(m): 11:19am On Apr 17, 2022
omobaba101:
To start with, what is a smartphone doing in the hand of 15 years? Parental ignorance or negligence is causing great harm to the children of this generation.
COVID19 caused a lot of havoc to our generation. It was COVID 19 that led to the use of phones by children. They made us believe that their lessons were online. Children diverted grossly from studying to watching pornographic movies on line arrestee
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by eniteden(m): 11:28am On Apr 17, 2022
Oh my God, this worth sharing to all to learn from. Please permission to share this in my page I beg u.
Re: Don’t Lose Guard With Your Daughters by Nobody: 11:50am On Apr 17, 2022
dontrulee:
Shut up, is it not guys like you that toast girls and make them loose guard?? Yet when they fall into your trap, you say they're not well trained. You that you're looking for where to put your stick in every hole you meet or see, are you well trained??
There are many idiots on this planet that cannot handle simple truth, a 15 yr old girl who can receive gifts from a married man is a hoe , she was taught by her mother.
Raise your daughter well, stop bleating like a castrated goat.
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