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omochelsea004:
Exactly what I'm experience in my marriage is what op highlighted word for word, just when I thought I was alone in it! It's so so frustrating, the part that pains me mostly is that pple will be seeing you as a married man, not knowing that even bachelors have access to intimacy 1k times than you supposed married man

Whenever I see in nollywood movies how women/ house wives initiate, beg, clamour & even fight their husbands just to have sex with them, I feel it's being exaggerated, because I personally never experience such, honestly I do wonder, I have gone straight 7 months without asking for sex at all & to my greatest surprise, this woman no even send me at all, na that time she come dey even happy pass. I come be like ahhhh! I don finally enter am

cryptofredoom:
You are lucky that you can enter, mine will go to the guest room and lock herself if she feels the disturbance is too much.

omochelsea004:
Exactly what I'm experience in my marriage is what op highlighted word for word, just when I thought I was alone in it! It's so so frustrating, the part that pains me mostly is that pple will be seeing you as a married man, not knowing that even bachelors have access to intimacy 1k times than you supposed married man

Whenever I see in nollywood movies how women/ house wives initiate, beg, clamour & even fight their husbands just to have sex with them, I feel it's being exaggerated, because I personally never experience such, honestly I do wonder, I have gone straight 7 months without asking for sex at all & to my greatest surprise, this woman no even send me at all, na that time she come dey even happy pass. I come be like ahhhh! I don finally enter am

NewSoul:
You married a woman who does not rate you and not sexually attracted to you. How many times have we warned men about this mistake? Your wife should be the one asking you for it all the time because she desires you.

A married man like you opened a thread some time ago complaining how his wife wants to have sex with him all the time like 3 times daily and he started begging her to give him time to regain energy before engaging him again. People were telling him to be happy that his wife finds him sexually attractive and wants to engage him all the time.

She saw you as just a nice religious brother. Having sex with you is like I'm sorry to say (incest) .

There's this born again lady on YouTube she's 29 and she married a 27 year old church brother. She's not a virgin too but she was forming asexual. Do you believe she starved this brother for a year of sex? In my mind I was just smiling. She's not sexually attracted to him, she sees him as a younger church brother she loves. A woman can love you so much but may not get wet for you.

Most of this ladies forming asexual or all these garbage. Just let her meet who deflowered her and let them record the sex for you to watch. You'll be so surprised and bittered at what that women frowning at sex with you will do with/to another man.

Note: I will marry a virgin. But for guys that may not get one to marry please marry the one that is sexually attracted to you and not the one that you have to bribe with favours and gifts to induce her but the one that will just want to have you whether you give her gift/money or not .

cryptofredoom:
CONCLUSIONS / RESOLUTIONS
1. I have resolved to stop having sex with you, as its an exercise in futility, because the experiences are usually unpleasant, unsatisfactory, mentally sapping and a waste of time.
2. I shall continue to love you, take care of your needs and support you within the best of my ability.
3. Hence, my itinerary of movement shall be for information purpose and shall be made available only when absolutely necessary.
4. I shall not tolerate any form of embarrassment if or when I chose to satisfy myself with whomever, whenever and wherever I please.

after4:
i go like to give you a dirty slap even if e mean to pay for the slap, i no mind

NewSoul:
Op don't follow this advice, I beg you. All she'll see it as is "desperation" so she can open her legs to you.

And from there she'll "transactionalize" the sex. Making you do things before she offers sex. Anytime you are not a good boy she with-holds sex. Don't mind this women and never you make the mistake of taking relationship advice from them they will always look out for themselves and lead you astray.

They only make rules for you when they think you are not man enough or a natural born leader that can effect his authority. Redpill will say they see you as beta male.

Just Imagine your wife is married to Dwayne Johnson (The Rock) or Stone Cold Steve Austin or Randy Orton or let go down to Nigeria Nyesom Wike, Jim Iyke or Hank Anuku or zubby Michael( the one with a scar on his face) will she be setting useless rules for you? No she won't. She'll be very careful so you don't throw her ass out and replace her sharply. Don't be soft Mr. OP you are giving her too much respect. Some of this women the only language they respect is violence and hard-heartedness.

Here is what should do:

1. Stop eating her food let her be cooking for herself to eat.

2. Don't respond to her morning greetings (that's if she even greets you sef)
3. Don't discuss anything with her(just be giving her basic silent treatment)

4. Change your wardrobe. If all you have is responsible "office clothes" change them to what young guys wear. Crazy jeans and big shirts with fine Snickers and shorts, fancy wrist watch, expensive perfumes. Then on Friday night hangout with friends and come home late

5. On Friday dress fine again, make calls laughing and smiling making it obvious that you are speaking with a lady and then move out all dressed fine and smelling nice.

