yanabasee:
I experienced a girl like yours some years ago ..

Infact, she said she can only have sex when we're married.... asked if she was a virgin and she muted me.... and even warned me to not bring any word relating to sex to her...


Dude, I planned and strategized and followed her gradually, no pressure ..

Had a romance session a couple of times with her and she liked it .. I could tell because she would be texting and all loving when she gets home....

I kept it there, I only improved on my level of romance making... I wanted to have her wet to a certain climax... Yes I did it... she was uncontrollably stupid when she begged me to use my fingers... I had to remind her of her vows... she damned it and ask me not to make her hate me....


So op, a clean romance session can lead to a good sex without a trouble .....

Learn to work on how to excite her and bring her I to the mood...

imagine the stress you went through just to have sex with a lady. Imagine how it would have taken you from the first romance session to the first penetrative sex....that's ridiculous man.
Once a girl brings up any condition to date me, I damn her instantly...like why the fvck are you making these girls feel so important when it is actually them who needs your support more than you need them.
And imagine OP saying his babe blocked him on social media severally just for bringing up sex topics....rubbish and useless simping.

U don watch blue film with her before
Download madt bang and see weather she no go like u make u bang her too

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Don't mind all the people telling you that it's red flag.
Not every lady likes szx
But her refusing to see a gynecologist makes it seems like she is hiding something.
You have to sit her down and talk about it.
A lot of things like infection could make szx painful to her.
Settle every matter before introduction, if it doesn't work then you are free to walk away.

youngsahito:
you are planning introduction when u know that u have a fire on your roof, shey na love make u mumu like this or just want to create problem for yourself? Don't come here to cry like a baby ooo when everything burst.

Don't mind him, he's one dt will come and write on nl later that help my wife found out am cheating.

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Maybe she found bestiality blue film in your phone. I hope you are not into animals?

youngsahito:
you are planning introduction when u know that u have a fire on your roof, shey na love make u mumu like this or just want to create problem for yourself? Don't come here to cry like a baby ooo when everything burst.

You can imagine the simp, tomorrow now he’ll start beating her if she refuses him sex even though he’s fully aware of her not into sex.

I imagine that there is a very dark memory of sex lurking somewhere in her mind.

Guy, the simple truth is that ur girl is suffering from a medical condition called "dyspareunia". The sad news is that there is no cure for it. Your fiancee knows the truth but she wouldn't open up to it. The reason she refused going to the gynaecologist is that he will open up her secret to u and u may eventually leave her.
I once had gf like that. The major cause of dyspareunia is child rape, female circumcision. Let her tell u her own story. It's bad she is hiding it from you.
Remember there is no cure. It's life time defect. It's not her intention to deny u sex.
Don't marry her except u want to use IVF for childbearing.
Chat me on 09065070111 for more info

Dump her and move on... Stop wasting more time on someone not willing to solve her own problems

This is the clear evidence of why nigerians dont have love for one another. It starts here, in truth union of man and woman is basically for exchange sex and happines but in nigeria its reverse. This man says he cant have sex with this lady and yet hes talking about marriage.... Its like kadashians who has married 5 times , am just lost for words. I will ask you this question... What is the meaning of marriage?

OluwoR:


I tried explaining to a Doctor friend, he referred me to a Gynecologist, paid 50K for appointment, my babe didn't go

That thing is an infection, it burns as if there is pepper when have sex. If she refused to see the gynecologist that means she knew what is happening but she don't want to disclose it to you.


Just try your best to let her know that marriage can't last without sex, it will tire you on the long run or else you guys what to be deceiving yourselves

If we check the OP well, he might be an active member of his church or religion, unfortunately saying and teaching what he neither believed nor practiced. Didn't God spoke against fornication? and here you're seeking advice on something you know will end your precious and never dieing soul in the lake of fire. The girl may have had it with you, but probably withdrew her consent due some fear within. She probably want to stay till married to ever engage in such an act again, reason she didn't want to honour the doctor's appointment as there is probably no issue at all. I counsel you therefore to Repent and put your spiritual life in order, ask God for forgiveness over your past sins and seek for grace to live right henceforth. This will turn out to your blessing.

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters...

Can you cope with it? if your answer is no, brother (since you called us brother), move on. I've been down this road before. She's hiding something. Don't be surprised if she doesn't have a womb or has even had a child before. I know I sound extreme and harsh, but I'm telling you from experience.

