Your uncles problem is that he can't pick his financial obligations by himself, sadly for him he has a wife that is not ready to help...If he leaves her to marry another woman, will that improve his ability to pick his bills..infact he will be in more mess as he will have to take care of more people. What your uncle needs is to do all he can to improve his finances, and he should not forget that he has a wife he cannot rely on and treat her accordingly

Raalsalghul:


How many kids does your uncle have if I may ask?

I am pretty sure, first to comment no gree you read the story.

bigtt76:
Make your uncle try get better job naa. Money makes the world go round, she's not feeling him because money nor de. Once the money starts rolling in, things would be better. You expect the woman to support him financially from the N35k she earns?

Funny enough, she could be earning more but just decide to declare that particular amount. Life no balance, make everybody just do wetin go give them peace of mind... I am happy for them though for not giving birth to more than two kids...

faithfull18:
If she changed five years into the marriage, then you should find out why. An action from your uncle could have triggered the reaction.

Lol. What kind of thing happened and for 11 years, she can't resolve the matter?! Abeggi... Na nonsense advice all these 'femails' go dey give. Nonsense.

cayorday89:
Funny enough, she could be earning more but just decide to declare that particular amount. Life no balance, make everybody just do wetin go give them peace of mind... I am happy for them though for not giving birth to more than two kids...

Na so. That two kids is even okay for them if they were to separate.

35k monthly but about to buy a land in this Buhari economy

Woman want to buy land, this OP is here complaining.
When you marry you will understand how valuable the woman is to the man.

I don't judge people by rumors, I watch their actions.

Thank God she wasn't going to buy IPhone 13.

OP you and your uncle are myopic. She is thinking long term. I believe if she were to let him know, he would misappropriate the money.

If I were the woman, the land will stay in my name.

These extended family members that are not married are the problem of that marriage.


Thank me later in 5 years time.

OP get a life, your family is the problem.
Why should buying land become a problem.

I am a married man, and I stand for any woman who can think ahead for the welfare of their family. Some men don't have the ability to discern a good woman.
You and your uncle have foundation problem. You want to dominate the woman from making progress.

A woman who is planning to stop your uncle from been a tenant to making him a landlord.

I wish I can see you face to face, I suppose knock you.

Get out of that house, parasite.

bigtt76:
Make your uncle try get better job naa. Money makes the world go round, she's not feeling him because money nor de. Once the money starts rolling in, things would be better. You expect the woman to support him financially from the N35k she earns?

Shame on you!

Timmi:


To be frank with you, your father nor you should not be involved in this family matter. The issue (it’s not a problem) is between your uncle and his wife. Hence you and your father should buzz off and hands off their matter. Don’t scatter this family.

Tomorrow now when we hear the man died of HBP or heart attack, we would start asking why he didn't seek help. Perhaps when we hear that he suddenly turned into a beast and started beating his wife, we would blame him for not finding an alternative. The man has done the right thing by seeking help, if the wife still values the marriage she would adjust and if not, it is better to scatter everything than to continue a marriage of misery!

Emma2Seconds:
Why all these stupid mentality in women.l thought that marriage is a union involving the both husband, Wife, children etc. So why must women be making all the family expenses to be on the man alone while they are working too.What are they even using their own money for, knowing fully well that the family is not for the man only. Well it's how you make your bed that's how you will lie on it.No Woman on earth will dare try such to me unless she wants to go back to her people, if not I will stop her from working and make her full house wife or she will face the wrath of the Gods. please guys never use soft hand on women if not they will ride you and when you try to correct them big issues will surface just as the one above. Never Allow daughters of eve to have control over .

Marry first

Mind your business

If your matured uncle is acting like a simple, it's not your headaches.

Once again, mind your business ✌

amazingspiderma:
Woman want to buy land, this OP is here complaining.
When you marry you will understand how valuable the woman is to the man.

I don't judge people by rumors, I watch their actions.

Thank God she wasn't going to buy IPhone 13.

OP you and your uncle are myopic.

If I were the woman, the land will stay in my name.

These extended family members that are not married are the problem of that marriage.


Thank me later in 5 years time.

what is this one saying?

emmanuelbrown26:

I hv being preaching about it every now and then, never give daughter of eve soft hand, they will definitely abuse it. Daughters of eve requires iron hand, imagine d nonsense wife. Well, I believe d man was too soft for d wife that's why it has being like that

You people over exaggerate this 'iron hand' of a thing, it does not work for every human, I believe there should be balance in any form of relationship you find yourself as it might boomerang if life plays one the wrong card.. What someone like him needs is the ability to provide more/or increase his income, not for the wife but for the sake of the children, and also have a good understanding with his wife and palm the way forward to invest jointly to meet long term goals... But trust is the bane of most relationship whether old or young..

