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post=112576592:
Really?
Coco

ABANGWABOI:
I don't pity you at all..
How can you go to oyibo land with Stupid laws and go and marry..
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeewww..

Na you do yourself..
If na Naija you pay only bride price and not wedding or court Marriage.. you won't suffer this nonsense..

Is better my so called wife is Cheating on me in nigeria than me taking her abroad to join me.. Never..

I would never take a woman abroad.. Never..
Let her remain in this country.. if she cheats too much.. I come back and marry a new fresh young girl.. after all I have the money..

post=112579792:
Oh, this explains it better.
We get your point now.

Some words are better left unsaid more like....

Cousin9999:
And those are broken, ratchet homes. It's just a fact that kids benefit more from a proper, married household.



It's not about the food. It's about the love and care in it. It's about someone that makes sure you eat well, gets your favorite on your birthday, cooks you something soothing when you're sick, and takes over cooking when you're really tired.



Chose better and do better and maybe you won't have that problem.



It's a sign of poor mental health and education that you view intimacy and human beings in that way.

And intimacy problems in marriages are a result of laziness in looking after the relationship. They're also a result of ignorance where some people think their partner is a machine.



Again, choose better. Stop looking for slay queens, and find someone who's a good partner.



Some guys work very hard, and they need a breather before tackling household responsibilities. Women are no different. That's life. Even single people may do this. It is what it is.

But some guys are immature. They don't go home because they want to be single while married. And they want to have all the married benefits with none of the work. They may have married too soon.



Marriage isn't for everyone. However, an educated, well-adjusted person generally doesn't ask this question.

Richy1441:
Well said, You can get all these things outside marriage. But think of marriage as a sacrifice. Committing to someone, it's about someone else and your future. Think of the children you gonna have, they would love to wake up every morning and see a wall picture of mom and dad in their wedding dresses,they deserve that happiness.

cococandy:
that OP will certainly not benefit from marriage. So no need for him to try

phemmyfour:
Your write up is already tilted towards not getting married. You will not know the advantages in marriage until your old age

Nyascobar1414:
How do you know you will get old?

Tomorrow is not assured bro...

Your wife might die and leave you...

Now you get it...

That's not a wise answer, imagine someone saying don't invest for your future because of the possibility that you might not grow old.


You alone in this cold world...
Tryna be alone..

Sweetplum:
Companionship & Procreation.
Go n read Genesis to know more.
To all who are quoting me. Marriage isn't by force. Don't discourage those who value it.
I wonder how you all train those kids you had anyhow via baby mamas or surrogacy.
What's the value you instill in them. One of the things destroying the world of today is lack of value. And its first gotten from homes.
So who are you all fooling?
I m coming with full force!
Last Drop:

Either you all cooperate jejely or stay out of marriage.
I now found out most people here in support of the op are atheists & men running away from responsibilities.
All of you no get life. Especially those atheists. I dey watch you, Una dey watch me. We dey here. Una go see weeen!

Nazgul:
Marriage became useless to men because we abandoned our culture and tradition and embraced that of the Western world.

When you start sleeping with girls from the age of 16 and have a body count of close to 50 girls by the time you're 30, what usefulness do you expect to get from marriage? Truth is even you the man wouldn't value the marriage and would immediately resume your sexcapade after your honeymoon

The only way to restore decorum in African marriages is to embrace back our culture.

Pre marital sex must be seen as an abomination, those who practice it would be banished from their community.

Virginity test should be one of the requirements a girl must possess before marriage can take place, this will reduce promiscuity in girls.

A law should be passed that ràpists would earn in instant death sentence upon conviction. This would reduce promiscuity in guys cos no one would be willing to risk his life for a few minutes of pleasure.

Also there should be laws governing marriages that would make unfaithful partners risk jail term.

Once this measures can be put in place, I strongly believe that marriages would become as rosy as it was meant to be. And wouldn't be useless to both men and women.

MossLuv:
The reason you should marry is because of procreation and your wife is only person who will stand by you at your old age... Not even your children.