After marriage, she may turn around to confess to having a child through "rape", and then use that to justify why she hates sex. Or she even claims to have been raped by a person she "trusted" and had to abort the child, destroying her womb in the process.

These were the same signs I saw too and I ignored them only to end up spending millions in court and hospital bills for a child turned out not to be mine.

Why is she refusing an appointment and supplements if her conscience is clean? Or do you think it doesn't bother her more than it bothers you? Start by asking her if she has a child? If she says no, ask if she has ever aborted? Be smart with it and make her believe someone told you something about her.

OP please cancel the introduction now. Don't go and enter one chance. It's an abnormal condition, it's not like she doesn't want to have sex but she actually feels pain. Leave her now while you still can or you will become a serial cheat.

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Sometimes i wonder if some guys really sucked their mother’s breast milk. What sorts of foolishness is this? She has a problem, you paid and booked for hospital examinations and she avoided it. She refused to take drugs and refused to see a doctor. That babe is a lesbian and under an oath with lesbian partner not to sex with a guy. She doesn’t have any other problem and any pains u claim she has during trying to sex her is just pretends. She knows she doesn’t have any medical problems, that’s why she won’t see a doctor or take drugs.

OluwoR:


Sir, before I'd open a thread about this, you should know I must have tried all possible best
Sir, anything that has to do with sex, she just doesn't want to hear it
she had blocked me on SM on several occasions cos I tried to bring up sexual related matters

So what is the marriage for now?

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

She be lesbian low key

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Stop the introduction. If you are to marry her she must get help asap. It's a medical condition.

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

Same problem I'm facing currently in my marriage. God will help us o! Hmmm!

OluwoR:


hmm, lol
not until you're there, you can't understand the feelings brr

Bro just walk out of that relationship cause you will end up cheating.

She need to find a man that can balance her sex life.

Chikena

Give her a very good head, she won't know when she drags you in.

I know 2 ladies that don't enjoy sex. I use to pity them. Cos, finding a man that will stay with them for so long might be difficult. My opinion though.

Cos every man that discover their conditions takes off after the first or second bites.

Deejaygold:


Same problem I'm facing currently in my marriage. God will help us o! Hmmm!

Do you guys have kids now?

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

It either she is getting it from somewhere or she has infection that causes her pains during intercourse

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.

It's not strange, it's usually associated with prolonged untreated infection(s) ; little penetration even as little as the tiniest finger she'd cry. The solution is centred around testing and treatment ; as common as cipro can treat ailments with similar attributes. The worst of all, it adversely affects the possibility of getting pregnant. All the best though.

OluwoR:


Sir, before I'd open a thread about this, you should know I must have tried all possible best
Sir, anything that has to do with sex, she just doesn't want to hear it
she had blocked me on SM on several occasions cos I tried to bring up sexual related matters

And this is who you are planning introduction with and possibly marriage
You are not serious seriously

She is suffering from vaginismus.
Read about vaginismus and enlighten her then ask her to read about psychotherapy to vaginismus or see a psychologist or gynecologist.

Once she accepts she is suffering from such psychological problem her problem is 50% solved

OluwoR:


I grab Sir, and yeah, we do things, but if the romance get intense to some level, she'll back off

Guy your solution no dey here for Nairaland Na your hand e dey.
Which kind man u be sef..?
Them give u suggestions here u dey still say no no, then waiting u want..?
Just carry your Matta vomit for here.

OluwoR:


Sir, before I'd open a thread about this, you should know I must have tried all possible best
Sir, anything that has to do with sex, she just doesn't want to hear it
she had blocked me on SM on several occasions cos I tried to bring up sexual related matters

She be deeper life?

Oh, seems I sabi ur babe or na people wey get this issue plenty?

Uniquetani1:



Don't mind all the people telling you that it's red flag.
Not every lady likes szx
But her refusing to see a gynecologist makes it seems like she is hiding something.
You have to sit her down and talk about it.
A lot of things like infection could make szx painful to her.
Settle every matter before introduction, if it doesn't work then you are free to walk away.

Good point! It’s never gonna work cos she’s into women which she’s unaware of so it’s left for the guy to introduce her to her and see if she’s comfortable with same sex. The idea is wrong but it might be only the solution for her

She's scared you might run away when she gets pregnant before doing the needful, she will adjust when you have settled her people.