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Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by SmartyPants(m): 3:13pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: That's not my reasoning. That's literally what the OP posted. Did you not read the post? You have a weird agenda. 1 Like |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by GoodFaith: 3:14pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
ReneJay: Tell your uncle to send her back to her family She should go use part of her salary of 35k to rent a place Marriage is a union of two not one " she said it is the responsibility of the man (husband) to provide for the family." I |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by JovialJune(f): 3:15pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
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Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by tosinfelix: 3:17pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
He should ask her to resign that work she doing and make full house wife. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by bjprodint1: 3:17pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Favfables1:Brainz,4 ur mind! |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by blindjustice13(m): 3:20pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Foreigna2:lol person nor fit pay house rent ,you say make he go marry join the responsibility wey dey e neck. Una funny for this forum sha |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by Foreigna2: 3:22pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
blindjustice13: 70k is enough for a man with a SUPPORTIVE woman, not a parasite. What is paining that man is not that she didn't give him, it is the obvious betrayal. He suppose pay am back in the same coin. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by tunjilana: 3:22pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
If after exhausting dialogue, she doesn't change...He shud define what he can afford and do it directly while making it obvious to the kids If she asks for refund of things she bought, he shud not obliged her |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by blindjustice13(m): 3:26pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Foreigna2:You think such a woman will care though? The man will only be incurring more responsibilities while the person he wants to spite become less financially burdened. Worse she go cry then face her house wey she dey build while Mr man starts buying pampers all over again from new wife in addition to the responsibility of this two older children. Let's not forget his retirement is closer than 16 years ago when he married the other lady. You think having kids is joke in this era for a man who is likely above 40 already. That's like cutting your nose to spite your face.,wrong advice bro. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by Ok12345(f): 3:29pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
If your 3 months salary doesn't pay your house rent, na oversabi u dey do oo.. If your uncle wasn't married, won't he pay his house rent himself ?,if it is A room self con he can afford, that is what he should have rented in this First place with that 70k salary. The wife Is earning a paltry Sum of 35k.How much will she remove for clothes, make her hair and transport fare to work out of that money, your uncle still wants her to remove house rent out of it. What if she has to pay back that loan she wants to use to buy land from her salary. Your Uncle should leave according to what he has,if it is only house rent and food for the children he can afford ,he should do it and let the wife cater for her feeding and wellbeing 5 Likes |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by alhaji04: 3:38pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Emma2Seconds:Bro lolz, abeg take am easy. i can't stop laughing, even me self think say na guy before but as i see say na girl, i just reserve my advice..all of dem be dsame. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by dalass(f): 3:39pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
faithfull18: This is how a sane person should reason. If a man was getting a right attitude from his wife, she was enjoying his attitude then. When she changed, it was because the husband took her loyalty for granted and started misbehaving. He's probably drinking off whatever is left of his salary or he's a womanizer. A woman can manage whatever she makes. If a woman wants buy land, let her buy. It's better than being a tenant all their lives after 15 years of marriage! If she can get his support, they will be landlords in no time 1 Like |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by DKM123: 3:40pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Your uncle should manage. He is the HEAD of the house. The CAPTAIN of the ship. HE IS THE ALPHA MALE. THE ONE WHO MUST BE SUBMITTED TO. The LION of the tribe of Judah. The one with the PHALLUS. She is a mere woman and should focus on the Kitchen. Next thing now, she will say her husband should HELP her go to the market and cook ofe nsala for them to eat before she comes back from work. Tufiakwa!!!! THAT WILL BE A SACRILEGE THAT THE GODS OF THE LAND FORBIDS. THAT WILL BE AN ABOMINATION. We alpha males will never take that. We are traditional men. Who needs her money to care for the family. Nigerian women are all useless and do not have money. We are the only ones who make money. We are the greeat red okpillas! We are the ODOGWUS. We will provide cos we are not useless. We only call Nigerian woman useless. She should face the kitchen along with all her numerous house duties. That we expect all this from this women and also expect them to drop thier salaries doesn't mean she and that land she bought for your uncle's kids to inherit aren't all useless. USELESS! 1 Like |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by odaniel1(m): 3:41pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
amazingspiderma: She will eventually bring her smaller bf to screw in the house whilst a SIMP of a hubby like u sleeps in the trenches. It is people like you that support the vile nature of these women of nowadays. Buying that property in that situation is high grade stupidity. If the source of income is pure and untainted, what stops her from contributing at least 'part' of the amount for rent (after all, she must be able to afford 50% with the cash-at-hand in her possession.) So, you feel she will put you back in that house after building or continue listening to the vile woes of feminism to abandon her so-called 'lazy' husband for a better one. Mk evrybdy jus getat abeg! |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by moralex(m): 3:42pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
ReneJay:Why would a sensible man stay married to a woman who doesn't love him?? |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by sgtponzihater1(m): 3:42pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Let her do anything she wants. Heaven is the goal. She can gain the whole world, but it counts for nothing if she does it by deception. No wealth goes with a man to the grave. All is well with your Uncle. Best wishes PonziHater |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by Mavrick2012: 3:44pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
faithfull18:assuming it was the man that changed,i am so sure you will still blame the man that that's how men are. An average Nigerian woman will always find a way to support their gender. Surprisingly,when it comes to election or other more important things they forget such support |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by blindjustice13(m): 3:44pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