Ebubu2:
Exactly! I know my profession pays higher in abroad but I rather base here in Nigeria and manage the average wealth I have and be in a position to not be wrecked by marriage.

Than go abroad, amass wealth and stand a chance of 90% being wrecked by marital disputes.

Don’t tell me I’m a bad husband and deserve it if I’m divorced, cus I know women who instigate it against good men just out of greed to possess his possession, and desire to come out again as single and LovePeddler about in advanced world.


My lady, we die here in Nigeria o

Nazgul:
Marriage became useless to men because we abandoned our culture and tradition and embraced that of the Western world.

When you start sleeping with girls from the age of 16 and have a body count of close to 50 girls by the time you're 30, what usefulness do you expect to get from marriage? Truth is even you the man wouldn't value the marriage and would immediately resume your sexcapade after your honeymoon

The only way to restore decorum in African marriages is to embrace back our culture.

Pre marital sex must be seen as an abomination, those who practice it would be banished from their community.

Virginity test should be one of the requirements a girl must possess before marriage can take place, this will reduce promiscuity in girls.

A law should be passed that ràpists would earn in instant death sentence upon conviction. This would reduce promiscuity in guys cos no one would be willing to risk his life for a few minutes of pleasure.

Also there should be laws governing marriages that would make unfaithful partners risk jail term.

Once this measures can be put in place, I strongly believe that marriages would become as rosy as it was meant to be. And wouldn't be useless to both men and women.

ABANGWABOI:
We think alike but there is a little difference ..

If I have the opportunity to go abroad to earn more and better my career I would go and I would never take or bring my wife along..
She would remain in Nigeria with the kids.. if she likes let her sleep around in Nigeria.. I don't care..
If I like, I can come back to Nigeria and divorce her here and continue with my life.. Me wey be better womanizer.. I go dey Bleep upandan both in Nigeria and abroad..
She better secretly fuckkk her own in Nigeria when I am away,cos if she makes it obvious that she is sleeping around in nigeria.. I would divorce the fool, thank God our laws is not stupid like Oyibo own..

Bottom line is if I get opportunity I go Japa and I would never take my wife and kids with me.. Never..
She can leave of she wants..
With money I can always come back home anytime and marry another pretty tight pussy girl in the poverty capital of Africa..

BabaIbo:
LoL, C. Ronaldo and Mikel are married, na im dem dey call their girls BabyMamas OR girlfriends anytime them wan address them?

Nazgul:
Marriage became useless to men because we abandoned our culture and tradition and embraced that of the Western world.

When you start sleeping with girls from the age of 16 and have a body count of close to 50 girls by the time you're 30, what usefulness do you expect to get from marriage? Truth is even you the man wouldn't value the marriage and would immediately resume your sexcapade after your honeymoon

The only way to restore decorum in African marriages is to embrace back our culture.

Pre marital sex must be seen as an abomination, those who practice it would be banished from their community.

Virginity test should be one of the requirements a girl must possess before marriage can take place, this will reduce promiscuity in girls.

A law should be passed that ràpists would earn in instant death sentence upon conviction. This would reduce promiscuity in guys cos no one would be willing to risk his life for a few minutes of pleasure.

Also there should be laws governing marriages that would make unfaithful partners risk jail term.

Once this measures can be put in place, I strongly believe that marriages would become as rosy as it was meant to be. And wouldn't be useless to both men and women.

Sweetplum:
You v made valid points.
About atheists.
I get beef with them. If you are one, show face!

FuckDModz:
You will still marry a hoe

Ezemeiyogu:
Nothing but I'm getting married anyway.

Life sef dey confuse me. Why come at all when it's certain we go still die, yet we do everything possible to live now just to die later. Isn't that more worrisome?

Nyascobar1414:
How do you know you will get old...
Stop living in fantasy bro..
Be real.

Nyascobar1414:
How do you know you will get old...
Stop living in fantasy bro..
Be real.

MossLuv:
It's everybody wish and prayer to live long and get old bro. Even if you don't wish so God can still keep you... Unless you want to commit suicide

truthCoder:
50 girls by 30?

I passed that number before graduating.

