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AishaDant:
Communication in relationships is very important. Talk to your partner about everything and carry her along always.

Be honest, be kind and be sensitive to your partner.
Also, be faithful!

Feel free to share these with your partner.
It must be 50:50 to work well.

Best of luck!

iLegenddNoReply:
0. Set the rules and boundaries early (during courtship)

1. Have money (don't let your pastor deceive you that you need to marry early even if you're broke and God will provide after marriage)
2. Know how to Bleep without drugs (extremely important)
3. Invest less emotions but be caring
4. Know how to control your anger and don't be abusive, but...
5. If she f*cks up, tell her to f*ck off without saying a word (thank God you didn't invest more emotions than her)
6. Have access to her phone and chats and also let her have access to yours
7. Be cooperative, but don't let her be manipulative
8. Don't allow in-laws control your marriage or have too much access to your day-to-day family affairs
9. Maintain the principles you had at the dating stage, but amend a couple of them that aren't against your core value
10. Have only children you can take care of — don't born more than you can handle and end up increasing the rate of crime and prostitution through your numerous hungry children
11. Add humor and playfulness in your marriage
12. Communicate and discuss things
13. Be honest and trustworthy — same as her
14. Fear God, not her family or threat to leave
15. And finally, live in peace or walk away if you can't find peace of mind in the marriage anymore

Extra tip: Learn to give each other full-body massage at least 4 time a month — it relieves stress, brings calmness, and gives peace to mind.

If you haven't received a full-body massage, you're missing.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I'm not married but Ive heard some advices from other people
1) have one account for personal things then a joint bank account for the bills and house maintenance and both of you decide how much should be contributed from both of you , it can be 30 -70 or 40 - 60

2) if possible have an emergency fund for you know emergencies , we know that we're supposed to hope for the best and just be completely optimistic and prepare for the best but you also have to prepare for the worst and most unexpected situations ( e.g your spouse or child is diagnosed with big man sickness and you have nothing to hold onto , you can't even take a break to nurse them , it'seven worse when it's the breadwinner ( the man ) , there's also divorce , you don't want to be caught unawares by anything

3) don't ever forget why your spouse is your spouse , always make out time to dress up and go out together and have fun as boyfriend and girlfriend , even though you're husband and wife , it's easier said than done but it makes things a lot more colorful , when kids enter the picture over maturity kills that love that makes you feel like a teenager

4) you'll be hurt and angry and they will test your limits sometimes , just prepare your mind to forgive and forgive , till you become a professional forgiver you need to learn to overlook somethings

5) when something happens address it immediately and let it go , don't burry it, it'll grow into a resentment, then later become disgust and hatred , na small thing dey turn to big thing , you won't even believe it , someone cancelled wedding because of peak milk , he wasn't being petty , if you hear the full story you might be in support of the cancellation , even though it sounds funny at first

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

exnovio:
If you are not financially balance,please don't get married.

2braithe:
For men:
If she is a Nigerian girl,abort mission.
If she is a foreigner, even Togolese,carry on.

For ladies:
If he is a simp, abort mission.
If he is a redpiller, even if he is broke,carry on.

Ola4lead:
No matter the advice you receive, you will still encounter your own personal marriage challenges that only you and your partner can solve.


Forget how Good both of you are, life is not a bed of roses

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

Googledotcom:
Every other thing you mentioned feels good except were you wrote "spend on her"

NohurryInLife:
Lol
Gist me ahbeg my Oga

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
My pleasure
So this man and women were engaged and making preparations for the wedding and this happened

The oga lives alone in his apartment I think it's Lagos ( not sure ) and aunty came from another state to pay him a surprise visit and she stayed the night at his place
The next morning I think he woke up and found out that she had used the last remaining milk in his fridge and he got upset
She said it was the only one , that why would he only have one milk in the fridge
He said he wasn't expecting a guest and he had not stocked up yet
Aunty still said he doesn't expect her to share this one milk with him blah blah blah
Oga ended up going to work on an empty stomach after the argument
They still carried on , she went back home and then he cancelled the wedding plans after a while, what was his reasons

He doesn't trust her , that little thing she did showed how selfish she was and this was a situation where he wasn't expecting a guest and was not prepared for her visit and she's angry at him for not preparing for a guest
If she had him in mind , she'll understand that he needs to go to work and if they needed to share what was available at that time , it shouldn't be a problem
He also doesn't believe that he can trust her when he has nothing , he just didn't feel safe anymore
Not in these exact words tho ,but I couldn't really dig up the whole story
I understand where he was coming from but so many people will be like if he really loved her he would've taught her this , explained this
I know that I can do exactly what he did , it can be something so small and insignificant

Another thing was after he tried to confront she felt he was at fault because she had no choice but to use it
, it was just one , the entitlement trait was overdosed
So she didn't understand what she did wrong
The expectation was that she would've shared it with him in the mean time , but her mind did not even cross there , " I'm sure he eats everyday , he won't die if he doesn't eat today , me I'm hungry "
And the guy just felt he got a glimpse of her mindset with that small misunderstanding

iCauseTrouble:
Money is 90% of the things you need in marriage.

virginprincess:
Aren't you supposed to spend on her, if you don't spend your money on your family then will you spend on? remember she's your wife not your girlfriend.

Tokskob2008:
If you have the slightest of doubt about your partner or the relationship.... DON'T DO IT!!!