6.continue ignoring her and make sure he sleep in her separate room. Her brain will reset before a month.

Please don't follow the confused being above telling you to wash plate and cook for her. Yes she'll let you have sex but it will still be with the "come and do and go" attitude.

NewSoul:
...Please don't follow the confused being above telling you to wash plate and cook for her. Yes she'll let you have sex but it will still be with the "come and do and go" attitude.

Blunttruth:
Op go ahead and follow the m.o.r.o.n above, and end up ruining everything. Try what I said,that is if she is consumed by domestic and work without any help. If it continues go and report her to her parents. So any consequence will be justified. God bless you for your patience.

elmagnifico411:
Op, I copied your message word for word, and sent to my wife via WhatsApp. Though I tagged it "see what a husband wrote to his wife, mad I kinda find it true and funny at the same time", cos she does most of what your wife is doing, to me.

Shes been operating with a frowned face and all.. I no kuku ask her what's wrong with u? She got the message fully. The painful part is, if it had been dat the man was the one doing all these to the woman, they'll fight u, call u names believing you have someone outside that's giving u all the nacks. They wouldn't even bother to carry out any finding. I no get power to dey fight again jare.. na extra change I need cos I don dey recruit babes outside. How long do we have to live sef wey one woman go dey deny us wetin suppose keep us young at heart? Women out there, u una no know, sex is food!

NewSoul:
^{Most of this ladies forming asexual or all these garbage. Just let her meet who deflowered her and let them record the sex for you to watch. You'll be so surprised and bittered at what that women frowning at sex with you will do with/to another man.}

NewSoul:
Shut up there
You are the m.o.r.o.n here. I put it to you that if OP hires 3 housemaids that stranger he calls wife won't change a bit. And if he peradventure follow this your ridiculous advice he'll be moving from fry pan to fire. The disrespect will double. I can bet my whole life savings on that

Op once again don't heed to the advice of the confused specie above. Never report any family matter to your wife's parents. She won't change, she'll resent and disrespect you more for not being man enough to handle her and instead going to her parents like a "cry baby" in extreme cases the parents might support their daughter we've seen it happen many times.

Have you heard of this saying..."hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". When a woman wants to destroy you there's no remedy o. Even this confused sna-ke advising you above, the advice she's giving you won't work on her assuming she was your wife. I have never seen a man that took a relationship advice from a woman and everything went well.

Just do what I said and if she does not change please let her find her way out of your life. Marriage is not by force. There are many young single ladies praying for husbands waiting to take her place. Op stop being soft on that woman!

NewSoul:
Please I am a single guy. Can you enlighten me how you all end up with this kind of women? Was there sex at the beginning of the marriage and along the line it stopped maybe because you lost shape or became fat or something. Can I get an explanation?

Blunttruth:
Eyah Pele. You are taking it so personal. You must have been through a lot. But don't judge every case with what you went through. Now run along . After this I won't dignify you with a response.

NewSoul:
Op don't follow this advice, I beg you. All she'll see it as is "desperation" so she can open her legs to you.

And from there she'll "transactionalize" the sex. Making you do things before she offers sex. Anytime you are not a good boy she with-holds sex. Don't mind this women and never you make the mistake of taking relationship advice from them they will always look out for themselves and lead you astray.

They only make rules for you when they think you are not man enough or a natural born leader that can effect his authority. Redpill will say they see you as beta male.

Just Imagine your wife is married to Dwayne Johnson (The Rock) or Stone Cold Steve Austin or Randy Orton or let go down to Nigeria Nyesom Wike, Jim Iyke or Hank Anuku or zubby Michael( the one with a scar on his face) will she be setting useless rules for you? No she won't. She'll be very careful so you don't throw her ass out and replace her sharply. Don't be soft Mr. OP you are giving her too much respect. Some of this women the only language they respect is violence and hard-heartedness.

Here is what should do:

1. Stop eating her food let her be cooking for herself to eat.

2. Don't respond to her morning greetings (that's if she even greets you sef)
3. Don't discuss anything with her(just be giving her basic silent treatment)

4. Change your wardrobe. If all you have is responsible "office clothes" change them to what young guys wear. Crazy jeans and big shirts with fine Snickers and shorts, fancy wrist watch, expensive perfumes. Then on Friday night hangout with friends and come home late

5. On Friday dress fine again, make calls laughing and smiling making it obvious that you are speaking with a lady and then move out all dressed fine and smelling nice.

6.continue ignoring her and make sure he sleep in her separate room. Her brain will reset before a month.

Please don't follow the confused being above telling you to wash plate and cook for her. Yes she'll let you have sex but it will still be with the "come and do and go" attitude.