Sex was a reason to get married in the past.

Now, you can order sex online and get it delivered home by Uber.

Marriage is a scam perpetuated by womenfolk to keep men in lifetime bondage.

Once you enter marriage, you must pay. Even if you want to leave, you still must pay.

Marriage is worse off in the US. Alimony payments alone have wrecked many men.

Avoid marriage if you can.

teeshet:
by sleeping with prostitutes. Fool

Nyascobar1414:
see this man... All the people praying to get old,are all of em old...??

Bro death is Inevitable..
2moro is not guaranteed.

BabaIbo:
Marriage they say is a beautiful thing but if you ask many men out there what marriage is to them or what marriage has brought to them or will they get married if they are given chances to rewind time, their responses will be in negative form or NO.

That same step(marriage) is the next step to be taken by me but I have one unanswered question. I am a young man in my 30s, currently free from any dating relationship and about to begin my search for a life partner, but I like being cleared/well-informed about something before going into it.

Pardon me for this long note I am about to dish out and the question I will be asking at the end.

For sometimes now, people around me have been telling me I am next in line to get married, some telling me to ensure I bring a responsible lady home and all that.
My mom do tell me she won't rush me to get married but as an observant person you will notice she really wants me to bring a woman(wife) home.

My dad told me sometimes ago that if I don't have a lady, that maybe they should search for a young good girl for me early next year.
My younger ones are expecting me to take that step so they can start planning on theirs and all that.

All these are for their own good or benefits, I am not saying they don't deserve it but I have been trying to get a tangible reason to get married i.e what is the SPECIAL thing(benefit) it will add to my life, I am the one getting married not them.
"Na me wan wear the shoe."

A bikeman, popularly known as Okadaman that do come to my place told me story about himself and big opportunities that marriage has made him miss.

In addition to his words and those I have heard from others, the fear of things going south, disappearance of peace of mind and all that are other factors.

Presumed(anticipated) benefits which are not as they are expected to be again are)

CHILDREN: Children can be gotten without marriage, for example: C. Ronaldo, Mikel, and others did that and they are doing well.

GOOD MEALS: Foods can be gotten from outside or prepared by the man or any other person that is not a wife for the man. Moreover, how many of them can cook well like our mothers? I'm a better cook than most ladies I have come across.

COMPANIONSHIP: That is an overstatement in our present society. It is even more noticeable in dating relationship than in some marriages these days.

SEX: That is the cheapest service/thing to get after air and water(clean water is even more expensive). Moreover many marriages are lacking sexually. It is worse if the man has high sex drive aka high libido.

SUPPORT: I don't want to go there because it is an open fact that instead of getting support, the man is being leached/milked of the one he has.

HOME: I can still remember how some married men will pack their cars at the junction, stay inside their cars for long before driving home, some go to the bar/relaxation centers to chill before going home, some don even like going home. You all know why?

With all these in mind, I want to ask this question that has been bothering me because I need to sort it before taking the step...

Now, my question is "WHAT IS THE BENEFIT OF MARRIAGE TO A MAN IN THIS OUR TIME?"

PS: I used this image because what marriage did to the man in the picture is in the open

Nazgul:
Marriage became useless to men because we abandoned our culture and tradition and embraced that of the Western world.

When you start sleeping with girls from the age of 16 and have a body count of close to 50 girls by the time you're 30, what usefulness do you expect to get from marriage? Truth is even you the man wouldn't value the marriage and would immediately resume your sexcapade after your honeymoon

The only way to restore decorum in African marriages is to embrace back our culture.

Pre marital sex must be seen as an abomination, those who practice it would be banished from their community.

Virginity test should be one of the requirements a girl must possess before marriage can take place, this will reduce promiscuity in girls.

A law should be passed that ràpists would earn in instant death sentence upon conviction. This would reduce promiscuity in guys cos no one would be willing to risk his life for a few minutes of pleasure.

Also there should be laws governing marriages that would make unfaithful partners risk jail term.

Once this measures can be put in place, I strongly believe that marriages would become as rosy as it was meant to be. And wouldn't be useless to both men and women.