DKM123:Lol. I see what you did there. All the alpha males should be happy with this development. An alpha male is being left to do his alpha work 1 Like |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by rosalieene(f): 3:45pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
where and how can 35k salary buy a piece of land. before you try to discredit a person, ensure your story adds up. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by Alexaonfleek: 3:48pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Foreigna2:You people's advice is funny sha. You want him to raise another family when he's barely taking care of the one he has. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by sgtponzihater1(m): 3:49pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
faithfull18: It's always the woman's point of view. The woman can never come up to tell a man that she feels upset. But she can always make the man go through torture for 9 years, because 9years is not enough punishment for whatever must be hurting her. The man is a generator repairer looking for his fault even when he cannot find it. All the best to men who pack trouble along for themselves like Christmas tree. Their salvation with come in Christ name. Similar prayer goes for all the good women who's men have made their life's a living hell. May true Judge provide justice speedily Best wishes PonziHater 1 Like |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by PlaYaJones: 3:51pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
JovialJune: Of couse she need to lightskin or halfcast...lightskin & halfcasst womens are more important, I like? |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by PlaYaJones: 3:54pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
JovialJune: by the way, r u lightskin? |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by othenok(f): 3:55pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
How people manage to have an opinion on a one sided story especially when the story is told by one party's family member makes me wonder. Anyway, there won't be peace until both parties seek for help and also learn basic communication skills. The woman with her 35k salary maybe disciplined enough to have saving sense to plan for the future for her family. After all 1+1 in marriage is 1. So dear OP, steer clear from these couples marital issue and mind your biz. They will sort themselves out when they decide to let go of pride and work together. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by Alexaonfleek: 3:56pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
harmony75: Lmao Na 70k he go use hire lawyer nau |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by othenok(f): 3:56pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
rosalieene: Teachers have cooperative. She may have received her share from the Ajo and decides to use it cor the future |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by JovialJune(f): 3:56pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
PlaYaJones: Mrcork, I didn't know it is you, if not I wouldn't have quoted you in the first place Pls don't quote me again, abeg. 1 Like |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by secondwife(f): 3:57pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
faithfull18:Thanks dear, a very good response,the problem between husband and wife,it’s only God that can judge. I got married some years back,my husband didn’t tell me he was married with three children until later,we married traditionally,religiously and legally. He introduced my co-wife to me after I had a baby for him as a Muslim I accepted my faith because I had a child from my previous relationship. I was a working class woman with a good job when we met,he relocated from the North to West because of North problem and my friend help him to secured a job,his family were happy because he is staying very close to the village though we were in different cities that time. The first wife is in his village. I always tell him to be visiting his family all the time. All those times I was the one paying the house rent,paying school fees and buying foods stuff and footing many things in the house,he will come and drop a little or complained of lack of money. I didn’t complain because I was okay and believed him. His company had problems in paying salaries that year,I paid house rent in his village so that the landlord will not send the wife and children away from the house,he will collect money from me and send it to his family. I tried to make friend with the wife and children by buying things for them without his knowledge, buying clothes together,phone when she complained she didn’t have he later lost his job and move to where I am staying. I started taking responsibilities on his behalf for some months before he got another job,my neighbor advised us to buy land,I told him he said no problem,he didn’t drop any money to support me but people told to build, i taught he will drop money later because our names are on the receipt. Since he didn’t drop anything I was the one doing everything because my Imam told me that if A man refused to do his responsibilities God will raise the woman up.We move in to the house without completing it because of Landlord’s problem. I later completed the house up to 90% after some years. I later did the documents in my children’ s name with his support. I lost my job and this man showed me pepper,they started sending my children out of school,hunger,frustration and depression set in. I later learnt from a reliable source that my husband is building house in his village without my knowledge and he is leaving in my house that I built with my sweat. I asked him he denied, it was his family member that told me. anytime I travel to his village for occasions,his wife will be abusing me,calling my child from previous relationships a bastard though I always ignore her,his brothers and wife will be disrespecting me.Though others are good to me including his mum and dad. I have a good mind with them but they are paying me with evil. So now I asked for divorce from him but he refused,I told him to leave my house and moved to his wife and children ,the family said I want to remove him where he is working, rent a house for me like my co-wife is a big problem for him he told his wife that my house belongs to him. But I started shouting to his family and people around me ,they said I’m disgracing and victimizing him. I really thank my God for not letting me down and my family and friends. Though he is still with because he brought out the monster in me. I told him I will not pay school fees again. Thank God I got another work this year. Sorry for the long post and my grammar,I went to an evening school. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by MtDave55: 4:01pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
ReneJay: Women with the fish brain can easily be influenced, probably one of her divorced or single friend have talked her into believing she isn't supposed to contribute a dime to the family. The less gossips of friends your wife have the less your problem |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by blindjustice13(m): 4:05pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
secondwife:I always tell my sisters, if you want to buy a house ,never ever put your husband's name, nor mumu or love reach there. Worse come to worse ,put your child's name . Get a lawyer to work out modalities on how you can get full ownership and control of your property. |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by Lekan239(m): 4:07pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I guess that is what you are practicing with your husband at home, and the only definition you could give it to suit urself is that you are paying more attention to the future. Greedy fellow |
Re: My Uncle Wife Is Insensitive by cooooooks(m): 4:09pm On Jun 01, 2022 |
Divorce. People should divorce people bent on sending them to early grave. |
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