Blunttruth:
Op go ahead and follow the m.o.r.o.n above, and end up ruining everything. Try what I said,that is if she is consumed by domestic and work without any help. If it continues go and report her to her parents. So any consequence will be justified. God bless you for your patience.

omochelsea004:
Exactly what I'm experience in my marriage is what op highlighted word for word, just when I thought I was alone in it! It's so so frustrating, the part that pains me mostly is that pple will be seeing you as a married man, not knowing that even bachelors have access to intimacy 1k times than you supposed married man

Whenever I see in nollywood movies how women/ house wives initiate, beg, clamour & even fight their husbands just to have sex with them, I feel it's being exaggerated, because I personally never experience such, honestly I do wonder, I have gone straight 7 months without asking for sex at all & to my greatest surprise, this woman no even send me at all, na that time she come dey even happy pass. I come be like ahhhh! I don finally enter am

cryptofredoom:
Thanks for your advice. I do house chores, even wash the dishes sometimes. Helping her out is not the problem, she just doesn't like sex. She avoids it like a plague.

She sleeps on one side of the bed and place the child (3yrs old) at the centre of the bed. If I move to her side of the bed, she quickly switches to the other side.

I think she should have remained single...

NewSoul:
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She's cheating on you. A nonvirgin woman stayed for 7 months without sex and in your mind she's just being celibate. Bros someone is doing your job and she's so happy she can't help but show it

NewSoul:
Please I am a single guy. Can you enlighten me how you all end up with this kind of women? Was there sex at the beginning of the marriage and along the line it stopped maybe because you lost shape or became fat or something. Can I get an explanation?

omochelsea004:
Honestly she is not, that I'm sure off 100%, not because she is my wife, but because it's the truth. If I am not sure of that, it doesn't cost me anything to say it here being a faceless forum, she doesn't keep friends of any type, material things doesn't attract her, nothing entices her, na like that she just dey, in fairness to her, I saw this particular traits during our years of courtship, we discussed it severally, but what she always told me then was that I cannot expect her to be happily engaging in sexual activity with me with free mind, having not paid her bride price then, but that once we get married legally everything will change for better & that she will make me know I can't handle her sexually... My dare brothers & sisters I have been waiting & hoping for her to even do just little out of the sweet promises after since we got married... So having taken all factors into consideration with a lot of observations, I have come to accept that's how she is, no be say she dey form, abi she dey do am on purpose, abi she dey cheat, sex is a total turnoff for her, it's op that made me know now that I am not alone!

omochelsea004:
Exactly what I'm experience in my marriage is what op highlighted word for word, just when I thought I was alone in it! It's so so frustrating, the part that pains me mostly is that pple will be seeing you as a married man, not knowing that even bachelors have access to intimacy 1k times than you supposed married man

Whenever I see in nollywood movies how women/ house wives initiate, beg, clamour & even fight their husbands just to have sex with them, I feel it's being exaggerated, because I personally never experience such, honestly I do wonder, I have gone straight 7 months without asking for sex at all & to my greatest surprise, this woman no even send me at all, na that time she come dey even happy pass. I come be like ahhhh! I don finally enter am

omochelsea004:
Exactly what I'm experience in my marriage is what op highlighted word for word, just when I thought I was alone in it! It's so so frustrating, the part that pains me mostly is that pple will be seeing you as a married man, not knowing that even bachelors have access to intimacy 1k times than you supposed married man

Whenever I see in nollywood movies how women/ house wives initiate, beg, clamour & even fight their husbands just to have sex with them, I feel it's being exaggerated, because I personally never experience such, honestly I do wonder, I have gone straight 7 months without asking for sex at all & to my greatest surprise, this woman no even send me at all, na that time she come dey even happy pass. I come be like ahhhh! I don finally enter am

omochelsea004:
Honestly she is not, that I'm sure off 100%, not because she is my wife, but because it's the truth. If I am not sure of that, it doesn't cost me anything to say it here being a faceless forum, she doesn't keep friends of any type, material things doesn't attract her, nothing entices her, na like that she just dey, in fairness to her, I saw this particular traits during our years of courtship, we discussed it severally, but what she always told me then was that I cannot expect her to be happily engaging in sexual activity with me with free mind, having not paid her bride price then, but that once we get married legally everything will change for better & that she will make me know I can't handle her sexually... My dare brothers & sisters I have been waiting & hoping for her to even do just little out of the sweet promises after since we got married... So having taken all factors into consideration with a lot of observations, I have come to accept that's how she is, no be say she dey form, abi she dey do am on purpose, abi she dey cheat, sex is a total turnoff for her, it's op that made me know now that I am not alone!