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Next time when thinking about your ex, focus more on the negative part of his life and it Implications on your own life too... Do this and see how you will lose interest in him within days....

I understand your plight, but you yourself if you're been honest with yourself, you know those traits of his are serious red flags you shouldn't take lightly. So, endeavor to get over him and pray that God help you with it. I understand it's not easy to move on, bit understand that it's for your own good

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Sis, losing someone with these red flags u just mentioned, is a gain and not a loss. I would advise that u should be patient and be opened to a relationship with someone else. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Prettylitlady:
I swear.. He is asking as if he knows me personally

I think it has a thing to do with your horoscope or something like that. That's why he asked.

MrBrownJay1:
you ask for the date of her birth, so YES you are asking for personal information that is irrelevant to you (or this thread)... we can only assume that you want to confirm that she is/aint who "you" think she is... to the point where you got butthurt when she refused to give you her birthdate, lol!



he thinks he knows you (or he believes that you are someone he knows) thats why he asked for your personal informations...in order to confirm whether you are "that person" or not. see now how he is throwing insults left right center, like a childish teenager who got grounded!

I'm sorry, I don't think so, when I first saw the question, my first thought was that he wants to bring in horoscope. It's not that deep.

I like your current guy, nigga doesn't want that drama, he already told you to "Go back to your ex if you still miss him... Perhaps you have been disturbing his ears with constant stories of your ex...

Once you have that notion that no one is indispensable in your life, thoughts like this won't come into play...Distract yourself and watch yourself moving on

Nothing is wrong with you it is very normal, it's just your genetic heritage as a woman to want to change a roughneck nigga, this only stamp what we RP talk about, good men finish last. Just do your current BF a favour and let him off.

Prettylitlady:
Thank you. I appreciate your contributions. So how do I know the "right" one

He's dick will fit like a glove. You've read Cinderella right?

Time is all you need sis, took me a year plus to get over mine.
You’d be fine sis, don’t stress

Smoker, woman beater, womaniser, lazy, fraudster and a potential ritualist is what is giving you sleepless nights? I don't think you're a serious person.

zexy2030:
Then you don't need an advice.

Ya mahdt Sir

You need better gbola to rid yur senses of dah niccure jere h'antie.. my 2 kobo.

Slynation:
I like your current guy, nigga doesn't want that drama, he already told you to "Go back to your ex if you still miss him... Perhaps you have been disturbing his ears with constant stories of your ex...

Once you have that notion that no one is indispensable in your life, thoughts like this won't come into play...Distract yourself and watch yourself moving on

I like those kind of guys, no homo.

If you are still hung up on one mumu feelings, then go back to your ex. It really shouldn't be hard.

A guy possesses all those ill attitude and u are still thinking about him?it's like nature has a future suffering package for u oooo..u don't need advice,u need a factory reset slap

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

Because of the beating and slap you can't forget him abi?

Kwontinew,

You'll soon loose that good guy and you'll regret your action.

God gave you a perfect replacement and here you are wanting to go back to your Egypt.

Well, one, really give your life to Christ.
Second, you are of little value inside.

And the guy that is hanging out with you is blind to that fact.

But if you really follow Jesus, your value will change and your reasoning capacity will improve.

JONSYN7154:
Because of the beating and slap you can't forget him abi?

Kwontinew,

You'll soon loose that good guy and you'll regret your action.

God gave you a perfect replacement and here you are wanting to go back to your Egypt.

Thank you for your contributions

Blue86:
Well, one, really give your life to Christ.
Second, you are of little value inside.

And the guy that is hanging out with you is blind to that fact.

But if you really follow Jesus, your value will change and your reasoning capacity will improve.

Okay, thanks for your input

omotoshodontee1:
A guy possesses all those ill attitude and u are still thinking about him?it's like nature has a future suffering package for u oooo..u don't need advice,u need a factory reset slap

justscorchone:
Nothing is wrong with you it is very normal, it's just your genetic heritage as a woman to want to change a roughneck nigga, this only stamp what we RP talk about, good men finish last. Just do your current BF a favour and let him off.

What is RP?

Prettylitlady:
What is RP?

Redpill/redpillers
If you are truly single and reside in Lagos and have a job like you said then drop a DM.
Let's talk

Slynation:
I like your current guy, nigga doesn't want that drama, he already told you to "Go back to your ex if you still miss him... Perhaps you have been disturbing his ears with constant stories of your ex...

Once you have that notion that no one is indispensable in your life, thoughts like this won't come into play...Distract yourself and watch yourself moving on

Lol,@bolded, not really... Thanks for your contributions

justscorchone:
Redpill/redpillers
If you are truly single and reside in Lagos and have a job like you said then drop a DM.
Let's talk

What's that

justscorchone:
Redpill/redpillers
If you are truly single and reside in Lagos and have a job like you said then drop a DM.
Let's talk

I never said I was single

Prettylitlady:
What's that

I could tell you what it is but google would be more accurate.

Prettylitlady:
I never said I was single

Regardless send a DM

Prettylitlady:
Thank you for your contributions

If you're angry at my advice am sincerely sorry.

I just have to be blunt.

JONSYN7154:
If you're angry at my advice am sincerely sorry.

I just have to be blunt.

I am not angry at all. Thanks

Prettylitlady:
I am not angry at all. Thanks

ok. Have a blissful night rest.

Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee

If he happens to be the one that deflowered you, then you need to take some extra steps to get the soul ties disconnected.

Deepocean:
If he happens to be the one that deflowered you, then you need to take some extra steps to get the soul ties disconnected.

Yes he was the one that deflowered me. How do I do that??

Don’t just punish the new guy with pain inflicted by your ex because your ex don’t even give a Bleep of dumping him.


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