Kobojunkie:
Try to be less emotional in your assessment of these issues and may be you will be better able to see beyond your hatred.

We don't know the exact reason for why this woman has chosen to withhold what she has so she can instead have it available for future(as we assume here). Neither did her husband reveal this reason for us. So it is rash to conclude she is being wicked simply on the comment of the man's relative here.

So a man can decide not to be financially responsible for the wife in marriage once he as a genuine reason right??

So a man can decide to go buy a plot of land while the wife need money for surgery once he has a genuine reason right

No matter what the reason once you in marriage you have no right to do anything without thinking about the family first......if she feels a land is more important than the reoccurrence expenditure then a man too can decide to go buy a land while is wife needs money for surgery.

Lazy niggers will come howling.
If its her mo ey, let her be. When did it vecome 'manly' for men to depend on their wives for money?

she does not pay house rent that's why she does not want to help in paying....

ReneJay:
Good day nairalanders. I want to seek your advice on behalf of my uncle.

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So after we advice you, you will go and advice your uncle? Or your uncle gave you permission to post his story so he can get people's opinions?

Ishilove:

Marry first

Na make the guy pray make he no jam, but some men actually get away with it due to the gentility of some women, same with some soft men who are taken for granted, myself and my siblings call my mum Ruth abokoku because the man too like this strong hand things.

emmanuelbrown26:

I hv being preaching about it every now and then, never give daughter of eve soft hand, they will definitely abuse it. Daughters of eve requires iron hand, imagine d nonsense wife. Well, I believe d man was too soft for d wife that's why it has being like that

You cant be depending on your wife for mioney and still want to use iron hand. That is a recipe for disaster.
First you grow some balls, be the man , then you can talk about using the iron hand.

faithfull18:
If she changed five years into the marriage, then you should find out why. An action from your uncle could have triggered the reaction.

an action that she's dumb to talk about? Why can't y'all always say what the problem is instead of stressing someone to know what exactly is in your mind?

Emma2Seconds:
Nah The Same Species, I thought that the Op Is a Guy Reporting The Did Without Knowing That they are the same daughters Of EVE. Sorry Sister Your Own Time Is Coming For You To Start Your Own Stupidity Because It's Always In Una (women) Blood. No verse For The Write up, I come in peace ok

Is that what your mother did? Do you consider her stupid because she’s a woman.

No offense, if you don’t want to answer. Ignore

amazingspiderma:
Woman want to buy land, this OP is here complaining.
When you marry you will understand how valuable the woman is to the man.

I don't judge people by rumors, I watch their actions.

Thank God she wasn't going to buy IPhone 13.

OP you and your uncle are myopic.

If I were the woman, the land will stay in my name.

These extended family members that are not married are the problem of that marriage.


Thank me later in 5 years time.

A time will come when the husband will choose to buy a plot of land over paying a urgent surgery for her.

Atleast he didn't buy a iPhone 13..

What will u have to contribute to this thread when u did not even read it.


Anyway, na two kids they get


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MrBrownJay1:
what yeye advice is he looking for now? if the animal he calls "wife" has been acting like that for the past 16yrs and he didnt think of correcting it before, then why try to change it now?!?!?

Are you married with kids? If you are not, be mindful of the kind of advise you give so that you don't end up being tested by nature. It's very easy to say but tell me how to correct a wife with kids who refused to contribute to the family financially.
The man just has a valid case to build on now, that is if he has good evidence that while he is looking around for money to pay their rent, the wife is looking for a plot of land to buy. Prior to this time, he has no concrete evidence to do anything. If the man had press charges on account of her non contributory attitude, the woman would have defend herself by saying the her salary is not even enough for her to take good care of herself. Somehow somewhat, those in charge of the matter would have advised the man to consider her statement and temper justice with mercy, some will even come out telling the man to hustle more to be able to feed his family and at the end, the man will look stupid and weak before his children and the society for admitting that he can't take care of his family without his wife's money. Yet the woman will remain in his house. Pray for a good wife.

LegendaryArnold:


File for divorce. The wife has every right to buy the land but doing so behind his back show say love no dey the marriage.

Sorry to dissapoint you but love is not enough to sustain a marriage. Care for each other and perfomr your roles. If he was taking care of business and bei g the man the woman won't do such

Rosy at first then demons at last

Your uncle lacks a vision for the future, she had warned him but he's non challant, she a better planner your uncle should have reported but to support her in her plans, if the land is bought 50 50 then half of his salary should go to his wife who's a better planner , a teacher who can save 35k a month for a land thats great

He should lock her out and change the locks

It is better to marry someone who loves you than to marry someone who you love. E get why.

That being said, I no too dey advice married people because them no dey hear word.